| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/27/2005 5:59:42 PM | | Coffee ..... Sex .......... at least I'd be staying awake after . could be a good thing . just don't push the mocha latte with a twist cause I hate french food !! | |
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| So You would just screw the guy to shut hum up?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:00:28 PM | And how is it a no win situation?
If You don't give in to him he might not date You again? There's a keeper!
And the double standard is only convenient for some peoples minds!
I guess if you both just want to get laid, it doesn't really matter, but the chances
of develping a relationship, with mutual respect is somewhat diminished?
Why would any two people who would like to develope a relationship, want
to bypass all the good stuff? Courting and romancing and tenderness and soft
heartfelt words are the things that create fond memories and create the real
mental spiritual bonding of one another! Unless You go through this slow ritual
I don't believe You can expect to have a deep rooted long term relationship?
There's nothing like the building of tension between one another, and it's
the part that is encompassing the mind and soul, once you get down to the
sex part, at least for the very first time, if it's rushed, it's just a physical
release which of course is good, but can be as much ant-climactic as climactic? | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:34:40 PM | | Ive never been called a tease of anything by not 'putting out' on a date first or otherwise. Thats just high school stuff. I if I did hear that out of date and juvenile comment I would not be 'dating' the guy again. I dont like to do anything on a first date - ever I just dont know them, and also I see it as a sign of strength and character that the guy doesnt mind waiting. Its a great first step to building respect for each other. If someone doesnt want to be with you because there is no s***x involved...then you are better off without them in the long run | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/28/2005 8:59:45 PM | | Sharinda, I never meant to indicate that I have not done that in the past. What I meant was that, when I have done that in the past, the relationship didnt work out. I actually do not, would not, tell you not to have sex on the first date. Actually, I dont care what you do. But based upon my experience, things turn out bad that way. Thought I was going to get all defensive, go into denial....LOL.... I am not that way girl. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/28/2005 9:47:35 PM | Well there is nothing written in the stars that prevents two people from having sex and getting to know one another at the same time.
In fact, it's a pretty good way to get to know someone you intend on being intimate with for a long time to come.
It's also fun.
Those who are convinced that having sex "too early" will doom a relationship merely reveal more about themselves than anyone else...of course this has been said many times but it is soooo worth repeating. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:05:46 PM | Again, five years ago, and certainly ten, I would have agreed with tdandh. But the older you get, the more you say, what is wrong with waiting?? Its not the end of the world. And I can also tell you there are more than a few books out there that would disagree with the opinion that first date sex is good. So, you can take it or leave it. Regardless, you wont get in my pants the first time out | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:36:42 PM | Previously Sharinda911 stated that the only person she slept with on the first date she was married to for 10 years. A little bird told me that while factually true, they were friends for about 9 years before that "first date". Ghosts in the forest, watchin' out for the holes, who knew? And the infamous "she loves me she just doesn't know it yet". While things didn't work out for us I can say I still have a good friend.
Thank you Sharinda for a pair of wonderful children. | |
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Joined: 11/9/2005
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/28/2005 10:44:24 PM | ^^^Not sure who "they" is supposed to be but I suspect you are very wrong.
Oh and btw...I'm taken, there is nothing for me to gain by lying to you. Consider that when you read posts from guys who would never have sex on the first date.... | |
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Joined: 11/9/2005
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/28/2005 11:58:08 PM | I'm saying guys DO lie to get in a woman's pants...eg Oh I'll still respect you in the morning
Before you jump on me when I wasnt talking about you, I do realise there are exceptions | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/29/2005 12:31:33 AM | Let me break it down for u sex on the first night can be good but it can also be bad. If both of u agree that sex on the 1st night is ok and u r looking 4fwb then it's O.K. On the other hand sex on the 1st day could end it all most men like a hard catch, like myself if a lady gives it up on the 1st night I would think only 1 thing sex only nothing more nothing less, I could expand on this issues but i'm going to keep it short | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/29/2005 1:32:20 AM | | ^^^ he has a point. I dont think there is anything wrong with it all. Its just if you want MORE from a guy - its not a good thing to do in that respect. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 11/29/2005 1:33:21 AM | | ^^^ he has a point. I dont think there is anything wrong with it all. Its just if you want MORE from a guy - its not a good thing to do in that respect. And by more I dont mean MORE of the fun stuff for all those wise a** waiting to pounce haha. I mean in regards to a possible relationship | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 2:09:07 PM | hooraaaaaaaaaay for Sharinda,
luv it....thats what they all want....but does it say that in their profile......"long-term" my butt!....only means they'd like to see u more then once for the great sex they got the first time!!
