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Posted: 11/18/2006 11:02:34 PM | I think finding TRUE love is real real tough, people are not genuine and so full of game nowadays. Marriage too nowadays is real joke!!! In stead of getting married for love, people get married all types of different reasons which causes it to fail. People don't care, they just want to be in the loop and say "Hey, I got married!!!!"  | |
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Posted: 11/19/2006 3:51:19 AM | Single and forty isn't so bad. I suppose I'm used to it because I've only had one girlfriend and that was back when I was 12/13 years old. I don't think I could be persuaded to have a relationship so getting MARRIED is out.
People I've spoken to think that is a strange thing to say but "whatever floats yer boat".
You do what you feel comfortable with! | |
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Posted: 11/22/2006 6:47:03 PM | Single again and fourty.. What a combination.. AN AWESOME one. Love it I have never felt better.. Just the sheer excitement of knowing that I have experienced so much and am still going to continue challenging myself to experience much more. Sex is better, the drive is better, attitude is better everything is better including the younger trainable men.. No seriously.. I feel younger,sexier and more in control of my destiny.. Not afraid to try things and definitley into trying to please myself rather than everyone eles
Relationships.. well they seem more intense and more alive.. Feelings more intensified..
Love being forty. | |
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| single and forty....
Posted: 11/22/2006 7:14:36 PM | ^^^^Amen to that. Although I am 43 I feel the same way, have yet to experience the younger man thing, but who knows what could happen.  | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 11:26:31 AM | easier, and true-r love at forty. I've been married Once... went thru hell together (from each other-for 8yrs) We married 1 1/2yr ago! alls well so far.
Thought I'd bee a spinster forever.
'kids' these days find 'love' in good sex; think life is Grande till the 'work-at-it' sets in.
I asked an elderly couple once (saw him chase her round a tree,pin her against in ,giggling,and kissed) if they were newly wed... she says to 14yr old me " we've been married 60yrs,and let me tell you this one thing about marriage.. it's damn hard work.It takes commitment on both parts"....
I've never forgotten this, and so,said yes, after 8yrs together. He had 'asked the big Q' after knowing him only 2wks. He told me then he'd not accept No for an answer- July 2007 will be our second anniversary!
Our 'honeymoon' was over 9years ago, and the hard work of building our relationship began.  | |
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Posted: 11/23/2006 2:07:47 PM | I don't believe it at all because everyone I know (Well not everyone, but most) have dated more in their 40's then ever, especially woman friends. Because when you get older, you have more confidence (many do) and you don't care as much about what others think. (in my humble opinion)
Life begins at 40 at 40 is the new thirty as they say....heheheheheh | |
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Posted: 11/24/2006 3:10:11 PM | Sex after 40 absolutely amazing,no other words can even describe this feeling of sensuality | |
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Posted: 11/24/2006 3:24:25 PM | hummmmm - I am optimistic - I think true love happens after 40. I think its harder due to the fact there are not as many people looking in the same age range. Its also hard to figure out where everyone who is looking - where are they? I am not interested in meeting a lady at a bar. Not for me!
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Posted: 12/14/2006 10:37:25 PM | Hello to everyone! This is my first forum. No better place then to start here.
I agree with you 100% It is much harder to find a person who knows what they want even at forty. I love my life for the most part being single in enjoying the quality time I now have for myself, but every once in while it would be nice to have a special somebody who general cares about you. I have to be at least lucky enough to have experienced one great love in my life, if it doesn’t happen again at least I have those fabulous memories to look back on...in Smile! | |
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Posted: 12/15/2006 2:09:51 AM | This one is one of several priceless urban social myths that have been bounced arond for so long that people believe them to be fact without ever checking them.
Lets list a few?
1/ More chance of being killed by a terrorist when aged 40 plus than of getting maried.
The source -- A moan session in TIME magazine when things were going slow
The Truth. -- Of the 20 or so moaning women over three quarters had been married within ten years and nonehad been killed by terrorist
2/ Every year one in four women are raped
The source. -- A hired statisticaian, hired during the days of Missisipi burning and hired by the KKK. His job was to "prove" that gangs of oversexed blacks were stalking the country at night raping one woman in four every year
The Truth. -- Police figures are still the most reliable and they estimate one in ten thousand per year.
3/ The greatest cause of casualty admissions is domestic violence and violence against women
The source -- Take a guess
The truth.-- The biggest cause is bar brawling where both the aggressor andthe victim are male. Ten male victims for every one female.
