| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/16/2004 8:45:21 AM | Personally, I think LadyO has the best take on the situation. I too think that a lot of it depends on upbringing. My parents were married for over three decades, and happy. Our family has very few divorces in it's history. On the other hand, my ex-wife's family history is riddled with affairs, divorces, and general dysfunction.
My ex left me for a CT. State Trooper because she wanted to "Find Herself".
You guys figure it out....
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/16/2004 2:19:27 PM | Marriage is a sham. It is some sort of trumped up philisophical garbage talk about how two people can be as one, that DOESN'T WORK! Marriage is basically a method for a woman to step into your life and then step out with half ov everything you own and a percentage of your future earnings regardless of what they may have been at one time.
Prenuptuals are argued in court and dismissed regularly so that doesn't offer protection either. People speak of equality but have you ever looked over the rulings in divorce cases...women all the way! So...if you are a man, and thinking of marriage, there are a few things you should do.
1st - Get a labotomy! Less painful, cheaper, and more effective.
2nd - Get your brain examined! There is obviously something wrong with you and professional help may be the only way to correct this way of thinking.
3rd - Suicide. It is also less painful, cheaper, and a more effective way to feeling "complete"
4 - Refer back to previous three. There are no other thoughts that should be going through your head about marriage!
~Gotta Luv Me~
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/16/2004 3:33:53 PM | | Larry, I don't even have to read some d*mned psychologist or whatever views in a book. The thing ya learn in this ole world, is to go ahead if you think some woman is worth, but look long and hard inside this person. That takes a long time. You don't find this crap about true love in real life much. That is the stuff of teenage hormones and dreams of foolishness. I can guarantee ya most relationships are on shaky ground sooner or later. Don't set yourself up for marriage these days. Love em and leave em. It's no big deal, and you've save yourself a lot of grief. Forget marriage. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/16/2004 3:36:11 PM | It's a non-issue for me.
I've just started getting out there and enjoying myself. Marriage isn't in the cards for me for years to come. I love being a single guy, and I love the freedom that it is. If I got married at 24, settled down and had children, what would I have to look forward to for the next 50 years? Insanity.
Look at it this way, for you gentlemen who are thinking about/planning to get married some time soon. Your world will suddenly be in a bubble. Your life is suddenly ethched in stone in a very big way. It's not the fact that she's not loving or that she doesn't care for you. It's the fact that she's the only one you'll be with. Think about that. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/16/2004 4:12:37 PM | I still believe in marriage. But then again, I aslo believe when you stand in front of your God and say "Forever and Ever". You should d*mn well mean it. I don't ebven need marriage as it is known. A nod and a wink will do as long as the life promise is never broken.
Some women marry men for security.
Some men marry women until the first wrinkle.
They are shallow.
That shouldn't reflect on the rest of us. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/16/2004 7:58:43 PM | | I think it is worth it.. sad to say i have seen very few last. I think in todays world that to many going thinking everything will be bliss and excitment.. you need to enter in knowing you will have tuff times and that there will be times when your not happy with that person..its like seasons.. some are winter, summer , spring, fall, but in todays world there is a mind set that.. hey if it is not all that and your unhappy, get out now. well some of our greatest learning, loveing, and even art has come from struggle. (baring cheaters and beaters) I know this is hard.. maybe i am just a romantic or a dope.. but i hope it is a one time thing. to be honest i have not really seen to many people do better after diviorce in my life.. (that is just in my life not in genral). | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/17/2004 2:19:25 PM | I beg to differ Dragonn... Tis indeed a bed of Roses... for all roses have thorns, however, in the end, the fragrance and beauty of the roses make the few pricks more than worth it...
~~Dragon Rider~~
Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for thou art crunchy and go well with Ketchup. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/17/2004 2:22:01 PM | Never been married myself and I have not seen 1 good marriage in all my years so far so I have no urges to jump into it. I don't think love and marriage have to go together in any form. Now i'm not saying some great girl will change my mind...just hasn't happen yet 
Now I will say its worth it if shes got alot of money....
or her father is holding your dog hostage until the ceremony is over....
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 12/17/2004 2:24:36 PM | Liberally applied Chelle... and gently massaged in... ... Just need the right partner...
~~Dragon Rider~~
Meddle not in the affairs of Dragons, for thou art crunchy and go well with Ketchup. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 11:27:58 AM | All men do not need maids, and if they do, they're simply lazy.
I'm divorced (many years), & live alone. I clean, cook, do the wash, in addition to all the other "manly" stuff you'd expect.
I'll tell you this - my home is a hell of a lot cleaner & more tastefully decorated than a lot of the homes of single women I've been to.
All this crap about men being domestic idiots is a load of Bull..... | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 11:32:54 AM | | dude, relax, calm urself, and repeat after me....... marriage is bad.....marriage is bad......marriage is bad........ i'll save u from urself matey | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 11:45:55 AM | | Marriage is not worth it if the lady you want to marry is an evil fiendish skank. If she's a good woman, then you have struck gold, my friend. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 12:14:47 PM | skank ( P ) Pronunciation Key (skngk)
n.
