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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 3/27/2006 1:16:26 PM | Thanks Smile!! You made me laugh, I love that razor blade you call a tongue. If you ever want to share more laughs drop me a sign.
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 3/27/2006 5:56:43 PM | Illicit drug addiction and bisexuality.
There are others like listening to rap and superficiality which are straws that can break the proverbial camel's back but no-one's perfect and I can at least judge the person on overall merit and decide if the pros are outweighed by the cons or not. The first two are more like proverbial fridges dropped from an alarming height which bury the camel alive. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 5/11/2006 5:18:05 PM | | a lack of honesty and integrity, no morals ethics or values, selfishness, cowards/bullies (same thing), people who completely misjudge others based upon negativity, lies and gossip. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 5/11/2006 6:36:03 PM | liars, verbal & physical users, bad hygeine, poor/digusting public ettiquette, meaness, talking bad about children or old people, and a few others that my Fishy-buddies up there said ^^^    | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 5/11/2006 7:08:41 PM | I have to agree that poor dental hygiene, resulting in seriously foul odorous breath, was a deal breaker last weekend, for a girlfriend of mine who met someone here, and dated him twice. He was nice, intelligent, humourous, cool, and they got along great. but until he see's a dentist, and takes care of his mouth, it's a deal breaker.
My last two deal breakers happen to both be other forum topics.... penis size and alcoholism... lol
Two years ago I met a guy online and we instantly clicked. The e mails flew thick and fast, presents via snail mail, long, witty, brilliant exchanges of all sorts! Phone conversations flourished as we made plans to hook up. He lives down in the states, so long story short, it ended up being a pretty expensive first date for me, but no prob, I'm a big sport. . He was just great, a big sweet hot mountain man of a guy, six foot two, with a truck and a couple dogs... We love the same music, nice chemistry, he was a terrific kisser... but the big disappointment came the first night ... after necking like teenagers for what seemed like more than an hour on the bed, I was warmed up and ready for more.. I figured he was being a shy gentleman by not rushing me, so I took the initiative so he would not be unsure of my desires. My hand moved from his big strong beefy chest lower lower as I gently groped his crotch looking for a tell tale bulge to massage, I got nervous No discernible hard on in fact, from what I could tell, no****at all??? I got a little nervous , at this point, having never made out with a real live Ken doll before.. well it's a sad story, cuz he really is a really great guy, but was short changed in his endowment, I mean baby carrot here, I am talking my pinkie finger is larger than his flacid member. Small and limp was a deal breaker for me call me shallow call me a size queen yes he was perfectly able to satisfy me with his lips tongue and hands (which thank god were NOT freakishly wee) but tiny AND impotent ... whaaaa
I figured he probably had psychological problems in that area, and if he didn't already, I woulda given his some... made for a slightly uncomfortable week... lol
and I had to break up with the love of my life because he couldn't go a day without drinking something It is sooo not fun living with an alcoholic another deal breaker | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/7/2009 7:27:23 AM | my deal breakers are
1. Cant hold a conversation
2. Too serious about things and cant smile every once in a while, ( yes this has happened to me)
3. Sexually incompatible - I like certain things to be done during sex and all of them are deal breakers if my SO doesn't like to do these things, especially the frequency of sex because I would want sex at least every other day. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/7/2009 8:07:58 AM | | Well, spoke to a guy got on really great etc. on the phone all the time laughing etc. I have on my profile about at least having some teeth in the front preferrably as sooo many men dont!!!! We also discussed this on the phone, went to meet him and low and behold...... only ONE front tooth!!!! For god sake! I was so cross! That to me is a MASSIVE deal breaker!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:02:32 PM | i know it's STUPID ... but not to me...
If you go out to eat and the guy doesn't have a napkin on his lap, i won't go out with him again! If he doesn't have manners, he's not for me. Plain and simple as that. To me, it's the simplest things that tell a lot about a person! | |
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| More than one...
Posted: 7/7/2009 9:54:29 PM | ...baby daddy. An absolute. I don't care WHAT the reasoning is, I am not interested in someone who has two out of wedlock children with two different men. It tells me a lot more than napkin placement does.
In fact, I've tighten the rules since they were first created....any more than one child better also include an ex husband. Shit happens...once. Multiple babies out of wedlock is a bad look. Intelligent, prudent, responsible people learn from history, and don't repeat the same mistakes.
