| single and forty....
Posted: 12/29/2004 11:57:04 PM | Perhaps he has just not delivered it all to you yet...
~~Dragon Rider~~
The Dragon awakes, hope rises again
Happy New Year Folks | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 11:35:25 AM | | Hey Squeak, is it true that naughty girls are more fun than nice ones? | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 12:45:55 PM | | Nice girls who are also naughty are the best ones.... | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 1:57:20 PM | Woohoo! Oh, you live in the wrong d*mn continent :(
Ah well, I can dream :) | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 2:04:23 PM | God I hope thats not true... because I think its going to take me
that long to find a decent person to be with... | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:01:54 PM | No, it's true, I live in Holland. And so many lovely woman here DON'T! Damn and blast.
Shannanigan, i checked your profile, and it is nice to see someone who can spell whiskey.
If you cannot find true love, there is always the consolation of Bushmills, Jameson, Powers..... | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:06:52 PM | Well, I think a big thing is that older people have seen more pitfalls
in relationships and are pitfall conscious and more apt to pull the plug
quickly as soon as a familiar pitfall comes into view.
Whereas youngsters are more apt to take the attitude, "Oh you have
a completely different attitude about (so and so) than me.... oh well,
we can work it out - as long as the sex is still hot..."
Or something along those lines. Someone who has already been thru an
incompatibility may project it into becoming more pronounced over the years
and opts out right away.
This could be good in that, if you do hook up, you have a better chance to
stay. OR not good because someone can exagerate the incompatiblility in
their mind and simply chicken out.
Every relationship is different because people are made of myriad areas
of infinite shades of gray
E | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:07:18 PM | Naughty???
I cannot understand why sexuality is naughty.....to me, it is natural....
naughty is egging your neighbors house or putting saran wrap on the toilet.... | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:28:25 PM |
Shannanigan, i checked your profile, and it is nice to see someone who can spell whiskey.
ROFL! Anyone who can't spell Whiskey should be shot.... 
Jamesons is my personal favorite and the only thing I take home from the bar....  | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:36:28 PM | Not sure that 'naughty' was referencing sexuality... I'm all for non-sexual naughtiness. In the best possible taste, obviously. But I am also up for sexuality-directed naughtiness (natural or inspired and imaginative).
I think the 'naughty sex' thing came from 'Life of Brian' as in the scene where after a night of passion with Ruth, the multitude call him Messiah and his mum yells 'He's not the messiah, he's a naughty, naughty boy'. Sadly it was a movie, and I never got the night of passion with Ruth. In all other respects the movie was pretty close.....
I guess saran wrap is clingfilm :) Happy (naughty) memories..... | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:40:30 PM |
Jamesons is my personal favorite and the only thing I take home from the bar...
Make a date in your diary - the 400 year celebration at Bushmill's, County Antrim, is almost upon us (well, a few years). Check the website. Make plans. Best whiskey (Jameson's is one of Bushmill's, but from Coleraine, I think). Will be a blast. Yes, I am going, if i live that long.. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 10:36:22 PM | I think that is probably true if you are living in the Middle East. 
This whole idea of difference in ages between two people making devastating impacts on relationships is as significant as they want to make it.
If I choose to follow popular psychological theory, it's time for me to chase younger women in order to recapture lost youth. (Someone should do a study to see if that is the reason men die younger than women) If I choose to believe in the "gods of Madison Avenue" that focus on the young, it's time for me to join a monastery.
One of my favourite quotes is; "If you don't know the kind of person I am and I don't know the kind of person you are, a pattern that others made may prevail in the world and following the wrong god home we may miss our star." (Don't you wish that you were as old as I and had time to look up profound quotes? Patience, grasshopper.)
Because, living this philosophy, I frequent dating sites searching for a "kindred spirit" who is as beautiful to me as the first blush of "puppy love". If I never find her, I can enjoy the journey. If I find her, if for only a day, we will have lived a lifetime.
(Damn, that was good!)
Don't worry about the "number-crunchers" that come up with all the statistics, all the similes or all the surveys. You are more than statistics, more than the similes, or the results of all the surveys. You are unique in the universe; have your own special magic; your own special way.
I think I saw that movie as well. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/30/2004 10:51:01 PM | squeak funny girl...
ya your right why do we want to make just one man miserable
when there are so many...ha ha ! | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 12/31/2004 3:18:41 AM | | I must have been 40 when I was 16 because of paying attention to others relationships I have always held a high standard, not just for me but for who ever my future partner would be. I have a desire to be as happy as humanly possible in a relationship. I think that is what everyone else wants too. So I have always believed that I can not just go on my gut feelings. I have known so many that did and they are either unhappy now or divorced. I have never taken the plunge because of trying to get it right the first time. Now that I am really in my 40's I find that most people have not been doing what I have and that finding someone has become more difficult that I would have ever thought. Can't change it just have to deal with it. Welcome to the real world. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/2/2005 6:33:46 PM |
."ya know, it's easier to get shot by a terrorist than it is to find love and get married when you are in your 40's"...
These days is getting easier to be shot by a terrorist.
