| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/17/2005 10:38:35 PM | | Absolutely the opposite sex can be friends. I have one girl who's my best friend and has been since we were kids, never slept together but both no the intimate details of each others lives and I have current women who I am friends with and there are no issues so YES. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/17/2005 11:53:02 PM | I agree with the latter part of your comment.
There is, 90% of the time or more, an attraction from one or both in the bginning stages. It can and likely will fade into just friendship... but, wouldn't the guys you can be best friends with ultimately be the best people to date anyways? So really you are just keeping prospects closer to home in a more responsible fashion.
Dont deny your inner feels just because...
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/22/2005 2:22:43 PM | Adam!! i see ur point, but my male friends have been around for years.
when i was younger id drop all my friends for a guy-huge mistake, we would break up and id have no friends..relationships come and go, friendships last, ur friends make u the person u r and they r part of ur life.. If ur wiv someone and u trust each other, u meet each others mates at some point and then u know them as people to and they become both ur friends,, as u get older uve chosen ur real friends very carefully, so why should u giv them up? trust is the key word, | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/22/2005 2:29:23 PM | Chris! yeah u like the friends as people and i guess cos u get on u stay friends,
but if u dont fancy them, then god no,,u couldnt date them..
and as for getting physical!!! no way\...... | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/22/2005 4:36:59 PM | | NOT a chance in hell. Who are you kidding. It is almost impossible for two people of opposite sex to spend so much quality time laughing, playing, partying, etc .. etc.. human nature creates a bond there, which usually creates an attraction and sexual thoughts about that other person. It has been my experience that; although there are exceptions, close friends, generally, at one point or another, have sexual thoughts about each other and act on them at least once. After all friends are most at ease with one another and very comfortable as well. it doesnt take much to ignite the fire. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/22/2005 4:53:08 PM | | I think that the oppisite sex can be friends but. I usually am the last person that my ex's friends want to deal with. for some strange reason they have no idea about me until they just happen to see me in town... | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/22/2005 4:58:01 PM | Who's being oppositional here? PS There is a condition...it's called...and I quote...
Oppositional Defiant Disorder Ask yourself if you have this disorder, and if you disagree, well, you will know you are wrong. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/23/2005 11:09:05 AM | | Exactly!!! its been ur experience! we all feel and experience different things and we dont all just think sex!!! theres more to life than just getting physical | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/24/2005 8:04:13 AM | It's rare and only works if both parties are on the same page. More often than not, it's just a lie that one tells the other to stay in their lives. If you've had sex with this so called friend at any time in the past, somebody's telling a lie. This somebody is a friend in waiting. Waiting for an opportunity.
I recently lost someone who I thought was one of my best friends. In truth, I didn't lose my friend. He was never my friend because he didn't think of me as a friend. He was a friend in waiting. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 11/24/2005 6:54:31 PM | For sure, most of my friends are female but im screwing NONE of them. I believe that is the key.
Lovers come and go, friends are for life;)
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/3/2005 9:44:46 AM | | Definitely...as a woman who values male, platonic friendships, I totally am a big fan of it. You learn a lot from men's view points and you also get help from them whenever needed...from opening a jar of pasta sauce, reaching something on top of the cabinet, to advising you on current relationships, to beating up men who broke your hearts ( j.k. ). But seriously, women and I don't get along on the general basis here, and men have always been willing to be my friend. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/3/2005 11:20:49 AM | It works for me. Some of my best friends are guys. I don't have to worry about them stabbing me in the back, being catty, etc.
I also have a lot of the same interests as most guys to as in playing video games, doing outdoor activities like rock climbing, camping, and other things.
In my opinion, friendship is the best relationship.  | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/8/2005 3:48:51 PM | | Yes....they can.....I've got male friends that I go out with for coffee or chat with. They are good when you are feeling down and can give you a guys opinion on how they see things. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/8/2005 4:43:02 PM | absolutely,even though you wouldn't mind to get some, but it is natural ,i guess
i stayed in my friend's place for more than week, ( when i was in town last time) without
her husband being there( he knew about that , of course). | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/8/2005 11:20:58 PM | This is interesting.
I have never maintained friendships with my Ex's. When it was over it was over, next chapter.
Also, I do not have any steady girlfriends. I am more of a loner. However, with my ex) wife she had many boyfriends and no girlfriends and I didn't have any jealousy issues. I am not really the jealous type.
Well, I guess we all can't be the same. That would be boring. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/9/2005 4:52:02 AM | | Personally, I don't see any reason why you can't be friends with the opposite sex. Heh... I actually picked up a woman on the bus thinking there might be some chemistry and she turned out to be engaged, but her fiance isn't jealous, she's cool as shit to hang with and she's happy to fetch women off the dance floor for me. I'll never have a relationship with her, but she's the best wingman I've ever had :P | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:29:05 AM | | I am convinced that men and women can be JUST friends. I am a super laid back girl who gets along much better with guys than girls, unless they too are laid back and not full of rules to live by...lol. I hang out with my best guy friend Zil twice a week. My guys are never jealous and shouldn't be and his gals well they are always jealous, save one, but he doesn't put up with it so it works. We joke and talk about everything and he is a good one to bounce stuff off of when I need a guys opinion. He's my big brother and YES he feels the same way. Well...he doesn't feel like I'm his brother...lol | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:55:43 AM | Yes, you can be friends with the opposite sex.....I have a really good guy friend and we have been friends for 20 yrs, never once have we crossed the line of friendship...we may go out to dinner together and catch a movie, but that's it...we have never discussed anything else becaue we both value our friendship that we have.....he talks to me about the women he is dating and what he should do and visa-versa....and it's nice to have a male friend to sometimes get a view point on something you are going through with a man you just don't understand.....so yes it is very possible to have one.....just my 2 cents.. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/9/2005 6:10:23 AM | | I've got plenty of female friends, some of whom are my ex-gfs. Once you get past any sexual tension, it's cool to kick back with them & relax. & when you need a woman's opinion (like what the hell am I supposed to buy at bed bath bodywork hell?) you have people to go to besides your mom. | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:09:39 AM | .... I dont c why not eithier though searching here I dont seem 2 understand why even that is so hard2 find .Is my prof. bad or what..or is it that others just post and register but don't seem2 look around to see who is all at this great site..I myself believes it doesnt really matter where a person is from being friends at times of course.A friend could b some1 to chat or IM or email with , to talk to...srrry...Im not always on forums so I am not sure if this sounds right...lol..just stating what I think while I am here on the forums briefly  | |
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| Can the Opposite sex really be friends?
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:30:03 AM | | Nice post Blastkist. My two best friends are both female...I've known them for years, so I have to say yes to the topic. That being said, I don't think that it is for everyone...some ppl are just not capable of opposite sex friendships. On a side note, I do not remain friends w/ex's...but that's another story ;) | |
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