arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 276 | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:23:25 AM | Bingo Arri it's about control!!! Your such a smart man not bad looking for an "old" guy either | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 279 | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 11:49:51 AM | | Funny stuff, all of these generalizations. "They" are better in bed or "they" are old and bitter. The truth is that people gravitate to the best situation they can find, according to their own relationship goals. Is it a little frustrating that at 51 many of the women younger, but within about 5 years of my age, will only date younger men? Sure, when their profile is otherwise attractive. But there are also lots of available women in that age range, so I'm not complaining! | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 1:11:49 PM | really??? noooo once i hit 30 i cant do the youngin's thing anymore.. i like guys who are inthe same place as me or better. I want to be around people I can learn things from. I have no intrest in dating a student again...or someone struggling to start a career or worse...find themslef....yuck. I guess theycould be fun in the sack or to go dancing with,..but to seriously date? noooooo....plus i like guys who have lines...a bit of grey...history.
sorry for my generalizations  | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 2:30:22 PM | | I can relate to what you are saying, but I do date pretty much within a 15 year span. I'll usually only date a few years older, because I just haven't had great luck with older men, or men my own age, and younger men do seem to have always been much more pursuant. Like you I can not have any more kids. My youngest is a teenager. I also have some pretty strong spiritual convictions, and that often means that only those who can accept that fact will still be around for the duration. I have to also say that I have known several such couples who have married, happily, and it was truly until death til they parted. I'd have never known id someone hadn't told me that there was any difference, because they seemed to have so much of a warm, and loving relationship, and he was warm and devoted to the end, then remarried after a couple years, and then they were together til he died about 10 years later....In truth, I do not see why it should be different that when the guy is 10 years older though. In our society it has always been more acceptable for the man to date younger, but when a woman dates younger then she is twisted, and plans it to be just a quick fling? I couldn't see leaving a really great relationship just because of an age difference. It is really more about other peoples perceptions. In my case the thought there must be money around somewhere, since the guy looked so much younger than he was, and my hair is white/gray...There issues are not my problem, but people will often try to make it theirs...And younger women will be very aggressive to the poor guy who is obviously gone stupid over the older woman so he can have something that he was obviously desperate to have,or he wouldn't have been going after someone so much older than he is...another mom perhaps...My oldest -son-is 25...my youngest is 17. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/10/2006 10:59:47 PM | I relate to what OP is saying about being spoiled by some of the qualities that are more common in younger men. I am attracted to younger men and and they are attracted to me, but it isn't just physical, it is also the curiosity and energy and excitement to try new things. I haven't outgrown that like many men my age, and people tell me I have a youthful spirit.
But unlike OP, I haven't just written off guys because of age; it's more about where we are and where we are going in our lives. Usually I don't have as much in common with guys in their twenties, but have met a few really great guys that were the exception. At the same time, often the only thing I have in common with 40-something guys is the past; we remember the 80's the same way. I'm not minimizing life experience, but wisdom, worldliness, maturity, and acceptance haven't seemed to correlate to age the way I had hoped.
My mom married a man 11 years her junior after she was finished having kids, and they have been married and in love for over 20 years. She does complain that she looks older than him now, but it just makes her long for a face lift, not regret having married him.
I would not be the least bit surprised to follow in my mom's footsteps and marry much younger. As a matter of fact, I will probably still outlive him if my family trend of growing very old continues. Anyway, I've been a late bloomer in all aspects of my life, so I'm open to many possibilities. Young or old, doesn't matter if you can keep up with me, you're in there.     | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/22/2006 7:43:03 PM |
I honestly believe that a lot of these replies belong in the "lying to ourselves" thread.
Care - or dare - to elaborate? | |
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Posted: 4/22/2006 10:18:37 PM | | Okay, into the hornets nest with me! I think there is a lot more ego than is being admitted. It's natural to feel flattered, and just as natural to justify our actions. And the longer the post, the more it sounds like some are trying to convince themselves. Look at the longest posts and tell me you don't see a pattern. On the other hand, I'm not saying there is anything wrong with dating younger - just be honest about the motivation. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2006 11:27:11 AM | Is this thread still hanging on????????