I have given up entirely at 45. Of finding love and getting married, not of being shot. I don't think anyone wants what I am at this age. I don't look right, or have enough money, so that makes me invisible to most women right there. Of the women who might look past looks and money, most are divorced. My experience with divorced women is they already proved it isn't worth it to them to make a relationship work. They had a man they loved, and now they have an ex they hate. The divorce was his fault, they think. What this tells me is the woman will turn against me if things get tough. I may be wrong but from what I read in ads, women are looking for a "good" man to replace the "bad" one they got rid of. I just think it's an attitude that spells trouble. The women who are loving and who like men and who meet you half way, they are still married. I am open to the possibility that there are some divorced women who own their share of the previous relationship drama. I just don't see any sign of them online. So I estimate my chances around zero at this point. I'm just settling into the idea of living alone. It helps being able to look back and think I had fun while it lasted. No complaints there. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/2/2005 7:17:08 PM | | ^^^ not true about the divorced women... I am divorced, love my ex, he's my best friend still, and I know a heck of a lot more about relationships and making them work than I did before. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/3/2005 7:13:05 AM | | I find that the men want divorced women with children, since they seem to think that I am a loser since I haven't been married. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/3/2005 8:04:21 PM | Oldsarge,
You are indeed wise!
Love your quote and your own personal philosophy.
I think I have to take back my original quote from "When Harry Met Sally".
I think I may have found love....
And on line even! Who knew...... | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/4/2005 4:50:47 PM | lml4s - that's not entirely true. i left my marriage becuz we couldn't communicate (other than b*tching & fighting all the time). i did think the grass was greener on the other side, but i found out too late that it certainly wasn't.
i'm not looking for a "good" man to replace the "bad" man that i got rid of. if anything, i was the one blamed for being bad, or being the cause of everything that went wrong. i still think highly of him & what he showed me about the loyalty, etc., that's possible for a man.
as i said before, it does get much holder to find a mate when you get older. you not only have that longer grocery list of needs/wants, but at least half the population is spoken for. so it's like your chances are already cut down by at least 50% right off the bat (the spoken for ones); & then you gotta cut it down another 50% of that (for your needs/wants which are much more specific)... ending up with like 25% of the chance you had when you were in your 20's.
& then there's some of us (not mentioning any names!) who are even more picky than that & don't want someone who claims to be "average" or "normal" for his gender (i.e., when someone doesn't want a hunter or football fanatic in hunting/football-ville - it lessens the chance more than you can even imagine!).
so what's the answer? settle for less! yeah, right. unfortunately some of us don't want the "next available guy"... i myself can't be with someone romantically unless i'm totally attracted to them..... i suppose others may say, "me, too - me, too! duh..." but i think there are a lot out there who get in relationships/marriages just to have that security & so they don't have to be alone... some can put up with a lot of things that might bother them, so they settle for the "n.a.g." | |
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| holder = harder!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/6/2005 3:52:45 AM | whitebirch:
It's alright. You have spoken your heart. You are wise, and
have shared your wisdom with us. | |
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| holder = harder!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted: 1/6/2005 11:31:43 AM | hey, well thanks. much appreciated.
i find myself saying:
"no"
"uh, no"
"not likely even on a good day"
"um, not a chance in h*ll"
all the time - i mean it gets to be the "comfortable" thing to do, after you're alone awhile.
i rarely find someone i can relate to
it's not like i've never been said no to or anything like that
usually i get in IMPOSSIBLE relationships (the 2-month kind) that never had a chance of working in the first place... but they had the right look & seemed to have the right act... i knew going in that it wasn't gonna work. that didn't stop me tho, & it didn't stop it from being a pain afterward either.
i've also tried the ones who i'd normally say no to (for being out of my "type") but those didn't work in the long run, simply becuz they really WEREN'T my type.
i long for the easier days, i think...
when there seemed to be so many choices
so many possibilities | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/13/2005 6:25:00 AM | Hi there....I'll be 45 this year. For myself personally, I'm not sure I want to get married again. Been there done that. I have a daughter who is 9, a well paying job....my hours at work suck as I work 4 on 4 off. Trying to find someone that can get along with my lifestyle is the difficult part. Guys will ask me out but when I tell them my daughter comes first and have to work around when she's not here or when I have a weekend off is the difficult part for sure. I do date, but it seems it has to be on my schedule this time around.
So, on that note. I believe I'm looking for companionship. I'd prefer someone older rather than younger as I'm still active in sports etc. I want someone I can spend time with when I have time, but also would like that time spent with that one person, not someone different every week. Am I limiting myself here? LOL
I think at this age we as women are not looking for someone to support us or our families as by now we have everything pretty much figured out...except the new math.....LOL
Anyway, I'm enjoying my forties and the fact that I'm the boss of me now. Great feeling that is too....
Bonnie.....you totally crack me up! | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/13/2005 6:31:34 AM | | lmao referring to naughty meaning egging someone's house or saran wrapping the toilet seat....K..next time a guy asks me if I'm going to be naughty.......I'll saran wrap him to the neighbour's toilet seat. .....wow...I need a notepad for this stuff....LOL | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 1/13/2005 10:04:34 PM | Baylass, you sure look young and buoyant..
But you have already spelled your choice, and now you cannot disppoint
the thousand enthusiastic older men who might have approcahed you. | |
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