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Posted: 7/14/2007 12:07:04 PM | | I know it must be incredibly tough at the moment but believe me the children will suss it out for themselves as long as they continue to see them regularly. Slagging off which ever way it is directed will come back to haunt those who have done it. As commented by another on this thread there is probably some jealousy here that you are having something of a 'life' yourself whilst still being a mother. Good for you. Chin up girl. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 12:18:16 PM | I don't know if your a whore. You asking others. The situation as you have described is not adding up to whore. Providing it's the WHOLE story. Maybe look at what went down that has you now divorved. Only you can answer that question.
Even if you are not one or are one. Improve yourself and become a better person. Get centered up and make your life go right. Be something that another would want. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 12:32:21 PM | NO YOU ARE NOT.KEEP THE FAITH
YOU ARE NOT SLEEPING WITH EVER MAN YOU MEET ARE YOU.
SOMEONE IS TRYING TO BREAK YOU DOWN AND RUIN YOUR SELF ESTEEM.
HANG IN THERE YOU HAVE YOUR KIDS TO GET BACK..LOTS OF LUCK | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 12:43:06 PM | | remember that song from the sixties my ding a ling ...i agree he has a small head...girl this is why he is your ex he is a loser and a bum if he loved you he would have treated you like a queen and you would be together he didnt so now you are on to better prospects ....as far as your kids are concerned you need to regain custody because if he bad mouths you in public he'll definitely do that in private so focus on that instead of small minded peoples opinions ...you go girl | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 12:51:10 PM | NO!!!!!!! IT,S JUST THE PRICE YOU HAVE TO PAY WHEN LIVING IS A SMALL TOWN. I WISH I WAS GUILTY OF A SMALL FRACTION OF THE THINGS I HAVE BEEN ACCUSED OF . NEEDEM69 | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 2:50:58 PM | tipsybarchick, there is more to the story that you are not sharing, a woman short of committing a serious crime rarely loses her children
second, when reading this I thought to my self how old is this woman, is she 19 , to my shock you're 30 years old and worrying about being called a whore? what are we in kindergarten?
Try working on your life first and get children back, im curious did you finish high school? | |
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Posted: 7/14/2007 3:17:35 PM | The lady was simply asking a question, why do some people have to add a catty comment? I don't think it matters what you are being told you are hon, you know inside what you are. Don't look for others to validate you in any way. Just be your highest good and follow your own values in life, as long as you know they are correct then no one else's opinion matters. Hold your head up high and believe in yourself.
nofishinmysea - you tremble at the lack of education? I tremble at your lack of kindness and your rudeness to someone you obviously believe is less of a person than yourself. How unkind are you | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 12:59:38 PM | Just because someone calls you a whore dosn't make you one.Even if you were and you enjoyed living your life that way that would be your business and no-one else's.
I used to know a girl quite well who was a prostitute in younger life and worked in massage parlours at the time I knew her.(Not on a client basis incidentally).She was,and is,a lovely person and a caring mother. Word soon got around about what she was doing,her past history pretty soon followed.Those whispering behind her back included Social Security Fraudsters,drunks,druggies,adulterers,thieves....and best of all someone who was later discovered to be working in the same massage parlour..You tend to find those who gossip most have their own little secrets that they wouldn't want broadcast. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 2:23:03 PM | simply go to your legal representative to re-assess the case if thats what you want. i don't think your ex speaking about the mother of his children being a whore is a suitable rolemodel for your children. if i was you i would start or re-assess legal action within getting your children back and fight for your rights i.e your share of marital home and slanderous comments made by him.
if he wants to be an abusive person, i wouldn't lower to put make your point within the courts.
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Posted: 7/21/2007 2:30:55 PM | Have you considered the fact that your ex is jealous because you are getting on with your life and he isn't? He may have a g/f, but he hasn't moved on.
That's why he was insulting you. You consider yourself a free woman, but he doesn't.
Tell him you've moved on. The separation is final, the divorce is just a piece of paper to confirm that. That should set things right. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 2:31:07 PM | | I'm with bucaneer, most womean get custody unless they are unfit! | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 2:56:47 PM | I think as a mother regardless of if you have the children or him, I would be a little discreet untill things work in your favour. My children always came first when I was a single mother.
