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Posted: 11/14/2005 10:35:15 PM | Thermal... I have been in your shoes. When my wife left me my world ended everything I ever loved walked out that door and into the arms a much younger and better looking guy.
I prayed and cried almost every night for years yes years. My orignial prayer was to please touch her heart and let her come home, and after a long while it went to if she's not comming home then please take her from my heart. Eventually it changed to please take her from my heart so I can love someone else. Now my prayer is thank you God for answering my prayer. No she did not come home. But she is no longer in my heart and now I am free to love again. It's scary almost horrorifing to put my heart out to someone again but I am lonely and I'm ready for someone in my life to give all of my heart too. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 7:44:01 AM | im sorry to here you broke with your ex, and i sincerly empathize with you.
it is always easy for people to give advice in these situations, but as hard as it is no one can help you get through your grieving process its some thing you will work through, however we all need support systems in place and if you have unconditional love careing and supportive freinds you will get there. people are different . i split up with my spanish girlfreind 8months ago and am only just getting there,
sometimes we have to go through these things because theres a lesson we have not yet learnt.
this also stops us enterning what would be a healthy relationship.
although to you now he still seems like your world, are you sure he was the right one for you???
also when things like this happen the answer isnt always revaelled to us straight away.
one thing you must do now is begin to love yourself first. please dont accept guilt into your heart because it is a disabling disease. best wishes carlito7 | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 8:01:29 AM | Lexi... I have daughters only 4 years younger than you... and I have talked to them about what I have gone through in my life and am still going through with respect to relationships and men. You are only 18 and to hear you say you don't feel like you will ever be loved again or you'll die alone... it's not a great place to be... you have so much life ahead of you.
I have been hurt so many times because my heart gets involved and sometimes i just think that the majority of men, just can't... they can say love, they can do things that they think relays love, but can they really commit and feel love... i don't think most can. I am not here to bad mouth men... I still haven't given up... it's just that in my experience, I don't understand how men can cross certain boundaries with a woman and not want a relationship the next day, why did they do it in the first place... when we as women only want to be loved and in a decent relationship. I have learned that happiness is not from the one your with but the one you can't get away from: yourself. Don't rely on these men to make you happy... do things for yourself... become something you've always wanted to be... follow through on dreams while you have the chance!! Your not a 36 yr old single mom that can't go back to school, I believe you are a healthy young woman... and when the timing is right to meet the one that will love and respect you back, you will... I still believe that... and trust me, with all the games even on here... it's difficult sometimes.
Life should be simple, but it's not - you will experience more than just this relationship ending that will be difficult... it took me over a year to get over the one man i truly loved in my life... I did so with the help of some good books and journaling... when you need to vent, write... it does a world of good.... i am not sure if this helped, as i too am in the hurting phase right now... someone thinking he is all that and playing games with my emotions, it hasn't been a great ride but hey I am strong enough to get off of it... that's the part that counts... not making the same mistakes over in life, learning from things and moving on...
We meet everyone for a reason look at the good that he brought out in you and the memories you had but don't fall so deeply as to rely on anyone for your own happiness, get that from yourself. Took me 35 years to figure it out but i am sure that someday you will.
Take care... and remember theres a whole world ahead of you, this isn't the end, only the beginning...
Carpe Diem
Elaine | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 10:20:26 AM | ok now i'm stepping in love is felt by everyone we all feel the hurt the saddness age girl or guy we feel hurt...we can't point fingers at a guy or girl you have to blame ourself how may of you got GREEDY..now by saying that i mean have you ever seen your mate hurting and never took the time to deal with it i mean really deal with it go for a coffee sit down and say hey whats wrong..i'm here for you and i want you to no that i love you.not to many do that,if we just act like there just dust then they will blow away..you have to be more then there mates you have to be there best friend...you have to stop think and listen something i think a lot of need to do..its funny you know it took my ex to say goodbye for me to look back on the past and say your right i never was there as a friend..sure you say she ran off with this guy..but did you give her life..meaning did you let her breath they need to know they can be there for us as well...
guys 99% act tuff but you know we all still hold mommys careing in us just show it to them.they want to hold you and cuddle you.don't be ashame to cry the key word is FRIENDS..never put them down be there for them tell them you love them tell them there pretty...don't be just a mate be best friends too
ladys same for you its a guy he maybe acting as tuff as ever saying go get lost.but where all wimps inside we cry we feel pain and we need room to breath to..truth is think with your heart cause a heart never lies think love in the head then your in for a lot of pain your head tends to forget what the hell you where talking about . same guys you have to real to your mate like you want them to you a girl hurts stop and think about it before you say something that will hurt you later in life each pain you put him/her through adds up and adds up then the next thing you no your watching your door slam shut then your in your room thing badd names to them when in the past you could have been there more...i know y'll all say i was there i gave then everything did you give them what they needit or what your mind thought..think about it next time you have time think about the lil-fights the look on her/his face when you pushed them aside its just my point it takes to to love and 2 to hurt it we can't do the blame game on anyone next time your on a date...be real to your date tell her/him who you are and how you feel stop saying oh i like that too cause you have just started out your life with a lie..think about it...till then God_bless..later-dayz | |
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Posted: 11/15/2005 11:26:00 AM | | chin up girl, iknow how u feel, it has been a year since me and my ex broke up, and i still love him and always will,but the pain of being with out him no longer hurts,u just need time 2 heal | |
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Posted: 11/16/2005 1:23:22 PM | | Hey, great advise everyone. I went through this about 3 years ago after having been with my ex for 13 years. I am finally starting to try and meet someone new and move on . It has taken a long time for me to get out of the pain i felt and i do still feel sad for our children having to grow up the way they are but in all reality if she wasn't happy with me then i do hope she finds happiness. This reality shock has allowed me to start looking for someone who will want to be with me . GOD has a plan. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2006 8:57:36 PM | | hey dude i know how you must feel but you have had nothin yet babe you are still growing and you will get over this and move on believe me. no offense but you don't know the meaning of a broken heart i have been hurting for 3 yrs and it has not got any easier. it was my fault i blew the best thing that ever happened to me so i also have the guilt, so if it wasn't meant to be --- you cannot make it change it or try to get it back if it was just the way the cards fall cheer up it makes u a better person when you pick yourself up- get your priorities right and move on with more knowledge than you had and hopefully fix your downfalls and find a better self within you hugs and kisses jes x | |
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Posted: 1/30/2006 9:35:19 PM | u will not die alone dear,,,,,,remember each of us are alone,,,even as family or couple,,we are always alone in our thoughts,,,it will take u many years too forget this pain,,u will recover,,don't let anyone ever take away ur mourning of lost love,,but u have too take it upon urself now too move forward,,,even if u have too enjoy urself for u,,,,,,,lots candy on this site ,,taste some ,,, u will never forget a love that was good,,but u must move on,,,lots of men looking for love ,,,and fun here,,u must decide for urself that u need too look forward ,,,and all will be good in ur life ,,,,, | |
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Posted: 1/31/2006 4:15:24 AM | /Lexi
I understand the feeling but your head knows it isn't so. You will survive. When a relationship ends it's always two peoples fault, just like it takes two people to make it work. In my case I made many mistakes during my last relationship but also did many things right. Same with her. If you know in your heart you did all YOU could do and were willing to correct your mistakes and it still ended then either they didn't care as much as you or they were unwilling to take a look at their own demons, Either way it should give you some peace. | |
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