| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/8/2006 6:13:04 AM | | I agree with "Then I must be dreaming". This whole thing of respect is something society has created and must be learned and requires much self discipline to catch any fish. What is the big deal, anyway. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/8/2006 6:24:45 AM | islgurl.....Couldn't have said it better myself! These poor little guys who get taken advantage of by us big mean women. Each to their own, we all have a life LIVE IT! It's really no ones bizz who sleeps with who and when they did it, and half the 'innocent' people who have responded have probably done it anyway. Not me though.....No way, never, perish the thought, bad, yuk, naughty.....  | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/8/2006 6:36:05 AM | Men are very fickled.. That i will say and know personly.
Some men expect it .. They have been raised and shown in the family that If there Fathers did something nice for the mother.. Then the mother was expected to give sex that night to here husband. It is called.. I will do nothing for you unless you have sex with me.
this is a sad thing to teach a child.. The child will not clean his room unless he gets a pay off or a reward.. he will not take out the trash, or put away the laundry.. And if he dose not get a reward then this man will never do the job again.... it is sad but the 60 and 70 man is like this. This man is 50 and 40yrs old. These men are very agressive men they want what they want and will not settle for anything else.. they will hold out even if they lose.. the thinking is this. Give me that toy or i will throw a tantrum. "i did the dishes now give me a treet" "i bought you dinner" "give me pussskats" or i will never date you again.
In the 50's which would make men 60yrs old.. They were tought to bring flowers, open doors and to wait at least a few weeks before they even got a kiss.. They are delighted just to have a women on there arms and sit across the dinner table. They are not as affectionate but the best is yet too come for they are the men who will put effort into the reationship..
The men from 80 and 90 ooo what a diffrent thinking they are open minded they are the men they want threesoms.. they want it with two men and a women or two women and a man.. They want the open relationship. they want to be bi- or crossdressers. they are so much into sex
the 60/70 men and women were drugg babys. you can say.. they were tough to go to bars and party harty.. they were tough that beer or wine will losen up the women.
the 80/90 men and women were sex babys.. there were tought to experiment in sex. New technics came out, new thinking was developed so it would be ok to jusify mulipule partners.
for the women. the 60/70 women are so diffrent that is why men can not get layed. They are tought to get careers, they are tough to look sexy and to be sexual but not for man but for women.. lol for them selfs. this one generation is Womens lib but not to the fullest. thy are raised by women who rebled against there husbands. so getting sex form a 40yrs old is quite diffrent on how these ladys were raised in this time and frame.
the 50yr old women well she is old fashion but at the same time she is the prim example of lust.. she is the one that express herself and dose not hold back. she is open and relaxed. She looks more for man for the month the for the man for a lifetime.
Now the 80/90 women.. Wow.. is all i have too say.. the have the best of all 3 worlds.
They are comfortabul with open relationships. they are loving thresoms. They love the freedom of sex, there out look on work and womens lib is amazing. These women have the ability to have a man or do with out.. they are mostly bi- or gay do to the movemets that were made during this generation. but for the strait women there sexualty is like no other, they are creative and explore the 'one night stands'
so why are men and women not getting along becouse we are looking for the wrong thing in are generation but knowing this..
A 50yrs old man dose better with 50yr old women the generation is set in there ways.
but a 40yrs old man needs a 30yrs old women
and a 30yrs old man needs a 40yrs old women.. it is turn back the time on this one.
As for the 20yrs olds.. well they love all agaes and will date all ages.. they do not look at size or weight, they do not look and anything nut friendship.. I love the 2000 men and women.. They are open and free to express there needs. they are not shy at all, they know wright from wrong and who to talk to a partner.. How funny.. If i was only 20 again i would marry this one man on this site.. lol.. giggles. he has the best out look of all man kind and is so so adorabul.. Love that elvis. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:08:58 AM | I agree with AJO3---he's got it; these antiquated notions are getting old -- they should be left behind in the victorian era they belong in. Not allowing woman the freedom of expressing her sexuality is a social control that was used to protect women from pregnancy. I'm not promoting a life of regular proniscuity, but we DO have protection for a reason now
and the risks, though still there, can be reduced considerably if you practice safe sex.
How you share sex is a mental game-- its about how 2 people choose to feel about it.
If a guy leaves after the first date, its likely because you werent the right one for him. The only concern is that it might be too fast for some men, and they get scared off, feeling pressure too soon to commit, so if you're with someone early, it helps to be sure you have a good mental /intellectual connection with them at least before the first date. But then again, thats a personal characterstic.
Good luck! --- MJS | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:17:58 AM | Some of the logic in this thread is mind blowing.
For instance: "if she slept with me on the first date, then she did that with all other men on their first dates." So, does that mean you sleep with all your first dates? Becase you had sex with her as well...
You see boys and girls. It takes TWO, yes TWO, people to have sex on a first date. Unless you are dating aliens and they aren't technically people.
It's another of life's double standards. A woman has sex on her first date and she's slutty. But who did she have sex with? Yea thats right, a man. Who was also busy having sex on his first date. Whoops.
