| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 7/2/2008 8:04:36 PM | I have always thought I was single because I preferred to make sure of what I was getting into. I also found many women that had a very profound hatred towards men after a divorce. I am not saying all women. Now I will say that all women after a divorce are far from trusting any man and given the circumstances on some reasons I can understand that. Main point is not all men are like others. Some take the time to try to understand and help a woman feel comfortable after a divorce and ask nothing in return but they are looked at like they have other intentions. Some men that have never been married may have just been living thier lives and going day to day to get through it. Not intending to stay single for the length of time that they have. Whats the big deal? I have no quams in a woman that has never married and no kids. I have no problem with a woman with kids and divorced. I have no problem with a woman that has been widowed and still fights the feelings from the past. What we need to do is take the time to find out and then you may reach a point that your thoughts may have been totally foolish in the way you were thinking. I am not saying not to be careful. Everyone should always take safety into account first. That goes both ways from men and women. Truthfully I enjoy my being single most of the time. There are times that I feel the moment of regret and wonder what would have been the outcome with a certain woman in my past. I have been told a couple of times by past ladies that they wished they had said yes when I asked them to marry me. Hindsight does make one think but for what point. The past is that and if the future trips into the picture what kind of terms does one have to fight to prove themselves to someone that has been married and divorced or widowed. The person that has been either will have it in the back of thier minds and the poor person that has never been married has to fight like all hell to prove themselves not to be like an ex. Some times it is just not worth the time to try and prove it to someone that has been married. Don't get me wrong I think there is nothing better than to find the love you seek and make a go of it. Get that special person and find a cloud that sets you in a whirl. May be foolish dreaming but hey give me foolish anytime if I love the woman. I would give her the world if it were mine to give. I never offer anything except my total devotion and love. The commitment I offer is unconditional. However I do ask for the same in return. Been single for what, I am 56 almost 57 and never married. Only one woman has ever totally caught my heart and the circumstances were against us from the beginning. So being single is the road that some people take. Not by choice but by circumstances in life and what it has offered along the way. If you have a dream and want to make it happen you will. It may take time but sometimes that time is long and it works against you. I can truthfully say I do not even take into account about someone having been married or if they have been single all thier life. I take into account how we feel for each other and connect to each other. Everything else will work out.
Have a good one people, sorry for the length of the post.
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/13/2008 7:44:55 PM | | I'm almost 36 years old. From the time I was a teenager till now, I have never encountered one single woman whose brain have developed large enough to handle me the way I expected. In other word, regardless of age, there is not one mature or intelligent enough for me, anywhere, unless one will come and approach me. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/15/2008 9:47:45 AM | OP,
it all depends on why. If its just that you haven't found the right person yet, and you've been enjoying life, then it could be a plus.
I prefer to hear that than about a messy divorce with ongoing complications or a tumultuous life with a history of bad decisions and no sign of changes that would avoid me being another one. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/15/2008 8:29:29 PM | | Ah crap,blah, blah ,blah, What kinda question is that ? Glad you brought it up though just to see what kinda analyst we have out there.There are no two people alike nor any two situations or lives a like.it is what it is and shouldn't be an issue at all..i could say the same for all the divorcees on here and else where.Why did you get divorced who's fault was it ..even though he cheated was it you not giving him any attention at home? And he's still a rat for doing it so what kinda judgement does that make you have in picking a man that your going to spend the rest of your life with..there's more irresponsible in the people that have married before thier 30 i think ,lol. Maybe if you gotta ask that question to a man ,you should maybe then take the time to think why 'YOUR STILL SINGLE ''.Get over it and just be normal again before all this politically correct non sence came about.In other words use your common sence and go with the flow because in essence that's all anyone has to go on..You never really know the person your with totally,Ever! None of us are married in heaven anyway.If you ladies want a perfect man you need to follow God,cause he was the only one..Don Wilson | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 2:39:48 PM | Never Married, no children; I had a girl tell me that it made her wonder what happened in my life or what was wrong that I had. Really, sometimes I ask the same thing and wonder if I ever will really meet someone, Usually late at night when I'm alone.
