| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/18/2005 2:36:23 AM | NEVER give up HOPE....
just dont be so quick to jump into anything.
Without hope there is nothing.
I hope I win the lotto one day too
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/18/2005 2:47:12 AM | | That is all up to opinion....Hope on what??..No i will never give up hope on myself..Thank god for that...But on women i gave that up years ago..best decision i made in my life.....What few times i did rely a woman on anything it was like asking for a million dollars..If ever in my past had to rely on awoman to give me a breath of air to save my life,Then i would be a dead man today....I am very happy with relying on a woman...And besides most of them are going after Mr. jerk anyways..So it is all for the best........ | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/18/2005 2:23:02 PM | | well my experiance has not been good either ,,i have been lied to many times promised things and silly enough to beleive..I sometimes feel like i dont want to keep trying but somethng always makes me want to try again...i have to beleive that not everyone is out to hurt you... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/18/2005 2:47:45 PM | | Why not stop searching? It will happen if it happens! That's the way I see it now... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/18/2005 3:34:31 PM | | why ?? well like i said i have to beleive that not every one is out to hurt .....Im not ....... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/18/2005 3:51:20 PM | | No,But most will.And do you know why?...Because most people do not know what in the hell they want..Or WHO they want for that matter...So in the mean time people think they have to experment with somebody elses emotions..Do they care??They care friggine less,It is not there emotions they are dealing with...So why would they care..(IN other words,What is in it for me attitude)And as a reult of going with screw up women with this attitude in my 20s i gave up..And no figgin regrets...No i will never give up on myself in life..But women i could careless about...You see that is the whole problem with society,People think you have to go from one person to another to learn...Well i do not,I know right from wrong...I think going from relationship to relationship is a waste of time and energy......What keeps me going is my job,house and goals..I have never depended on a woman for that and never will...If i ever in my past had to depend on a woman to give me air to keep me alive.I would be a dead man today...The reason is there to busy looking for Mr.Jerk and trying to change him...So as far as that aspect of life i would never waste another minute on that..I gave my 20s up and i be damm if i waste the rest of my life..I am better off!!! | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 10:40:25 AM | dang tarheelguy, you are one bitter person. People don't think the way you describe, sure there are some messed up men and women out there but they are the minority not the majority as you seem to think. It's actually kinda' sad that the only thing that keeps you going is material things, I'd recommend maybe getting out more or even going to church, but as self centered and bitter as you sound in your posts I don't think that would benefit you much. I've met a lot of folks who are the opposite of what you describe, just because your little world got rocked a few times doesn't mean the entire population is as you described, I hope and pray your eyes get opened some day otherwise you're going to live a very unhappy and lonely life.  | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 1:41:46 PM | | I am glad you got me figure out...Your good!!!And just think you have never met me... | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 1:45:58 PM | When you are tired of getting hurt and don't think you can go through it one more time.
That is when you give up, step back, give yourself a break from it all. Let your heart heal. About the time you give up and stop looking is when you find your true love. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 1:47:08 PM | We can always count on you for the woman bashing opinion and side of the story Tarheelman. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 3:23:20 PM | | Never give up. If you shut out the world to avoid the bad, you never get any of the good either. Open your eyes & appreicate what you do have because your missing it, and then the rest will fall in place. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 3:32:55 PM | | If you're relying on hoping and wishing, forget it. You want somebody bad enough just go get him. You already know him. No, he may not be the pretty boy with a jock bod but he is a guy who respects you and always says hi to you even though he knows you're not interested in him. He's a dreamer. He is taylor-made for you. Train him! cause you drive him wild in his mind. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 4:23:58 PM | | So true^^^^^^^^^^^^But in reality women do not want this...They do not like the plain type of guy...Always looking to change somebody...What a waste of time...As far as hope i have never gave up on that..I got to much going for me...I do not need a women for hope...And thank god for that... | |
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| when should we give up hope?my answer is never..........
Posted: 11/21/2005 4:34:16 PM | | We all go through heartbreaks at times,its better to have loved ,than never have loved at all''.you have to be happy no matter which way your life turns out.Trust'' well you have to at some point,as life is about a journey,im thinking you just have to try and move on. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 4:43:37 PM | | Again don't hope. Just go get him. He's out there. Look in the mirror and then go find your equal. If you want to date-up to a hunky-jock type guy than accept all that comes with the territory. Nice guys don't always finish last. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 4:55:52 PM | You've asked some pretty good questions, PreciousOne. I think you have the answers too, already. Taking a time out from the dating scene is a good idea, time to get to know the new you better and to recover and heal your soul from the ordeal you've been through. When we separate from a loved one, it's not like losing your ball at the park, or your bat at the ball game, it's like radical surgery! You've got a great big gaping wound where you're other half used to be. It takes time to get used to being with yourself, lots of time. You need to learn to be single and getting along well with it, then you're ready for another trip on the romance train. Take all the time you need, don't rush yourself, just do the stuff you couldn't do before because you were with 'him' and he wasn't into your hobby. Now is your time to be you, free to make your own choices, and do your own thing.
