| | are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married? Page 2 of 21 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21) | | Mosly people have built in barriers ..i dont mind that a lot of women online are that way because im not wanting to be with someone who measures me up with some television sterotype..I dont mind but it is offensive.. | |
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Posted: 11/10/2005 5:59:20 PM | Will be thirty-nine this week. No kids, never married. Love it!
I prefer a woman who has never been married. Face it, if she's been divorced, she has proven to be a marriage failure. If she has kids and has never been married..ewww! | |
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Posted: 11/10/2005 11:28:30 PM | Quote ;I prefer a woman who has never been married. Face it, if she's been divorced, she has proven to be a marriage failure. If she has kids and has never been married..ewww!
Its OK to have a personal problems but no need to be so harsh on divorcee's & single mothers,
Its also unfair to generalize as each circumstance is different...being never married or had children yourself you would never understand......how would you like it if someone told you that you are 39 and never married because there is something wrong with you.
kingfisher I saw your previous posts and always thought you were a fun person...but this ??!!
loosen up the sports bra . | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 12:47:30 AM | | i posted this question because i know most people who have been married would say being single and never married you don't know what its like.well my response is this i don't have to go to prison to know that i don't want to be in prison.i raised my older sisters two young kids for 3 years while she was strung out on crystal meth and her husband was in a mental hospital suffering from bi polar disorder.those kids lived with me and i did what i thoughtwas right at the time.i was 22 years old when that took place.what about someone who lives at home with a parent or parents who need their kids help because medical bills and perscription drugs eat up a major chunk of their income.so i don't buy that bull that you need to be on your own or married with kids to know what it is like.treat people as individuals and get to know them and you might just have found exactly what you have been looking for.a good man or good woman is good because of their character and morals not if they have or have nt been married or have kids or never had have them at all.as for long term relationships with someone my opinion is this if you can't commit you need to call it quits.that is just my opinion though. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 ..........?
Posted: 11/11/2005 1:13:28 AM | Maybe, just maybe... some of us focused on our careers when younger rather than jumping into the picket fence, kids, paddy.. errrrr.. I mean station wagon... NO offense now to all those who have it, had it and lost it, want it, dont want it, didnt do it. tried to do it, whatever.. I tried to cover all of you... BUT
IMHO some people, namely me, chose to get other things in order for ME, before marriage and a family.. was it right? was it wrong? who knows. It is what it is. I dont regret it. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 1:50:48 AM | hey cactuswop,,ive been fishing this pond for awhile,and can sey that its a tough pond!! go too the bar youll have more luck,at least there your eyes will meet and you know the rest,,they wont bee checking your profile for your age and spelling mistakes,or that pic. that just dont catch you looking your best, or showing your finer points,, im sure if you were too ever meet a woman in a bar or pool hall... i bet it wouldnt come down too age,it would bee pure attraction,and would bee flexable too each others intrests/age...............remember this is a free site and every horny weirdo with a computer across the usa/canada has probably wrote them also, good/bad/sick/weirdo notes,, so they are ready too read and chuck unless you look like the sears clothing model!! good luck friend ..........s | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 ..........?
Posted: 11/11/2005 2:41:06 AM | | hey, your right about the picture and that goes for most of the pictures on the profiles of others as well.spelling mistakes it is this damn wireless keyboard.i understand women need to be cautious and all that but i'm fairly new to this internet dating and to online chatting which does not really appeal to me because it seems to waste alot of time and i like meeting people in person myself as soon as possible.bars and clubs kind of suck when you get to be 34 35 + years old.who knows but i don't want to be judged just because i have remained single with no kids.i do not judge women with kids who are divorced.even hough i should be more leery of getting into a situation like that when you factor in the ex husband and and hoping the kids will accept for who you are. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 3:04:49 AM | Guess I did sound pretty harsh in my last post. Truth is, I'm dating a divorced woman with a child, right now. All I hear about is her ex, in both good and bad ways. And, of course, her son will ALWAYS COME FIRST. Kinda makes me feel a little jealous and like I'm wasting my time.
People are people, no matter what their past. Best thing we can do is keep an open mind and give everybody a fair chance. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 3:44:05 AM | @ Kingfisher.... so am I...her boy is 6...word of advice ...dont try to be his father..
instead be his friend...trust me ....easier on everyone.
Now he even recognizes my voice over the phone..
