| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:35:46 AM | It would be nice if people just answered the question.
Leave the idiots alone, they are just looking for attention or THINK they are funny .. remember if you feed the animals they keep coming back for more. 
I've had 3kids.. yes i have them, but they don't define me and I don't really think about it... i wouldn't even notice them on someone unless they were extreme, but that wouldn't change how i felt about the guy, if i'm into him.  | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/12/2008 11:13:26 AM | Being intimately attached makes stretch marks, scars, moles, freckles and flaws and intimate part of your lover and they are a turn on because they are part of her.
I have touched or kissed scars and stretch marks on womens bodies and had them become embarrassed and ashemd not wanting me to, all I can do is explain to them is that I don't find them ugly or gross because they are part of the person I am making love to so they are special and beautiful.
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/12/2008 12:36:33 PM |
The statistic is actually that 90% of women have (or will get them) during their lifetime. If these men's standards are as high as they're showing them to be, good luck finding that 10%. Maybe you should try a different dating site.
The problem with this statistic is that it's describing what will happen, not what has happened. The guys who have a problem with stretch marks are only looking for women who don't have them yet, which would be much higher than 10%.
Hopefully, if they end up in a long term relationship with one of these women, they will learn to accept her with any physical changes she might go through. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/12/2008 1:31:25 PM | | Turn on? Turn off? By the time I get to the stretchmarks that turn on/off is already passed. Seems I notice them and forget them, just like seeing a bird or a squirrel in the yard; yes, they are there, so what? That the lady is with me is all that matters. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/12/2008 9:32:15 PM | stretch marks are detestable.
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Come on, you guys, get real. Comments like that are what are detestable. Are you telling me you'd pass on a good relationship because the lady isn't a perfect Barbie doll.? When you're my age (60) you're past caring what a woman looks like anyway. Jeez. A few stretch marks never killed anybody.
Since I've been single (9/2001), I've dated and slept with women who are big, have had kids, or were a lot older than me. No complaints. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/13/2008 10:36:18 PM | | Stretch marks are war wounds lol. They are there to remind us that we have done an awsome thing to bring life into this world. I was lucky i have lots but have faded to almost nothing. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 4/14/2008 1:13:50 PM | While stretch marks or not a turn on for me, they are not really a problem for me either. No one is perfect. They are a part of life and really not that big of a deal.
I have never met anyone and said, "Nope. Can't date her, she has stretch marks!". LOL | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 6:51:04 PM | Hmmmm, I have stretch marks on a size 2 body. I didn't choose to have them; but then again, I did choose to eat ice cream almost every day that I was pregnant. Whoops, I guess I am at fault. 
At least I still feel sexy in my own skin, stretch marks and all. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 7:00:38 PM | If anyone says they don't have stretch marks they are fvckin' lying!!! I had a bf with a very tight, high, round ass - nice firm body - but hey - his ass had stretch marks on it!! I have seen some really so called fit, athletic bodies in the gym with stretch marks! They are a natural part of the growth process. Especially if you grew fast! Are they gross - are they a turn off?!?! Um NOPE why would they be?!?!  | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 7/5/2008 7:57:36 PM | I have them.. i went from being one of the smallest kids in junior high to 6 foot, 250+ of rugby playing muscle. my shoulders went from skinny to a 54 inch chest I have them on my for arms and shoulders and stomach area. Its from hitting puberty and for a year straight eating 3 proper square meals a day, working out every day, and playing rugby year round in jr/sr range solid non stop and then continuing to grow in grade 11/12 doing the same thing. My skin is extremely fair/soft so ya.. I was embarrased about them back in grade 10 and was told they dont really disapear.. I guess because I had them I never really cared if a woman had them.. and I know skinny women men and women who have them.. either by pregnancy or wrestling or sports or whatever..
Its a fact of life.. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 7/5/2008 10:23:21 PM | Stretch marks and cellulite aren't an issue for me at all. Theres nothing you can do about things like that, so whats the point of complaining about them? Its like having a nose thats a bit too long, or one eye thats higher than the other (Lisa Edelstien,plays Dr Cuddy on house, has this).Women have been sucked into all kinds of gimmicks trying to rid themselves of a few wrinkles, because either they aren't happy with their bodies (who is?) or they think men don't like it, or getting work done will make them more popular. As long as a person takes good care of themselves and does everything they can to maintain their health, then its all good | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 10:29:31 PM | The way I look at it, the minute I'm ready to pop a couple of kids out of my tummy I'll have license to criticize a woman for having stretch marks. Until that day, I'll love and accept women just the way they are.
