Revy1
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Joined: 10/6/2006
Msg: 101 | |
| men that love big women
Posted: 11/26/2006 10:42:51 AM | Beauty exists at any size. And there are people who are attracted to every size of woman on the face of this earth.
Some men love skinny women. Some men love a more athletic build. Some men love the big breasts and wider hips. Some men like women that are nice and large. There is a match for each size, and it does not make a man shallow that he has a preference.
I think there are two important aspects: 1. that a woman is healthy - Good health looks great on a person, and 2. That a woman loves herself, as she is, and is confident in the way she presents herself.
I have always been somewhat on the heavier side of average. Healthy, but bigger. Not quite a BBW, but have always had a few extra pounds. I used to HATE my body, and my poor self-image showed. And guess what... during that period of my life, few men found me attractive.
I have not since turned into a skinny, model-esque person. I still am somewhat on the heavier side of average, as I have always been. But I love who I am, I know that I have the ability to turn men on, I still get checked out on the street, in my car, at the mall, etc. I definately don't have any trouble getting dates (when I am single that is). What changed? I did. I stopped feeling sorry for myself, hating my body, etc... and started loving who I was and exuding confidence and sexiness.
If you want a man to notice you (regardless of size), be confident and your own kind of sexy. And there are men who will be very attracted and turned on. If you dwell on dislike of your body and your beauty, then men may not take notice so much.
Just my two cents... love all you BBW out there. You are beautiful. | |
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~Joy~
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Joined: 10/6/2006
Msg: 103 | |
| men that love big women
Posted: 11/29/2006 8:05:55 AM | Well, I am a larger woman, and I have been talking to someone for 5 months, and my size isn't a problem....he told me love takes time and to let nature take its course. We have a really strong bond. We connect on a spiritual as well as emotional level...and physical will come when the time is right. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2006 2:15:27 PM | | All I can say is they ought to be having the time of their lives on thses sites. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 10:36:34 PM | hey everyone yes of course im a bigger woman . yea ive been treated like shit but i got one thing they dont love for myself. and everything in my life . hey if a guy doesnt like me for who i am . i dont think i really need them do i. not worth it. i love having fun i love sex .etc... but im not going to let any man bring me down . i love life . big women enjoy life . you never know where it will end. amanda  | |
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Posted: 12/21/2006 4:39:41 PM | I'm sure there are plenty of men out there who love big women, but I don't think you should focus on that aspect alone. If I found a man who solely dated big women, I would kind of feel like a fetish or experiment. To each his own I guess, but that's just my humble opinion.
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| men that love big women
Posted: 12/22/2006 7:42:42 AM |
Well, free drinks aside (which are okay if you have no pride or sense of decency), the real issue here is BBW women.
The true definition of bbw (which stands for big and beautiful woman) is a woman who is larger is frame, taller in height and perhaps a little more curvy than the 'average' lady.
The sad part is that a lot of women (and there are many on POF) have have skewed bbw to encompass plain obese.
Having 4 chins, forearms shaped like a cured ham, legs that cause severe friction burns against each other during walking (or sitting) does not make a woman a bbw. It makes her fat with out of control eating habits and probably a points card at Krispy Kreme.
When one such woman tells you "it's actually a genetic disorder" she likely said that on her way out of or into an ice cream parlor or a fast food store.
BBW is a category of body (like thin, athletic etc) but sadly, it has been stretched (no pun intended) to cover just plain fat and ugly and that should be a category all on its own!
is it really necessary to be so mean?
Fat doesn't mean ugly. Making rude comments is ugly.
It is true that some people don't control their food intake, but in alot of cases people are put on medication that causes weight gain, and some cause in increase in appetite that causes weight gain.
Is it really for u to judge? If u don't like it, leave it alone. If u have to say something, does it have to be mean?
Your descriptions of a fat person were all intended to be cruel. Do u feel better about yourself? | |
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Posted: 3/13/2007 10:41:31 AM |
Well, free drinks aside (which are okay if you have no pride or sense of decency), the real issue here is BBW women.
The true definition of bbw (which stands for big and beautiful woman) is a woman who is larger is frame, taller in height and perhaps a little more curvy than the 'average' lady.
The sad part is that a lot of women (and there are many on POF) have have skewed bbw to encompass plain obese.
Having 4 chins, forearms shaped like a cured ham, legs that cause severe friction burns against each other during walking (or sitting) does not make a woman a bbw. It makes her fat with out of control eating habits and probably a points card at Krispy Kreme.
When one such woman tells you "it's actually a genetic disorder" she likely said that on her way out of or into an ice cream parlor or a fast food store.
BBW is a category of body (like thin, athletic etc) but sadly, it has been stretched (no pun intended) to cover just plain fat and ugly and that should be a category all on its own!
