| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:10:39 AM | i said to my sis one day when i was ALOT younger whats up with these guys if u have sex with em on the first date they dont call back and if u DONT have sex with em on the first date they dont call back ...who knows believe it or not we will NEVA know there r soooooooo many factors with EACH individual ...another girl, anothr guy
just do as u think is rite and sex isnt a GOOD idea on first date...yikes u GOTTA get paperwork on fools nowadays rite...i know i do..doc proof that they do have AIDS or n e thing else
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 2:54:57 PM | I would never sleep with a woman on the first date (at least not any more). In fact I might not sleep with her for the first 3 months. If she slept with me on the first date I wouldn't be thinking about what that said about her - I'd be thinking about what that said about me.
Please the guy by sleeping with him on the first date? Never mind 'pleasing the guy' - it's more about doing the right thing. I'm getting too old I guess. I did have a one night stand with a girl when I was 19 - we were at it within 10 minutes of my walking through her door and meeting her for the very first time. First and last time I'd ever do such a thing. I was such a whore then.
It's a person we're meeting, not a sex toy, and that one night brought it home to me. Value ourselves and we don't need to think about all this kind of stuff at all. Sex on the first date? They wish. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 4:50:36 PM | i am mad at men for thinking us woman are easy. they come on to us on a first date and act like they really care alot for us. then we as woman with feeling give in and what do they do? they stop seeing us acting like we are no good but they sure are. we also have needs but it don,t make us cheap or woman that sleep around. sometimes it is just strong feelings. as woman we need to stick up for each other here men shouldn,t play with our hearts and minds we have feelings deep ones as they do. i had men that act like they really cared alot about me then after one or two dates i never hear from them agane. well men this hurts us alot and if we give we are mark easy,no good and if we don,t like she said a tease or you don,t want us it is plain stupid. your passing up so many woman that can make you happy but you rather play them as fools. how crule can you get here? i am so hurt myself on here i got liers,users,players of the mind. isn,t their any wonderful decent guys among you here at all? i am a really sweet woman i don,t deserve to be hurt like some of these men do on here and us other woman don,t either. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 4:56:23 PM | aids and so many things are floating around out there. but why can,t men wait for us instead of presuring us into sex. knowing us and seeing if we can get along is more importen than wanting sex and then droping us if you get it. we are woman with deep feeling men not sex objects and something to use and than toss away. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:12:25 PM | | I say, get it while you can, some day you might not be able. If you are a cosenting adult and that is the choise you made iin the heat of passion or whatever, then so be it. Sounds like you didn t fight it off. What about that glance accross a store and the passionate sex that ensues with a perfect stranger. Something never to forget. Is that a bad thing? Or just YOUR fantasy | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:21:33 PM | as I do not follow this practice currently, if she sleeps with me on a first date it's only possible (99,999999%) if she raped me, so I may report the case to the police and make charges against her
seriously speaking, I don't sleep with any woman I meet after the first date...not looking for one-night stands.
even if we feel chemistry, I would say the possibility of a quick rush to sleep with each other would be 0,000001%. | |
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Posted: 12/17/2007 5:30:03 PM | Sleep? Man that term irks me. I'm not anal either. Well. Maybe sometimes.
Hey. Whatever floats your boat ladies and germs. Just be prepared for the fallout is all. If you have no expectations for anything other than the (live for the moment) feeling............giddy up. BUT. And a big but here. Not mine. :)
Anyhoooooooooooooo. BUT. If you are ASSUMING more than the moment...........you have no one to blame but YOU.
I thank you. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 5:32:52 PM | | Dont be so dang anal and calculative Smilly. Heck youve been talkin to her for how long on the net. Probably to long in your case. But if you like this person and hit it off,,, Let the chips fall. I too have had long relationships with a woman after having sex on the first date. Losen your ties, let down your hair and see what goes on in the world. Everybodys so uptight these days. They sell protection almost every where now days | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 6:22:34 PM | | Right on . I am fifty one yrs old , have had 6 intimate relationships in my life and just recently slept with a guy after a first date. The fact that he may judge me on that would be his problem. I use to worry about what others thought all the time, but as I get older , I would rather regret what i do, than regret what i didn't do. Nice to see a non judgmental man with an open mind. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:09:49 PM | has nothing to do with respect or disrespect..its all about how they dont want more than sex to start with...tho they spin it so they sound like the innocent victim...
and thats a fact jack! | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:12:10 PM | Well, if your having sex, first date or not, there is some chemistry going on. No one says 'this guy smells, but I think I'll do it anyway"
But in every sexual situation, you've only got a 50/50 chance of him calling the next day.
The way I see it, if it feels good, do it......deal with tomorrow, well... tomorrow
I don't see the need for name calling, second guessing, assumptions, etc....... | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:55:14 PM |
Both of my LTR ( 7 & 10 years ) started with a first date that became a sleep-over. The weird thing is that all of my short-term-relationships took many dates before we eventually hit the hay. Hmmm... Maybe sleepovers are a sign of a potential LTR for me. 
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/17/2007 7:58:37 PM | | My longest relationship started with second date nookie.. and it was only the second date because we were unable to be alone at all on the first date.. though not for lack of trying. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/1/2009 8:56:24 PM | (Pls read to the end)
The only place for me to leave to is where I am.
No Goodbyes.
Maybe a Hello, to myself.
