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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:01:37 AM | I wouldnt say its 'leery', my last b/f was 43 never married and no kids, it was fine i didnt
prejudge him on that, why should i??
The only reason in the end it didnt work out was he was settled in his bachelor ways of 8 yrs
and chose to return to that, he just hadnt found that one special person to be with was all.
Guys who are self confident and actually happy and content in themselves are quite happy
to be by themselves until they choose otherwise, same with us females.........
***nothing wrong with that..... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 11/30/2006 9:10:49 PM | | i think it's great and they are as smart as me!!! they haven't lost half of everything they have worked for all their live in a divorce!!! says something for a guy that is that smart. there are so many men who get married and divorce so many times they can't count them all.. i'd rather meet a guy with no baggage anyday!!! and no child support or alimony!!! i think you would be a rare and wonderful find!! | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:54:17 AM | I am in my mid-fifties, and a lifetime bachelor. The last thing I want, is a starter marriage, to prepare for the real thing.
"If being married is one of your life's goals, then, I don't see what
you are waiting for!"
Marriage was never a life goal for me. I always thought single was better.
To make the change from single to married life, I would have to be absolutely convinced that it was a prudent decision. If marriage did not represent a strongly positive and beneficial change, then it would be a foolish step.
It doesn't matter to me, what (usually divorced) women might think of my lack of marriage history. I am not out to please them, just myself.
The vast ranks of divorced people are proof to me, that marriage should not be entered frivolously.
I woud much rather be single and wishing I was married, than to be married and wishing I was single. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/1/2006 1:40:51 PM | | Since I am 49 and have never been married and have no children, I would love to meet a man my age who has never been married and has no children. However, the men I meet who fit that discription all seem to want to marry divorced women with children since they see the women as a prize since they have been married and they get instant children. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/1/2006 10:48:47 PM | | No women shouldn't be. Same thing as a woman who's 30 and over and still single. Most my friends got married in their early to mid 20's. I'm 34, and ya I happy person. Ya have to admit, at times sure wish I had someone, but I don't. I can't worry about that. If I find someone or meet someone down the way, cool. If not oh well. Any women would be curious about that, why wouldn't they. I think I'm smart that I didn't get married at an early age. Like to think I'm a patient guy. Good things will still come. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/2/2006 11:51:14 AM | | I know i am...I find it a little funny that over 30 i feel like i need to explain why i am divorced/a single mom/whatever my situation is.....but really in the back of my mind i am wondering why this guy hasnt gotten married before. Why doesnt he have any baggage or community property? lolAssuming he has recently dated I wonder why he didnt get serious enough to marry? Obviously there are lots fo answers to that question...many of them are reasonable and great answers...but i cant help thinking fear of commitment | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/3/2006 4:08:03 PM | | Since I'm 33 and never married, I'd be putting *myself* down if I thought there was something wrong with a man in my same situation. I would just assume he hasn't found what he's looking for and isn't willing to settle. Nothing wrong with that, in my book. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2006 5:32:06 AM | | Don't sweat it Andrew, I'm in the same boat, I'm 39 and never been married. When I get into a relationship, after a while I Think deep...could I spend the rest of my life with this person? could I look at that face everyday? listen to that voice every morning? and so far I havent answered yes to myself. Whats the rush anyway? I do good by myself, I dig the me time I have, I'm always so busy anyway it kind of works out for me. And as far as some women being out of your league? Forget it, we're all the same on the inside once you get past the pretty painted walls....so be picky man, divorce ain't cheap..... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/7/2006 3:02:27 AM | | You bet they are! Wait till you are in you 40's. When a woman finds out you've never been married one of two things happen. Either she acts like you just told her you have a combination of black death, leprosy , anthrax and you think it's a government conspiracy to hide the fact the earth is flat. Or the questions never stop like: "why not , what's wrong with you, are you gay ..." | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/7/2006 8:54:28 AM | | Well i think they are somewhat leery for whatever reason. I am 38 never married and no kids and the first thing i get asked when i tell a woman that is "Are you gay?" Which i am not. I just laugh and kinda make a joke about it cause i know how far this probly ain't gonna go. Which in my opinion, if they would rather have someone who has been married numerous times and have a houseful of kids, so be it. Not saying that there is anything wrong with either situation, but everyone is different. That's what makes the world go round. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/7/2006 11:39:56 AM | | I honestly think that the closer to middle aged you are (and that's somwhere in our 40's unless you plan on living well into your 90's) and the longer you remain NEVER attached the harder it will be for you to committ to someone. When you partner with someone you learn to compromise...that's a skill...not something we're born with. I personally have found people who have not learned this by the time they're 40 are very...set in their ways? It's not that I have an age limit on people and are leery of them...it's just easier to get along with someone who has learned this skill early on and has practise at it. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/7/2006 1:39:42 PM | | I have been married before and was in a long term relationship with a 38 year old who had never been married. We split up 6 months ago and I am still deeply affected. In the end he could not cope with the commitment and my two children. Because of my past experience I am cautious of the never married man! | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/7/2006 2:51:30 PM | | yep, people are sooooo rude when they think we never married no kids people are gay, or really weird, or scared of committment ( people who have married several times and cannot keep a committment of marriage(affairs) are not to be considered as red flags but we who have not met the person we could be in a committed marriage with and have not married the wrong people are scary?...... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 12/8/2006 10:55:19 AM | | Excellent point fifi47...just because someone is or has been in a relationship doesn't mean they're committed! People are fooling themselves if they think that just because someone hasn't settled down it means they're unreliable...that would mean that everyone who does get married is faithful...not true. Good point. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/19/2007 7:44:55 PM | hello runtome17 ... I'm 36 and I'm single ... never been married .. no kids ... although I do enjoy being alone I feel that I am still missing that special someone in my life ... but having a relationship means total attraction, happiness and communication to me ... of course looks is important to me .. but mostly I'm attracted to a great mind and personality ... if I don't have all of those I'd rather be alone than live a miserable and frustrating life ... I luv to laugh and having someone that has a positive outlook on life is a plus
anyways .. reason why I'm still single ... wanted to build my career first .. graduated from University and college both with Computer Science ... then worked on the oil rigs after school and although it was pretty decent ... my social life suffered cause of the long hours and no days off ... decided to make the move to a bigger city and continue my professional career ... date alittle more and hopefully find my soulmate .. a total sweetheart ... that I've been looking for  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/19/2007 11:28:29 PM | | I like it when guys have been single and lived there young dreams. When I date a divorsed guy it bothers me at time. I have never been married and I perfer to date guys that are the same.. but at my age, that is hard to find. | |
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