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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/16/2005 3:38:05 PM | From my guy friend I would have to say he tell's you he'll call back n don't till the next day or text you saying he miss you and say sweet things but yet only see you once a week or every two weeks. Trust me on this my friend is a big pimp and the stuff he does and say got me freaked out on this dating thing...  | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/16/2005 4:18:38 PM | if they keep on making excuses, too busy, blah blah blah.....one thing i know for sure; if a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
I beleive we gotta take a chance. Life is fill of chances and isnt that what life is all about ?
JUst take it one day at a time......I'm learning that the hard way, but i'm hoping it will be all worth it in the end... | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/16/2005 4:57:10 PM | Hello to u all...I've read all the post here...and I don't understand if it's someone you've met on-line , and still chatting with him before you meet him...or if you've met him and worried he won't continue the relationship?
Well I've got one for ya...I met a man thru the on-line dating scene ok...We talked for about 7 months...over the phone...talked sometimes 2-3 hours at a time...and then would talk the next day for a couple more hours...harder during the week...(ya know the cell phone thing and phone cards) but we managed...we talked about alot of things...he was polite...didn't even swear...cooly...so now this past summer it's time to finally meet each other ok...so we made plans I would travel by bus all the way to South Dakota...I live in New York...now mind you we talked for awhile on the phone...felt in my heart I had found my lifes parnter ok...and we made plans for our future ok...so now we meet... Looked like hell I did...but nothing a shower and fresh makeup wouldn't cure...oh forgot to tell ya, he was coming back with me to stay a couple weeks,(by bus) so we could get to know each other and plan the future...everything went ever well...he met all my friends I worked with...um...we took walks togesther...ya know held hands...hugged...even slept next to each other ...BUT did not get inimate ok...that was our rule...we had talked about that also...soooo now the 2 weeks is up...he goes back to South Dakota...I'd heard from him 3 times since June, and that was in the first 2 months since he departed...have not heard from him since...I had written a letter about a month ago...asking what happened...he has not replied....We both knew our strenghts our weakness...everything you would expect to know about someone before taking a trip like that...I would not have gone if I didn't feel in my heart he was OUR future....Now was he just playing me? My heart is on the mend...but be careful...very careful...I just assumed that we are all on the same page...looking for our lifes parnter...I just don't get it | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/16/2005 7:00:59 PM | | I feel for you spirit, that is a heart breaker. You can't always tell, we all have our blind spots. I think you need to respect yourself, know your limits and not compromise, someone who truly cares about you will not ask you to do something you are not comfortable with. Give them all the rope they need, a player will eventually hang themselves. | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/17/2005 9:09:48 PM | | If a guy really likes you or loves you...then he wouldn't think twice about calling you everyday just to say hi, or too see how you are doing...When all that stops you know the guy either isn't interested or he is just playing you and stringing you along until someone else comes by.....You see i dated a guy who swore up and down he loved me, but it was all a lie...How i could tell...was when i called him he would never answer his phone or return my calls..he always made excuses to why he didn't call...little did i know this is his pattern with women..he likes to use them...he cheats on them when something with 2 legs walks by him...and yes that guy is on POF so watch out ladies..or you will be his next victim.... | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/28/2005 5:51:07 PM | | marathonman11x7......wow thanks for that big reply and yes i have came across some of those ones and some i would of never guessed being played again thanks for the reply wow helpful | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/28/2005 7:52:42 PM | My internet boyfriend dissapears at night and weekends. I just think he has the cell plan with free day-time minutes but my friend says he is playing me. I dont think he is because he says he loves me | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 3:29:56 AM | That's funny, an empty package of condoms, that you didn't share, it is so obvious. Especially if they come up with the excuse of practising safe masturbation.... (well, you asked!).
Broken promises, as a regular partner, it is enough to upset me, games played or not. It is soooo frustrating!