Wish everyone can just be honest with what they want and desire!!! The old saying guys that one "miss right".....the fantasy woman u all think is out there! Gotta take the car out for atestdrive b4 u buy it? What a long lonely life if u find out later...the seat just doesnt fit your buttt!!!!!
Stay real and enjoy!
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 2:16:30 PM | It doesn't matter how much you tell him, "this is the first time I ever did it on the first date"
a guy will never believe it.
Better off to leave sex on the first date alone!! | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 8:10:30 PM | It doesn't matter how much you tell him, "this is the first time I ever did it on the first date" a guy will never believe it.
Under what circumstance I need to tell this ? let alone why he has to believe it. If I declare I enjoy having sex as much as he does, he would faint????
Gosh, forget about that nonsenses for now and let me tell you a real story happened in 1960's in hoping to gain a smile or two. 
My husband had me on the first date. For long time after our marriage, he still believed that had he not bed me down right on that night, he would never had a chance to marry me. I was a beauty when I was young and he knew there were at least half dozen of suitors at my door. At that time, once a woman slept with a man, then she is HIS, nobody should and would lay a hand on her as a moral. How my husband looked? Well, before he met me, he had different girls almost every 3 or 4 days. Girls followed him everywhere. And my daughter still see her dad as the most handsome man she has ever seen.
We got married 3 years later, and he had never dated any other girl since that night. The reason why waited for so long is that I wanted him to know I marry him for his love to me but not because of "I must".
So you telling me "once a womanizer always a womanizer"? and you ask "and if she sleeps with you on the first day"...... I sure have fun in answering this I must say......
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Posted: 12/21/2005 8:16:04 PM | So... On what basis other than sex are you expecting a relationship to grow??
On the occasions where i have done the first date sex thang... The relationship never did last very long...
I believe you need to start by showing each other that there is mutual respect before hitting the sheets.
If you think that is done in a first date... Think again. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 9:09:22 PM | One of the best relationships I have had was with a lovely girl whom I slept with from the first night we met and we stayed together for two and a half years. That was 23 years ago and I'm still sorry I let her go... Foolish youth....
Oh and CountrySugar, you are right on and sweet as hell when you drink... in vinos veritas | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 9:14:34 PM | | hmm..if you aren't going to make it in the sexual compatability dept....then what's the use? Sometimes better to find out right off the bat. That being said...a lot of relationships have turned out well with the first date sex....some haven't. It's a personal choice....NOT a rule written in stone. I've perferred to wait a bit myself, but not always. Just doing what seemed right at that time is the way to go...but protect yourself. | |
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 9:20:30 PM | Wait a sec....a chick who puts out on the first night is cheap? Um...and the guy she did? What is he? Also cheap by those standards.
Or is he just the innocent victim of that cheap overzealous tramp who overpowered the poor shcmuck and took what she wanted.
Riiiggghhht. | |
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 9:22:44 PM | i may be off here but there apppears to be a pattern of it is the females problem if you have sex on the first night  
why is it not equally the guys problem if it is a problem at all (should not be a problem)we are adults are we not
i have had two relationships that lasted about ten years in both cases we slept together the first night and no we did not know each other beforehand
hey if you want to think down on someone because they slept w/you on the first nite chances are it is your lose and maybe they should think down on you as well or even more so
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| And if she sleeps with you on the first date?
Posted: 12/21/2005 9:23:59 PM | "I love how people have these 'rules' associated with emotions...."
Hmmm, emoitions are very very delicate. I think a few simple rules like,keep your legs shut on the first night.. isn't such a bad rule in oder to ensure both of your emotions are real. But to each his own. | |
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