arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 26 | |
| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/7/2005 10:03:56 PM | If you do, I am pretty sure a couple of cute guys will come over and if you say you got stood up with a smile, you’ll end up having a good time.
I don’t see anything wrong with it. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/7/2005 10:11:16 PM | Carribeanking... I didn't mean that men don't get hit on when they go into a pub alone...
I don't think anyone thinks anything of it when they see a man go into a pub.... alone...
Im sure they get hit on... and hit on women! :-) | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 28 | |
| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/7/2005 10:12:12 PM | I don't know what a single woman would look like:( How do you know they are single?
I go to bars alone. Never see women there alone. So, you aren't alone in that. Oh, yeh I do. They work there though. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 12:36:34 AM | | Went up to the local bar at happy hour and met some ol crow that worked at Wal-Mart. I was thinking I could do her and then holy Christ on a bicycle is this what it's come to? Indeed......... | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 1:49:02 AM | If I were in a pub and saw a woman by herself......
I would probably think she was thirsty.
I could see how a woman might not want to go into a bar alone for her own safety but to feel like it's somehow inappropriate seems soooo nineteen fifties to me?
WTG T.D and H !
I agree. When I travelled the states alone for a couple of months I went into bars by myself? why because I was thirsty..and hungry. I had no and still have no trouble entering a venue by myself. At no point was I ever made to feel like DavePin would say.
PS Bars often have the best burgers/grill food and cheap food than anywhere else and when you're travelling that counts. Also I was always able to sit at or near the bar and ended up chatting to the bar stuff. I did choose venues that were close to my accomodation if I could. But then I was usually in turtleneck, jeans and hiking shoes so I probably didnt look on the 'pickup' anyway... haha. I had the best time and made most of my friends this way in the States.
Why should any woman have to justify being out by herself. Though I do agree with the safety factor...but that should be anyone when out by themselves. Dont leave with anyone. Leave at a reasonable hour [ eg before too many people get drunk/rowdy] dont get drunk and dont accept rides with strangers. But I think this would go for men too, wouldnt it ???
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 2:05:47 AM | Enlightened attitude, crystalise.
Actually, it's much more dangerous walking a secluded, poorly lit area at night alone. There were even a rash of attacks on women joggers in a popular park here a while ago. Alone + unaware of surroundings = danger.
At least in a bar you can see who you're dealing with. People still get taken in by duplicitous seducers, but that will happen in churches and charity events as much as at bars. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 5:44:01 AM | If I ever venture to a pub on my own, it is only my local pub where I know I would meet some of my friends,aquaintances or as someone said earlier, who comes first gets the table.
It is a completely different story being on holiday. Meal, drink or even dance ...there is my son too.
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 7:39:15 AM | | Well this is an interesting subject.... I had never really thought about it. I'm 25yrs old and I go to the pub by myself all the time. Mind you I've never been all into the whole "clubbing" dance bar scene I love pubs.... Have a pint, watch a hockey or soccer game, I play pool, throw darts..... sometimes I bring a book and read or bring my paper and write write write...... I do notice that sometimes when I'm in a new area I get these weird looks when I go to an unfamiliar pub but frankly I just don't give a damn. If someone wants to buy me a drink or come over and chat great but.... I'm not really there for witty conversation. I'm not there to be picked up either....LOL just there coz' I like pubs. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 7:46:28 AM | Sadly the only women I know that do this and there are quite a few just do it to get free drinks and since I do personally know these women I do know that they sleep around a lot also .
This is just my personal experience with it since I have spent alot of time watching from my little perch on stage over the years .
I don't see anything wrong with it though it's just another game and people always make the conscious choice when they sit down at the games table . | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 9:20:55 AM | .
Among friends (not “dates”), we sometimes meet at a bar. That is, she drives herself there. And, we usually sit at the bar, rather than a table. Most of these are professional women, but they have no problem going into selected bars alone.
The difference is, of course, that we usually pay attention to the gals to insure their safety. Little things, like walking them to their car after dark, etc. This is an urban area, so some diligence is necessary.
Also, I’ve received a call, from time to time, from one of the single gals in our group sitting at the bar bored and wanting someone happy to talk with for a while.
I guess I’ve never seen single women going to a bar alone as a problem. In fact, it’s rather common around here. On the other hand, it very much depends on WHICH bar they enter, too. Not all joints around here are equal and a gal can get herself quite the little reputation frequenting a couple of the local places. ;-)
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 36 | |
| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 9:37:01 AM | Fridays after work .. My pals and I hang out at a pretty popular upscale bar. We are like the cheers gang.
We often see women sitting at the bar by themselves because a lot of people use the place to as a meeting place .. and whenever we see a woman sitting by herself looking all Constipated waiting  we go over to the rescue.
No hitting on, just a bunch of very accomplished flirts.  | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 9:41:06 AM | | I used to do it, go to clubs by myself.. ((that was over 20 years ago, but I enjoyed it))... At the time, everyone was into playing dice at the bar, and there was never a dull moment. I usually didn't go to "dance clubs" by myself, but I'm sure I did a few times.. I've also gone to a couple of movies by myself. The thing I can't stand is going out to eat alone... That just feels weird to me for some reason>? | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 9:46:40 AM | I go places by myself all the time... the movies, restaurants (I'll sit there with a book while I eat lunch), shopping, pubs, and so on and so on... I enjoy my alone time.