I lived with a girl for five years and was engaged. When we broke up I got hasty and joined the Military. Ten years later, have I missed the Boat? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 3:13:31 PM | Over 30? No.
Hopefully, it would be revealed pretty early on that the guy was an all-around good catch (mostly!)
anyway and he hadn't found the right one to share his life with.
Over 50? Probably would be cause for concern.
Commitment issues would come to mind.
He could be a Playah who is starting to get rejected regularly by the usual
30 year-old party girls so he wants to "settle-down" and get married
to the woman who will have his namesake, darn his socks, and
doesn't slurp her soup because he is feeling his own mortality. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:45:06 PM | | He could be a wonderful guy who seeks an unusual woman and does not settle for anyone except the one who is able to be as committed to him as he is to her and finding that person has proven to be the proverbial needle in a haystack. Perhaps he seeks a woman who has not been married and has found that most women over 30 have been married at least once and those women do not appeal to him. I would find positive things about him until proven otherwise,but then I tend to be a realistic optimist and being single makes me find common ground with the men who have not been married. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/16/2008 4:54:49 PM |
It would depend on the reasons why he wasn't married by age 30. Some men simply preferred to remain single. Some men were busy with school or work. Some men simply had bad luck and met a bunch of women that they weren't compatible with. Some men might have been shy around women when they were younger.
I agree. People shouldn't make generalizations about 30+ yr old single people, divorced people, or any other type of marital status. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/18/2008 10:56:42 AM | | this is an ancient thread! If OP is still reading...I have more respect than less for people who are over 30 and have not been married. I have heard this is more of an urban than rural thing, that many folks are waiting until late 30s or early 40s even. My personal experience with this is that I was married at 25 (and divorced by 32). If I would have waited longer, I would have known myself better and probably would not have made the decision to marry that person. Many people I know feel the same way. One of my girlfriends was married at 38, and another one will most likely get married this year (she'll be 41). They were not married before, nor were there partners. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2008 4:01:01 PM | if underneath the poster's name and date joined it doesn't have the history hotlink then it normally means they have closed their account, so the OP has gotten married to a 19 y.o blonde beach babe from california 
it's a bit like jobs, employers look at you sideways if you havent got a job as if you have just gotten out of prison. Women are a bit like it too with single childless men, sort of if it's too good to be true then it must be false.
Its all down the players and con artists and criminals spoiling it for the rest of honest society. Maybe women after been on a course to ensure they can shoot at the right target and not shoot indiscriminately, could be given a flourescent smart water dye water pistol and if they could scammed by a player they could mark him so everyone knew what he was. Then other men could be afforded at least an element of innocent until proven gulity.
love and peace
hug someone new today 
regards from 158, defender of the faith, the weak and The Unique Garlic Wrestling Circus Act.  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/22/2008 6:55:18 AM | This question takes me back to when I actually was 30. At that time, I never would have even considered getting married. It was absolutely the furthest thing from my mind.
I wasn't even dating, then, having had my fill already.
Being single seemed to make much more sense, than having to deal with marriage issues.
Fast forward to present day. I am leery of women in general, and happy not to have married one.
It does not seem to me, that I know any other men, who are happier for being married.
As far as what women might think, I don't care very much. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/23/2008 1:56:43 AM | Too true Dirty Ben!
Its when work has put me up in a rubbish hotel where I cant sleep or something.
I end up using my phone to access the Forums and the screen is tiny and jumbled and I'm over tired!
Many apologies
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/25/2008 8:12:50 PM | I'm not,no qualms about it at all.Maybe just maybe he hasn't found the right woman yet or maybe he isn't the marrying kind?
I'm over 30 and never married (yes I'd like to be someday but I haven't met that person yet) so why should I question a man if he isn't? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:26:53 AM | People who think negative thoughts and assume negative things about complete strangers just because they aren't married (and divorced) by 30 are people you probably don't want to meet anyway.
