| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/28/2004 8:17:14 AM | | yeah well ive noticed as ive got oler i have got more stupid...never learnt nothing about relationships...stll makin the same mistakes!!!!!;lololoo | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/28/2004 8:17:27 PM | I have been alone so long, I am no longer sure what my time even is...I used to say laughingly that the only requirement I had was the man had to be breathing...but really, I want so much more than what the majority in here seem to seek...if a woman just wants sex, no problem...but if she wants romance and love...now that takes time.....and since time is all I have now....I can wait...ya hear me....you...yeah - you... I am looking for you...lol | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/29/2004 10:56:35 PM | Yes, I get it... quite easily... hmm... now that is indeed food for thought...
So... do you squeak? ;-)
~~Dragon Rider~~
The Dragon awakes, hope rises again
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/29/2004 11:34:14 PM | Well, if I can't get it the first time... try try again... perhaps change it to a squeal... ;-)
~~Dragon Rider~~
The Dragon awakes, hope rises again
Happy New Year Folks | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/29/2004 11:45:00 PM | I might like that...hehe - squeak squeal squeak squeal squeak squeal squeak squeal squeak squeal.......lol | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/29/2004 11:45:28 PM | Yes maam... that'll work.... rinse and repeat as necessary...
~~Dragon Rider~~
The Dragon awakes, hope rises again
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/29/2004 11:50:52 PM | Hot water please... something fragrent and liquid (don't use bar soaps)... please do scrub my back... and I will wash anythign I can reach... ;-)
~~Dragon Rider~~
The Dragon awakes, hope rises again
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 12:02:38 AM | If not, repeat til one getsi it right... then big fluffy towel to dry you, a little powder... wrap a big soft fully robe around you, then to the fire for snacks and nibbles...
~~Dragon Rider~~
The Dragon awakes, hope rises again
Happy New Year Folks | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 2:22:13 AM | Hi Timmy,
I'm WAY over 30! First of all (and apologies to the "dating scene") there is no "special someone" that is lurking just around the corner. All those books about "soul mates" and the differences between men and women have just one purpose - to sell copies. And what is the message they want you to buy? That there is something wrong with you if you do not follow their "10 step" plan for happiness or, for the other, doubt your perception and follow the dogma that "Men are from Mars ..." ad nauseum. Whether you are male or female, you are the sum total of your life experiences which cannot be stretched or whittled down to fit someone else's idea of life.
Having said that, (and I know you were hanging on every word) you are perfectly correct in your perspectives and perceptions. Humans have a very strong drive to "perpetuate the species" and sometimes mistake it for "higher spiritual aspirations". (dare I say Love?) From puberty until menopause we are inundated with what we should be doing or feeling from Dr. Joyce Brothers to Bob Newhart. After that, it's not so much "What am I searching for?", it's "What do I want to avoid". (And still, there are those who will attempt to lure you into parting with your money, claiming to have the "rosetta stone" for answers to all your questions.
The best source for answers is to listen to your own "heart". Sure, you may mis-interpret what it tells you and you may get "skinned knees" but that's only "mistakes" and are part of walking your own path. People do not "own" people ... they were never intended to fill each other's "voids". (I think "joined at the hip" is a favourite expression) As their paths cross, each shows the other another perspective of life which they have not experienced. If the encounter causes a "significant emotional event" then the sharing moves to a deeper level and other phrases such as "unconditional love" come to mind. However, remember, we take from each other what feels right for our own level of development and discard the rest; perhaps moving on.
Concentrate on what your "heart" says to you and you'll do well. Each person is unique in the universe and carries a special message. Find yours, share it and the rest will take care of itself. | |
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| GunShy!
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:11:33 PM | This is so weird... I just got finished posting this reply to another similar question.
I guess this idea is in a lot of peoples heads..
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Well, I think a big thing, is that older people have seen more pitfalls
in relationships and are pitfall conscious and more apt to pull the plug
quickly as soon as a familiar pitfall comes into view.
Whereas youngsters are more apt to take the attitude, "Oh you have
a completely different attitude about (so and so) than me.... oh well,
we can work it out - as long as the sex is still hot..."
Or something along those lines. Someone who has already been thru an
incompatibility may project it into becoming more pronounced over the years
and opts out right away.
This could be good in that, if you do hook up, you have a better chance to
stay. OR not good because someone can exagerate the incompatiblility in
their mind and simply chicken out.
Every relationship is different because people are made of myriad areas
of infinite shades of gray
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| Nice site
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:16:44 PM | Yes this is a nice site.
I also found that Matchdoctor.com is OK and free.
I too didn't like Yahoo personals for some reason.
It's funny you picked that one.
There are a bunch of Friend Finder sites and some of them are OK
for pay sites- Maybe for dating, and also because they are very big and you can
talk with people from all over the world (for fun). | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 4:27:18 PM | | As Oldsarge states: there is no "special someone" that is lurking just around the corner. This is one of the cruelest myths to be spoken...This is the one thing I find a person in a relationship will say to someone who is looking. However, I no longer believe...but I still hope...sigh but then, without this myth, we would have a lot less great poetry, fiction and art... | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 5:02:41 PM | I don't believe sarge. So long as you are aware that something weird can come your way, then yep, round the corner you may just find the Anam Cara. Or an axe murderer. And the people that are special to you will rarely be the one's that you thought. That's why we keep on living. Although as you get older, the 'special one' becomes both harder to find, but even more special. I hope. Wish. Whatever. Fridge calls....  | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 5:45:21 PM | Squeak.... I firmly believe that there is a "special one" out there somewhere... The trick is to know it when it comes along and not let it go... There may be even more than one... And you will know it when you look into their eyes... Sadly, just cause said person is out there, is NOT a guarantee that you will be lucky enough to find them...
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
Happy New Year | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 7:40:07 PM | | Thanks, Squeek. I sometimes practice skepticism to avoid being cynical. ( I still believe in fairies and the "little people" shhhhh) | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 8:00:45 PM | oldsarge said
"People do not "own" people ... they were never intended to fill each other's "voids". (I think "joined at the hip" is a favourite expression) As their paths cross, each shows the other another perspective of life which they have not experienced. If the encounter causes a "significant emotional event" then the sharing moves to a deeper level and other phrases such as "unconditional love" come to mind.
That's so true - I think we can't expect someone to fill our every need. Is there a "special someone" for everyone, perhaps. I sometimes hope there is one such for me, but I don't pine for that possible mythical "other"
I also believe that as I learn more about who I am (it comes with advanced age - LOL!), I know more about what I truly want and what I don't want in a relationship. I'm also less selfish and more flexible (well, maybe my body is less flexible, but my spirit isn't). Alas, many men in my age bracket seem to be inflexible in both body and spirit. I've always held strong views on things, and those views do not coincide with the views of many men in my generation - I'll listen to their views, but they don't seem to want to hear mine - LOL!
There is one advantage to being older - I do have male friends who enrich my life. And two anam caras (friends of the heart) who have shared my joys and sorrows, listened to the stories of my relationships with men, as I have listened to theirs. | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 9:52:20 PM | | I just believe that some are made to dance alone.....call it Karma...or just sh*tty luck....what makes it hard is the "pair bonding" one sees going on.....oh yeah...and the lack of sex... | |
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| Question for the over 30 crowd.
Posted: 12/30/2004 9:53:45 PM | Yeah... Pair Bonding... makes it hard to even go to the grocery store... too d*mn many happy couples... especially around Christmas... and of course the love making... sleeping next to something warm and cuddly...
~~Dragon Rider~~
I know it is here somewhere...
Happy New Year | |
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