| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 3/25/2006 12:44:51 PM |
Let's face it, that's what most women are attracted to. Why??? Because men like that are raw sexuality built into a really good package. That's what women are attracted to, raw sexuality and sensuality just as much as men are. To say that women are not sexual beings is just a illusionary viewpoint. They hope to find the raw sexuality guy that might, just might be in it for a serious relationship.
this is very true and right on the point. The desire of women is what attracts them to the tall, good looking guys, and it is all about the sexuality. If you visit the "tall men only" women's threads, you will read how they want to feel protected and feminine with a guy, not to mention that they want to wear their heels as well. This is all related to the female sexuality, them being more fragile and tender, men being the ones that will grab them and take them to the cave to live happily thereafter....
Now, the player is usually the good looking guy that provides for the fantasies of the woman. But women want to have both sides of the coin. They want the tall, attractive, good looking, kind, faithful, rich, professional, educated, intelligent man. They see all this in the player and the potential for him to be all this, but the player has no desire to start a relationship because then he will no longer be able to collect the trophies. It is like a spanish saying that goes "perro que come huevos ni quemandole el hocico" which means: " a dog that eats eggs will not stop doing it, even if you burn its mouth".
So when u are dating any kind of guys like this, there is a tradeoff. You trade off stability, faithfulness and security for looks, sexual desire and competitiveness (women love it when other girls see them with the tall, dark and handsome boy), and the fact is, go to any place where young women go and you will see who their dates are..... | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 3/25/2006 4:46:44 PM | Amen Sister !!! Id give a man all the space he needs as long as he doesn't cheat. That seems to much 2 ask though. I don't want someone telling me;where, when,how & if I'm gonna do something. I can have fb's, i want a real relationship with a ''real'' man (if u have 2 ask, u don't know).I'm not talkin marriage either....... | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 3/26/2006 8:34:42 AM | i too was sued for alimony, thank god we only had a parrot and no kids :)
I feel for all of us , men /wemon we all want what we cant have . I can't find what I want in a man so a friend and lover is enough for now. I am a busy independnt woman and make more money than most yet I also dont want to pay out my ears in alimoney agian. so I know I wont get married because I know how it feels to get burnt men are not alone in this area , but I know there are far few wemon like myself than there are men, so I know men get it in the a*** more often. I am older too , maybe as time goes by we dont all have the same needs in a relationship. I want a friend, lover and partner . I find men my age are afraid of getting hurt and they are just now done paying 18 years of child support so they are afraid of going to court again for round two at age 50 +. Im dating a guy now who is still paying on past child support, hes not (rich) and that has never been a requirement for me . I like the fact he doesnt suffocate me , i have all the space I need , and I dont feel like I have to say i love you all the time , in fact I havnt used it yet i m not in love with him yet a like him allot. Maybe being in love isn't all that. I like being "in like" better , its easier and doesnt fade over time. Your not wondering what happened after six months like why did he/she change.maybe its because theres no expectations of marraige? | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 4/17/2006 11:45:33 PM | well, there r many good and bad points said here.
what i have found is that we men and women, have been programmed by what we see on tv commercials. all we see is a good looking woman checking out the good looking man or visa versa. know this has gone on for decades seen by ourselves and now our children r seeing this also. q. do u ever see a ugly looking man with a good looking woman or the other way. not to often. what we need to do is look deeper into someone's soul as i do by asking questions that r from the mind aand heart. dont look at the external part of that person, listen with open mind to their answers and on every day things that effect our lives. if u like what they r saying, then there is a good chance of a connection of a friend or a mate. personally, i've been separated for 15 years and met a lot of ladies, some nice and some nasty ones tooo. im not the best looking guy around with that v shaped body that most women want, but i try and stay healthy in body and mind. as u get older, your perspective changes on how you look at things. then new questions come into your mind, relationship, single, thought process with a partner, and all those type of things. being single today is not like being single 30 years ago. its very scary out there with all those std's that are more prone to get and how many partners has the last person your with before u.
so, sociaty has changed the way we look at ourselves. we need is to make it simple again to meet others on a level playing field. | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 4/18/2006 12:01:32 AM | I'm not a man, but i sure would like to know myself-have had nothing *but* bad experiences since I gave up on a LDR when the guy could not commit to even one visit in over 5 years...Only one interested in sex, which did surprise me because I do have real body parts, shall I say, and even though you hear differently, flat chested girls and small busted ones are the ones I see dating....Only one odd comment on my bust recently....Arggh!!!!!
