| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/30/2006 6:58:29 PM | | you say that time and time again you state in posts "not looking for younger men" but earlier say you have dated mostly younger in the last three years and that is what you prefer .. and in terms of relationships, superficial has nothing to do with your tits hanging out it has more to do with a lack of emotional attachment.. you may have "safe boundaries" or it may be HUGE walls .. there is a fine line.. and no, men our age will generally take a pass on scaling the heights of those walls as our past experience has shown us that it usually just isn't worth it .. of course you describe men our age as not having enough energy and not willing to take care of our looks and wanting to "be taken care of"... you say you're not willing to get your heart broken... here's a few words also whispered in your ear.. until you meet someone of substance that you are willing to take just that gamble on, you may be on the singles sites debating the merits of your superficial relationships for a while... relationships ARE a gamnle with your heart and like the "old" saying... nothing ventured, nothing gained | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/30/2006 7:48:09 PM | I wouldnt describe any of my relationships as superficial.....just an experience and mostly with men who have taught me a thing or two and Im not talking sex. Im still puzzled as to why you would suggest that my relationships were superficial just because I have said younger men have spoiled me. I have an unique sense of what I feel I would describe as a "hottie" and believe me it isnt some Brad Pitt face LMAO.
It wont be the problem of dating younger men that will keep me single......what keeps me single is that I WANT TO BE SINGLE.......Taking that GAMBLE with my heart just freaks me out!!!
Besides not all women my age have a need to be nesting...did it....dont want to do it again....and am happy with my own accomplishments....re: being a great mother and having a wonderful career that I am proud of..........my problem is that I just like sex way to much and would like a partner that I can trust to have a relationship with.... | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/30/2006 8:11:40 PM | | i think you have just pointed out exactly why i call those relationships superficial.. YOU WANT TO BE SINGLE.. you want a relationship for sex.. not a thing to do with emotional comittment or anything else that has some depth to it.. if all you offer a relationship is sex and that's all you want one for .. "fill your pockets".. probably the younger ones are the ones who are happier with just that... it is really sad that being emotionally comitted to another or "risking a broken heart" freaks you out so much... we all have a story .. why we are the way we are and i'm sure you're no different | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/30/2006 8:53:43 PM | | I have taken my comments to a personal email to you....please dont keep saying my relationships are superficial just cause I adore sex and its important to me....and just because I want to be single...I was with a few men younger then myself that actually wanted more then just that and met someone my age who ****s around with every women he can get his hands on....so please refrain from saying the younger ones are the ones happier with just that, cause in my experience it hasnt been true. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/30/2006 9:36:46 PM | | and i have responded in an e-mail.. and i will lay off the superficial stuff when you don't label men your/our age as "low energy, lacking of attention to appearances and just wanting to be taken care of" | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/30/2006 11:48:12 PM | I've not read all the posts but I have an opinion on the subject.
As a man in my 40's I am cautious about dating a woman my age who prefers to use young men. I personally lack trust in a woman who spends years physically enjoying younger men but settle with older. I'm not judging your behaviour, I'm simply not going to trust your reasoning and morality about relationships.... you seem to focus on the "me" factor. I consider that to be rather selfish and destructive. Relationships are based on "us".
Enjoy younger guys but don't get mad when men your age won't take you serious. In my opinion, you are not being very respectful to the younger men, the men your age and yourself. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/31/2006 1:44:44 AM | .
Well, not wanting to sound self-centered and egoistical, what I’m waiting for is a woman who is loving. The OP does not fill the bill in any way possible.
For instance, I would never present my sex life on a public forum, but the OP does. Interesting, that. My training begs the question of why she would want to do that. Pickem mentions that in passing.
Nope, I think there is a NEED here being realized. Come on people, we’re looking at a gal who says she has been screwed by many younger guys. Why is that?
First thought is so what? Second thought is “go away caused no one really cares.”
Call me anything you wish, OP, I don’t care. Yes, some women do the middle aged fling as well as men do. No problem. Most of us, however, would keep our sexual exploits to ourselves.
Basically, my only reason for writing here is that I think that I find a great deal of fantasy involved in the OP’s posts.
Two things tell me that. First, what would happen if I announced that I just want younger women for sex, and no involvement? Wouldn’t that make me unwelcome here with most women? What do you think that pronouncement does to most men of our age?
Oh, but the OP does not want a young man for a real relationship, just one for sex, so she says. Cool! Have fun, guys. Really, I’m open minded enough that I find little wrong with that. But, I would not accept someone acting like that into my life.
