|Falsified ProfilesPage 5 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)|
|I agree lying is not a good thing and it does waste peoples time in alot of cases, not every. Sometimes I've found a little fib can avoid trouble when the truth isn't going to help anyone (i.e. Does this make me look fat, honey? ummmmm... why no dear, not at all) lol|
Faked profiles. Totally bogus aren't they? I've seen em, but personally I haven't had any problems with them. They kinda creep me out is all. I don't really know who I'm talking to, but never had one really waste my time. That sucks that that happened to you.
As far as wiping out all the faked profiles and profiles with innaccurate info on them, I don't see how that would be possible. Maybe in the future if the get better methods of verifying people when they register, but I'm almost certain that nearly everyone online is hiding at least one thing a million strangers don't have a need to know about, don't you?
No one is ever completely honest, especially on the internet. In any case divulging too much is kind of dangerous. Don't want some nut showing up at my door and rob me or some craziness like that.
I'll bet if you did delete alot of those profiles right now there'd only be a handful of people left on here. There can't really be a real way to verify what anyone says is true unless you read their minds or know them personally.
That doctor could really just be a meter maid for all we know. lol
Posted: 1/8/2006 10:14:53 AM
|Ok, I've not had time to read the whole of this thread so, apologies if someone has aready said the following:|
Yes, there are plenty of peeps out there who post false profiles.......does this mean everyone you've met in first in person (ie bar, club, speedating) is 'not' lying to you. Isn't it possible that these people also give you false information?
Just a thought.
Posted: 1/10/2006 2:40:10 AM
|I recently chatted to someone on a site, who had no picture, we ended up chatting on msn, he then put a picture on there.. he looked quite a bit older than his stated age, so I asked him what his age was... he was 7 years older than his profile said... I asked him why he did this, his reply was "everyone on dating sites knocks at least 5 years of their age".. I replied.. "I don't..goodbye" He could not understand why i wasn't interested after that.|
Posted: 1/10/2006 4:30:51 AM
|Yeah lying isn't right. And maybe the people HE knows do it. Sure isn't EVERYone. Dunno people speak for everyone like that.|
Posted: 1/10/2006 9:56:11 AM
|i agree ,i have seen people with a nice main photo ,when u look at there profile its not them .they may have a little bit of a look of the person ,they have put up as there main photo but u can tell a mile off its not them .i have seen it with men and woman it makes me laugh .they lie about there age ,how tall they r they r so sad wots the point in lieing i have ment a few people they do not look like there photo at all .i have walked off he he|
Posted: 1/12/2006 6:40:27 AM
|I thought of another couple reasons people do it (in case anyone's interested):|
- attractive females tend to get a more positive response and are treated with more patience and tolerance than the rest of us. So it may be that the person posing is just trying to get a civilized or kind response to a posting they made without the sarcasm or callousness or impatience people treat overweight or old or less attractive persons with.
- in real life if you rub some people the wrong way they never let you live it down, no matter how much you may change or repent your ways. And your not always allowed to start over, therefore having to live with your decisions. I think the internet has made it possible to get a fresh start.
And no matter how much you might ignore them or report them, they are still there bugging you or trying to humiliate you in front of everyone.
If someone in a chat room or forum is arguing with you, trying to embarrass you or just won't let you live a previous posting down but you want to keep posting to the thread or chat with the others in the room, then the posers might create a second profile and return to that thread or chat room as a second person and be able to continue posting/chatting without being harrassed by those people that won't let them start over or move on.
Its kind of what I call the "Batman/Bruce Wayne" theory. You can be looking right at and talking to that 2nd person and never even know its that original person that you were harrassing. Hence the fresh start and being allowed to let things die. You can't do that in real life, but you can do it on the internet.
Just a pair of ideas.
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:00:19 AM
|Hands up those who are so perfect that they have never told a lie in their life. Ever thought that the person may actually believe their profile. Watch 'POP IDOL' on TV and you will see how people deluded themselves that they can sing and are gods gift to men or women. I must confess to lying here myself. I don't have a wooden leg at all.|
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:13:27 AM
I must confess to lying here myself. I don't have a wooden leg at all.
I would advise you to take that animal pic off your profile also,if all of us on here can stick to the rules and not put up pics now of cats,dogs,monkeys etc then you should be able too.
PS I am a international hitman incase you ask!!
Posted: 5/23/2006 8:51:32 AM
|msg 111 "Hands up those who are so perfect that they have never told a lie in their life"|
that's why i have no friends
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:36:47 AM
|I don't know how others feel but people need to at least try to be honest on their profiles. I get a kick out of body types. Average = a few extra pounds, A few extra pounds = Heavy and Heavy = bring in the forklift. I am far from perfect but please understand that just because you own a camera doesn't mean your hobby is photography. Almost every women on the site says 'where are all the honest males?'. By your definition of honesty, then everyone on here is honest. Also... separated doesn't mean you are emotionally distant from your spouse... separated means you live in 'separate' locations... How hard is this?|
I don't know if its really a falsified profiles or just not seeing themselves accurately. The sad part about this whole thing is that if I met someone who says she has a few extra pounds on and she turned out to be really big, I would be turned off; not by her size but her dishonesty. The truth is that all women are beautiful and the more accepting of yourself that you are; the more endearing you become to the opposite sex.