1. A rhythmic dance performed to reggae or ska music, characterized by bending forward, raising the knees, and extending the hands.
2. Disgusting or vulgar matter; filth.
3. One who is digustingly foul or filthy and often considered sexually promiscuous. Used especially of a woman or girl.
I'm guessing she's using the third definition! | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 1:20:43 PM |
All this crap about men being domestic idiots is a load of Bull.....
Tell it to the advertisers of any pre-cooked meal product on the market or any cleaning product. They missed that memo.
It's amazing how bitter the divorced males can be. not that their former wives don't deserve their wrath.. they more than likely deserve it two times over.. but do consider this.. YOU MARRIED THE NUTCASE!
Decides to start finding pyschos unappealing and I am certain you'll start to feel better. If you wouldn't want to go through marriage again, no one could blame you, certainly. But don't pretend like you're totally blameless either. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 2:27:07 PM | | depends on what your in it for and who you accept as the mr. or miss right. If you find a woman who you love and loves you why wouldn't it be worth it. part of the problem is how you deal with adversity...as it will come. but as some have said you work through it and you fall in love with each other over and over again time after time. but in our society too many people are getting examples of people who quit marriage or jobs or whatever and think quitting is an easy answer and an easy out. there is far more reward in sticking it out and working through a problem. If you did your homework and worked through any adversities with your girlfriend sucsessfully it stands to reason you'll be able to do so in marrage. mind you one has to be carefull and see that one is just not giving in but actually working it out with you. life is full of examples like this. If you want to do a good job at whatever your going to do you'll come across some snags in the building process, but there is great satisfaction in overcoming obstacles and triumphing. and it makes it all the more worthwhile to go on. I have never been married so there are obviously other things that come into play, but your interpersonal relationships might give you a clue if you are ready for marriage or not. Relationships are a hot bed of growth in this area. one probably should not just jump in and just get married but learn and grow in relationship, then when you are comfortable I think then marriage would be well worth it. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 2:32:22 PM | It's a non-issue for me.
I've just started getting out there and enjoying myself. Marriage isn't in the cards for me for years to come. I love being a single guy, and I love the freedom that it is. If I got married at 24, settled down and had children, what would I have to look forward to for the next 50 years? Insanity.
Look at it this way, for you gentlemen who are thinking about/planning to get married some time soon. Your world will suddenly be in a bubble. Your life is suddenly ethched in stone in a very big way. It's not the fact that she's not loving or that she doesn't care for you. It's the fact that she's the only one you'll be with. Think about that.
And yet you 'accidently' put that you were looking for a long-term relationship in your profile.?? Maybe you should change that as to not give women the wrong impression. ;)
And lord knows being with one person is the worst thing that could ever happen to someone. Marriage isn't for everybody, but it can be great with the right person. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 3:14:41 PM | My first marriage was a failure, but I have three great kids out of it. Was it worth it? You bet.
My kids have been living with me ever since my divorce. Do they sometimes drive me nuts  ? You bet ! Was it worth it ? Without a dought !
If it's all about the right reasons, then without a shadow of a dought, I feel it's worth it. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 4:11:44 PM | | I like marriage its a grand concept when both partries go into it equally, but marriage for me means that both parties go into it witout dragging the baggage of thier former lives into it or it will never work that is what the dating world is for. Dating is the time when couples need to start being open and honest with one another and letting everything else out which makes that decision to be together for the rest of thier lives more special. If anything is left hidden then there is a huge problem. | |
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| Guys do you think Marriage is worth it?
Posted: 6/8/2005 4:46:13 PM | I'd love to get married, but each time a friend does it never lasts, they always get bored of each other and get a divorce. SO as time goes on, I can't see myself getting married as I don't want to end up like them.
Hell 3 ex's have tried to date me and no way am I stepping on my friends toes.
With all the women I have talked too, and met, I haven't met one who was serious in getting married. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 4:52:20 PM | | yam I went from being married to an abusive, controlling dominant man to my second marriage to a wonderful, kind loving saint. You couldn't have picked a bigger extreme. My first husband treated me like a servant, my second treated me like a queen. The ex is in prison (posted a little bit of that on another thread) and my second one died 6 months after we were married. So I know what a horrible marriage is and I know what a nearly perfect or ideal marriage is. I would do it again and feel that I would know how to distinguish someone who'd be a good husband from one that wouldn't be. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2005 5:01:27 PM | Bucs,
That's great for you. Anyone who wants to do it should feel free. It's just not for me. I have no desire to sacrifice my life again. I already did it once in the pursuit of making someone happy. The well being of my relationship was a very real concern for me on a daily basis. If you can put that much work into it and meet with disappointing results, I am at a loss as to why it's worth it. 
I'm very sorry to hear about your second husband. Seems like he was a great guy.  | |
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