I am a good person, but lately my dating life-if you can even call it that-stinks.... | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 4/18/2006 12:11:35 AM | I have liked two short men-one was immature and *did* pot-in addition to dumping me in front of other people, the other only wants blue eyed blondes and does not want to relocate-which stinks.... I do not have blue eyes and am not blonde....I am not picky when it comes to height-some of the sexiest men I know or have heard of-including Harrison Ford-are short....Some of the hottest Latino men I've seen are short, too...{Unfortunately, they're already with somebody else, or I would be interested...} Let's be honest, men are more pickly than most ladies, which is why a lot of great ladies are still looking or are available and confused... | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 4/11/2008 9:10:52 PM | maybe its because too many people have been burnt enough in relationships that its not appealing anymore. Maybe we should rename it like "minds and bodies" or" friends and lovers". Im not sure that age doesnt play a big part of it too. Maybe after say 50 you are happy with being friends and lovers, and if you stay together great but if you dont then you might be able to stay friends if that part was all that stayed healthy. what is a relationship other than two people who like and love each other , who compliment each other as well as learnig to be partners in life ; and mariage is a contract. who needs a contract if they trust each other. | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 4/12/2008 8:39:06 AM | | Not all men want a fuk buddy. I personally think its frikin stupid becuae all you or the other person are doing is setting each other up for disappointment. One of you will end up wanting more while the other will not. More times than not, thats always the case. Now, I have been and always wanted a long term relationship, but unfortunently, I havent found it yet. Its not going to just fall into your lap. It can take a long time to find that one. You just have to be patient | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 9/26/2009 8:16:43 AM | Kiki111. If a guy walks away because you don't sleep with him on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date then he is not someone worth having. Sex isn't everything and it's much more enjoyable with someone you love. Sounds like you're too easy, no offense.
Screw them, not in the literally sense. | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 9/26/2009 5:07:49 PM | Speaking for myself...the reason why I'm not into LTR's is because sooner or later I'll get bored of the same thing. When I think of LTR'S, the first thing that comes to mind is marriage, which I can probably see happen at the end of the road.Assuming its a happy, normal relationship.
I like a variety of things, and committing myself to one girl just doesn't cut it for me. Least not for the time being. | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:25:54 PM | | Women seem to move on from relationships quickly while men have a hard time letting go of the past. Sure, there are players out there but a lot of people just don't want to get hurt again and their experience tells them to put up walls to protect themselves. | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 9/27/2009 4:42:19 AM |
Women seem to move on from relationships quickly while men have a hard time letting go of the past........
That's where you are wrong, my friend.......I have seen a lot of men out here, jump from one "relationship" to another after another.
My ex is a PRIME example of that! He left me for another, eventually got married to her while she was pregnant with yet another man's child, etc. She had the baby, and not a year after they got married, they have darkened the doorstep of Divorce Court. - He tried twice to come back to me and I have basically said - NO. - You made your bed, now you lie in it.....-without me.
So now, he is all over the place trying to find someone - has had probably eight or ten women within the last year and a half. - So it seems to me HE has moved on quite quickly and has done well for himself......NOT!!!!
Sure, there are players out there but a lot of people just don't want to get hurt again and their experience tells them to put up walls to protect themselves.......
I think this is a very valid point. Once bitten twice (or three) times shy. It serves us all right to be cautious out here. There are people masquerading as single when in fact, they are actually married or already in otherwise committed relationships.....there are also people out here just looking for a good time. - no strings attached, etc.
I think the problem overall is nobody seems to want to give it any time to develop a relationship.
- We seem to have this attitude that if it doesn't instantly "click" on the first meet/date, then we are done. We are too much into instant gratification and that has hurt a lot of potential relationships. - Or we seem to set too many limits or better yet deadlines.
If s/he doesn't sleep with me by the third or fourth date, I am out of here.
It takes time.......and limits and deadlines should not be placed on a possible relationship that is developing. | |
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| Why doesn't anybody EVER want an actual relationship anymore???
Posted: 9/27/2009 5:32:51 AM | | It is one of the great fallacies that a person can protect there heart, it is so ridiculous. As long as you have feelings for someone regardless of how far down the track the relationship is or isn't, you still can be hurt. I have had people tell me that and i can't help but laugh, if you have any feelings then you can be hurt. Thats why i think that, your either in or your not so give the relationship a go because your going to get hurt regardless if things go wrong. | |
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