The second biggest cause is road smashes and domestic accidents are the third. | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 4:12:01 AM | OMG.......that's Sleepless in Seattle and yeah, Im sorta wondering if that dosnt havn't a true ring to it. I've been single for afew years and Im turning 42 in Jan 07 and wondering if Im ever going to meet the Mr Right. I'm not saying that Im some "oil painting" but I'm not chopped liver either, Im sort of in between if you know what I mean. The guys that I've seen around the place that are single are boozy perverts with bad body odour and the one's that I do think are attractive are married with wife and kiddies in tow so I have to look the other way, of course you have the other sort that are barely 20 and have one hair on their chest and boast of how "fully sic" they are and post stupid muscle pics up on their profiles. I don't know.......it's definately getting harder to find a good guy around 40 that's not afraid of the "c" word. Anyway  to all  | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 2:12:45 PM | When i was 40 sex was ugggggggggggg now at 45 sex is wow,Sex id beautiful now,Its like amazing,Like the british say only in Canada aye hehehe  | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 7:56:13 PM | I think I am better prepared for a future marriage than I would have been at age 30. Sometimes a couple who marries in their forties is better prepared to succeed in that marriage than someone who is married at a much younger age.
Anyone who says that I will meet someone when I least expect it gets one of these | |
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Posted: 12/23/2006 10:54:21 PM | Well, isn't it also true that when a man is in his 40's he's at the height of his earning potential? I read that somewhere and find that, at least in my case, to be fairly accurate. So, not only are those of us in our 40's more stable, because, as I read earlier in this thread, we've gotten all the "partying" out and we're more settled down and open to a long-term relationship. So, there are numerous benefits to being 40.
Me personally, I am 40 but I still feel like I'm 30. I think a lot of this is in attitude. I spent a lot of time having to "raise" another adult and I finally got fed up with it. There is a LOT to be said for maturity.
And, the way I see it...if you're above ground and suckin' air today, it's a good day! 
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Posted: 12/23/2006 11:19:13 PM | But...it still has not been an easy search. And, even though the numbers get better for men as time goes by...time still gets shorter.
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Posted: 12/24/2006 2:51:11 AM | Lavander
What the hells wrong with you?.
Now I've laready listed the real source of this urban myth about better chances of being killed by a terrorist. It's a moan session by a numch of drama queens maoning that all men are not "perfect men"
Thats exactly what you ar doing Lavander. I kid you not. You have polarised the worlds men into perfect men and perfect baa baa baarstards.
Lavander
I’m going to start with the bemoaned “barstards” because they are one of the few male groups which are not a myth. They do exist. Get together with a few girlfriends who think that their ex’s are all barstards. List (write it down) their half dozen worst faults.
(Now Lavander. Lets just list the faults that you were moaning about. ""boozy perverts with bad body odour"" . Boozy. He likes to enjoy a party. So what? Perverts. He appreciates a good looking woman and notices when you take a little more care of your appearance. BO. You get him into the tub and you get in with him and sponge one another down.
Lavander. You would rather moan about a minor problem than actually DO something to fix it.
You don’t know how good you had it girl. )
After your little get together, lob at the public gallery of the family law court. And listen to some of the real horror stories. Mostly lies! Some true! List them too. Then compare these horror stories with your ex’s. Sure he had his faults but how does he compare with the horror stories.??
Finally take the dozen worst horror stories from yourselves, or the courts and see if you know of any man who has those dozen worst faults in the one man.
You would have to be talking about a junkie, addicted to multiple drugs, who had beaten up at least one girlfriend badly enough to cripple her, and had raped his own five year old daughter. These men DO exist and they are absolute barstards.
So does that mean that the rest of them are perfect men? Yea sure! Stop laughing and get off the floor.
In reality perfect men do not exist. The are a product of a little girls fairy stories. Kiddie books are full of fairies, pixies, hobgoblins, santas , and handsome princes. As girls mature most of these fantasy characters are left in childhood. But not the handsome prince, the dream man, the perfect man. That fantasy persists into adult life. And destroys relationships. Even among older women the expression “good man” still often pulls second fiddle behind the expression “perfect man”
The perfect man, by definition, has no faults. None at all. Not even faults that you don’t mind. No faults whosoever.
Finally Lavander in reference to your final rant.
""it's definately getting harder to find a good guy around 40 that's not afraid of the "c" word."""
