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Posted: 11/19/2005 4:18:19 AM | | I dont think age matters as long as both are over 18...I also think that its unfair that if its an older man and a young woman, theyre patted on the back, but if its an older woman and a younger guy, its not as acceptable...why not? | |
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Posted: 11/19/2005 4:19:45 AM | | personally I would mind being in a relationship with an older woman more experiance and generally easier going. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2005 1:29:15 PM | | Personally i like younger i have a young outlook on life and am often told i dont look my age my ex was 8 yearsd older and he ought to have been 80 years older...but i beleive its each to their own | |
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Posted: 1/8/2006 10:51:44 AM | Lets see,a 20 yr old dates someone 40. Math-wise the younger is half the age of the older or lets say 50% of the elders age.
30 to 50 = 60%
40 to 60 = 67%
50 to 70 = 71%
60 to 80 = 75%
Everybody above aged 10 years together and golly,gee beav,if they live long enough they could get to be 99-plus percent of each other.Who cares? | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 2:17:05 AM | Short relationships tend to be "age difference tolerant". A man (say) 41 - erm, which happens to be MY age - might chat to a girl of (say) 23 - which happens to be the age of a young lady I'm currently exchanging messages with on PoF. That's an 18 year difference. Does this matter if we have a "fling"? No. Does it matter if we were damn fool enough to get married and have kids? Much more.
Me 41, her 23 is perhaps ok. But what in 20 years? At 43 she would still be a middle aged woman of vigour and energy, but I might be decidedly "on the slippery slope" at 61.
Basically I want to tie the girl up, have a HELL of a lot of fun (for BOTH of us) and enjoy whatever good times are there, but I feel the age gap in this case might be too much for a real, long-term commitment.
There is also the difference in experience and culture. At 23 she may well be a girl for whom heaven is a club with flashing lights and techno dance-music played loud from which she does not emerge before 5am. Personally I could hardly think of a better definition of HELL for me. This hardly matters if where we HAPPEN to be is the bedroom - but it does matter if we try to start sharing other pleasures.
So in answer to the question - yes, short-term and sexual age difference hardly matters - long-term and "serious" it does. And man older than woman is more "socially accepted" - though there's no reason it SHOULD be. This is just another example of the scewed attitude towards sexual morallity in this society we live in.
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Posted: 1/9/2006 2:25:00 AM | Lets see,a 20 yr old dates someone 40. Math-wise the younger is half the age of the older or lets say 50% of the elders age.
30 to 50 = 60%
40 to 60 = 67%
50 to 70 = 71%
60 to 80 = 75%
Everybody above aged 10 years together and golly,gee beav,if they live long enough they could get to be 99-plus percent of each other.Who cares?
Er, yes - but for the younger partner to GET to 99% of the older one's age, they'd have to live to younger=1980 years old and older=2000! There is the subsidiary fact that towards the end of life you tend to deteriorate damn fast. A 50-year-old may easily have similar vigour to when they were 40 - but rarely will an 80-year old be as spritely as when they were 70. When you only have a few years left, each year tends to take a bigger toll.
I reitterate my position in my earlier post. Big age differences work for short-term "fun" relationships - they don't work for life-time partners.
Toak | |
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Posted: 1/9/2006 7:14:14 AM | Once again,big picture just whizzes by....
Age is a number given to a natural circumstance{UUGGHH to wife"how many winters has little uugghh seen?"}
Man,thinking man,created a way to understand this.He called them numbers.Numbers do nothing more than represent what thinking man realized.Get the hint here?Man canthink,numbers do not.Man should be able to reason out all the "age difference conditions"and determine if he is capable of all the repercussions.Lifetime is a state of mind reasoned between the two individuals.
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Posted: 2/11/2006 3:45:53 PM | Hi,I did not think age should be an issue,I have only dated women of a similar age or younger so far still looking for my Mrs Robinson (older people will understand lol)
I agree men do ge a slap on the back if they have a young lady,not so sure if people judge older women the same way ? does not bother me,its quite sexy.
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Posted: 2/11/2006 4:04:35 PM | Age can't be an issue, becuase when i'm fifty five i'm buying me one of those tinternet brides who are eighteen.
So I'm all for it.
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Posted: 2/11/2006 4:10:56 PM | sometimes they work, just like similar age ones
sometimes they fail just like similar age ones
whats the problem? | |
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Posted: 2/11/2006 4:38:54 PM | As someone who has had a relationship with a young woman nearly 30 years my junior we lived together for 2 wounderfull years then she died unexpectedly I had always assumed I would be the one to go first yet here I am 5 years on.
You never know whats round the corner if it doen't bother the ones concerned then what has it go to do with anyone else. Grab your happness where you can and live for the moment.
This isn't a rehersal for life it's the main show.