I have indeed had sex on a first date. And other times I didn't have sex till many dates down the line. Life doesn't always follow a set pattern. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/19/2006 5:14:19 PM | sex is wonderful we are all humans that is our thing we all have done it and should not be ashamed of it.really you would have to wait years for to get to know someone,so we will only know when the time is right,you should tell youre date first night or second night no sex.if they back out on the next date,because you know what they wanted sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/19/2006 5:25:34 PM | if she puts out or offers anything close on the first date, she`s done.....that was the last date. now on the second date, it`s still the same thing.....we don`t really know each other well enough yet.....each situation is different of course. I would think that she would have more respect for herself and not do it yet. I respect her alot more in the long run when she just threatens me with it than for her to actually go through with it....more fun that way...makes for a much better relationship  | |
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Posted: 12/19/2006 5:40:45 PM | Well it depends on the guy but usually when you sleep with a guy on the first date - all of the challenge for the guy is gone. However, if you're a really good lover or if you click on more than just a physical level - there will definitely be date #2, #3 and possibly more... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2007 2:42:06 PM | I won't allow it period. I'd be flattered and all but no way. One date doesn't allow for a deep enough connection and without it...forget it. I want to be all    and with someone before that happens, otherwise it is empty and meaningless.
And no, I don't need my head examined (at least not for that reason) and yes...hang on...yup...just checked...I do have a Y chromosome. God the guys in the office just gave me a big  for doing the Y chromosome check... | |
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Posted: 4/8/2007 3:00:23 PM | whats the big deal? if she wants to have sex on the first date, do you? if you both want it, then go for it. nothing with it. hell, at least your getting some. i wish i could find a girl like that.
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 4/8/2007 8:54:19 PM | First date? Your too easy, means you probably will give it away to anyone on your first date. Men want to believe they are special, that you sleep with them because they are special.
I truly wish my Ex wife had slept with me on our first date. She did with everyone else, had I known this I would have moved on and probably found a woman worth being with.
But since it took 4 months, I thought we had something special going on.
And women who want sex on first dates with me turn me off. I classify them on level of Hooker without the pay request attached.
Please don't get offended, this is how I view it. I am sure there are lots of guys who would love to sleep with every woman they meet on the first date. Make it easier for them to fill up their black books.
Yes, I look down on that type of guy too.
Now my question is this. After you gave up that precious gift of yours, did the guy come back for more or eventually walk away when he had enough free sex? | |
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Posted: 9/20/2007 4:35:38 PM | | I'd never done it on the first date before until i was 21 and i ended up marrying him it lasted 17 years and we have a beautiful daughter who's 12. Women or men can't be tarred with the same brush just coz u do it once doesn't necessarily mean u've done it before or will again | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/20/2007 4:38:51 PM |
If both parties want to be with one another, then do it. These preconceived notions about people who decide to have sex after the first date are rediculous. This does not indicate that the woman or man does this with every other man/woman. Finally someone else gets it !!!!!!!!! co-sign!!!  | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/20/2007 4:51:47 PM | FWIW, just about all my long term relationships were "slept with him on the first date" situations. The excitment was too much for either of us to wait.
On the other hand there have also been "slept with on the first date" situations that never went anywhere, so go figure.... | |
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Posted: 9/20/2007 8:57:09 PM | Do people still think like this? Referring to lines like, "if she does, she's done" or "she should have more respect for herself" or "what will you do when the guy leaves because he's had all the free sex he wants". Those aren't direct quotes but close paraphrases.
Is sex that isn't free legal here?
Or does this mean that good girls, those worth having and keeping and seeing again, only have sex as part of an exchange, a barter for commitment or support or promises or good deeds?
Men who think like this should not contact me. That's for the benefit of both parties.
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Posted: 9/20/2007 9:08:00 PM | | It seems that the reference here is if she (FEMALE) has sex with you (MAN) on the first date...I look at this from a different perspective...How about if you (MAN) have sex with her (FEMALE) on first date....Does that mean that you are just a slutty as her? There does seem to be a double standard here....one man said it would be great, but he wouldn't marry someone like that; how about if the tables were turned and woman said it would be great, but I wouldn't marry a man that did that......just wondering | |
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Posted: 9/20/2007 9:24:33 PM |  This thread still lives??? HAHAHA!
SO? WHAT was the question?
You meet, have an incredible "chemistry"...cannot wait to rip off one another's clothes...
BUT Wait!!! STOP! Save those buttons...for society and "norms" say .....Need to WAIT! Makes you look good."Morality" and all that crap.
Jeez! WHAT a crock!
Takes two to do the deed...right? So guessing the po bloke who got himself seduced is just as responsible for the morality crap? HE wanted it. HE did it. NOT just the woman...hello?
I say our current society is way fu#ked up....sexuality is dissed...violence is honored.
Just watch the movies out. Really sux.
You can't agree to jump each other's bones 'cause you WANT it without feeling shame and guilt?
WOW. Talk about fu#ked up.....is what it is.
We are still locked in our past puritanical roots. 1600's. Sheesh! | |
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Posted: 9/21/2007 1:37:20 AM | Hi Islgurl!
Couldn't agree more.
First date... tenth date? What's the difference?
People impose arbitrary rules upon themselves and others for no other reason than "society". | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 2:05:34 AM | I agree...
If it's the first date - the chemistry is definately there! But that might be all....
If it's the tenth date - She's into him, but she's probably doing someone else while waiting for the right time with him.... Same goes for the guy!
The real issue here is plain to see. "Are you just a one nighter for him, or the prospect for some long term fun?"
Did you REALLY want it to be long term with this guy? Then you probably should have built up the tension a bit longer... 2nd date... maybe the 3rd.
Remember the old story 1001 arabian nights? That was a smart chickadee! | |
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