About the heartbreak thing, it's usually the result of jumping into dating too soon after a breakup. We have to get rid of the 'baggage' from the old relationship before we start the new one, or else we start with the old habits again, and even if it's a different guy we often start thinking of them in the same way we thought of the last one. It's not fair to the new guy or to yourself either. Beleive me, it's worth it to wait for your heart to heal before you expect it to withstand the highs of a new love in your life.
You can chat with me any time you think you'd like to. I really do know what I'm talking about.
your friend, Lady Mara | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 5:19:42 PM | actually it's you're not your, and after reading how negative "your" posts are I'm very very glad I don't know you as you sound like a total bummer to be around, good luck in everything though,who knows, maybe someday you'll find some folks who share your views and you can all go get hammered and play the "oh poor me" card and gripe about how you don't need anyone etc etc etc until you're blue in the face  .....and then someday, you'll meet a girl who will pprove you wrong in every way and boy will you feel like a jerk for being so negative all these years......things like that happen when you least expect it | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 5:34:46 PM | NEVER!!!! We don't know what's in store for us. So "Don't" give up your hopes and dreams, that's what keeps us alive and young!!!! | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 6:57:57 PM | We are all in control of our own destiny to some degree. Negative people with negative thoughts are entitled to live that way if they choose to do so. One of the biggest things is to learn forgiveness. Without forgiveness your past can just eat you up. Sometimes it's someone else you have to forgive, and sometimes it's yourself. Personally in my life I find the most negative people don't really know how to forgive.... and more often than not it's themselves their angry with. Sometimes it's why was I so 'stupid', or sometimes it's why was the other person so nasty, or even why is this 'world so mean'(to me).
Forgiveness takes time. Inherently, I believe most people want to do good, and sometimes life gets in the way of that.
With forgiveness (after time) hope appears. Don't give up!
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 8:15:09 PM | | Hope is the one thing no one can take away from you, it only fades when you let it slip away. Sure you may get bumped and bruised along the way but if you find what really makes you happy its all worth the effort. Being alone is definatly not the answer...you have to pick yourself up at some point and jump right back in there. We all have something about us that you can still offer someone, its more a matter of being ready for it when it happens. Hang in there...have a margarita or 10 and get ready to get back out there!! | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 8:24:39 PM | | I think mustbenuts! and sharann's comments above are AWESOME. Precious dude, I suggest reading and re-reading these. In addition to what these ladies (and others) have said, I would say to take a real hard look at yourself and what your part has been in these heartbreaks. I say this because now in recovery from alcoholism, part of the 12 Steps deal with "character defects," which everyone has. May be something to think about: where were you selfish/self-centered in your relationships, did you act with her feelings in mind, where did you behave based on fear, etc. AA is a great design for living that's helped me tremendously. Please, by no means am I calling you a drunk; rather, I am pointing out a perspective on life that may help. All the best from South Florida, Ben. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/21/2005 11:21:33 PM | Don't take advantage of your life, don't ever give up. There are so many that have lost so much more than we have. I suggest that you read my thread on Sara Easton and re-think your statement.
There is someone out there for you, and it takes a long time to find that perosn, but when you do you'll be grateful you didn't give up. | |
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| when should we give up hope?
Posted: 11/22/2005 12:25:21 AM | Tarheelman....
Okay, I'm going to say this, and TRY to be sympathetic. My apologees if I sound a little disgusted.
I am young, I will give you that, but I have been told by all of my friends that I have a good head on my shoulders and my life figured out. I know who I am, who I want to be and where I am going. NONE of that is in connection to men I have been interested in. So I understand that much of what you have said.
I, however, AM friends with all of the men I have ever been involved with. My first bf and I have kept in touch and talk on occasion even though he is in Iraq now. He cares about my well being and tell me so, and on the rare occasion I am feeling down and he happens to be back in the country or have a few spare minutes to talk, he assures me that I'll be fine and tells me to go run out my frustrations in any way I can.
My second bf and I are BEST friends. Sure, when we're both single and in the same region of the country, we sleep together, and it's great. We care about each other a LOT, and you know what? We're not in love. We have amazing stringless sex, talk and cuddle, and maybe watch a movie, and it's one of the most comfortable places I can be.
The third one and I are on less stable ground, but he's still there for me when it counts, and that's what's important.
I am single, and I date when the right person comes along. It does not make me stupid. If anything, these men have made me stronger, and are still some of the most meaningful people in my life. To dismiss that as "weak" and a "waste of time" is above all one of the most horrible and ignorant things I have heard. I love my boys to death and would never trade them, not for all the peace of mind in the world. If you believe that to be "weak" then maybe you should examine the relationships you have been in a little harder. | |
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