| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 6:35:50 AM | | If a guy doesn't want to sleep with YOU on the first night, you say that either he isn't attracted to you or he's gay. You don't give a man any choice to be attracted to you unless he's trying to bed you on the first date. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 7:14:49 AM | I have no idea how old you are, if your stressing about 1 man, that you had sex with on a first date, your loosing time to move forward...
no matter if it was a blind date, communicating for 3 mths then met, or 100th date, before you had sex, if the chemistry is there, do it, if it dosn't last move on, we are but water, chemicals, hormones, etc. we produce chemicals to attract, to produce offspring, but we are also blessed with the pleasure...of it. sex.
why deny yourself, you only have to be true to you, you are the only judge and jury, no-one else can judge you more than youself.
enjoy life, it's what we're meant to do. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 9:54:11 AM | | LOL, the old "double standard" issue. Personally, I see no difference between a man who has sex on the first date or a woman who has sex on the first date. I don't see how a man can blame or criticize a woman for having sex on the first date when he is ABSOLUTELY just as guilty as she is. Personally, I see nothing wrong with it IF the chemistry is there and two people really hit-it-off right off the bat. I don't think that having sex on the first date means ANYTHING except that both parties involved are probably lonely and needing romantic/sexual attention. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:18:09 AM | essene, I AGREE WITH YOU 100%. WELL, I slept with one of a guy on here at first date after one hour ago of meeting him(he is too hotand it was so difficult of rm to fight for it and wait),but it does not mean I will sleep with every man I will meet. It depends though.If a man can look like my ex-fiance and hot like him then yes I will.
Why wait if there is no reason to wait. Me and that man sleep more after that. We are on and off. I think I hurt his feelings without even knowing it. I may have said something he did not like to hear. I have met a lot of men on here but did not sleep with them and did not even give them any kiss because they are not my type. I o nly like that guy am talking about. I like him for short -term not long -term. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:21:27 AM | | OH! and I was not lonely and needing sex. I slept with him because I like his smell, and reminded me of my ex-fiance his looks as he almost look like him. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 10:33:04 AM | I have only done this one time in my life and the sex was fantastic! I am VERY particular about who I have sex with and had never slept with anyone on a first date. I really liked him, because he made me laugh, was super intelligent, loved the conversation and he was super sexy, even more because of his brains. The bonus was he also rocked in the bedroom. I have to say though, the guy disappeared. I would never do this again. Lesson learned.
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 2:04:28 PM | In my learned (I'm old..lol) opinion, every situation is different. I waited years with my
husband...now I may have wonderful sex on the first date......especially if I've been talking
to the person for ages and we finally get a chance to meet.
We behave differently when we are young.....and we should. But at a certain point in your
life you have to make some decisions on your own and stick by them.
If it feels right in your heart (and all the other places the gal before mentioned)...go for it.
I have never had just the one date.......they have always come back. Those I didn't have
sex with......I felt and they felt that the chemistry wasn't there or that we weren't ready.
Things never play out with same with any two people..just do what you feel like but
own your decisions.
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:02:08 PM | [the old "double standard" issue]
You are exactly right, there is no difference between a man or a woman having sex on the first date. We are all mature adults here (i think!) and we should be able to make our own decisions, right?
If you meet someone and really hit it off, go for it. And who knows it might turn into something really great. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/21/2007 8:13:41 PM |
Why can't we just simply have sex with you the first night and more after that.
Please do. I'm here and looking, but without success.
Now if we held out on the first night you would call us some kind of tease but if we do you.... you don't apperciate it. WTF?
Were you good on the first night, or did you make him do all of the work while you took all of the pleasure? If the sex is good, he'll most likely come back for more. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/28/2007 9:20:54 AM | Sex on the first date is not a good idea as I think it defines the “relationship” in a way you don’t want it defined if you want more than just sex out of it. So instead of what places you would like to go to and see together and seeing what you have in common to make it more it would seem like it would revolve more around come sleep with me babe
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 9/28/2007 12:56:27 PM | | there is alot of talk about, if she did it this time how many times did she do it before? WHO CARES? i say live your life the way you want, and don't feel guilty for the things you do. and especially don't let other people make you feel guilty for the things you do. live, learn, and move on. if you are not comfortable with it, then change it. i am not above asking for what i want, 1st date or 15th date. it's my life. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 12:54:36 PM | well i dont disagree with having friends with beniits but if you are wanting to build something with that person then sleeping with them on the first date would be a big mistake.but that is only my opion. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 1:07:07 PM | Sex is the completing part. Sex should be last after you have decided he or she is the one. You can not decide that on one date. What a cruel display to just have sex so soon. How can you trust them again? You can't live your life so careless and unvalidated like that.
Sex should be so much validation. Feeling fond of someone or being attracted to them should not give way to sex without responsibility. Sex should be shared with only one very special person who has become your everything because they fully passed the test. Sort of like giving them everything your heart and soul and love in so many ways before you share sex.
There are so many broken or half broken people out there it is not funny and the only way to make them whole again is by love, the kind of love where you would spend your last thousand dollars to help them; the kind of love that says I care enough to get my STD papers and care enough to get to know you. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 1:13:53 PM | I'm not sure who you've been dating or what other guys are like, but with me it's simple. If we have sex on the first date (second, third, etc.) and it's good or at least decent, then yea, I come back for more. I've had several long term girlfriends and one fiancee whom I had sex with on the first date.
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 1:19:37 PM | I'm not sure if I have replied to this post already,I met lady for a date we had sex within the first 5 minutes, guess what! we were together for seven years after that... | |
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Joined: 10/1/2007
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 1:40:28 PM | Well to me...what ever happens...and when ever it happens...is perfectly normal for that circumstance. The first rule is...there are no rules. You cannot make any generalizations about such things...no iron clad rules. If you are both comfortable...then who cares...and who is to say it is not right...the "Date Police"?
FYI...by the way...from my own experience...sex on the first date happens very fequently...as woman go there a lot now...just as often as men. For me...it creates problems. I tend to deeply emotionally bond, if there is any physically relationship. That is not the case apparently, for most women that I have met. I have to be careful with my heart, as I wear it on my sleeve, but that does not mean the same thing applies to your situation. If you are both comfortable...and both are OK with it...do what ever you are comfortable with...unless you really are Beaver Cleaver...or are just twelve years old. Who really gives a Rat's ass what anyone else thinks about it...or what the "Date Police" have to say about anything at all. I say go for it. Life is too short to worry about such nuances. If the time is right, and you are both consenting adults, then to hell with the rest of the world. Love is love...in any way...or shape...or form...that it presents itself...and it really is nobody else's business anyway. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 2:12:20 PM | | Each to there own I guess. Personally I probably would not even kiss on a first date. If you can get intimate with someone that fast, then rest assured they will leave you just as quick. The single people who can put there lust aside and build a relationship first based on friendship and common ground before heavy petting will stand more chance of staying together. I am not saying we need to get married first, you have to try before you buy, lol. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 10/15/2007 7:09:03 PM | It's a 50/50 crap shoot today, so take it or leave it...^^^^you can build on that relationship and do all the heavy petting you want it will make no difference...there are no guarantees and on here I would think it's 01.% jmo.  | |
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