| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 4:32:46 PM | usually after the novelty wears off... a younger guy will start looking for someone approx. his own age. for marriage , kids , etc. believe me we see the aging process taking place on your bodies and know whats coming...yuk.
of course sooner or later... we are all going to look old. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 6:01:55 PM | | ^^^^ Sampson35 Tell me...do you judge the people you save so harshly. Lighten up..... it's about enjoying life and being with people who are attracted to you and you to them.....and from what I've seen it's usually SHE who decides that novelty has worn off. The "yuk" my friend is in your self centered attitude. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 6:32:48 PM | thanks, i still am getting used to dating younger men. they are definitely better in bed, but i like mental stimulation too! older men know more and i enjoy their intelligence, experience and brains!!! | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 6:48:52 PM | Dbndon - "Based on what you write here, my best guess is that you use younger guys as your personal entertainment center and as a source for (expected) compliments."
That is so not fair. I totally agree with you, July. I have been running into the same situations since I turned 40. I agree with your statement that "Men around my age usually think they are either to good for me and go for the younger woman or are looking for someone to take care of them YUK!!!! """
I recently had a man friend my age discussing the "older woman, younger man" idea and he believes it is all about control...lol. This is coming from a bachelor..."no one will ever control him"...lol
The younger men that I date are tired of the childish games that women their own age play. As for a future with them, it can work if both parties are on the same page. 10 years of absolute happiness is better than nothing at all.
Good luck and would love to talk more to you outside this forum. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 8:33:43 PM | You know ...I feel for you....I am 36 years old...and I have come across the same dilemma...men as young as 22 wanting to date me!!! I WILL not date that young mind you...but have dated some as young as 25. Same thing...I look younger then my age and am in good physical shape. When I ask the younger men ( ranging mostly from 25 -30) why they would want to be with me..they say the same thing....they like the maturity level. They treat me like gold as well and are always respectful and courteous. I have dated many men my own age as well..and many older....but just kept coming back to the younger ones.
I was giving them a chance..based on..you never know where you will find the right person for you...hell I have met some 25 year olds that are far more mature then some 40 year old men I have met. I wasn't getting too serious though for the reason of children...just like you. I have a little girl 6 and dont plan on having more....heck by the time I met someone and was close enough to them to want to have children....Id likely be pushing 40 and she would be 10....not an age I want to start thinking about bottles and diapers again..lol!
What I have finally concluded though..is while the younger men are wonderful and great ego boosters....I think the real appeal to them for me...after looking deep inside myself...was that I was using them as a shield. I realized my heart was "safer" with someone young as I felt I had more control on the relationship and that I could walk away easier...reason away any hurt if we broke up etc. I was using them to avoid me.
So I am on a break now...keeping men of all ages at a distance till I do a little more looking at me. Thought I would tell you my story...not to say that this is the case with you...but maybe if you look within you...you will find what it is that makes younger men appeal to you and you to them. | |
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Posted: 11/9/2005 9:35:45 PM | I so agree with all that you have said an as much as I told the last relationship that I was in with a 33 year old man was just that. He was a pleasure but I knew that at 33 he couldnt make a decision like one not to have children. In all honesty I would love to find a man my age that takes care fo himself (looks younger then his age) and isnt all about himself.
I have never laughed so much then when I am in a conversation with a younger man. Also, I always say to the guy that I have had 2 babies thats a big difference from the bodies they have seen in the younger women. My last bf was thrilled with my body and the sex was great.
I think this wont last to long although younger men really are not worried about age at all, its the men my age who pass judgement like they are doing us a favor LMAO!
I have had younger men then 25 want to date me, which kind of grosses me out. My daughter bfs always comment that I am a "milf". The one phrase that made me so proud was when it came from my daughters 20 year old bf "YOUR MOM IS HOT......but I want you, cause seeing her means I know what you will look like when your her age" | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 9:41:18 PM | | I may be older but Im not "old". I still have lots of years ahead of me......but maybe before that I will meet someone younger or even older who I am attracted to and want to share my life with........Im not looking to get married again, nor have anymore children and "THERE ARE PLENTY OF DIFFERENT FISH IN THE SEA". | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 10:53:59 PM | .
