| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:24:12 AM | My experience is most women are leery no matter what.
If they don't like certain things about you and nothing positive about you makes it worth it, they will ignore you.
If they don't like certain things about you but you have all the other things they want for a partner, they will date you but try to change you.
If you do have all the certain things that they desire in a partner, they will look to try to find something wrong with you. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:01:02 PM | No, I'm definitely not leery of guys over 30 who have not been married. I'm hoping that there's someone out there like me who has decided to wait for someone they can see spending the rest of their life with.
I like the idea of meeting that special someone, the sparks fly, the chemistry booms & there is little baggage.... A clean slate. Maybe I'm a little selfish in that way but the idea of the constant presence of an Ex Wife...Alimony...Child Support is just not very appealing to me ( sorry to the people in that situation, not meaning to offend, it's just not for me). | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:03:58 PM | | Being over 30 and not married maybe means you had other priorities in your life, like schooling or your career. I would never think less of someone who has not been married, in fact the opposite, maybe you take marriage very seriously and would never think of jumping into it. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:22:56 PM | I think I would be more likely to be leery of a man in his thirties whom had been married numerous times !!!
But seriously, .....There is definately a subliminal pressure that people in general are suppossed to fit into a a mould of conformity.
Its called "the white picket pipe dream". Seems like more of a consumerism ploy to make people go into debt planning elaborate functions to outdo each other. And who wants to prostitute themselves for the sake of a diamond anyway ???
In my minds eye, someone who has not succumb to popular peer pressure is very attractive. This indicates not only are they self aware, they are able to live life on their own terms and actually say "NO" to a lifestyle that may have not found them.
In fact, I would be very content to fall in love with a happily unmarried 30 something year old man and live in non-matrimonial bliss contentment as partners for all time. ;)
My 2 cents. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/13/2009 10:14:51 PM | No.
The man might just not believe in the traditional sense of marriage via paper and the ring. Or most often, such as your case.... he hasn't found the right woman for him yet.
HOWEVER, I will question him a bit on his dating history and why his last relationship failed. If I see that a man in his mid to late 30's who has not had a relationship longer than a year or two....I will start to wonder whether or not he has commitment issues. An individual can be very well established in his life but at the same time, be extremely immature and non-committal in regards to relationships. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/14/2009 7:04:57 PM | I have found if a man or woman is over 30 and has never married, there is a usually a good reason for it. But I can't say that I would be leery of never-married woman past 30.
When I was 32 I married the woman I had been with for 6 years.
I can recall my folks talking at family gatherings about relatives who died before I was born, what they were like, what they did for a living, etc. I was about 9 or 10 at the time but I still vividly remember the look on their faces and the pause that came after somebody said, "You know, he/she never married." | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/14/2009 9:09:35 PM | Gawd I hope 50 is the new 30!!
I'm not even dating someone right now.
Let alone thinkin about marriage!
And I'm halfway to 40 as it it!
Crap! When did I get so old??
QUICK!!! Someone pass me a  or three!
Ok, someone change the subject. This one is on a one-way street to depression and 
Talk about messin with someone's mojo. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/15/2009 12:30:06 AM | I am also 38, but I am divorced. I accept guys for who they are, but I am becoming leery of the ones 0ver 30, never married.
See, the ones I know still never moved out of Mom's house. They have no sense of responsibility. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/15/2009 10:41:32 AM |
HOWEVER, I will question him a bit on his dating history and why his last relationship failed. If I see that a man in his mid to late 30's who has not had a relationship longer than a year or two....I will start to wonder whether or not he has commitment issues. An individual can be very well established in his life but at the same time, be extremely immature and non-committal in regards to relationships.
He almost certainly does have commitment issues, but you're very wrong to associate them with immaturity, or as a sign of some kind of mental disorder. It's far more likely that he's never really been in love with anyone AND in the position to commit both at the same time.
Most guys I know grab and commit to the first person who'll have them. Some of us don't care if we meet the love of our lives in a nursing home on our 90th birthday. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/15/2009 11:05:50 AM | I would not mind dating a man who was never married before.But I prefer divorced men who already went trough having their own kids.
I am a single mom with one kid living with me.So I just think it would be hard for a still single guy to adjust to such a big life change,having a woman and a kid around all off a sudden.
