| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:38:48 PM | There was a study done a few years ago (I read wierd things) that said that (some)couples that get married in their twenties are in "starter marriages". Due to the divorce rates (usually within 2-5 years of the marriage, and generally before one spouse hits 30), these marriages are similar to common-law relationships - but with a wedding dress.
Kudos to you for not getting into a starter marriage - and really waiting to find out who you are before finding "The One" | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/16/2007 9:34:33 PM | | You know I am over 30 and the reason I have never been married is because the lady I was engaed to cheated on me. So yeah I'm a little gun shy to go back there to quickly. I believe that when you find the right person you and that other person will know. ME I haven't found that person that's why! | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:13:01 PM | | Men or women do not get married simply for the fact that they haven't met the right person, or they don't feel that marriage has any importance in their life. That is their right and their business. I myself do not feel any desire to marry. Why fix your life if it's not broken, right... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:42:38 PM | | Having been married with children; I tend to shy away from guys that have never been married. It really doesn't have anything to do with them really, it is more my way of thinking that keeps me from getting involved with a guy that has never been married and doesn't have children. Why date someone when there is a darned good chance that he is looking to start a family and that is the one thing that I would be unable to give him; so why waste his time????? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/19/2007 10:26:49 PM | | Funny you should post that question, as a woman who is 31 I have people who think it is weird that I have no children, although I am divorced, they just assume I hate kids and don't want any or "can't" have any and pitty me. I just havn't found the right man to have children with just a you havn't found the right girl yet...society is preoccupied with "normal" but normal is whatever we allow it to be..good for you for never having settled!!! :) | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:23:55 PM | I am 36 years old & am in the same boat as you. No... there is nothing wrong. I truly believe the one for you is out there but it's just not your time. There's nothing wrong with having fun while you look around. Don't ever think someone is out of your league... they just mite be more of a... challenge. Most women (not all) either are looking for just a fun time OR a financially rich dude who can buy her love until someone or something else comes along. Chances are (& this is the difficult part) is to try & find someone of the same status. Ya, I know... it's hard. No kids... Never married... but there are a few of them around. & if you do decide on a girl with one or the othere it may not be a bad thing; however the relationship may have a few more challenges to overcome.
Good luck & don't let it get you down. You are normal & not to picky. The rite one & you just haven't found each other yet... YET!  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/20/2007 2:29:23 PM | I get that a bit - sort of the "bin end" theory - if nobody else wanted....
Ben Graham made millions, and Warren Buffett billions, by picking stocks the same way. They seem to have done OK so maybe it applies to dating too.
Hopefully.
And as for the 'no kids,' some of us do that by choice. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:06:20 PM | | im not leery because even tho i got married years ago, i made a mistake doing that. wrong person, wrong time, wrong reasons... so perhaps a man i meet that has never been married avoided that mistake. why would i fault someone for that? lol | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:53:06 PM | | Its no big deal...Iv met alot of guys in their 40s who have never been married and thought nothing of it.So Im sure women your age are not going to be too Leary about it....alot of women like the thought of not having to deal with the Exes and the kids from past marriages | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/22/2007 8:30:58 PM | Well, the ones I've met like that do tend to be a bit commitmentphobic, but that doesn't make it so for all of them. Still the players I have met who are in their mid to upper 30's and older seem to be men who have never married or even been close, and there seems to be no end in sight to this lifestyle. oy vey, seems a little immature and exhausting, but whatever!
I don't assume they are all that way, but I definitely approach with caution once I hear they have not taken that step before, especially if they haven't had many/any long term relationships.  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/23/2007 4:48:18 AM | Just because someone isn't married doesn't mean they don't have experience! You can live with someone in a long term relationship and get the same experience, the difference is a certificate. Not dating someone just because they haven't married is quite frankly crazy. Some marriages barely last 3 months. In 3 months you barely know a person. Of course there are always extremely intense relationships, but I still don't think you get to know about the range of emotions and life someone has lived unless you've been with them awhile.
I wouldn't worry about whether you're married or not. As the site implies, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and someone out there is going to be just right. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/23/2007 3:41:05 PM | my advice
just don't worry about what others think about what you do, and do what you want .
cause you will never satisfy everyone and do you really want to appear or do you want to be what you want ?
then be it :) | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 6/21/2008 1:33:31 PM | are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married? Based on my observations: a lot of women are leery of such guys
i too picky? No.
Likely just more stable-minded and intelligent than the person who's hastilly jumped into a short-lived marrigage (or 2, or 3) and then realised they made a mistake.
what do other men think about this question? I'd like to think there should be some very possitive signs from the fact that a guy has never married.
-I never intended to marry, or father children, until I've hopefully found the right person for a permenant relationship. I don't think you say the same about the guy who's been divorced 3 times, and has children with 5 different mothers.
-I've also never settled for a woman. I'd hope that this would imply to a woman that if I'm interested in a serious relationship with her, she should consider it a sincere compliment to herself, and know that I really think highly of her.
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post 5 is ridiculous
I'll admit to be a little leery about a guy who's over 40 and has never been married or had children... I think experience can sometimes count~~ Experience can sometimes count???
Isn't that an assumption that people are so unintelligent that they must have a failed relationshipship, in order to learn how to have one???
Maybe the person, who hasn't been married yet, is actually intelligent enough, that he/she does not need to amass a number of failed marriages before learning how to have one.
I'm intelligent enough to know that I wouldn't be content in a relationship with the wrong person. Apparently other people need to learn that from "experience" ?
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 6/21/2008 3:44:49 PM | "Livewire" is probably not on here anymore but it irks me that so many of you women think with your heart instead of your head! Not everybody is called to have kids or be married. My life has been awesome and I've been out with many fine ladies. I'm not a player and it has always been one at a time.
I've traveled the country, been on numerous vacations, retired at 48, do extensive volunteer work with hundreds of troubled teens and am worth 6 figures today. I'd rather be as I am today than to have been married, had kids and now be divorced (2,3,4...times). I enjoyed my life to the fullest and have shared it with many great ladies. We just never BOTH wanted marriage.
I took care of my parents until they died and I wouldn't have wanted to burden my gal with that responsibility. I really didn't have a minute to date from 2002-2007 because of my committment to them.
And guess what I find now? Thousands of divorced women, overweight, with kids and that have a serious emotional problem about guys! So who should be leery of whom??? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 6/21/2008 5:48:24 PM |
I'd be more leary of the over 30 who's been divorced 3 or 4 times and has kids all over the city by 8 different women. But on POF he'd probably be the better man. I don't know if he'd be the "better man". But he'd certainly fit in very well with some of the people on this site.
I do notice that there's a lot of people on here, (specially in these forums) who seem to think that having numerous brief marriages is normal; and they actually seem to think there's something wrong with the minset of people who haven't had numerous "practice" marriages or relationships. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 6/21/2008 6:41:41 PM | I agree with Stangs about never married guys being highly attractive because you don't have to deal with an "ex." Widowers also have an attraction because you aren't being dragged through custody battles and the other nonsense involved with a divorce. Never married or widowed for me | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 6/21/2008 9:48:55 PM | | ummm most men yeah have a problem not being married at a later age because THEY DONT WANT TO BE!!!!!the one would be staring into them and they dont see it they string along a chick for years and never commit,meet the family etc......they like being single | |
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