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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 28 | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:13:19 AM | It's funny how women complain about the men just wanting sex but just try being just "normal" or "regular" type friends with them and see how long it lasts.
Most women seem like they are just as bad or even worse then the men are for that. It's always been very difficult for me to find women that don't base even the ordinary friendships on sex instead of simply just friendship. They're out there but all too rare! | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:19:37 AM | ^^^
@ arrianno:
hmm, the old "rocks & gold" theory?
- i.e., Women want 'rocks' (diamonds), representing a long-term relationship;
- Men want 'gold' (i.e. sex) and "trade" or "barter"..?
seems to be more all over the map these days though..
I thought because many women have already been 'burned' before in a bad L-T relationship (or marriage) they would not rush into another one, & would be into more 'casual' relationships?
Of course, many men have been 'burned' as well..
But ON AVERAGE, (more often than not, NOT "always")..It seems to me that men sort of 'need 'women to take care of them more than the other way around, esp. as both are getting older (past likely child-bearing years)..
Because so many men have a "learned helplessness" re: cooking, sewing, laundry, etc.. ?
(not me, my army time helped a lot there..)
OR is my "theory" all whacked out & crazy, groundless? Please let me know what you think.. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:20:31 AM | | i remember losing a close gf once. she really broke up with me because i never had sex with her. she thought i wasn't interested i her. 27 years later, she wants me back. the one thing she didn't know at the time, i was still a virgin. now she says, if i only knew. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:22:24 AM | @ Canadiann:
Yes, women often seem to "complain" about men "wanting sex"..
Just TRY "not" going for it by the second date and they'll be asking you if you subscribe to gay magazines or have a subscription on a gay matchmaking service..LOL :)
they'll assume you're into men... | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:26:57 AM | My friend, you're not serious are you??
I don't wanna waste my witty, quirky, eloquent words if you're just yanking again, K?
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:27:15 AM | @ bugsybears:
I have a female friend who knows a younger guy (20 or 21, I think) who is apparently still a virgin..
(yeah, hard to believe, right?)
He says that he gets lots of new girlfriends, but they never last more than a week..because he wants to be a virgin until he marries..
they dump him, he never sees or hears from them again.. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:31:59 AM | ^^
aww, Funny Girl, sorry
not 'yanking'..
Yes i know, you are one of the intelligent & funny ones ;)
A guy can change his relationship goals a bit, can't he?
that's a "man's perogative" :) | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 38 | |
| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:32:39 AM | | I think that it would be great to have a guy not try to GO fot it on the second date, but if I got the the 4th, and he hasn't yet tried to even kiss me, well then something is wrong.lol why is he still asking me out? | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:38:28 AM | ^^
@ Kerry:
true, everyone might have a slightly different "# of dates" cutoff..
I think in some cases, sadly, guys DO 'date' women as a cover for their homosexuality.. (don't want to 'come out of the closet')
Kind of sad that they would feel that they have to DO that, it was probably more common years ago; maybe less so now as being gay is 'somewhat' more accepted..but still not 'really' accepted..
NOT to say that "EVERY" guy who doesn't 'go for it' is gay, of course.. | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:39:26 AM | @ Payne
It’s obvious that all women want alpha males. That’s biology. However, since we live in a very different world than our ancestors, what constitutes as an Alpha Male is not the strongest or the biggest anymore.
Aside from good looks and hard body, they want intelligence, education, success, tenderness etc. etc. And what they have to exchange for it is sex and companionship.
I think the old "rocks & gold" theory applies very well. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:42:02 AM | | So Phyne...was this REALLY just an excuse to create a thread to expose your "new profile" and real pictures to the POF population?? ;o)~~ | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:44:35 AM | ^^^
aww, Harley! I'm *shocked* that you would think such a thing..
No, seriously, I did get some good input here..
esp. from Kerry, scarlett_66, hac 3011, & a few others..I appreciate it!
thanks though, you're one of the smart, witty ones too:)
-- awwwwwwww, can't ya feel the love today, people? :)
P.S. when I see that small pic of you, it sort of looks like you're performing an exorcism..