So f**k what other people say/think just live life. | |
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Posted: 2/11/2006 6:20:19 PM | I am 34 now the guy I spent over 1/2 my life with & my sons dad is now 43. It worked for over 18 years then he cheated and I gave him up which was a hard thing to do having 'grown up with him' I would never have imagined we would have split up
There is a guy I have seen a few times in the past few weeks who I have met via this site who is 27. This guy has no children from a previous relationship.
I asked him was it a problem for him with my son being 15 for him to only be 12 years older than he is
His reply was I am over the legal age for consent and so are you - let it be everyone elses problem not ours. I said you have no children what happens if you want children and I can't give them to you in the future. His answer was you have your son that would be enough for me.
I gave up worrying after he said that...
Miss_BBW
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Posted: 2/12/2006 7:38:41 AM | I have no problem with it at all.Actually i only date older women myself.
Every persons different so we can never generalise.Just because someone was born in a different year it doesn't automatically make them immature,less experienced,unwiser,and less of a man.If theres that connection,,that click,that special bond then why should other people have a problem with it??
My last girlfriend who was ten years older than me has been married in the past and has a 16 year old son.Her husband was an a*** that treated her like shit and never put a smile on her face and does f*ck all for his son.Then theres me,a complete opposite.Younger,a bit naughty and wild.But i was always there for her,i helped her out with a lot of problems and shit she had to put up with.I took her out,we had loads of fun,she became my best friend,i put a smile back on her face,we done loads of stuff together as a couple and there was not one problem with the age at all.We were happy,we done our own thing and there was no problem.
People that frown on that are purely ignorant.Because a woman is in her 30s,has been married,hads a 16 yr old does it mean she cant find happiness because the person offering it is a bit younger?? i dont think so.
If two people have that special bond,that attraction and make each other happy then why fight the temptation.The relationship is between those two people and no one else,so other peoples opinions shouldn't matter unless they're positive.At the end of the day we only live once so why not take the chance?
Another thing.....society sees older guys and younger girls as a good thing.The guy gets a pat on the back as if hes got something special cos hes pulled a young girl.Then she gets a pat on the back for pulling a mature,sensible organised man.Just because hes older it doesn't neccesarily make him any of those.
But when an older woman is with a younger guy she is seen as desperate,immature or wanting to keep hold of her youth!!! And the guy is only after a mother figure or someone with experience!!!! eerrmmm i'd hardly wanna date my mum eeuughh.And as for experience...if i wanted that i'd pull a slapper.
At the end of the day opposites attract.Look at all the interracial,big and small,fat and slim,rich and poor,wild and calm couples!!! Why isn't there an issue about them?
If people get on with it and go for what they want then soon others will realise its ok and accept it.
yeah baby yeah..
ps-i hope i dont sound bitter or p*ssed off.Im not.I just fight for what i believe in. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2006 9:13:22 AM | I copied the following from a message I received from some angry & immature slut to whom I've NEVER posted/messaged.
She sent it and blocked my ability to respond.
what a piece of walking garbage she is.
Here's the message:
"BIT OLD TO BE ON HERE, GUESS YOU MUST BE A PERVERT." | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:28:12 AM | Often take for being/looking younger than I am---at a party at the weekend (oh you'll find me on the dance floor -or by the drinks) in a group of people I had just met and age came up--they got it wrong by a long way. The complimentary way of handling it is make a judgement then take a couple years off --ppls always seem to err on the lower side --well the nice ppl do.
Many folks claim that it doesn't make a diffence but then when it comes to profiles it usually crops up there somewhere.
Is it more to do with how you relate to others than how you carry it? Been on the roll at times and age has cropped up as it does and there after the shutters have come down.
It's a figure after all---ppls are so diverse in personality aspect and there's no harm in being young at heart--until your kids tell you otherwise | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:34:10 AM | I hate age differences in relationships, i just couldnt date a guy any younger than 3 years younger than me, it would just make me feel icky  | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:43:57 AM | | I think many relationships can survive age gaps.. its a simple formuls really for everyone.. we meet, we share, we enjoy, may marry! may split! nothing in this world if forever.. its for now!!!! and if you both get along thats what it;s all about.. not status, age, or enything else.. just two people on the same wavelenth enjoying the now..time.. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:44:00 AM | well on this i'd have to say by experience it didn't work for me...
He was older by 12 years and as i grew into wanting different things.. he remained the same and didn't.
But i guess it's down to the persons outlook on life...
I guess i like to do different things he didn't lol so in that circumstance it didn't work.
I wouldn't say they don't though.... | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 9:51:34 AM | as i've stated before i was in a relationship for 11 years where my partner was 27 years older than me...we did split in the end, and some of the reason was probably down to the age difference, but i certainly don't look upon it as a failure...we had two children and we loved each other.
what do you measure success or failure by? | |
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Posted: 9/25/2007 10:28:00 AM | ages can be relivent.but only if your outlook and personalitys clash too much.
im a very pipe and slippers man whos hobby is extream brass rubbing. so therefore my preference is an aunt sally type.
none of those,nubile, outgoing bints for me! | |
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