I don't usually post threads, but this was just plain cruel. The term BBW encompasses all over weight women...after all they are big, they are women, and the beautiful part? Well why is that for you to judge? Beauty is not only skin deep, if you ever took the time to get to know a woman who classes herself as BBW, or ANY woman for that matter, I am sure you would find them beautiful on the inside, and in finding that, they can become beautiful on the outside to you as well. People are soo superficial when it comes to looks, its rather disturbing actually. After all it seems looks take precedent over the whole package....remember - LOOKS WILL FADE!
If BBW isn't your "cup of tea" that's fine, but there is no reason to put them down in a public forum, on the street, or in any form.. if you don't like it...don't look!
LOL Whatever...that's my 2 cents! | |
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Sirris
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Joined: 7/21/2006
Msg: 109 | |
| men that love big women
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:00:34 AM | I think there's a definite distinction between BBW and obese. Obesity is a health problem, no matter what the cause, but there's nothing wrong with some curves. I am attracted to all kinds of different women, and just because someone is a certain body type doesn't mean men are more prone to liking them.
There are plenty of women who are thin, athletic and physically fit that don't do anything for me, and there are many, many BBW that I find very attractive and desirable. Of course, it goes the other way, too.
Some women like fit, muscular men, others like bigger, more substantial men with a nice big gut, others like a skinny dude, etc. Unfortunately, there really isn't a "politically correct" term for a fat guy. But then again, does there need to be one?
I also think a lot of it is how you portray yourself. Cleanliness, professionalism, dressing nicely and a good attitude will get you far, whereas even the most gorgeous women on the planet look disheveled in the morning when they get up. Also, I've known women who were considered "large" that were still quite physically fit.
And of course, no one likes someone with a poor attitude, an angry personality or a negative outlook on life. No amount of beauty or good looks makes up for that.
I guess my point is BBW is like any other attempt to categorize. Doesn't really even begin to scratch the surface of accurately capturing who a person is. | |
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BigB.
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Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 110 | |
| men that love big women
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:54:56 AM | I for one have dated and good relationships with "bigger" girls.
I'm one of those weird guys that looks for personality first. Of course, there needs to be attraction amongst us. No different if I took upon a relationship with a skinny girl...
No personality or attraction equals no relationship.
Just my 2 cents | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 6:06:12 AM | OK ppl
I am an obese BBW, so what!!!!!!
I am an amazing woman; self confident, self reliable, resilent, capable,loyal, loving, generous...........................
Point here is if any man out there is willing to discount me because of my appearence; shame on him, his loss not mine!!!!!
I have never lacked attention from gentleman, my ex is as fine as they come, weight/hieght proportionate even. We dated for 5 years, so apparently he liked me the way I am.
If you are really into a perfect size 5 or 6 or whatever more power to you, however do not be rude. There are some who are not as confident and it can be hurtful. How would you feel if your 'willy' was put up for discussion??? Might get your feelings hurt????
It is time that we grow up and realize something here people: superficial beauty fades, personality endures. Eventually we will all be 70+ and what will matter then ??????
Oh yeah "fit" I am stronger than alot of men I know able to lift, push or otherwise manipulate objects of size, so I reckon I am fit!!!!!!
And what could be sexier than a woman who is confident in herself, has personality, and something more than just a pretty face(not that my face is not pretty) lol
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:32:12 AM | i see on here alot of skinny ladys i dont dont understand why is this?this site is for big women to find men that like big women ..can you skinny ladys tell me why your on this site? | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 7:59:37 AM | You can change body weight but you can't change ugly.
I am so grateful for these boards sometimes. It allows you to see men in their glory professing their perfection to the denigration of fat women everywhere. So charming they are...so riveting to watch their display of machismo.
Truth is, people with self-esteem don't need to take the time to put others down if it's something they avoid in the first place. Sad reality is that most of these men couldn't catch or attract the slender ladies by virtue of their extremely shitty personalities and it has little to do with body size.
Some men are uncomfortable with anyone taking up more visible space than they do. It makes them feel small and that really freaks them out. They get nervous and feel like maybe they aren't THE MAN.
Personally, I've met men from every possible range of body sizes, from fat to tall to skinny to average and I have enjoyed attractions to various different types. I don't have an aversion to one particular type. Those who do need to avoid forums where the type they hate is being discussed. That way, those who have something of value to share on the topic will have more "space" to create a more comfortable atmosphere for those who are okay with it. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 8:00:30 AM | You can change body weight but you can't change ugly.
That depends on what you consider ugly. People can change their wardrobe to improve their appearance. They can get a better haircut. They can have their yellow teeth whitened, crooked teeth straightened, bad teeth replaced. They can go to the dermatologist for that skin problem. Skinny people can eat better and hit the gym. People can even improve themselves surgically. Bald guys can shave their heads or get a wig. People with glasses can get contacts or lasik. And fat people can lose weight. Or they can be happy with who they are, and find someone who accepts them... Which should not be hard, if they do not hold the people they date to higher standards than they do themselves.
see on here alot of skinny ladys i dont dont understand why is this?this site is for big women to find men that like big women ..can you skinny ladys tell me why your on this site?