She has to weigh less than me. Not hard, but....
Must be intelligent, and capable of rational thought, along with interesting conversation.
No games. No phone tag games, no wait three days to call games. I am going to call when I want to speak to you. It might be the next day, if I am having positive thoughts. It might be that night in fact (have done it before) I will leave a message if I don't reach you. I will not be calling a second time. If you think I called too soon to thank you for your company and express my desire to see you again because I am desperate or whatever, great - please decline my my invitation to go out again. I am not interested in dating someone that banal. You are doing me a favor.
We are on a timetable...one week of messages..and no more. One week of phone calls...and no more. 1st date within two weeks of first contact (quick coffee meet and greet is fine), 2nd date within one week of the first. 3rd within one week of the 2nd. That is 5 weeks worth of contact. A month. There are only 12 in the year. Let's get on with it while we are still young. Or not, but I ain't got time t waste while you make up your mind.
Escalating physical intimacy. I don't need first date sex, in fact, I don't need first date anything (though I don't recall ever having a relationship that didn't have some form of intimacy on the first date....and in most cases it was sex), but each date has to be steamier than the proceeding one. If the temperature ain't rising, we are wasting our time. I don't need any "let's just be friend's" speech after 5 weeks of time and effort invested...let's just nip this shit ASAP.
Must have the same perspective regarding sex as myself - it is something to be shared not bartered and it is acceptable to have sex for the sake of sex if you feel attracted to and comfortable with someone. Love is not a requirement....I want to be having sex with someone sooner than it is going to take me to figure out if I love them. If someone feels like love or any other out sized emotional attachment and investment is required for sex, then we are not compatible. If their perspective is that this is a big deal because they are "sharing themselves" with me, and accordingly, if things go badly they might just be emotionally damaged forever, then we aren't compatible. We are having sex because we want to, and no one is on any greater emotional footing than anyone else. If you aren't as anxious to jump my bones as I am yours, and if it somehow means more to you than "I both like and am attracted to this person to the degree that I want to have sex with them", then don't worry about it. You aren't for me. Feel free to assume that if I am having sex with you, I like you and want to see you again. Every time I've had a ONS, it was because I never heard from the woman again. That said, it isn't a marriage proposal, it doesn't mean I love you, and it doesn't mean we should be making plans to meet each others family. It might mean we aren't doing it with anyone else...let's talk about it. It might mean we aren't dating anyone else....lets talk about it. But it doesn't mean I love you. It doesn't mean we have a future beyond the next date. It is JUST sex...it isn't a commitment. And you need to feel the same way. | |
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| More than one...
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:44:18 AM | the person above me just made me think of some more that are definitely deal breakers for me
4. I will generally only wait 1 week for the first date but if there is extenuating circumstances I will wait 2 weeks maximum, after all we are here to look for a date and not a pen pal
5. Must have the same perspective regarding sex as myself - it is something to be shared not bartered.
6. I want to be having sex sooner rather than later because I don't want to be to attached to you just in case we are sexually incompatible.
7. if you are going to make me wait months for sex then you are not the person for me , making me wait months for sex tells me you aren't all that interested in me.
8. If you aren't as anxious to have sex with me as I am you then you are not the person for me, love develops over time attraction does not it is already there from the beginning. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/8/2009 12:02:25 PM |
LOL...read my profile, all my dealbreakers are listed there! Abso-freakin-lootely. I don't like euphamisms, beating around the bush, hinting. You get what you see with me. As Popeye would put it; "I yam what I yam."
The only additon I would make is that if you do read my profile, don't fit my needs and message me with a proposal anyway.....that is a real deal breaker. I know, I know, you're so "all that," I shouldn't be able to resist you, but fair warning, I'll force myself.
I had one guy write complaining, "How can you have so many conditions when you're married?" I just said, "Because I can." But in a nice way. LOL
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:34:46 PM | | How can you exclude "farters" ? All people fart .. it's nature. Do you not fart then ? Just wondering | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/8/2009 3:38:43 PM | For me it is not being prejudice. I am not one of those that don't feel you have to the right to believe what you wish but when it comes to you believing you are superior to another because of your race, your family background, economic status and others then that is when I can't stand it.
Oh and women with diva'ish attitudes. Absolute deal breakers.