Well, Sweetsal, you have many restrictions on your profile. I have none. So, I’m easy to contact.
And, yeah, I would like to talk with you, too. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 11:01:00 PM | .
Well, I just got off the phone with someone who is a long, tall babe who was a leg model for many years.
She agrees with me: If I was dating her, and went to play in the singles bars with other women, she would walk away from me. Our relationship would end.
So, I asked about fishing, hunting and sports bars.
She answered, as I thought she might, that sports bars would be attended with me. And, so it would, simply because she is more into sports than I am. Whatever.
So, what’s with this Internet woman I have never yet personally met. Yeah, we have talked a lot on the net, and often on the phone for years. I’m told, by women who know her, that she is rather beautiful.
I don’t care. In truth, she’s an old stick in the mud, worse than me. However, I owe her six or eight big hugs and she owes me a few, too.
Long ago, we established that we probably will never be lovers. So, we sometimes talk about those who have been part of our lives early on. And it’s interesting, different tune, same song.
Oh . . .and the thing is that she is quite a few years younger than me -- much older than the OT, but a lot younger than me.
So, I guess I better shut up. . . . | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/9/2005 11:47:28 PM | How funny ladybug~~ And is july16 your B-day >? ... I'm a cancer too ((july 5)).. Maybe that's the problem~~LOL~~~ I've always dated, and was married to, 2 younger men.. Even in junior high and high school, when I got teased about it, I continued to go out with younger guys. I got teased because every other girl was going out with older guys... I've tried so hard to go out with guys my own age, and it never, ever works out...
I'm not talking guys 10 years younger or anything like that ((not usually, anyway)).. Usually no more than 4 or 5, but one never knows, right>?  | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:32:57 AM | The slippery slope of being addicted/spoiled by younger men at your age is when reality hits you in the face.
Eventually you will hit a point where you are no longer found desireable other then to be used and will find yourself alone just when you need companionship the most.
I have seen this happen too many times.
If it is just part of the menu enjoy. If it is a steady diet it could cause cronic indigestion. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:20:22 AM | Or you can be with men your own age or older, and then they will die and "you will find yourself alone just when you need companionship the most."
Another scenario that is seen "too many times." | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:03:02 AM | | Well the upside to your negitivity is that you will most likely be better off financially making you even more attractive to boy toys. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:53:05 AM | I am not worried about that at all, LMAO. Im a very out going person and well if they want to date me why not. I am independant and have great children and a very large extended family, I will never be alone. I keep myself active and busy and you know what........I find the younger men are not like the younger women dating the old farts lol......those younger women are doing it for financial gain LMAO. My last boyfriend was a GP, had his pilots license and it was ME who decided to end it. YOU OLDER BITTER MEN OUT THERE....lmao cannot stand that the tables have turned and turned for the better. MOST YOUNGER men are not in it for financial gain (like I said if I dated the older man when I was in my 20s it certainly wasnt for them HAHAHAHHAHA).
The whole point behind this forum for me was I was willing to try to date men a bit older but have been spoiled with the NICE younger man,PHEW you bitter ones have made me want to just conitue what Im doing.......
TABLES have turned.................YOUNGER MEN FIND OLDER WOMEN ATTRACTIVE and easy to be with and hell like I said most of who I have been with are not only HOT and take care of themselve but HAVE way more money then I DO and I AM FINACIALLY SECURE!!!!!!!!!!!
Keep trying | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:00:38 AM | Sorry Dbndon, I just sent you a personal email about corresponding with you. However I want to understand why you would be interested in corresponding with me? Do you not realize that I am 19 years younger than you???? Why is there such a double standard in society...people still have issues with the "older woman, younger man" thing and I am sick to death of it! Everybody mind your own business and enjoy life!!!!! lol
I promised myself that I will never again take part in one of these threads.......Am never going to apologize again for my personal preferences!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:03:25 AM | Hell, sweety, why date men ur own age?..... I love the younger men.... And ur right, the engery is just wonderful...... Also, ur only as old as u feel ....... Stay with the young ones.......... | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:09:59 AM | Older,bitter,jealous? Not I
I feel extremely uncomfortable with a woman that is too young. Actually I prefer them older or about the same age.