Take care
Trix
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dolat
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Joined: 11/26/2005
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/29/2005 4:53:03 AM | When what they say... is NOT what they do...consistently
not taking you out in public [ only at 'your place']
not [eventually] introducing you to people he knows
becoming 'suddenly' unavailable and not contactable
you dont have his work or home number and its been a couple of months
you only ever see him at night
he stands you up more than once
you dont know his last name | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/29/2005 5:13:34 AM |
I met a man thru the on-line dating scene ...We talked for about 7 months...over the phone...talked sometimes 2-3 hours at a time... I would travel by bus all the way to South Dakota...he was coming back with me to stay a couple weeks,...BUT did not get inimate ...soooo now the 2 weeks is up...he goes back to South Dakota...I'd heard from him 3 times since June......I just don't get it
You don't get it? You talked for 7 months, you stayed at his place, he travelled and stayed at your place and you were not intimate?
There was nothing there, Spiritofthewolf. Either he wasn't attracted to you or he was and you refused his advances but, either way, the magic was missing from one of you. If there was no sexual drive then what would happen a few years down the road? I would say you are lucky no relationship came out of it. I doubt it would have lasted.
To the OP (wildgirl_5): If the person does not make time for you then there's nothing there. If his ball game and his friends are more important than seeing you then don't waste your time with him. | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 11/29/2005 6:21:09 AM | | good sign of bein able to tell u r gettin played is if he never uses ur name he always calls u baby , hun, sweetie ect cause he doesnt want to mess up and call u by one of the other girls names lol | |
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Posted: 11/29/2005 9:48:29 AM | | lol good one misskittie..your so right...as for lilsexylady...take advise from me...if he loves you like he says he does....money isn't an option..so calling you even on his off plan times with his cel phone shouldn't be a probably...trust me been there done it..and even though he said he loved me more then anything in the world....he didn't back up his words with actions..so if i were you i would rethink about that love word that is so abused too often | |
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Posted: 12/3/2005 5:25:19 PM | | lilsexylady well sorry but i might have to agree with your friend on this one cus that does sounds wierd ...disappears on weekends and nights well i think so to he is playing you ...just cus he says " he loves " means nothing .....keep you there for rebound girl | |
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Posted: 12/3/2005 7:46:55 PM |
who cares if they are playing you, as long as you are enjoying it and not falling in love
yeah - i guess it depends what you are looking for -
an upset can occur when we have unforfilled expectations, thwarted intentions and undelivered messages. If you are looking for long term relationship - I would recommend waiting some time (a few dates a few weeks - you know, a while) before jumping into bed together or I can see a risk of leading yourself to believe that you have entered a monogomous relationship exclusively.
Communication - ask the hard questions....work for your relationship - talk about it.
For me - I am happy enjoying booty call with the one guy - maybe I'm playing him maybe he is playing me - its still a new thing and I know i will have no regrets if either of us choose to move on - He talks about how he enjoys our time together - we dont go "out" out together and that suits me - maybe this is the "how to have a ferk bud thing" -
The point is: use your words - if you want something ask - if you don't know ask.
You never know unless you ask. | |
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 12/3/2005 9:21:15 PM |
All other points mentioned by all of you are valid, but besides being a "player" they can simply mean...to quote that famous book EVERY WOMAN and MAN should read:
HE/SHE IS JUST NOT INTO YOU THAT MUCH!!!!
That^ book is the biggest load I have ever read. Or maybe I just don't put up with sh*t.
You are being played when:
*If he has to call you or when you call him you always get his machine
*He evades questions about his family
*He never introduces you to his best bud
*You have no idea where he grew up or what he did as a kid
*pays more attention to your body than your brain!
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| how can you tell if a guy or girl is playing you ?
Posted: 12/5/2005 7:57:01 PM | | virgo*girl : That must be your perception of a guy, maybe if you had asked, or even spent time with someone and got to know them, then maybe you would find more out about them. If they are dodging the question, then why would you be with tht person in the first place? | |
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