Also tell her politely that you would rather not hear too much about her-ex. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 3:58:35 AM | I just think that everyone has their own reasons for not ever marrying or having children...you shouldn't be judged on that alone. I don't judge people on what they did in their past. I never married or had children, but it was all for my own reasons. It is now that counts and who they are now...as long as they didn't molest children or kill/abuse people...
Best of luck to all... | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 11/11/2005 6:56:18 AM | My ideal man would be in his fourties, never been married and no kids. My children are young men now. I do not want to be involved in the car pool stuff or hockey or any sports thing again. Been there done that. I definately do not want the headache of the ex calling to get the children or see if you can take the children. I just want a peaceful life with a man who will want me to be a part of him....just us....no one else.
My sister was so fortunate to find that. She raised her children, eventually divorced someone who should never had been in her life in the first place, reconnected with her high school sweetheart who had never married and had no children. She has an idylic life with him now....I know it can happen.
So I would not be leery of a man over 30...preferrably over 40 who has never been married. I would welcome him! | |
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Posted: 11/11/2005 3:33:51 PM | C-King-Now I really see why everyone thinks you're a great guy. Thanx man! Her fourteen year old son and I have been becoming friends. I've had two stepfathers and do feel I could be a pretty good stepdad myself. However, there's simply a lot of crap that I often feel I shouldn't have to put up with..I'm glad you've got a special someone. Best wishes to you.
OT-When you're lucky enough to meet someone who's very special to you, no matter what their past, you should be thankful and do what you can to make it last..I've got a lot of thinking to do. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 6:06:33 AM | Well my kids are older and one of them is on thier own..my thought in general is a relationshp should be a haven of securityand rest and fun for all people involved.. and people who do have kids...and use the excuse my kids come first are unbalanced in thier priorities....they need to rethink what they are saying.......I don't care if I get bashed for this!!!
Bottom line is so many marriages fail because the "kids" come first....many men stray when women do that in a marriage..people forget the kids are around for such a short timeframe..and the spouse was there before kids were..
parents who have kids need to organize thier lifes if they wanna date...i'd never put up with my kids come first..uggggg 
What your saying is your not important enough to me | |
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Posted: 11/12/2005 7:35:45 AM | I found, sweetiie, that the kids have to come first when they're small, and I had to be the one to make sure of that, because generally, the guy doesn't... It's the least of his priorities... It's unfortunate, but it does happen. Mine are almost grown too. My ex was a good dad, but I was stuck with all of the "mundane, daily stuff", if you know what I mean.. It can suck the "life's blood" right out of you when you're also going to school, working full time, cooking, cleaning, you name it....
And, the only thing that scares me off about someone who is, say, 45, and has never been married, is why? I have to wonder about committment issues>? I do ask though, and I"m always willing to listen. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 11/12/2005 8:02:11 AM | no they don't... as long as you love them, feed them, care for them,teach them, cherish them, meet thier emotional and physical needs,be there for them. etc like you would a spouse no such thing as kids come first...balance honey is whats life is about...lotsa people don't get it...
you could put the not giving sex to your spouse either because your tooo tired,, too busy or geez the kids need me...anyways you get my drift....if you don't then reread my message a few times..
kids are around for a bit in life then they live own lives...
and yes i do agree about men and commitmnent issues..I'm guilty of it too...ciao bella | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 11/12/2005 9:07:10 AM | To tell you the truth, I'm very leery of any man, more so 40 and over, who's never been in a long term commitment more than two years in length, or never been married. I think of those as Confirmed Bachelors who are unlikely to commit to anyone for the long haul. I'd rather find someone who has loved, lost, and learned, than someone who's never loved at all.
A guy at 30 could have been working on his carreer and saving for a house and the children he still wants to have one day. I know lost of 30ish men who want to have everything in place before they marry and I commend them for being responsible. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 11/12/2005 9:56:46 AM | | I'm 30, never been married, and have no children, and I often wonder the same thing about what women think when they look at a guy like me. I've chosen to pursue a career and get settled down in life before jumping into a serious relationship. I've been in long term relationships before, and yes I've considered popping the "big question" with at least one lady, but why didn't I?, because I didn't think I was in the right place in life to be in that kind of situation, in fact I've lost relationships because of the fact that women in their mid to late twenties seem to really be looking for and pushing for marriage and children before 30. My bottom line is I'm not going to make a long term commitment before I feel that I'm ready to devote that kind of time and emotional energy to a woman and possibly children. Now that I'm at that point in my life I don't have any regrets for not doing it sooner, all I have to do is find a lady with similar principals.......... | |
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