| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/6/2005 4:40:41 PM | | Sir jame. Are you calling me a consouler lol, would never go backwards in the first place. Pride and dignity comes with being nice and would never settle for any girl that picked me second anyways. On a different note women tend to like being a savoiur to men. Alot of Men in general dont ask women for help much let alone talk to them and truly respect their opinions. So, that is why some women go for those total bad boys. It gives them a sense of worth. They somehow think that they can save them and change them. Then all the crying comes that you are talking about, because very few people actually can take the help and change. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:09:54 PM | Divine
didin't say i was waiting for them to come to me.. but there are lot that out there cuz they are not the " model" or "fantasy" women as you said
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:43:42 PM | | We are all hoping but still finish last alot of times. Hello women wake up and smell the coffee. There are lots of guys out there that have the complete package, we are few and far between but do exist. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/6/2005 5:55:53 PM | If she wasn't looking for a "nice guy", then you never had anything to lose. Only by expectating to find a certain thing, in a certain place, and not finding it, will you lose. Only by acting a certain way, expecting a certain outcome, and not getting it, will you lose. On the other hand, if you're only hoping to find a certain thing, then that hope never needs to change...you never lose, what you haven't found...you just need to keep looking. If you act the way you do, expecting nothing in return, then be happy with who you are...you've lost nothing, just being you.
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/7/2005 6:33:30 AM | I have learned not to expect anything...but enjoy it..if and when something does happen.
I wouldn't say that nice guys or gals finish last....they just have to wait until the person they are interested in...gets tired of trying out all the 'hotties'...
I don't understand it...but I do see a trend......being a nice person..doesn't really guarantee that anyone will want to date you.
I recently lost a friend.....I was so busy worrying about how he was feeling...that I didn't take the time to ask myself how I was feeling...if I had it to do over again....I would still be nice...just not quite so gullible to believe that someone means it when they say we are friends.
Such is life....it is all about learning where the potholes are in the road...and steering clear of them the next time you travel down that road... | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/7/2005 4:11:52 PM | | Sir James, nice kilt btw! you have a point too, if your always the shoulder to cry on, then she gonna keep on cryin! Perhaps a little reality check for her is in order.....cracked, said in a previous post, tell her how you feel, and say you cant be that shoulder anymore. After not having you around, she just may realize that you were a wonderful interesting man to her and the light bulb goes on. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/7/2005 4:38:13 PM | well said sir james
finally someone who thinks outside the box like i do
welcome to the club ,,,,mind you its a small club , but were looking for members for the
I REFUSE TO BE A DOORMAT CLUB
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/7/2005 4:56:07 PM | Well said Sir James
There is a time and a place for the nice guy, the secret is knowing when to become the "not so nice" guy.. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/7/2005 4:58:09 PM |
There is a time and a place for the nice guy, the secret is knowing when to become the "not so nice" guy.
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/7/2005 10:46:59 PM | I fall into that nice guy, cry on the shoulder thing... However, I had a friend that was like that with me... only we had a day that we were "together" so I knew there was a bit of something there at least... but she kept leading me on to think we could have something... One day I got fed up enough with being walked on in that way, and I just left her alone, woudln't answer her calls, wouldn't answer e-mails, I just dropped off the face of the earth to her, but I'd occasionally pop up on MSN and she would know I'm still around. Well then she finally changed around and realized what a close friend she lost... We were about to start dating right up untill this guy she had a crush on for 2 years asked her out... but its ok, we live 3 hours apart, if it wasn't for that I'da had her.
So I guess we nice guys just gotta stand up and say no when it gets to be too much. I am always here for my friends, but I'm not a shrink! | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/8/2005 6:13:23 AM | Definitely need to think outside the male box (spelling is intended), anyway. Anything that a woman would do with a female friend, that she does with a male friend...cry on your shoulder, tell you about boyfriend troubles, etc. etc. Doesn't count as being used as a doormat, assuming she's willing to have you do the same with her. It counts as how women act with friends. Women share, a lot more, than men do. It would only feel like you're a doormat, if you're expecting more to come of it.
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