| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:05:16 PM |
...then I think I'm being judgemental and I'll meet/date the guy.
Whew! For a second there I didn't think there was going to be a happy ending.
Usually the "lots of baggage"/"issues" seems to be the predominant thing
Which means you two would seem to have lots in common.
So what was the problem again? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 2:54:32 PM | | In this day and age, a man who is even 40 and hasn't been married isn't a put off. Some men/women just don't find the "right " one early on in their lives. Maybe their career or what they have wanted from a woman just hasn't manifested itself yet. People get so hung up on traditional viewpoints about divorced people, people of a certain age, people with kids, etc, but if you are open and honest individual, none of those things really matter. What matters is what is inside of the other person, how you clique and whether you feel you are allowed to be the best person you are when you are with them. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:06:19 PM | quote:
Employers still want some experience
I too, prefer someone else to break 'em in 
Seriously though, if there's any reason for me to feel leery, it will become self-evident upon meeting and getting to know them.
If I get in a pessimistic grumpy mood about the dating pool, I counter it by thinking "there are other good people who have been through a situation like mine, and other good people who have been through other circumstances that bring them to being this age and single". If I'm here, someone else must be here, too, yes? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/12/2009 1:48:51 AM | i am 38 and never been married as i havent found the right man yet that i would even think about marrying. i think it is amazing to find a single guy never been married especially one with no kids . i know i think its awesome, and i would prefer that in a man. but right now, at 38 i know its very rare and i would just be happy with someone who could make me happy.
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/12/2009 6:39:29 AM | | I am going to be 40 and never married and I am not leary of any guys that have not been married, I acutally am more interested in them if they have never been married, I guess it is because I feel that they see things the way I have been, I dont see never being married as a bad thing at all. Dont get me wrong I don't discount anyone that has been married and then divorced but since I have never been married I feel like maybe the guys that have also been in the same boat as me would understand. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:18:02 AM | It's pretty amazing. First women say they are looking while being open minded, then when they are approached there a million reasons they back off. I am not saying the male gender is perfect, but it takes two to have an actuall relationship. I am single and never been married, & no kids for many reasons. The main reason has been patience in waiting for the right person. Half the people I know jumped into relationships to fast and too deep and now look up and can't even see daylight. Friends of mine are now either divorced or living a lie because they have kids and are just unhappy. They didn't look at the relationship they were really in. Now women say over 30 never been married = be careful, no kids = be careful, living with parents = be careful, anything else they can think of = be careful. Maybe the reason some guys are single over 30 is the fact that either they have been wronged too many times or witnessed to many wrongs or overdrama in friends relationships. The truth is so many women (not all) have the Jekyl/Hyde Syndrome and that many guys are actually the ones that need to be careful and with good reason. So before you lump all of us single over 30 never been married, no kids into the "be leery of these guys" group, take a step back look around and then maybe infact check the mirror. Some of us are the genuine deal however we may have good reason for being our present status. For the most part we don't want to be single either, we have either been unlucky at love and/or just don't want to be wronged yet again. Every failed relationship makes it harder to start the next one.  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 3/18/2009 9:55:12 AM | | Hey livewirehere. I am single never been married and have no kids. Much like you I like to know a woman I am dating and her relationship history. With you not feeling right with a guy that has never been married, I won't date a woman that has been married multiple times. And for the same reasons as you. I believe that to many people take that "if it doesn't work out I'll just get devorced." Thats why I haven't gotten married. My relationships have been between 3 and 5 years. The last one ended when I asked her to marry me. After 5 years I was ready and she wasn't, and a few months later we were done. You see, I don't want to be devorced and a part time Dad. I want it all or nothing and believe in heart that it will come to me. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 3/19/2009 3:55:17 PM | .....40 and never even came close to being married, mostly my job took me all over so establishing a relationship was difficult at best because i have to pick up and move every so often. Now that i'm settled in one spot looking to "be" with someone but most women my age group are married or they want to marry for practical reasons i.e. someone to take care of them rather than for feelings of love etc. "sigh" but i'm still remaining positive that it will happen in it's time  | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 3/29/2009 3:15:54 PM | Some of us women are in the same boat but are not looking to get married or have a litter of kids either. I've never had the desire for either. Don't you know after you get married, you never want to have sex and then you die?  I'll take my chances being single. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2009 6:32:11 PM | I suppose that I would look at divorced people and ask should I be leery of them? Any couple that are divorced did not make it work. Showed poor judgment in getting married in the first place (me).
Just because a person has not been married does not make them a poor catch. I know plenty of people in their 30's that are not married. Most of them are hard working, down to earth, loving and caring people. They have just not met the right person for them. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/8/2009 7:05:14 AM | Dude! You are a guy! You can get married when you are 50! Just date younger chics. They hold their value and looks longer anyway. At least when we hit 40 we can still date all we want. For "them"? Well, not so much. But some people have to learn the hard way. Sucks to be them! lol
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/12/2009 1:10:51 PM | Desertdude-that is a question i would truly like to hear some opinions on.i am 34 and never been married and i feel normal.i just do not seem to attract the kind of women i would want to spend the rest of my life with as of yet
Man I am the same way but I am older (38). I feel women are leery of me. That I never been married. On top of that never had kids. When I meet a woman they know my life story. The first question is: What is wrong with you? (lol)Nothing. I just don't want to jump into married without knowing that it is right for the both of us. So I take my time.
I feel every women that comes into your life don't mean you have to marry them. Just to be marrying somebody because people tell us to be married by the time we are 30
So take your time and find your dream girl that you want to put that ring on
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/12/2009 10:43:48 PM | As the 4 years this thread has been running shows...there are some of us out there who are a bit stubborn. As others before me have said, I too would prefer a guy who has never been married. At our age, we all have baggage. However, a shaving bag is preferable to a steamer trunk.
On the other hand, I would love to be welcomed into a ready made family. Quite a conundrum.
When folks as me why I've never been married, my response is "I've never been asked by anyone I wanted to say yes to". So, if that makes me too picky, so be it.
To those other single folks.....keep the faith and don't settle. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 5/20/2009 5:31:14 AM | | I'm 36, and never married. I never met a girlfriend or picked up girl all my life, even when I was a teenager. That doesn't means I don't know how to find one. I just don't know if there's a special one for me, which means someone I don't have to cope with. I tried looking everywhere, saying hi etc.., but I haven't found one single person that was worth the wait all my life. I don't like women that are humorous and witty. And I don't even know if I'm ever going to get one. Nobody likes me. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 5/21/2009 8:00:51 PM | There's nothing wrong with that. It just means that you know what you want and your being responsible about it.
I can't see marring someone that you just met. It's only a piece of paper and you shouldn't have to have that to tell everyone that you love that person. Why rush things.
Weddings are pricey and divorces are even pricier.
Yes, sometimes you should think with your heart...but you also have to think with your head.
Kat | |
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