I made sure I weas there alone when they woke up in the morning, and they were properly cared for and clean.. yes I went out on the town too but my children ddidn't know, and my ex was very jealous I had moved on ,but I did watch my actions when in public. Your Children are a gift from God do what you have to do to get them,and if you have a problem with any type of addiction get help for it. if not I wish you the best and good luck. Life can be a struggle but we all can do it with good determination and using our brains. getting pissed isn't what I want to hear about in court I would want to hear I am a fit mother.join things to better your reputation, and then you have back up girlfriend!
some men make better caregivers then the wife for many reasons so I wont knock any single fathers out there either. I have a neighbour who the CAS phoned him and said come get your child your wife is an unfit mother and a drunk.. so it does work both ways. Just watch your actions while your battle is going on.. A good lawyerr and strong will will help you in this predicament | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 3:37:26 PM | | Well suck it up. We men go thru this bullshit all the time. The kids went to the better parent. You don't have a job so how could you even PAY for the house. And women who are labeled whores are usually the ones who sleep around a lot. By the sounds of your handle you sound like a bar fly as well. The only thing I'd like to know is how much child support are you paying?? None I imagine. Feel gratefull your a woman. Had you been a man in this possition not only would you pay child support. It would be clocked every month weather you worked or not. But then being a woman all you will have to do is hook up with another man and life will move on nicely for you. ( And of cource you already know this right. LOL | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 3:51:16 PM |
If he's spreading rumors that you're a whore just spread some rumors about him having crabs and a small dingaling...man i love that word...dingaling
Gotta agree. It just isn't a good day unless you can use the word dingaling. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 4:00:49 PM | | My god no one should be branded a name like that!! At least you can hold your head high and know who and what you are........... don't let them get you down. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 4:20:33 PM | Hi Tipsy, i just had to reply to this and give you a big hug. No you are NOT a whore and i know its easier said than done but dont take all that shi$$ in. YOU know who you are and what people forget is that your children will not be little forever and will grow up and make up their own minds. They wont remember who was there for them financially but who was there for them emotionally and who loved them. Small towns must suck and small minded people suck even more but you cant do anything about that. Somehow you need to reach inside yourself and find the power within yourself as a woman. No i am not religous but i really believe the mind is a powerful thing. Try and hold your head up high. I dont think revenge is the answer. If you do the right thing and think positively i think eventually things work out for themselves. It worked for me. Being a good mother does not mean you cant go out and enjoy yourself either. It sounds as though you need some fun in your life. If you had the money you could fight this but it doesnt sound as if you have the means to do that and thats NOT your fault.
DONT let these half wits take any more emotional power from you. I hope this new guy you are seeing is a true friend to you . Tell yourself everyday you are a good person and BELIEVE IT.
Take care xx | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 4:49:23 PM | | I couldn't understand a word that you said there. Sorry! | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 5:15:23 PM | Ex's say the damnest things don't they? You can't expect him to shower you with compliments, although that would be best for the kids.
I moved out of the house with my ex-husband because he convinced me I couldn't afford it, etc. and he was the one cheating. I was so naive back then. But I had joint custody for our son, he would've had to kill me to get sole custody. :)
You're fine, just be a good mom and ignore small town rumors. | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 7:01:20 PM | I do not care one little jot if you think you are a whore. I could not give a jot or tittle about your problem to read further, I just tremble at your lack of education in the English language.
That statement is uncalled for and is not necessarily indicative of a lack of education. Evidently you lack knowledge into disabilities that impact on one's ability to learn effective communication in written format.
Now - to the OP: I do believe there is much more to the loss of custody than you have shared and your "handle" says volumes about what some of the reasons for losing custody were.
However - in response to your question. You do not have to justify, explain or defend your choices to anyone. I know small towns can be brutal with the gossip and backbiting. But you can either let that bring you down or rise above it and move on with your life. You know what defines a whore and you also know that the behavior you described is not in line with whoredom. Small minds have nothing better to do than to tear down other people. But small minds is all they are. Buck up and let the snide remarks roll off your back. You know who you are and that is really all that matters - not what anyone else wants to project on you.
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Posted: 7/26/2007 2:43:57 PM | | Before you criticize others in their use of the English language, I suggest you use it correctly in your self opinionated missive. The word problem needs to be replaced with ability. I wonder why I do not find myself surprised, that there are no fish in your sea. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:48:58 PM | | Your name doesn't help matters. And why are you going to the bar with an ex? Another thing he shouldn't be at the bar if his girlfriend is pregnant at home. Tsk Tsk to you both. So it doesn't make you any better than him. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 4:08:50 PM | Here's what I do when someone call me something bad. I just say to them,
"It take one to know one" | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 4:13:48 PM | | Hey I have my son 24/7. I work full time and go to college. Take care of him, the house, and the land. I also will go out now and then. With the girls from work or on a date ( dont really know what a date is anymore). I am not a whore. Who care what people say? All that matter is that your kids konw who you are and for the last 10 yrs they have known you and they should know that people dont change. Just be your self as you was before. All that matters are your kids!! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 4:18:36 PM | Whores are women who charge men for sex.
You are just someone who......................... I think I am not going to judge at this time. .......
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