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Posted: 8/13/2007 4:47:17 PM | Are you a whore ?
I ask this because only you can answer this .
If you belive you aint thats all that counts , what the .... has it got to do with him who you date ?
sounds to me like he was a control freak while you was with him and is still trying to control you now !
Sod him ! nothing to do with him who you date period .
Get ya self sorted and go get ya kidz :)
Good luck
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| is this bein a Whore?
Posted: 8/13/2007 5:32:29 PM | People can be so hurtful, ignorant. So one sided There own side they see.
I dont think any woman is a whore, permiscious perhaps but not a w | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 5:33:43 PM | Sounds to me like his new girlfriend is.....well let's just say she insn't the model of vertue! 8 months and she's already living with him and having his babies when his divorce isn't even finalised yet....man, she's a fast worker! And a sucker to boot!  | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 7:56:43 PM | no you are not a whore. he just can't see himself being with you. he is projecting his slutty behavior onto you. he feels ashamed of himself but blames you. its not your fault. its him.
he is the slut if you want to get right down to it.
also the problem you are having is that you believe what he says about you. he has too much power over you. stop believing anything he says. don't try to figure out what he could mean by his abusive language. he is just messing with your head. he has too much power over you. stop believing every little thing he says. they are all lies. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 8:10:04 PM | | It's about time a whore and a bad mother lost the house and the kids. Whores and bad mothers always win the house and kids. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 6:05:40 PM | What do you think? That's what matters. Don't let other people define you. You know who you are and what you're doing. And I wish you all the best | |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 6:26:40 PM | Till I got old, I was a whole lot easier than you.
It's only true if you say so, not just because other people want to feel self righteous and spread nasty remarks.
A suggestion. Get yourself another screen name. Your putting yourself down with your current one. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 12:12:39 PM | first GET A NEW ROOMMATE!!!!!!!!!
second he is just pissed because you actually have a life and don't need him.....
HE IS THE WHORE...... | |
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| is this bein a Whore?
Posted: 9/12/2007 12:59:51 PM | No, it does NOT mean you are a whore. Unfortunately, considering the type of people who seem to be watching you and playing arm-chair psychologist and social worker, you may need to be more careful.
Never, EVER underestimate the power of small town gossip, which may have factored into your loss of custody. It does in many cases. I have researched this phenomena, and am SO SORRY. Be careful not to hand them anymore to chew on, but do continue to live your life. You deserve it more than even you may believe right now. Maybe the twins will encourage him to give your kids back. Until then, try to ignore the gossip mongers, and continue to live an upright life.
Some advice: Fair or not, you are being judged. I would delete your profile and being again with a screen name that a judge would not be likely to frown on, should someone discover your identity. This is the largest website of its kind, and you live in a small town which you describe in your posts. Fair to you? Absolutely not. Necessary? Absolutely yes.
I wish you and your kids all of the luck and success that the world has to offer. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 1:16:16 PM | | Op: move to the big city, you can get lost in the shuffle. Seriously, who is doing the name calling? The ex or his gf or both? If he started it, that is to make you look bad in front of his gf just. Actually it is not right any time, but if he does so in front of the kids get a witness to that and show the court that he is defaming your name to your own kids. That should be looked down on in a court, that can have an affect on the visitation to the extent that this guy should get less as he is badmouthing you to them. I feel that he can end up with supervised visitation if he does this freely. That can harm the kids impression of their mother if they are young and don't know what to think yet. IF he is doing that with them around, what kind of parent teaches their kids that word?Try to document his doing that if they are around especially. You aren't this by the sound of things. He is defaming your character and that is something to take seriously. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 1:16:24 PM | Tempus -- Please do your research on this subject. With all due respect, you are undeniably, statistically, and unequivocally wrong.
Please: Start your research by doing a computer search on the phrase `smalljustice.` Please. The related links will show that well-educated, award-winning documentarians -- specialists and professionals in their fields -- describe situations like that experienced by this mother as part of a nation-wide epidemic. Then, please apologize to this woman, who is already suffering enough. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 1:23:51 PM | No, I would not describe you as a whore....however, I would describe both you and your ex as ummmm, how do I put this? A mess?