As I stated earlier I have known many woman who have enjoyed the candy store too much and woke up with a belly ache.
If you want to Flame there is much heat that can be generated your way as to the phycological reasons you prefer younger men.
Do whatever you wish but don't try to convince others, or perhaps it is yourself that you have the answers to the mysteries of life.
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:45:28 AM |
Do whatever you wish but don't try to convince others
Such good advice, nashvilledom - is that why you emailed me to tell me I just hadn't met the right guys, the ones my age and older? | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:46:13 AM | Sweetsal.....your really cool. I had my settings to no one over 50 could message me LOL! I took it off cause you just never know....my dear sweet gorgeous brother is 51, so I know there are men who are not bitter and who are not looking for someone to take care of them....who are over 50
Your right there is such a double standard.......19 years younger........honestly why would someone your age go for something like that. I have had guys 19 years younger and it would be for them for sure only for the sex and me as well. BUT REALLY why would a women 19 years younger go for THAT!!!!!!!!!!!! it wouldnt be for the sex thats for sure.
Im telling you BITTER BITTER BITTER.......the tables have turned....
MOST I repeat MOST younger men date older women cause they are attracted to them NOT for their money but the REVERSE IS very different and these guys cant stand it.
IM so happy I am this age at this time in life.......I JUST LOVE THIS...... | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:57:26 AM | .
Why is there such a double standard in society...people still have issues with the "older woman, younger man" thing and I am sick to death of it! Everybody mind your own business and enjoy life!!!!! lol
No so called “double standards” in my life, Sweetsal. All of my friends are somewhere between 40 and 75.
Next question: How many of them to I “date”? None.
Some are lifelong friends. Others joined in along the way. We do not rate them as for age or sex. We’re friends based on common interests. That’s all.
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:46:44 AM | YEH~~~~ To each his own.. I think whatever works for you, do it, until it doesn't work anymore.. Then you brainstorm, and figure something else out.. For me it's how I relate to people I guess, and if you've related with "certain" people your whole life, I guess it's hard to just "change positions"....  | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:48:11 AM | Ok plain and simple...... Women in their 40s are no longer the frumpy middle aged women of yester year. We take good care of ourselves, we are happier and have better self esteem, we excercise and eat well. Most have been married, had their kids early and NOW can have a personal healthy life. They have great careers and no longer have to rely on men to take care of them.
The biggest difference with women dating younger men.......the younger men will go after them and seek them out, they are interested in them......not thier money, yeah yeah there may be some that do that, but they are few and far between, cause you see younger men have evolved as well, they have great careers themselves.
Older men are in a rock and a hard place now LMAO.......if they want a younger women they have to chase them down and lure them with money etc cause for sex believe me not many younger women get turned on by older men. Us women who are my age are not available for them anymore so guess what...................bitter!
This is an exciting and new age for all women and I LOVE IT, no longer do the older men get to control the situation>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>ROCK ON LADIESSSS!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:53:45 AM | | I couldn't have said it better myself ladybug~~ It's the reverse of what's it's always been in the past.. The "older guys" going out with and marrying the really young girls.. It was, and still is, totally accepted. But, this little switch around seems to have got some people's panties in a bunch, you think>? | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:57:29 AM |  Wow ! I really need to stop looking at you west coast ladies !!!
Good for you though. July 16th....What a GREAT Day ! 
G. | |
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| Younger men have spoiled me!!!
Posted: 11/10/2005 1:26:15 PM | Hey livewirehere, dont you think the younger men who complain about it or say that these women are old and over the hill are like really geeky and have probably been rejected not only by younger women but older women as well LOL
All the younger men I have been with approached me. At first I tried to say I wasnt interested and wasnt comfortable with it. Then after enjoying a younger mans company one evening I thought wow!!!!!!!!!
In a nutshell....................younger confident men are attracted to older women.......only younger men who just dont have the "it" will say older women are just a novelty (I doubt any older woman ever paid attention to them or they have ever been with one). OLDER men are the ONES that now are having the harder time...........they are the ones ending up alone............cause the tables have turned and will contiue to turn............. | |
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