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 7/6/2008 6:29:43 AM | Well-mine don't turn me on-I can't speak for my manfriend-but I've noticed that stretch marks can be anywhere on the body where the skin is stretched more than it should be-arms-legs-breasts-tummies-hips-etc. I think my man is more focused on the things he likes and though I do have stretch marks-it hasn't hindered the sex, but I don't necessarily think it enhanced it either.
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Posted: 7/6/2008 7:40:23 AM | | If stretch marks was the only thing I had to be conscious of I'd be laughing! If someone doesnt find you attractive because of something so petty then they arent worth it! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 12:02:58 PM | | no one's perfect...ultimately if you're turned on by someone, those imperfections mean less and less until they eventually have no significance on attractiveness at all. now when i refer to imperfections, i mean things like little scars, blemishes, birthmarks, stretchmarks, a bit of extra padding we wish we didn't have...most of us don't have perfect air brushed model bodies. sure those imperfections aren't something we'd necessarily drool over if we saw them on a xxx centerfold, but they are something we accept on our lover...they may even become a mark or spot of affection. i've known guys who had scars from injury or surgery, and i've often found myself lovingly tracing those scars with my fingertips while cuddling after sex...they're just another part of the person you already care for, why should they be an issue? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 12:42:13 PM | | I have faint stretch marks on my inner upper arms and some slight ones around my hips. That's what you get when you lose weight (too quickly?), I suppose! But do I care? No. If a man isn't going to love me for such a petty thing, he isn't worth my time. Besides, I've grown to love my stretch marks! They're a sign of my accomplishment. And if/when I give birth, my birth stretch marks will be a sign of the gorgeous child I bore! Something to be proud of. :-) | |
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Posted: 7/6/2008 6:09:48 PM | So I was brave today, put on my bikini and headed to the beach with my little girl. Felt a little shy... but after seeing all the other people there, I felt right at home. Who cares what other people think. Even if I'm not the hottest girl there, I'm still hotter than some of them. Yes, I could have worn a tankini or a 1 piece but I thought, "what the hell, I'm feeling hot today, let's just get down there and splash around in the pool!!"
PS. Having a small frame and adding 70+ pounds when pregnant leaves some very undesirable stretch marks... but well worth it when I see my lovely little girl. And yes, I'd do it all over again if I had to; though maybe I would try the cocobutter stuff the next time around. LOL.
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 7/6/2008 8:31:12 PM |
though maybe I would try the cocobutter stuff the next time around
My ex tried that stuff when she was pregnant with our first. Not only did it not help prevent stretch marks, but she had such a severe allergic reaction that I spent a couple of months rubbing her body with some disgusting lotion stuff. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:29:20 PM | So I was brave today, put on my bikini and headed to the beach with my little girl. Felt a little shy... but after seeing all the other people there, I felt right at home. Who cares what other people think. Even if I'm not the hottest girl there, I'm still hotter than some of them.
I've always found this kind of thinking to be quite funny. People will stress over putting on a swim suit and heading for the beach, worried that they will look like the Creature From The Black Lagoon amongst all the "beautiful" people. Then they get down there and realize that a day at the beach does NOT resemble a day on the set of Baywatch. Think back on all the episodes of Baywatch and try to remember all the times you saw some 30-something mother, 60 pounds overweight, wearing shorts and a tank top, with four kids running around screaming and throwing sand on each other. David Hasselhoff ruled over FantasyLand. | |
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| Stretch Marks, TurnOn? Or Gross Out.
Posted: 7/8/2008 8:55:06 PM | | I personally don't like them because I have some visible ones due to my tanned skin. They're all on my upper thighs, just below the hips. And I haven't even had children yet! As far as I can remember, I've had them since I was 15 or even before. Lol I didn't know they could change colours during an orgasm... I've never had a guy exclaim "omg they're so disgusting!" about my stretch marks...although I've never met one who said they loved them either lol. I don't think they're going to go away at all so I guess I may as well deal with it right? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2008 8:55:07 PM | | I look at them as battle scars from a noble cause. Women who have stretch from child birth have nothing to be ashamed of, on the other hand if a man or woman has no children and let themselves go to the point that they have stretch marks that's a different story. If you want a perfect mate with no flaws you are in for a long drawn out search. My hats off to women who have given birth, the stretch marks are the least of their challenges. Think about gaining 30 to 50 pounds then having to lose it and get back the "Hot Mama" body that you had before. | |
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