Anyway, thats my blurb...
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:44:13 AM
|@Ivor_Woodenleg: don't have a wooden leg|
Ha ! You Petriburgians are all the same
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:47:25 AM
|@Tommy 9 ball.|
I just noticed your profile header and wondered if you were speaking from experience?
Posted: 6/2/2006 12:34:56 PM
|u cant just blame men for false profiles women do it too, a friend of mine is on here, she has put shes 39 when she is really 49 dont know wot she hopes to get out of that she does look good for her age,but personally i would rather have a bloke tell me i look good for bein 49 than sayin u look older than 39.|
Posted: 6/2/2006 12:43:49 PM
|May I just say godzilla, you look lovely for 49.|
Posted: 6/2/2006 3:50:43 PM
|Another reason for false profiles, is the search thingy, if someone is over 50 or even 60, and they are really young looking and fit, the search bit will miss them if the people looking have put, say.. 30 to 49.. .. |
Posted: 6/2/2006 5:12:33 PM
|Don't know why people bother to lie for..|
Its not clever to do it - makes you wonder if they can lie about the simple things
How they will be in real life
Credible trustworthy people tell the truth ALWAYS
No matter what the consequences...
Liars know they will always get found out in the end
Posted: 6/3/2006 2:28:22 AM
|Well judging from comments on here we could simply be in a cyber version of big brother in PoF forums.|
i.e. both have people with false profiles pretending to be something they are not all with the aim of causing embarrassment, anguish to others for their own amusement, being watched by others glued to their antics.
the mods are the hosts in the diary room and the psychologists deciding if we are still of a mental disposition to stay "in the house" and the rest of the site are the people who decide our fate by voting for us or not (unread deleted)
and rather than the cash prize, we are winners if we meet our reason for joining (talk/email, long term, other relationship etc.)
Posted: 6/3/2006 2:46:43 AM
|on the aussie forum we had a problem with quite a few fake profiles ,,people having 2 |
but fortunately a few got court out ,,they always make mistakes
there are still people who do it ,,but they are doing themselves harm
Posted: 6/3/2006 3:49:19 AM
|You will probably find tha the reason people falsify their profiles is something to do with low self esteem and confidance. |
After all a lot of people may have found themselves turning to a dating site becuase they have not found a boyfriend/girlfriend in the real world.
This leads them to think there is something wrong with them. Maybe they think they are fat and ugly. In todays world everything is emphisised on outward beauty (not that this is a new thing, the ancient greek culture, epecially sparta worshiped beautiful people) and lots of people think they just dont make the grade.
It certainly does not help, especially from the male point of view, with all the posts that say 'hunks only' or 'fit men only need apply' becuase most people are going to think 'ooooh, there is no way i will make the grade then'.
Its a fact that only vain people think they are beautiful, after all beauty is in the eye of the beholder. so if you think you are beautiful, you look at yourself too much.....
what i am basically saying is dont be too angry with those who would feel that they have to fake their profile becuase they are not good enough. instead of ridiculing them when you find out the truth, maybe a bit of encouragement and saying, 'your not that bad' if they show you a worse picture, or 'ok so your not a rocket scientist, but i think coal mining is an interesting job'......then with confidance people would open up.
and for anyone who is thinking about faking a profile, just ask yourself what are you trying to achieve? I know what you are thinking. If you talk to her, make her laugh, she will fall for you anyway when she finds out that you dont have a car, work at tescos and have more chins than the chinese phone book.
well I am afraid you are fooling yourself my friend, because if she showed interest in such things, thats what she is interested in! If she was after finding a guy with a car and she finds you dont have it, she will moove on! Women who fancy themselves especially, will just tear through you when they find out this. Women with principles would also blow you off even if they do fancy you, just becuase you lied to them. Women who are nice and kind and dont like to say no might go with you but are going to feel brow beaten and you are not going to get a happy time out of it. And if you were a real man you wouldnt force yourself on someone who dosent want you anyway, and should feel like shit for even trying.
If you cant be yourself you are stuck becuase the technology isnt available yet for you to be someone else. Just be honest, and the right person will come along for you.
Dont care about what other people say about you if they dont like you then moooooooove on, be like the lady sat behind the post office counter, weigh it up, charge it up, dont smile at the customer unless you like them (not like some other shops, where they force the attendants to smile like americans!) and when you are finished, press the button to summon the next person.
Think that sounds harsh? life is harsh, sorry.
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:06:25 AM
|you certainly dont do things in halfs james lololol|
Posted: 6/3/2006 4:24:47 AM
|Well as the o2 advert says....|
its good to talk.
Posted: 6/3/2006 3:03:09 PM
|Well I have noticed that someone on here has changed their profile lying about their age, what is the point, he is going to get found out(maybe thats why the pics are gone, eh), and he says he doesn't smoke, christ he is like a chimney. I can't stand people who blatantly lie, it is not big, it is not clever and no one is the slightest bit impressed|