Sometimes I just want to have a lil drink by myself, sit and think about things, then leave... A woman sitting alone at a bar isn't necessarily waiting for someone to try to get their number. :) | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 9:51:07 AM | I drop into our local pub once in a while to see who's there..
And when travelling I'll drop into a pub for lunch or dinner alone. I enjoy people watching and pubs are great for that.
Although I did get robbed at gun point in a very classy nightclub in Orlando, I don't really think safety is an issue unless you drink like a fish. I just make sure I watch myself. Simply common sense.
BTW, getting robbed in Florida was the highlight of the vacation. I survived and wow what a tale to tell..LOL | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 6:32:36 PM | I agree with another post on here - it does matter what type of bar it is. Obviously if there is a riot in the corner, shotguns on the pool table or even exotic dancers centre stage - I might rethink my choice and walk back out again
But your local average hangout / pub on a corner I have always considered a bit of haven. A few years ago when I was in a troubled relationship sometimes I just had to get out of the house. And I would head up there just to think. Not even to drink. I would order a soda water and just sit by the window trying to think things through and to just get away from the house [ and troublesome, stressful partner of the time]. It happens. Men do this a lot too, dont they???  | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 41 | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 6:40:30 PM | Maybe she was meeting someone that was late or she got stood up?
People going to a movie alone freaks me out! | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 6:44:00 PM | MY QUESTION IS: what would you think -- both men and women -- when you see an "obviously" single older women in a pub?
Personally, I figure she's there to unwind and have a beer (or whatever). I fully realize I'm probably the only guy on the planet who doesn't think she's there looking to get laid. If/when I go to a bar, it's to have a beer or a glass of wine, and smoke a cigar, and be left alone. I don't go up to women and speak to them because "I" figure "they" figure I'm just some schmuck, like all the other schmucks, who are going to try to get them into bed. This makes it tough, however, when I'd just like to talk to them and find out if they're intellectually as interesting as they are physically appealing... but the "schmuck" threat isn't worth it, so I mind my own business, drink my drink, and enjoy my cigar. On the other hand, I do somewhat enjoy watching other men make idiots of themselves "making moves" and such, as they get shot down one by one. I just look at it as some big "breeding" endeavor, similar to deer during the rutting period. Males, overcome by testosterone and a "need to breed," hit on anything smelling even remotely feminine.
Anyway, I figure she's there to relax and enjoy her drink, and that's what "I" let her do. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/8/2005 6:55:00 PM |
Try to drink our troubles away ???
on soda water??? methinks not...more like "time out" | |
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ya472
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Joined: 8/8/2005
Msg: 45 | |
| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/24/2005 4:13:59 PM | ..
MY QUESTION IS: what would you think -- both men and women -- when you see an "obviously" single older women in a pub? I make a lot of assumptions about their/your thoughts
What you fear, is what you project. If you feel 'obviously' single, then others will sense that. How you conduct yourself also projects intentions. However, it would be smart to leave a bar 'safely'. Even I check the locks and back seat, and watch the rear view mirror.
But my instincts tell me that people my age will be judged in a negative way when sitting there as single women in a pub.
Why would it matter how people judge you? I would be more concerned about the place you visit. Leave if your uncomfortable. However, most pubs have female waiters or bartenders and it would be easy to introduce yourself when making your purchase, this will help you feel more comfortable.
It all comes down to common sense. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/24/2005 4:19:34 PM | My first thought would be if she was there to meet someone. If I noticed her alone for a couple of hours then I think of the possibility of being picked up or perhaps just having her drinks paid for.
Doesn't matter though. A bar is not my venue - never has. I've never been able to pick up someone there nor even make good social contact. Just don't got it! | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/24/2005 5:22:44 PM | Whether it's a man or a woman alone in a bar, I wouldn't think one way or the other about them unless they acted in one way or another.
One problem I notice about bars -- and I work in them all the time -- is that women who just want to enjoy a quiet drink often find persistent, uninvited and often obnoxious male guests at their table. I think at a good bar, the staff should keep an eye out for this and ask the guys to leave the lady alone if they can see she doesn't really want the company. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/25/2005 4:26:58 AM | For me it would depend on the place,
There is a little restaurant/martini bar that I go to every once in a while by myself. I happen to know the owner and the bartender so I guess feel comfortable sitting there by myself and chatting with them. They have a lot of regular executive types that will come in there after work for a quick drink and I usually end up having great conversations with people while I am visiting. I wouldn't however venture to a "club" by myself. | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 11/25/2005 5:15:25 AM | Yeah it is a shame that woman are not allowed the same privileges as men.
I go to one of the larger bars where I live alone all of the time, and to top it off I usually don't go until after midnight, I am a night person.
It is a large one with 3 dance floors.
The bartenders don't know me but they recognize me.
I don't go to pick up men.
And I have never been picked up there either.
I won't drink more than 1-2 drinks depending on how long I stay, which can be 5 minutes to 5 hours depending on band and crowd.
I won't put my drink down.
I know many people there.
I like to dance.
If I go with another woman, that is when something bad always seems to happen.
If I went with another man, they would feel a "date" obligation.
After I learned about going places by myself, something we women are not supposed to do, I knew how to behave myself, and I knew how not to attract someone that I would not want to talk to. I dress very well when I go out.
And I have a blast! | |
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| Women at Pubs by Themselves
Posted: 10/30/2006 4:58:24 AM | | I go to have FUN,dance and hang out with my friends.100% of the time I go home ALONE!! | |
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