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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 1:05:12 PM | | The type of woman I'm attracted to is one who: has a ready smile, good sense of humor, doesn't take everything too seriously, and is not pretentious. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:06:00 PM | I cannot speak for anyone else but me but what attracts me is north of the shoulders and between two ears. I can tell some rather embarassing stories about myself & what happened when I stopped listening to airheads. ( both genders ) The physical package is nice but the mind is the deal maker or the deal breaker. I can stand a woman who disagrees with me ( In fact if her position is a reasoned one I will definately be back for more ) I can stand a woman who agrees with me ( unless she just agrees for no reason ) I am attracted to a well rounded person who can discuss, give and take & hopefully enable me to learn something new I didn't know before. This can make for interesting times but that is what I like.
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:31:18 PM | Down to earth, self-sufficient, and someone who I can talk to about nothing for hours on end. There are things you can do to attract someone intially, but there's no way to manufacture chemistry. It's either there or it's not.
What I personally have discovered about dating is that much like almost everything else in life, the more you do it, the better you get at it. Trite as it may sound, just be yourself, and keep trying. :) | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:31:31 PM | Hmmm...
What attracts me, honestly... initially is her look... I mean I'm not saying she has to be a model, but something about her looks and a feature or two that really catches my eye is 'what' attracts me. It took me a long time to really figure it out but I'm an @ss man... - see Sheri Moon-Zombie for an example. 
After the physical though, has to be her intelligence... which is also an attraction or not.
Of course, usually she's a little more gifted in one area over the other and that's fine too... I mean if I can find one girl that's the "mama-mia" in the looks department and equally so in the intelligence dept then I'd be on cloud nine 'til my dyin' days. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:43:23 PM | The post "an open, honest, easy woman that knows what she wants" is part of it. Once a woman knows what she wants, the man will learn that, and it then becomes a matter of whether "that" is what He wants too. If he can see that you have different views or goals, it only makes sense to bail out at that point, in everyones best interests.
That shouldn't be construed as "using". Face it, we are all like jig saw puzzle pieces, and only the right pieces will "fit". Don't lose hope, or feel angry if a "piece" doesn't fit just right. There are thousands of others out there.
Did I just metaphor a metaphor?? | |
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idar
| | Joined: 10/29/2005
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 7:58:21 PM | | Think of it this way go on a date blidfolded you can find out just how special that other person can be by how he/she treats you the way they talk and make sure you don,t bump into anything,the outside comes and goes but what,s inside makes the world go round. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 8:05:20 PM | Girly, welcome to how the other half lives. LOL...no honestly this isn't generally how it really is, just how they present it.
I'm going to start off by saying that this is my opinion of course and you can take it or leave it.
The odds of you finding love here are slimmer than you finding head games. Many of the members here are out to have some quick fun and nothing more. Some are looking for love but are still hoping with one last breath that the perfect person exists and that they'll somehow stumble upon them here. The rest are already in committed relationships or have 10 dates lined up for the next two weeks.
I think you would have a much better chance of finding love if you involved yourself in activities that are conducive to meeting new people right in the confines of your own town/city. This is a great place to vent, express yourself, learn more about who you are and what your attitudes are around single life but I can't say as I've heard nearly enough success stories in my observation. I've heard a heck of a lot of nasty things that people have done to each other here so be careful. Being new to this, you are vulnerable. I give you as much credit as you give yourself but my suggestion is that you don't believe the first thing you hear and take it OUT of this forum and into real life meeting as soon as possible and keep your pants on till you are sure you have someone who really interests you. Way too many women here come to the forums saying that they got "used" or "screwed" and were treated dishonestly. Men too.
Good luck.
I've had better experiences in real life meeting men than I do on here. It's just missing some key elements that I think make it a very complicated practice. Then again, I'm a cynic with internet dating and it's not my thing so I have a biased opinion of it. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:00:15 PM | Well blastkist, you have some interesting points. Course, life is pretty strange to begin with. I dont know, I think we all just make it too complicated sometimes. Making it simpler, I think, is the key because it cuts out so much tension and misunderstandings.