Seminars ,
For all the lonely people beckons
At the level few grasp Law: the Rules of the Game must be reintroduced back to from whence it came. Law that is common to use as rules for life: the Golden Rule, Not, He who stole the Gold rules!
I have compassion for your Lonely Friend.
Hell ! I am your lonely Friend
“Ah, look at all the lonely people
Ah, look at all the lonely people
Eleanor Rigby picks up the rice in the church where a wedding has been
Lives in a dream
Waits at the window, wearing the face that she keeps in a jar by the door
Who is it for?
All the lonely people
Where do they all come from ?
All the lonely people
Where do they all belong ?
Father McKenzie writing the words of a sermon that no one will hear
No one comes near.
Look at him working. darning his socks in the night when there's nobody there
What does he care?
All the lonely people
Where do they all come from?
All the lonely people
Where do they all belong?
We have lost the connection to one another.
Eleanor Rigby died in the church and was buried along with her name
Nobody came
Father McKenzie wiping the dirt from his hands as he walks from the grave
No one was saved
All the lonely people
Where do they all come from?
All the lonely people
Where do they all belong?”
We really belong with one another in some sense of Companionship and on the Commons with a Common Knowledge and Understanding taken by the Power Elite, under the Colour of Law
We have had stolen our Covenant with The Above
And in it’s place given an usurpation as if it where stuck Right Devine. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/1/2009 10:00:20 PM |
i am mad at men for thinking us woman are easy. they come on to us on a first date and act like they really care alot for us. then we as woman with feeling give in and what do they do?
Gahhhh!! Mah head hurts. .......sigh......
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/2/2009 8:15:03 AM |
Nice to see a non judgmental man with an open mind.
And of course no men post self-serving comments in the hopes that some woman will
read it and think it's ok to sleep with him on the first date..... | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:40:29 AM | | If a woman sleeps with you on the first date she is considered a slut. Then what are we to think about all the men out there that want sex on the first date? Players? It is probably a one night stand....What happened to actually getting to know one another before sex? | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:43:30 AM | If it happened with me the first night, it happened with other guys the first night. That makes her easy and that's just gross.
Ok. Then if she slept with 20 guys on the first date she is gross but if she slept with 20 guys on the second date she is ............what?????????? ...........
Personally I don't like exchanging body fluids with total strangers but that's my personal preference.
However there's an old English saying ........familiarity breeds contempt. Maybe some people like to have sex quickly with someone new before they get to know them and are turned off. That way they may not get a relationship but at least they get laid. It's at least logical.
Anyway, what do you call the guys - are they just gross too or are they gross hypocrites who have sex with women they have contempt for...........and why would a man get off on someone they despise.......there's something wrong with that equation...........?????????
I'm confused. Please clarify this superior male logic so a dumb broad like me can follow. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/2/2009 9:58:07 AM | I like sex but I don't like sleeping with someone. Too hot, there's no room for my cat and laptop and they usually snore and then you have to deal with them in the morning when they have bad breath and no toothbrush and that's my quiet time etc. etc.
It's a drag when men assume I want them to fall asleep with me after I've ravaged their body lol. That's why the kitchen counter is better for sex. It's usually about the right height for bending over or sitting on and it doesn't have sheets to change AND it's closer to the front door. Cold but true.
Anyway, I have a really hard time thinking well of a guy that makes it obvious he would have sex with me on the first date. Even the second. Seems indiscriminate and from reading this thread that lack of boundaries is probably going to come with a large dose of hypocrisy so down with hypocritical man sluts. Yuck, what a turn off. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/2/2009 12:13:07 PM | Anyway, what do you call the guys - are they just gross too or are they gross hypocrites who have sex with women they have contempt for...........and why would a man get off on someone they despise.......
Opportunistic?
For animals that live widely separated from one another, it may take a lot of effort to find anyone of the opposite sex during the mating season. ...locating a mate -- any mate -- is a big problem. Out on the fringes of a species' range there may be few potential sexual partners to pick and choose from, so it is a good strategy to be able to grab what is going even if it's sub-optimal. Women do this all the time too, so it should be easy to understand.
I have a really hard time thinking well of a guy that makes it obvious he would have sex with me on the first date. Even the second...
And so goes another blow to the idea that women just want honesty from men. Of course if he were to know this in advance, he'd likely hide the fact from you in an effort to help you get what you want.
But you're right, overt sexual signals by men are usually a turn-off to women, suggesting you want someone who signals covertly like a woman. Just like covert sexual signals by women are a turn-off to men, who tend to want someone who signals overtly like a man. Welcome to The Great Gender Divide.
...Seems indiscriminate
Or he could just be really into you. Unless you tag him and track him for some time there's no way to know whether it's him or you.
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 8/2/2009 7:41:52 PM | My question is if you are looking for a relationship why sleep with someone on the first date?
Having sex and wanting a relationship are not the same thing. I've gotten into relationships with women who sleep with me on the first date. If a woman doesn't want to have sex with me after a couple of dates, she either isn't attracted to me enough for sex or a relationship or she doesn't have similar enough views on sex for a relationship.
but why can,t men wait for us instead of presuring us into sex. knowing us and seeing if we can get along is more importen than wanting sex
I never pressure a woman for sex, I just don't call a woman back once I realize she don't see the time frame the same way I see it. Wanting sex IS part of seeing if we can get along. I really don't see the problem. If you don't want to have sex, don't have sex. Just accept the fact that no matter what you do, you'll rule someone out. | |
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