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I'm surprised to see a woman post that. Even though the site is not advertised as such, all it takes is a walk through the success stories pages (or to get banned for making a comparatively innocuous comment that upsets the hyper-sensitive larger women here) to see that there is some truth in the above comment. | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 9:52:37 AM | I mean ugly in the sense of personality.
Nobody is born with their personality, it is influenced by environment throughout one's lifetime. I've seen people improve their personality over the years as a result of personal hardship, and from life-changing experiences. I've also seen the reverse. Often, what we see as an unattractive personality is the evidence of an inner struggle against outside influences and emotional hardship. (Like large women who lash out at those that do not find them attractive, or even against those that they THINK won't find them attractive, as a preemptive strike. All probably as a result of real ridicule by someone in their past or present.)
My uncle was one of the biggest racists I have ever known. Off color jokes about black people were part of any visit, regardless of the occasion. His son joined the Army and married a black woman while in Germany. My uncle disowned him, and my cousin moved to live near his wife's family when he left the service. Years passed and they had children. He ran into financial hardship and had to move back home (with the help of other family members). Well, to make a long story short, those grandchildren got into my uncle's heart, and he was a changed man in so many ways. It wasn't just his attitude toward other races that changed, it was as though all the anger had left his body. Ugly can be fixed. You just never know how, when, or if it's going to happen. | |
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Posted: 6/7/2009 11:30:24 AM | I like THICK women not BIG women!! The ladies that are "thick" know what I'm talking about | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 10:32:48 AM | | i know women don't like to hear this, and they say, alot of guys love big women. but sadly, while their always exceptions, most prefer thin, pretty girls. I spent the weekend at Hampton Beach in NH. and let me tell you, the fat girls are in abundance. some just chunky, wearing wayyyy to tight spandex. why women, who shouldn't be wearing those types of clothes, wear them, i'll never know. personally, if your a female, and over 145lbs, your to heavy. some guys like a little chuncky but and legs. i like them thin, girls that can a belly shirt and look good. this country unfortunately is going down hill in regards to overweight women. on this site, there is a women, i was talking to, she said she had an average build. then she told me she weighed 180lbs. 180lbs is average female weight??????? there are men on the patriots, that weigh that, (wide recievers) there is no way on earth a female should be weighing that. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2009 11:31:20 AM |
there are men on the patriots, that weigh that
Well, the patriots ARE a bunch of girls, after all.
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Posted: 7/13/2009 1:07:19 PM | oh goody!
another fat bashing thread has been revived!
I just can't get enough of this stuff!
Of course constant focus on the fat peoples
lets us avoid the more common affliction on this
site...sucky galore personalities!
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Posted: 7/13/2009 9:01:45 PM | So you like chubby chicks because they buy you drinks? LOL
I'm chubby but I wouldn't buy a guy a drink..I'm not that desperate. | |
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| men that love big women
Posted: 7/13/2009 11:55:57 PM | Hey Roguevampire. I have some bones to pick with your comment, my dear. Let's go over this one, right here:
most prefer thin, pretty girls
Being fat does not always mean ugly. Nor does being thin automatically make you pretty. When I look in the mirror, I don't recoil in horror and the mirror doesn't shatter:P
I don't have a problem with people having preferences on what they find attractive, everyone does. I do, for sure. The point is how you get it across, or why you even bother?
Let's say you see someone with an obvious physical disability, that unnerves you, across the street. Would you go out of your way to harass them and make sure they know you find them repulsive?
I doubt it, and that's the point. So many people do this to BBW's. A comment someone made on another board that I frequent "Fatties are not people". That's being cruel and it's completely unnecessary. You don't like fat girls, then just leave 'em be.
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| men that love big women
Posted: 7/16/2009 7:18:48 AM | | i never said fat girls were ugly. and id never make fun of them in person. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2009 8:56:56 AM | | A smile and a wink to you.......I go to the gym everyday and still I will never be a barbie doll, but I'm in good shape curves and all seems at my age excerscing makes curves shapley and just maintain weight which has been and will always be a few extra pounds | |
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Posted: 7/26/2009 1:37:51 PM | i never said fat girls were ugly. and id never make fun of them in person.
So you'd make fun of us... not in person? Maybe to a guy friend... who may happen to LIKE big women?
... no wonder men are scared to date women that turn them on.
Let me ask.... if you saw me (or any other big girl) in the gym... lifting weights along side of you. Even keeping up with you. You've seen this girl going for three months. You SEE the small changes happening in her slow weight loss... do you STILL go back to the locker room and make fun of her? Is she STILL ugly?? | |
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