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 9:53:07 PM | Sorry girlyq24, I just cannot explain what attracts me to a particular women. Have been attracted to different women throughout my life and you would be surprised at how different they look. Not sure if lonelyness has an effect on my decession. But for myself intellegence is a plus. Personallity is a plus. A sense of humor. Basic manners. But one thing I can tell you is that you should not have to change who you are to meet someone. Almost forgot a confident women is also attractive.
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 10:15:31 PM | Outrageous personalities, women that are incredibly bright, gifted athletically, reasonably attractive, makeupless, comfortable with herself, in love with life, emotionally steeled, wildly compassionate, fiercely political and well adjusted.
Oh yeah blondes who tilt their heads too. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:16:56 PM | Maybe all the people that are cynical and bitter with online dating should leave. That way it would be a positive atmosphere and leave the people that really do want a relationship here to establish some quality bonds.
Guys look for a woman that is appreciative and thoughtful. Also a woman who has a grasp on both points of view and doesn't take a knee jerk emotional reaction to every single situation that comes along.
Like other guys mentioned, self confidence is a must. She has to be comfortable with her body. So annoying to be around someone that needs constant feedback of how they look all the time.
Someone who is affectionate and not afraid to open up their walls and communicate.
Nothing worse than a woman who only wants to have sex to get her way, as punishment, or wants something.
A women who is adventurous, open-minded, and relishes a challenge.
Someone who likes to get their hands dirty and likes to dress feminine.
Being androgenous is overrated.
Someone who is compassionate and passionate about life. ie Cares about themselves, others, and has a sparkle in their eyes. Also has a great sense of humour.
A women who is intelligent, enjoys conversation, and laughs easily.
What guys don't like is when there is a chip on the shoulder or being compared to other men.
Or being set up. Also men enjoy women being independent, but are appreciative of having a man in their life who is not treated like an accessory, to be tossed after initial excitement.
Just being genuine and down to earth rounds everything out.
Hope that helps.
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kelvin
| | Joined: 10/6/2005
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:18:53 PM | | I look for a woman who is happy with herself, and with life in general. A pretty face is a bonus as well. I don't like bar hair and tonnes of makeup, that's so 80's. If you are pretty, your gonna be pretty without makeup as well. as well as non-evil-ness and sanity. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/10/2005 11:24:29 PM | First of all I agree with Blastkist, I believe you can find "true Love" anywhere, but the chances of finding it on the internet/dating website are very slim. You probably have a better chance at winning the lottery, (not that it you can't find someone).
But Girlyq24, I think you just need to be yourself, and figure you what you and, and know what you are willing to settle for andwhat you are not willing to settle for in terms of dating, how you want to be treated, and what you are looking for in someone. Do not change who you are for someone, and do not lower your standards. The men I know, love a woman, who loves herself with all her out, who knows who SHE is, and where she is going in life and what she wants. Who is confident, loyal, intelligent, honest, can communicate, who is willing to go the extra mile to help their friends and family. They also like the type of women that they can take home to mom/family, who do not play the head games and purposely cause drama. Who are mature and are'nt going to run when a stressful situation comes up but will be there when they need a shoulder to lean on and need someone to count on. But it's true when you least expect it and when you stop looking for it (relationships) they happen. A relationship should come easily and naturally. Good ones, normally start out as friends, if you have to put all the effort into it, or always wondering where you stand, or are emotionally upset, then no guy is ever worth it, because you are a great person and a wonderful woman, who deserves to be treated with the up most respect. Never settle for second best, but always settle for what you deserve, which is nothing for the best. If a guy isn't into you for you then that is his problem not yours. A great book to read is called "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Brendt. It's an awesome book, but its not your normal typical book, it has a guys perspective as well as a females perspective at the end of every chapter, I know where I live they can't keep that book on the shelves. Infact, about a week or two ago he was just on Jay Leno and about a month ago He was on the Oprah show, he is coming out with a DVD too. Hope this helps have a great night.
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/11/2005 1:09:49 AM | Well, like always I checked out your profile first........and I have to admit that you look much older than 25. I think it is because you need to update your hair for sure and also you need to dress a lot more hip for your age! I am not being mean but it is related to your topic.