Anyway, what I find odd is that you refer to it as "MY home" when you obviously are not living there any more and the only reason I can find for you not having the home any longer is because you abandonded it??? Or is that inaccurate?
Also why was it ok for you to not work for a time and not ok for him not to work for a time?
I guess I just don't get it.
But again, no, I would not consider you a "whore" | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 1:52:15 PM | It's ruff but during a breakup you have to use your brains and not your emotions.
It's never a good idea to get involved with someone during your breakup or to be seen in bars while trying for custody of your kids. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 4:29:09 PM | a man won custody and kept the home after you took the kids ??very very low odds of that ever happening girly,,,if ever ,,and this happened in Canada ???,,there is a lot you haven't told us tipsybarchick,,i would love to hear how he managed to do that .
you see men are just pay cheques here and the good job only means he pays more ..has custody ,,real long shot ..check the % of the ever happening ..even if you are a whore
please tell us how he did this ..if its true at all. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 3:17:24 AM | | Being a whore is sleeping around with lots of guys, and taking money for sex. Being a slut is doing the same thing for free...no money. If you are sleeping with one guy, and not taking money for it, or seeing one guy and not sleeping with him, you are neither a whore, or a slut. What difference does it make? Why do you care if an ex badmouths you? It sounds as if you want the ex back, and are upset he won't take you back. Let the town talk, and ignore it. If you can't ignore the talk, move to a new town. | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 4:28:36 AM | i agree witha previous post theres more to this story than what is up on this post.
But if anyone called me a whore id be pleased theyd think im some kind of femme fatale cos i aint had any action in months lol x | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 4:43:40 AM |
Let the town talk, and ignore it.
Terrible advice, in my opinion. Gossip, true false or somewhere inbetween, has a very real effect on a person's self-esteem.
If you can't ignore the talk, move to a new town.
Very good advice, in my opinion, but it may not be workable in the OP's circumstances.
!Les | |
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Posted: 9/14/2007 5:24:43 AM | | A whore aka prostitute is someone who gets paid to have sex. Thus the OP is not one. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 10:37:05 AM | | It really dont matter what people think about you as long as you talk care of you kids. They might not live with you but that sure the **** dont make you make you a whore or a bad mom. And baby gurl if goin to the club makes you a whore then everybody in the ****in world is a whore couse everybody been there done that. Baby gurl **** what people say and all you need to do is work your azz off and get your shit together and you will get your babys back... And then the fisrt time he gos to the ****in club talk shit to him. You just keep that job and get your shit together and **** ervybody else and what they got to say... That shit want matter when u have your babys back you want even gave a **** what he is sayin Promise you and if you get custody of your babys back he will be kiss your azz.... Believe it..... **** whatever body else says baby gurl your not a whore for goin out and all that..... I mean dose it really matter what everybody else has to say???? Let that shit go in one ear and out the other... Thats what i do.... Keep your head up... | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 10:55:19 AM | | No, but it definitely means you failed at the English language somewhere along the way. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 2:03:35 PM | I would think that with the court systems RARELY siding with the man for FULL custody these days under NORMAL circumstances and conditions, there is probably more to this story than the explanation you're giving?
Whore? Perhaps not......
But I would be curious as to how many DUI's you've had, anger management issues......or if the courts demanded that you probably start 12 stepping before being allowed further involvement in a more equitable custody situation........ | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 2:16:38 PM | | One of the worst things that people can do is put the other parent down to the kids. It doesn't matter what they call you. It's the calling that needs to stop. Maybe have it as a rule. I am sure you can negotiate that into what is going on, since you will always have contact with them, and there's a lot of give and take. So make that a rule. | |
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Joined: 10/9/2007
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| is this bein a Whore?
Posted: 10/16/2007 2:18:29 PM | | Whore schmore.....stop all the labeling, it just hurts people. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 3:45:04 PM | This thread was started just about 2 years ago.
Wonder what happened during that time.
Wonder if OP is still un-settled.
Wonder how long PoF keeps our profile up once we stop accessing PoF.
*Note to Self*
Self, when you stop coming on PoF do not forget to close your account! | |
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