And, if I professed to do the same thing, I suspect that every woman I know in my life would have some mention that would be less than nice. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:20:53 AM | Theirs nothing wrong with being spoiled and theres nothing wrong going out with younger guys. If men ur age turns you off then so be it. Live ur life the way u want to and if the younger guys make you feel alive and make you fill of energy thats all that matters.
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 3/31/2006 4:37:07 AM | To me this thread is a 'stream of consciousness' from a woman discovering the dating scene and what she wants out of it is alot different than what she originally assumed. It's a process of discovery and sometimes there's mistakes (like that confession that ladybug made about ****ing up with that guy recently)
I find it curious how pickem approaches this thread. ...actually, i'm not liking the direction pickem is going here at all. He's twisting ladybug's words. Look at post #227's structure and the reference to "broken heart" is tied directly to the previous paragraph's 'marriage' concept; Look at post #228 and his whole counterpoint hinges on the absence of 'marriage' concept. He's saying almost exactly what dbndon said back on post #8. Actually, almost all of pickem's posts can be replied to by hyperlinking to posts ladybug has written here in this thread. (for example, his post #230 can be referenced to #64; his post #232 can be referenced to #92)
There's nothing 'superficial' (noone in this entire 10 pages of thread has mentioned this except Pickem) in LadyBug's postings. I think all that it has accomplished is to bring dbndon back into the thread to say nasty stuff like, "Basically, my only reason for writing here is that I think that I find a great deal of fantasy involved in the OP’s posts."
guys, chill on the beating the dead horse act. It's getting old, no offense. Back off the "...i will lay off the superficial stuff when you don't..." because all i see from that is immature flaming/trolling simply to see a thread get deleted. That's how children act when they know they can't win a 'debate' with an adult. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 6:33:38 AM | Yes I must confess all the men in my life were just plain old fantasy lol......especially the one who gave me 2 children.....all those years felt so real though...
The comment I made on the older men in my life and how I perceive them is my own experience, so I will back off and not generalize, although I think I have said this so many times already.
If and when I do meet someone who presents differently then I may feel different as well.
Talking about my sex life in a forum.....hmmm..I dont have time right now but Im sure if I looked hard enough I could pull out something this man (your to old for me Gramps, but I do have a younger looking Mother who just turned 64, oh, but I forgot she prefers younger men as well, sorry)who keeps wanting my attention on this thread has said....re his own sex life LMAO. Besides saying I have had great or terrible sex in my life isnt a big deal....now is there a thread where I can talk about the positions, acts etc etc that I favor I would love to post there.....oh maybe I already have with the thousands of other people on this site. No maybe I need to pose pictures of myself with my TITS HANGING OUT or in a PROVOCATIVE FASHION....now that would be attention getting...I think far more then writing about my experience being spoiled by younger men in a forum...
hmmm anyone got a camera....its easier I think then debating and commenting...since THAT MAN keeps saying I want so much attention LMAO
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/5/2006 5:10:17 PM | "maybe" she liked what she found in her mailbox a virtual plethora of young men responding to her becase of this thread...
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:38:48 PM | Thank god! I was wondering when this ego-centric thread would finally die. Kept coming back like a car crash you were unable to avert your eyes from.
Gave the term "spoiled" a whole new meaning, similar to rotting vegetables... LOL | |
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Posted: 4/5/2006 8:39:50 PM | no muffy she's still here.. i just looked and i'm on her fav list again..lol.. actually sent a few decent e-mails back and forth.. you didn't like the direction my responses were going .. too bad... they wouldn't have struck a nerve if there wasn't a little truth that struck home,imo,and if i was asked i would say that you seem to have come on and tried to play the knight in shining armor trick, but the truth is that she is quite capable of debating all by herself.. the real issue we had was whether or not i was correct in using the word superficial and your too old for her anyway | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:09:23 AM | | I know how you feel Im 41 and am dating a 34 year old I broke up with him for it was turning very serious.I loved him but would think how will our future go me getting older.I look 34 currently.These were do to insecurities I had .We are back together I almost lost the love of my life do to my insecurities. I recommend you seeking professional assistance I did I have more confidence and not worry about the future plus I go to meditation sessions to relax destress and become more intune with myself. Enjoy your maturer years dont ever feel that if you start looking your age they wont like you its more you have to like you . | |
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Posted: 4/6/2006 4:47:16 PM | for the love of pete, jeeesh people, how do you "look" 34, or "younger" or any of that load of crap? can't you just admit you look your age, or hell, even "good" for your age and, don't we ALL look at least our ages?! why all the emphasis on vanity?
it's great to be self confident and look good, but some people place far too much emphasis on kidding themselves, all the while it is clear to others that's exactly what they're doing;
kidding themselves and self promoting.
