daisie
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/27/2006 12:23:08 PM | Thanks moundpuppy! Like I said our previous chat was a very veryv ery long time ago. At least it seems that way, though I do admit I live in a "time warp". Feels to me like it was about 6-8 months ago...or more... Anyway, I don't remember the details, I only remember thinking there was a bit of an over reaction and lack of acceptance of the opinions that were asked for in the thread. I had forgotten it all until I saw your pic here and you wrote to me. Anyway...no big deal. Already forgotten (again).
Yes lots of people need help in the world with lots of things. We should ALL contribute to society by helping out in some way to make it a beter place and make others happier. I make my contributions in other ways, with other people. I couldn't bear to "help" a man to catch up with me in that respect so we could have a relationship. I'm glad that lady was there for you and I know there are lots of women who do like to help men as some men like to rescue women. I have done some modified rescues with a few men on this site who are pretty messed up...I remember one in particular. I TOLD him up front I don't want to date anyone, I was just interested in chat pals. So we chatted a few times then the freak started getting all WEIRD on me. He actually sat online SIX HOURS STRAIGHT one day waiting for me to get online so we could talk!!!!!! (my LOONEY -ALERT flag went up then). And, he got hurt feelings when I only wanted to chat a few minutes that day after he waited all that time. Jeeze lordy god!! A COUPLE of CHATS and he thinks I'm OBLIGATED to him??????? OH my god....He was very shy and late 20s and had never really dated. SOooooo he misinterpreted my kindness and aparently thought I wanted to marry him and have his babies or some such crazy shit?!
I'm not big into "rescuing" men...All that's just not for me...some things I can work with, some things I cannot work with. Hope this poor crazy screw ball finds a woman to pick him up and dust him off...he might. Lots of women want to help out. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 2/27/2006 1:50:04 PM | Some people are that way I guess. If they would just work on what it is that has them in a bind then they can whip it. Even tho I was extremely shy as a youngun I never went to that extreme. I guess I have always been a loner more so an have always never minded my own company so to speak. guess it is the way a person is brought up or who knows. Like I mentioned before the lady helped me to a point and I never realized it and to be very honest she didn't either until the day I went to her and thanked her for her help. we were and are still friends nothing more. just underlaying conditions and the knowledge of what i wanted and knew I had to do to over come that part. Long story and a lot of time missed in the process. Some people never are able to pick themselves up much less dust themselves off. seems some never learn how. I can understand why you would be leery of that kind of guy I would be if it were a woman in the same position.
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/5/2006 11:18:09 AM | I wouldn't say 30.., more like 36 and up.., I mean if they haven't wanted to settle down yet..,
and if no one wants to marry them there is usually a reason, LOL.
However, it could be different if they were at least in a long-term relationship for 3 yrs or more.., but if not, well something wrong, don't ya think?? | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/5/2006 11:30:17 AM |
I wouldn't say 30.., more like 36 and up.., I mean if they haven't wanted to settle down yet..,
and if no one wants to marry them there is usually a reason, LOL.
However, it could be different if they were at least in a long-term relationship for 3 yrs or more.., but if not, well something wrong, don't ya think??
Mmmmm ok so there's something wrong with me.....at least I will admit it.
Almost 42 now and longest relationship (if you can call it that) was 6 months
at the tender age of 12. Actually that was the ONLY relationship too. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/5/2006 12:32:43 PM | Hi I am A single father and have never been married. I am 38 and em steel looking for Ms.Right I was engaged twice but it just did not work out I em steel looking and know that one day I well meet Ms.right. So I hope to yous women out there see all most all use guys want is to be happy with the love of are lives and be married at leest that is what I whant. I wish good luck to all in are indevers and hope we all find happyness. After all life is short and we all deserve to be happy.
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/5/2006 6:34:59 PM | Seriously, who cares? Just live your life and that person will come when he or she comes. For someone to be concerned about this is seriously shallow (as in the person who is concerned about the person who is over 30 and not married), we all live and learn at our own paces. Whoever says that we need to be this or that at a certain age is very narrow minded and lacks vision and reads way to many tabloid magazines and conforms to social "norms". We all go through different things at different times in our lives. Some people have health reasons, some people just like being single, some people are patient, some peoples fiances have died for crying out loud. There are way to many variables way to many situations that could be the reason.
Morale of the rant, WHO CARES.
I see this post has gone on for quiet a while, thought i would add to it for no better reason than I am bored at this second.
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 2:41:44 AM | | Well here it is on the opposite side. I am 26 but my up bringing has made me more mature for my age. I would rather marry a man over 30 as he would fit more into my personality than someone under 30. I have never dated a man under 30. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:27:21 AM | I don't see any problem with being over 30 and never married and I think maybe it's a generational thing. Alot of people I know/grew up with (and I'm early 40's) got their life together before getting married and having kids. College, university etc. Hooked good jobs and then continued on with the marriage and kids part of life. Getting married in their early 40's so cactuswop don't sweat it. No big deal and if people disregard you because of something like that, they're not worth having. They need to unpucker the old sphinkter 
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 6:56:45 AM | sweetiie wrote:
"Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I don't really like to date guys who never been married or in a long term relationship..
