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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/3/2009 1:08:44 PM | No SLOW guys finish last, nice guys aren't really sure where the race is.
Most nice guys don't think it should even be considered a race in the first place. I guess it's kind of ironic that the men who treat women as their equals often get treated in return as friends, while the guys who treat them as prized objects to compete over often get what they want in the end.
Men are socially encouraged to be violent and competitive, practically from birth. Sports, school, games, work, capitalism, military, etc... it's all compete, win, success, money, recognition, women. It's all part of what constitutes our society, women being just as much a part of it and influenced by it will also prefer the successful competitors over the pacifists.
The men who go against these trends and make the efforts for empathy over apathy, sharing over competing and giving over taking will usually end up with little to show for it, often their only rewards being a sense of personal satisfaction in knowing that they made the world a slightly better place. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/4/2009 9:00:05 PM | Monsieur, nice guys don't finish last, they finish in the shower.
p.s. The problem always is the lack of initiative. And you can't justify that by being a nice guy. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/5/2009 11:43:29 AM | | I did a research on this very topic and the fact of the matter is that women DO prefer bad boys mots of their lives... but they tend to end up turning to good guys when they realize that their lives are all screwed up. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/6/2009 8:30:32 AM | Okay... let's bring up the very common truly nice guy scenerio where almost everybody... perhaps in the thousands... would make it openly known, especially as the nicest person they've ever met and also consider that person (quite) handsome. So... as most of us know, that is, both men and women... when such a person gets rejected because they're considered to be... "too good of a friend"... or worse... "like a brother".... it just seems like another way of saying he isn't attractive enough sometimes for not making a whole lot of money... or to be politically correct... has enough expendable money... isn't handsome enough... whatever. So,.. this nice guy directly hears from the women who turned him down, has found themselves getting heartbroken at least once a month by the low class... if they have any, often by the same person maybe even right before their own eyes... tonguing another woman for example. Sometimes the nice guy manages to tell her what she deserves to hear which gets her smiling again, then after a few years she realizes that she has finally fallen in love with her "too good of a friend". So the she becomes very intimate with the nice guy instead, laughing, dancing, dining, etc... until "Surprise!"... he gets told she's back with that (@$$) hole who promised to change his ways... again. Then suddenly the nice guy doesn't hear from her for almost a year... yep... you guessed it... saying she's real sorry about what she decided and wants to know if she can get together with that nice guy once more. However... being a nice guy doesn't mean he's going to always wait on the side, especially after she's been given over 2 years of distguishing this nice guy.
The moral of the story... nice guys don't always... get ready... set... go with those who are finally finished with the "cheetas"... and it's not because the nice guy is slow that they usually come in last... but stayed right on track as a true champion according to the blood test results. | |
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| Nice guys finish last, are you one?
Posted: 11/6/2009 10:07:15 AM | Being a nice guy in a dating context is to be willing to let her make her own choice and simply hope that she chooses you back of her own will. (Like the previous example) It's the "if you truly love something just let it go free and if it loves you it will come back" principle, instead of trapping that metaphorical bird in a cage, he simply left it to fly away and hoped it would come back to him willingly.
Basically, the "nice guy", instead of saying "I want you, I'm taking you", will say "I want you, this is who I am, can you want me too?". The problem is that more often than not women will not even see or appreciate the sacrifice and risk these "nice guys" are willing to make for her and, as a result, just settle for the most aggressive or popular candidate while considering the nice guys to be cowards. Combined with some negative false preconceptions of the male gender, some will even see the entire attitude of "nice guys" as appalling and deceitful; which is also where a lot of the contempt and frustration from "nice guys" tends to originate from. | |
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