Enjoy your maturer years heheh! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 8:09:11 AM | lol Yes you most definitely are "kidding yourself"
Now isnt it a little much to worry about someone who actually is confident about herself and doesnt have to self promote, by going to other threads and trying to trash the OP
I dont have pictures of myself in any sort of provocative way, nor do I live on an online dating site(meaning I hardly spend more then an hour a day on here, if not less).
One has to wonder about the self confidence and the lack of social self esteem, when you read others, who deliberately go into forums to say negative comments about them. Thats a clear indication of having that green eyes monster rule your life. Why not try to look within yourself and think "why does she bother me so much....is it cause she never lied about her age and I have lied about my age and look much older and everyone is the wiser, or am I a little over weight and need to lash out at someone instead of coming up with a plan to reduce my anxiety and get healthy. Dont blame other women for how you may feel inside yourself.....look for the positive "SOftEDGE". Why would it bother you so much that the women said she looks 34, she probably does....and I say good for her.
Yes Younger men have spoiled me and Im having a hell of a time enjoying all aspects of a great personal life and I do want to yell from the highest roof top "I AM SO HAPPY TO BE ME and it doesnt take any man to make me that way....nor does it take a forum that is for fun and to enjoy! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 8:17:23 AM | Me thinks you protest too much!
Geez I lie about my age and STILL look good for my age oh ya and sometimes I show a little boob got 'em flop 'em! | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 8:40:13 AM | Me thinks you worry to much about what I have to say
and I agree "FLOP" hahahahahahahahahahahaha:roll
and you do agree dont you that thats a bit superficial and ummmm more attention seeking then simply chatting in a forum re: the fun Im having in my life.... | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/7/2006 9:06:01 AM | I don't put down other women ....but I can however make fun of myself
Is it a fun game to put-down others ?... certainly is aggressive. Does it build your ego ?
Are you reaffirming your opinion that other people are "not as YOUNG looking as yourself"?
....and expressing some of your anger? Demeaning others.........I know your blemish. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 11:45:12 AM | I certainly know that your not meaning me are you? lol I never have put any woman down, but the underlying comments regarding me from others lol are there for all to see....
lol not at all I simply said that no one should worry about other women who have confidenc and think they look 34 ( not that that I said that in this thread but other woman have) I say good for them...
Lol at reaffrirming...please reread all that I have said on this forum..
I think its cool that a woman such as yourself thinks you look younger and lie about your age and likes to show aspects of yourself that you feel look good....I SAY GOOD FOR YOU with sincerity...
I think you think and worry to much of what I say about me and my life and should honestly not take things to seriously....maybe look over some of the comments you have made on this thread and then analyze what you are reaffirming and KNOW YOUR OWN BLEMISHES lmao
Take care and keep enjoying your life on this site...it makes you happy and thats a good and positive thing.
BE HAPPY AND STAY SWEET | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 12:17:20 PM | message 244 sure seemed as though you were putting someone down...
And I will stay happy and sweet thank you. | |
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Posted: 4/7/2006 2:00:08 PM | That wasnt putting anyone down that was just validating the comments that were said in message 238, 237, 240 and 243....nothing more. hmmm since your so concerned re: how mean I may look to you, how come no comments on those statements that these other women made and since you sent me a very nasty email, ummmm, what was that all about?
Please feel free to make of this last comment as you will.......I would never pay attention to such nonsense in my life....meaning if I saw you sitting in a bus, I wouldnt even dream of chatting with you (I probably would never be on any bus you would ride anyways, I dont take a bus I drive a Lexus, but just for a point). So why take anything personal that I would say as being mean in a forum.
and yes indigo Rose many many younger men have spoiled me and I have never had to lie about my age... is this whay has all you women turned catty for some reason...whoa!!!!
anyways like I said before stay sweet and maybe enjoy the outdoors sometime, fresh air is good for everyone!!!!
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/7/2006 2:14:39 PM | | I agree with you okie...if a younger man is to your liking then go for it...I happen to agree with you...a younger man in my life pretty much spoiled me for anyman my age or older...I guess that is why i am still without a SO | |
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