Specifically, what attracts me, might be or probably is a lot different than other men, for instance, I like small breasts on a woman. If possible I prefer a skinny woman. I would date a fluffy woman, but I would prefer a skinny woman if everything else is equal. I do like smart or educated women because they have or are more able to communicate with me. I have dated young women, but I prefer an older woman, once again, because they have life experiances to share in conversation and they usually know no only what they don't want, but they usually know what they do want. I like romantic women. Women that make a point to do nice things for me (naturally, I do nice things for them too). I like women that do things that I wouldn't expect. I dated a older woman once and she was always leaving me stuff at my door step. She brought me cookies that she had made and an assortment of stuff (it was Christmas time and she had made a bunch of stuff for her family and she brought me a tray of it and left it at my door). She bought me two CD's that were specific to a topic that we had casually discussed on a previous date. Oh my God! She was incredible in that regard. She was way too old for me though, and I decided that I shouldn't give her any hope of a future for that reason. My God! She was rich too! It was hard for me to make the right choice for sure because she was sooooooo rich, but we just didn't match concerning interests. Tracy (buccaneer38) | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/11/2005 3:25:49 AM | Hey...don't feel put off by guys out there....I've been single for 4 years and I constantly get..."why are you single"?? WHO CARES?
Be yourself and be the best at it. There is someone out there that will value that.
If you think you are out of style, go to a hairdresser and ask for a new 'do that is EASY to upkeep. Something like that may even make you feel like you've gotten rid of the cobwebs or whatever. Sometimes something as simple as a haircut is all you need. I found that after I dumped my longterm boyfriend, it was refreshing. I just made myself "new" to start my new life without him. But I did it for ME. That's the key.
Do something for yourself. Go shopping. Buy one thing that's 'daring' or something you'd never normally do. Why not...it's all about YOU. Make yourself feel good.
But whatever you do, don't change your personality to suit these creepy guys who aren't attracted to the inner you in the first place. | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/11/2005 5:11:19 AM | | I'll be honest...all men are initially attracted to what they see. After that initial contact we look further. (if you're any kind of man) For me it's the eyes. Someone who's smile reaches all the way to her eyes....killer. A woman who can carry herself like she can claim a room...but chooses not to because she is not that arrogant. A subtle beauty that is both unmistakeable, but elusive and ephemeral. Men like to be kept guessing... I like a woman who always makes me wonder what she's thinking...and when I find out, I can't wait for the next time...those are the things that never age. The electric physical attraction is wonderful...but it's the cerebral relationship that makes someone attractive forever. :) | |
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Edduk
| | Joined: 11/8/2005
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Tinkle
| | Joined: 11/2/2005
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/11/2005 6:12:26 AM | | I'll speak for all guys here except me and any blind guys. They are attracted by looks. Doesn't matter if you have them or not, it still works. If you go around showing your body off, u will get hit on by some guys. Now, wether or not you will like them is another matter. See you in your future thread titled: How do I get pervs away from me! | |
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| Guys tell me honestly what attracts you?
Posted: 11/11/2005 6:56:06 AM | I hate to say this....but I'm gonna have to be the voice of reason in this thread....You were with this guy for 5 years...you're asking us how YOU should be around guys.....Is it me...or does the most logic solution seem to be...GO BACK TO THAT GUY!
Holy! You're going to throw all that history away for the unknown? Are you nuts? How is it a nightmare because he says you're in college lol? PLease. There's more to it than that. Maybe there is something about you that is really bothering him or that you are unwilling to change about yourself and he gave you that litltle story to send you on your merry way.
You seem pretty willing to change how you are for your next ride on the dating merri-go-round, but you had a perfectly good guy, who may or may not have had a fault or two. You can't change for him but you can change for the next guy? What kind of ass backwards logic is that? If you have to ask if guys like airheads, you probably already are one. As harsh as that sounds, it's likely true. Now I say this to help you, but you need to go back to this guy and REALLY talk with him. I know, I know, you probably have had endless discussions about parting your seperate ways and reasons for staying together etc, but you need to try again. You both have had time to reflect and think about the relationship, but why you would give up so easily is beyond me.
So go back already, and pull out all the stops. Do not conceide defeat! | |
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