And don't be bitter about us "never married" singles! 
I'm happy with my current life. Let's face it. Being single without kids at this age... just rocks! I have money, I have time, I got lots of friends, I got a great social life without having to attend PTA... life is good!
All you who have waited and used your time well in the interim, you'll most likely be great parents one day because you won't be stumbling around frantically trying to get a career started while juggling child care and finishing school. You would have acquired plenty of skills that younger parents just don't have at that age. Your nest is better lined, your kids will have more advantages in life.
There's plenty of stories of people who waited and got everything they wanted in one shot. I know many in my life like that and I am sure some of you know a few too. :)
So here's to those who wait for the right one...
Cheers! 
May the wait be not too long... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 1:24:44 AM | | This is especially for the OP. If you are thinking about dating women who have children (particularly in my age group) then yes I would say weary is the word I would use. Why? Well for starters I won't bring just anyone in and need to be alot fussier for myself and the sake of my children. Men who have never been married or had kids tend to be more selfish because they are used to being on their own. So it depends what you are looking for but just keep in mind what I mentioned and if you meet someone you like that does have kids, try to be patient and realise it will be different that being with someone who is single. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 5:53:43 AM | Post 370 makes a pretty broad, and stupid, generalization.
Men who have never been married or had kids tend to be more selfish because they are used to being on their own. Is the man, who has never had kids, more selfish, or less understanding, than the guy who's abandoned his own wife and kids?
Perhaps some men, who've never had kids, may be selfish, or may not be understanding of a mother's commitment to her kids.
But, perhaps many of these men are just guys who've never had kids yet because they've never met the right person. It doesn't mean that they're not clever enough to understand a woman's parenting responsibilities.
I'd like to think that some of the guys, over 30 with no kids, are likely more understanding and responsible than the people who were having kids at the age of 18.
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 5:56:08 AM | These men are immune to **** power - which men in their 20's are not in general
When a woman looses this power over men she has nothing left to ensnare or control him with
I see what you mean and I agree with it to an extent. But then again, I'm not looking for that type of woman. Someone who's mature enough to realize that actually understanding me is what's gonna keep me around. It's definitely not gonna be just the sex. And if she tries to control me, well then she's gone.
If women did not have A VAGINA what would you want from them ?
Their femininity. Yeah, I enjoy that a whole bunch.
companionship/friendship -- you can get this from good male friends
I don't cuddle with my male friends.
loyalty -- get yourself a dog
They don't cheat on me. They know better. And I give them plenty of space to go out and be with their friends or do whatever. The funny thing is they seem "lost" when this happens. Like I stopped caring for them and then they don't go anywhere.
cook/clean etc -- well that is impossible and very UN PC in our modern world and any real man can do those things for himself better than any woman would do it for him
While that might be true for some men, sharing those duties is a sign of a healthy relationship. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 6:26:46 AM | Hi
I'm now 43 and have never been married and have no children. And starting to get worried that I to coin a phrase "Missed the boat" which makes me think that i won't say all but most women look for the younger guys and stay clear of us older ones. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 6:28:14 AM | By your own admission women have control over you as you desire physical contact with them
What you say is them controlling me actually couldn't be further from the truth. I only want ONE to be that way with. And she has to do a whole lot more for me on the inside before I'll ALLOW that to happen.
Don't mistake my willingness to be physical as a sign of weakness dude. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 8/26/2008 8:23:40 AM | | Funny, this was a topic of conversation between myself and a friend yesterday afternoon. It definitely throws a red flag up for this old lady. I guess I would need specifics from the person in question? I married my second husband who was over 30 with no children, so I guess there are some great guys out there who, as he said it, "just hadn't found their soulmate". He was an excellent person, rest his soul. Maybe there are still some hopeless romantics out there who are holding out for THE ONE? You'll never know unless you get to know the guy in question. | |
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