At a quick glance, it looks like you're "burning out the devil" and holding a Cross in your left hand by your head.. ;) | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 43 | |
| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:48:10 AM | Arriano: wow from the way you put it we only have to give out simply sex and companionship to get SO much more.[/Aside from good looks and hard body, they want intelligence, education, success, tenderness etc ]LMAO
We want a friend, a lover (and might I add a damn fine one), a partener, a shoulder to cry/lean on, a father to our children. and much much more and we are offering the same thing. Lol if I had that in a partener that was loyal to me, i wouldn't need the damn rock! | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:48:35 AM | | well that's true kerrymh. i agree with you. that wasn't the way it was with me and my girl. we use to fog up the windows in my truck all the time, but we just never had sex. after 27 years, she actually told me why she broke up with me. it was about the sex. i know all women aren't like her, but there are quite a few that are. just because a guy doesn't have sex right away, doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:49:37 AM | Group hug time!! 
I gotta admit...I did not see your original profile, though I do remember the pec pic from a previous banter we had on another thread...lol...
But I would concur with Kerry, Scarlett, and the others too!! :) | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:51:56 AM | phyneliquor said:
Just TRY "not" going for it by the second date and they'll be asking you if you subscribe to gay magazines or have a subscription on a gay matchmaking service..LOL :)
Oh for Pete's sake!
Guys, most women do NOT think you are gay if you don't try to get into their pants by at least the second date. Why not try affectionate gestures (holding her hand, putting your arm around her and giving a gentle squeeze along with a smile while you look into her eyes) instead of thinking you have to whip out the wang to show affection? I'd bet real money that what those women want is to know that you feel some emotion for them, not that you are horny (we take that last one for granted!)
I'm not putting down sex as a way of expressing your love for someone. Sex between two people who love each other is the most amazing thing ever. I'm saying that it's not the ONLY way to show your feelings for a woman, and in the early stages of dating or a relationship, it's the affectionate gestures that count. A flower you bring her for no reason at all, picking up some treat she loves that takes you out of your way so she knows you did it especially to make her happy--those things will supercharge the relationship development. Because they tell her that you care about making her happy. And DON'T STOP doing those things just because you think you have achieved "couple status." Invest just a tiny bit of time, and it will reward you tenfold.
Sure, there are psycho women out there who have been warped into not appreciating a guy who does these things--women who think that only a man spending big $$ means love. Just like there are men who think that women are all gold diggers who want a guy for money. But aren't most of us here actually really normal everyday people who want to love someone and be loved in return? Isn't that why we are here? Most people, men or women, will appreciate the little gestures that mean you care.
Now I've just given you an insight into the female heart. If you pass up on this advice, you deserve to be a "cocky and funny" LOSER like the D***d D*****o readers. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:53:52 AM | | bugs: I completely agree, lol but if a guy hasn't even tried to kiss me, I think well he's not attracted to me after several dates. I am the first girl to say I want to wait a bit for sex, only because for me not only is it about being attracted/lust/fun, but to me its about I REALLY like you. And I don't make that judgement after one or 2 dates. But well making out and foreplay ect. well there isn't too much wrong with that. It expresses interest, and chemistry all that fun stuff. If a guy doesn't even want to go there after acouple meetings well I start to wonder. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:54:39 AM | @ arriano:
true, I'm sure that's all "some" women have to offer.. but then the 'offering' of "some" men is quite limited too..
as Kerry says, I think "MOST" women offer more.. being the mother to your children?? what more do you want?
When I look at my own parents, really, I think my mother gave more to my dad than vice versa..And there are many more couples like that.. | |
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| Why do so many women just want sex??
Posted: 11/6/2005 7:57:21 AM | OK, Phyne. (I'm still having trouble with this version of you, lol.)
I don't JUST want sex, but God, how I do want sex!
Come here, darlin.... | |
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