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 289 | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 4/23/2006 5:59:59 PM | LOL and Arri and you keep coming back I wonder why???? hahahahahahahaha
Funny I dont recall saying that I had given up on men my age....but quite honestly OMFG...is all I can say about younger men..... they havent proved me wrong YET!!!!!!!!
Heres to you Arri lmao...I dont know what they call you guys?.... OH RIGHT SUGAR DADDIES lol! | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 291 | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 5/11/2006 10:09:26 AM | | I agree with you azscubaguy, see post 72....lol. If someones makeing Indigo rose upset, I KNOW there has to be something wrong! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2006 6:16:37 PM | Well Cooldude.....might it be the TRUTH that is so upsetting.....read and then think about it.
My topic was simply called "younger men have spoiled me!" and you people just couldnt or didnt want to believe it LMAO
I was out with my best friend today who is male and we once shared our lives together (hes 49), and talked about the age thing. We both agreed that its what causes two people to connect and find that special spark, that is most important, not age. I simply stated that I have gone out with mostly men who are younger then me lately and have felt spoiled by them and really liked the spoiling, nothing more.
Hope your enjoying life Cooldude...I thought this thread died but you brought it back to life and I wonder why?????  | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 4:04:37 PM | NOPE it has nothing to do about trying to be in control..."Arri or Indigo Rose" LOL you're so wrong!!!! (You can only control yourself)
To each's own...but I STILL prefer dating a younger men ! Not a teenager or in their 20's but mid 30's mid 40's. 
They're outgoing,love to dance,travel,dress nice, and adore us older women! Just as older men enjoy dating younger ladies.
Times have reversed now women are doing what men have for a very long time.It's all about connection and nope not just about sex! My last relationship was almost 4 years long. He was AMAZING to go out with dancing! He always had me laughing and he spoiled me rotten with massages and he would run my bath when I came in from work. We BOTH spoiled each other!!! It's a two way street (Ya get what ya give) ;-)
I MISS my younger man!
So nope this thread isn't dead...Thanks OP
PS I guess I just haven't ran across an "in shape handsome older man that could dance and spoil me as much".... (That I've been attracted to)
YUP 2nd post I'm adding to this topic  | |
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arri
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Joined: 10/5/2005
Msg: 295 | |
| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 4:31:07 PM | I don't look at drivers licenses to see how old she is ... I let sparky point the way for me 
And I am assuming that most men are the same way.
So, if you can attract younger men that want more than the older woman experience, all the more to you ...
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 5:44:23 PM |  Arri ! Nor do I look at his lincense to see how old he is... It's pretty easy to tell...
Happy to you Arri ! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 5:57:52 PM | | ^^^^^^^Loved your posts. And it is soooo not about control. I too, am seriously spoiled, isn't it great???? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 6:09:39 PM | I'm a 59 yr. old women who is receiving emails from men in their 20's and 30's I'm very reluctant to respond. I just don't understand why they would even consider dating me.
Should I consider responding to them?........Help! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 6:18:56 PM | I have to agree with the "why go back" comment! I too have been dating mostly guys younger than myself for the past 3 years...and they've ranged from being 11 years - 2 years younger...the ones I've dated that were my age or older than me truely turned out to be a**holes! More concerned with themselves, their toys, their friends, their tv....the younger ones just seem to have more in common with me, the camping, biking, playing with my child, camping etc...
I can't imagine really ever wanting to go back to someone my own "age" because I don't feel on the inside the same age as I am through birthdays!!!
Woman I say find a young man who has a close mentality to yours...perhaps one not interested in having children of his own - trust me they ARE out there!!!! ENJOY yourself...enjoy him...enjoy being together! There's NOTHING wrong with it.
The man of my dreams I met here happend to be almost 8 years younger than I am...and I wouldnt change it for the world! | |
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