Funk I can excuse atleast once because many variables can be attributed to why you may have funky breath, underarms or even cooch. But if it is a consistent everyday problem then yes something has to give and I am giving you the heeve ho. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/8/2009 6:44:03 PM | Being absolutely and embarrassingly drunk in public is a big deal breaker for me!
I once had a date get so drunk that he fell down at a concert in front of Edgar Winter's band while wearing cowboy boots. I was mortified as I was right by Edgar and could have met the whole band in a cool and private atmosphere.
But you know, maybe it was the cowboy boots. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:15:50 PM | | that's easy: 1. i'm not physically attracted, 2. i don't think he has enough education. they both have to be there (let's assume he's not jack the ripper here!) | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:53:19 PM | DEALBREAKERS IN THE KEY OF D:
1) If I am at dinner with a lady who has to be on the cell phone every minute, while we eat and NOT communicate with me, I will leave that person with the bill without regret and leave. Been there and done it!
2) If a woman is still crying over her ex and not over him, sorry, got no time for her, she needs to kick rocks and think about her situation.
3) If a woman drops a false number when offering to keep in contact, that shows no class and believe me payback is a b***h and karma is a whore. Trust me! JUST SAY NO and be cool about it. Finished!
4) If a woman has to speak for another woman when a guy approaches her in a respectful manner, it shows me that she cannot hold her own in certain situations. Be straight and have mannerisms, and show respect to one another. Believe me, she will be more respected for that ANY DAY from ANYONE, trust me.
5) CHEATING! SELF EXPLANATORY!
6) For all those who may be single mothers of kids. I congratulate you all for holding your own and being good caregivers and role models to your children. However, even if the men have done foul by you and don't hold up their end of the bargain in being a father, dismissing ALL men does NOT do any justice. Everybody is different. We all have to know that EVERYBODY is DIFFERENT. Give people a chance to shine!
7) Closed-mindedness! I am not saying to do everything that is out there. Just try one new thing every so often, believe me, you can surprise yourself in what you can achieve and possibly how love can come your way. :)
All the best. DEUCES!
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/9/2009 12:53:40 AM | inconsiderate
smoker
liar/boaster
sexual intolerance
ignorance
poor hygiene
narrow-mindedness
jealous
manipulative
low libido
lack of common sense
poor communicator
drug user
irresponsible
sarcasm
messy | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/9/2009 2:52:29 PM | Let's see here...
Kids.
If I see this on any POF profile, I'm hitting hit the back button. I'm not going to raise another man's kids.
Being addressed as "Papi".
A major put-off. If I date a woman who thinks that it's a good idea to address me as that, then I'll remind her once, and only once, that I am not her dad. Being addressed by her as if I'm her dad seriously creeps me out. If she gets upset or tries to do it again, then I'm dumping her on her ass.
Tattoos/piercings.
Sorry, not my thing.
Degrees in either Psychology, Nursing, Social Work, or Education.
It gets real boring when around two-thirds of the POF women with a college education are studying for one of those degrees. I prefer someone who's studying something a little bit more challenging, or at least something different.
Drug users.
I'll just say that I won't allow my money and stuff to turn up missing for some reason.
Leading me on to believe that we are dating, and then telling me later on that you just want to be friends.
If you want to be just friends with me, then please let me know at the very beginning (or on POF) before we first agree to meet. But if you say that we are dating, then we are dating, otherwise I am severing all ties with you. I am not going to waste my time with that kind of indecisiveness and deception, when I could be with a woman who really does want to be my girlfriend.
That's it for now. | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/9/2009 3:13:57 PM | - always breaking plans (I understand things come up, but I need to know that I'm important enough to put something aside for a bit, so we can spend time together)
- lying or making excuses
- always being negative | |
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| What are your deal breakers
Posted: 7/9/2009 3:59:04 PM | 1. Rudeness
2. Coming on too strong talking about sex too soon with me, someone they barely know. We'll get there. Being romantic means being respectful to a woman, get to know her first.
3. Insulting or criticing me or my tastes in music, ideas, etc.
4. Not liking my cats or you can just be nice to them at least
5. Pressuring me to do things I don't want to do
6. Not into motorcycles, no offense, but I don't feel safe riding them
7. Being wishy-washy, flaky. Be real, honest, and be consistent in the way you treat me | |
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