The single men over 30 in my area usually still live in their parents home,they just don´t seem independent enough to me. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/26/2009 5:16:17 AM | Well i tend to find that when I,ve spoken to guys who have never been married, no kids, never been involved in any long lasting meaningful relationships, see it as an achievement, some sort of badge of honour, that puts them over and above and sets them apart from the rest " A good catch " if you will. However the fact you cant catch a man who does not want to be....caught. Which leads me to believe that there are the type who resists commitment at all costs....even to the detriments of the own happiness.
Now of course this can never be applied to all who fall into the group of men that never marry never have kids or LTR's but its certainly true of 70% of the guys that i have spoken to in this situation. Whether this be some sort of front or indeed fear that they are unable to live up to a females expectations on a long term basis. I know for myself i can be somewhat "demanding". I know for the most part I give them a wide birth when i come across them. I know that through experience they usually don’t amount to much....not for me anyway!  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:39:33 AM | | Of course some men (like me) could be single and never married for a good reason. There's a phobia which goes by the name of "genophobia" which is a fear of sexual contact - I'm more than happy to have female friends but anything more than that is a complete "no go" so at almost 45 years old I'm still single and always will be. I don't consider it as a "badge of honour" but there are going to be some guys who do. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/27/2009 2:39:23 AM | Threads like these have been going on here for a while...
You can say I have a bias- I'm over 40 and I've never been married (said no twice). I accept that will be a red flag to some women:fine. But I live in a big city and an enviroment where that is fairly common. For me it's not such a big deal.
But I sense there are other people in different parts of the country and in smaller communities where this is a bit of a problem. They get pressure from their own family and friends, or within those places where it is seen as a handicap. As in, yes, "what's the matter with you?"
While this is easy to say from my urban oasis, I would tell those people (men and women) to embrace it. Some people are never going to get it if you don't live your life as they would- married by a certain age, children by a certain point, etc. Make it their problem, not yours. Refuse to be browbeaten by them. I imagine it's a tough go if you're stuck in rural Nebraska or the like, but it can't be worse than having people constantly undercut you for it, can it? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:52:37 AM | | I always thought I'd do it once and do it properly,I've been engaged before but just never walked down the isle,open to the idea but only with the right person,even if it takes me to being 90 before I get hitched at least it would be for the rest of my life. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/27/2009 12:29:56 PM | | Well I'm days from my 40 th b-day. I never been married but came close 2yrs ago. 8 weeks close. I never had children but had a girlfriend who did when I was in my 20s. Leaving that kid was harder than leaving her so I will not do that again. In my 30s I thought I met the" one " . At the same time started a new career . Seven yrs later we set a date to get married.Well that never happened Now I just started my own company last year. Im older a little wiser and alot more pickier. I talk to alot of singles I know and they feel the same way. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/31/2009 10:49:27 AM | I'll be 40 in less than 2 weeks, been waiting a long time to find the person I could spend my life with. My grandparents raised me to believe you should wait for who you want and who wants you (not me and someone or ones else on the side). Been in a couple long term relationships that came close but alas not as far as I thought they would. I'm far from perfect but won't settle for less than the main things in a relationship which to me are honesty, trust , faithful and understanding. Oh wait did I just describe my pets again?....lol. There also has to be some physical attraction but as we do get older it does tend to change.  *jumps off soapbox* | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 1/31/2009 1:44:50 PM | no! I embrace them! send them this way!
I'm leary of guys (in general) who seem to have committment issues , and guess what , A lot of those kinds of guys *have* been married (and divorced etc etc)
case by case basis, it's how we should all look at eachother... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 5:41:26 AM | At 34 you are still young....but when I meet a guy that is 50 years old and never married I first think , "can't committ to anything", then I think "lots of baggage" then I think "doesn't know how to compromise" then I think "unrealistic about relation ships" then I think I'm being judgemental and I'll meet/date the guy. Usually the "lots of baggage"/"issues" seems to be the predominant thing I encounter.
Sorry. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:05:16 PM |
...then I think I'm being judgemental and I'll meet/date the guy.
Whew! For a second there I didn't think there was going to be a happy ending.
Usually the "lots of baggage"/"issues" seems to be the predominant thing
Which means you two would seem to have lots in common.
So what was the problem again? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 2:54:32 PM | | In this day and age, a man who is even 40 and hasn't been married isn't a put off. Some men/women just don't find the "right " one early on in their lives. Maybe their career or what they have wanted from a woman just hasn't manifested itself yet. People get so hung up on traditional viewpoints about divorced people, people of a certain age, people with kids, etc, but if you are open and honest individual, none of those things really matter. What matters is what is inside of the other person, how you clique and whether you feel you are allowed to be the best person you are when you are with them. | |
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