In reality over eighty percent of all divorces are instigated solely by the wife and less than ten percet solely by the husbands. It's the women who have the committment problems. Not the men. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2006 11:14:11 PM | I think I hit a nerve with you spartacus. Let me say this, both men and women have had the wrong end of a relationship and this is where "we" make our opinions. Your the one pissing and moaning about "the perfect man blah blah blah" There is no such thing as perfect. So before you go off on your rant that's just short of War and Peace, try not to take too much out of context or make it personal against you and any person that has an opinion. Me thinks you protest too much if you know what I mean. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 8:34:29 AM | I'm going to be blunt here.
At 20, we look for an attractive mate and don't care about anything else.
At 30, we look for an attractive mate and still pretty much don't care about anything else.
At 40, we look for an attractive mate and can't find one, so we pretend it's the 'other' things like career, goals, children stopping us. But really, we're just vain - and let's face it, we all look less attractive as we age. Just say it already. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 2:56:45 PM | I think I hit a nerve with you spartacus. Let me say this, both men and women have had the wrong end of a relationship and this is where "we" make our opinions. Your the one pissing and moaning about "the perfect man blah blah blah" There is no such thing as perfect. So before you go off on your rant that's just short of War and Peace, try not to take too much out of context or make it personal against you and any person that has an opinion. Me thinks you protest too much if you know what I mean.
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The nerve you hit with me was my BS reflex nerve.
When somebody shovels BS onto the board I automaticaly spew out the truth no matter how much that offends fragile egos.
I am NOT the one moaning about perfect men. What I am moaning about is 40 year old women, who have outgrown santa, and faires and hobgoblins but who are still looking for that handsome prince from that same little girls story book.
What I am moaning about is women like you, who are so ready to tell me, of all people, that there is no such thing as perfect men. (If I wanted to know that I would have looked in the mirror.) but when the groaning gf's go on the rant about perfect men, they let it pass as if thre were such things.
Lavander
How many of your siblings and gf's have you jumped on when they have come up with either cliche ie "perfect men" or "all men are barstards"?
As for my "rant thats equal to war and peace" I can assure you that it's a mere nothing compared to the rants of the drama queens ranting on about having more chance of being killed by terrorists than of getting married.
Hom many of the ran'ts of these drama queens have you jumped on Lavander? | |
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Posted: 12/30/2006 7:22:46 PM |
..I was watching this movie and not once, but twice, one of the characters said.."ya know, it's easier to get shot by a terrorist than it is to find love and get married when you are in your 40's"...
What do you think?
That statement was based on a non-scientific study conducted a few years ago and I am glad to say that IT WAS DEBUNKED.
It is not that much harder to find love in your 40s than it is in your 30's or even 20's.
While clearly are more single people in their 20's, nowadays more and more people are getting divorced by the time they reach their 30's and 40's.
The difference though is that people are more hesitant to jump into a marriage once they've been married before. So you may find love but may not be with someone who wants a marriage. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 10:42:06 AM | | im 40yrs,and well i think that when you get to this age.you tend to take it easier.you dont tend to rush in to marrage.as you know the ups and downs of it.but hay for most it works.good on them. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 11:49:26 AM | | well i'm not 40 yet and i'm sure a sniper will take me out before i find true love...been single my entire life, well cept for that yr or so stint on again off again relationship....so i really wonder at all if it's out there....ya i believe it, most of the people our age are settled or else on the rebound, how can you find true love....or else it's the younger pups hitting on you...i do have my limits people | |
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Posted: 12/31/2006 4:32:54 PM | | Spartacus, stop being such a long winded bag of hot air. Your maoning and groaning about the perfect this and the perfect that, can't you read.....your the ONLY one and then you start going off about Santa, Fairies ect.......you really need a reality check. You come on here insulting people because their views are not identical to your own and then try shoving stupid stats down people's throats. Im sorry that your obviously still hurting from life biting you on the backside, but you really need to stop ASSuming and making jackASS comments. I think your a sad toy soldier trying to look for a war in your little toy box but if your into wasting your time, then go ahead, knock yourself out with your foul attitude, ASSumptions, and calling people drama queens (because they don't adhere to your way of thinking) Oh and feel free to have alook at what other forums I've commented on, I think you'll find your "How many of the rants of these drama queens have you jumped on?" comment to be shown for just what it is.....full of self recriminating BS. Go have your tantrums somewhere else, better still, just grown up. Have a really nice day now Spat-i.cus | |
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