I have been married before so i feel I know what a relationship entails....the hard work commitments etc...I feel guys who are in 30's and have never settled down are players.. and not worth my time....I have yet to be proven wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"
This has always struck me as curious, that people who have been divorced, and think they know everything, love to knock the never married. Why should we believe that the achievement of a failed marriage confers wisdom, when factual evidence shows divorced people are more likely than never marrieds, of any age, to again become divorced.
This seems like another case of the pot calling the kettle black.
Better, I think, to defer judgment until knowing an individual, than to prejudge, based on simple prejudice. Some divorced people and some never married people, would make poor relationship or marriage partners. Character and personality are likely the reasons for this, and not whether the individual has been married before. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:05:06 AM | | Yes I believe a lot of woman are leery of that, I know that I was, but I read on here what one woman wrote that she'd rather be alone then end up with the wrong person, I was always the opposite, I married a couple times so that I wouldn't be alone and well now, I wish I would have waited, so I don't think it's a bad thing to be sure about the one you are choosing for the rest of your life! | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:31:25 AM | ^^^
If people just did what many of us find very logical "be sure about the one you are choosing for the rest of your life!", there'd be tons less divorce.
For proof that many many people don't do that... I refer you all to the "if you're married, did you know" thread where most posters there say they KNEW it was a bad idea but got hitched anyway. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 8:48:12 AM | If a woman is leary of me for not being married by 30, then she can go find herself a broken down divorcee with enough baggage to fill a 747 if she so chooses.
However, when I hit 30 (in 2 yrs), I will be single, successful, and most importantly, no illegitimate kids. Having no kids in my 30's instantly puts my stocks into the red for a lot of women seeking a clean slate for marriage. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 10:17:45 AM | | I agree 100%^^^^^^^^^^^But the key word is baggage/drama....You see it is a requirment for you to have in most womens eye...If you do not have it according to them your boring....It is called excitement....That is the main reason i have never been married...I go to work,pay bills.no drugs...take care of my stuff...Most women could careless about that...And again there is no shortage of women for jerks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 10:21:26 AM | | I agree MR.MAGICKMAN 100%....But you know what is so ironic from her uninformed statement...The divorce rate on the 2nd marriage is even higher than the first...Now that itself makes a statement...And that is based on facts. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 11:47:47 PM | This must definately be some kind of Canadian or American thing..In Europe and South America you should be leary at men who have not been married at 50
No really..30 or even 35 is young for them as the men also will not settle for less. If you hear a man got married at 29...everyone goes oooooooooooohhhhhhh is she pregnant..lol I think because they wait, that is why the divorce rate is low.. | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/7/2006 3:22:11 PM | People I know are getting married (this year) as a matter of compromise. I guess they look at the situation as a matter of statistics. It is better to settle with someone that gives them 60-70% happiness than to stay the course and find the one that they were truly meant to be with. Problem is, finding the one true love may not come until 35, 40, or even 50ish. Why save up for a Corvette when a Cobalt gets the same basic functions done?
We are so into the "instant now" mentality that savouring the journey to true happiness is put to the wayside.
I've waited 28 years and have not even had one single relationship. No need to let instant gratification ruin what may be the greatest voyage ever travelled. | |
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RRouge
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Joined: 2/1/2006
Msg: 122 | |
| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/7/2006 5:36:26 PM | I think a fair amount are.. I know I have had a few friends ask me why some of the men I have dated have never been married..Then follows the statemnet" What is wrong with them?".
Frankly I take ofence to this for It cuts both ways.. I am over 30 and never been married. Does that now mean that there must be something wrong with me?..lol..
Many people just prefer to settle down later in life if at all.. There is nothing wrong with it after all it is personal choice... In fact I have asked a few friends what in the world drived them to marry so young. I mean the older you get the more comfortable you are with whom you are becoming or have become as a person. At least for me that holds true.
I have taken the time I needed to reach a point in my life that meeting someone with the future intent of a long term relationship/marrige is not as scary as it once was..lol..
I no longer tremble with horror at the fact that I might be wanted and needed..Of course all in a constructive way..
Personaly I feel more comfortable with someone who has never married then someone who has been that rout a few times already.. For man who has not gone down that rout is in search of something real and ever lasting..
What the hell is wrong with that..LOL
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/12/2006 8:35:31 PM | | Nope- women who have their proverbial shit togehter aren't intimidated by what has or has not happened in the past- in fact, I prefer a man who has not been married (like me) - whether he is waiting for the right girl, or due to bad timing- all the better for me, I say- Woo-hoo! | |
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| are women leery of guys over 30 who have never been married?
Posted: 4/12/2006 8:36:07 PM | | Nope- women who have their proverbial shit togehter aren't intimidated by what has or has not happened in the past- in fact, I prefer a man who has not been married (like me) - whether he is waiting for the right girl, or due to bad timing- all the better for me, I say- Woo-hoo! | |
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