Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 26 | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 1:13:22 PM | Oh, I forgot. We can pray to find a blind girl. Seriously, I'm not kidding.
I used to get a lot of compliments on my looks when I was younger. Now I never do, which is kinda weird since I haven't changed that much. Every girl that has asked me for my pic that I've sent it to, rarely gets back with me. Sad too, cause some of them are looking for friends. I so ugly people who are looking for friends run away. Eep! | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 2:12:02 PM | All of you females keep talking about how looks and money arn't the only thing that matters...
And your voting history is full of the stereotypical hollywood stunt man types.
Gotta love it. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 3:10:58 PM | OK I hate to turn this around but I think we all knew it was inevitable at some point
Why shouldn't he look for an ugly woman??? They need love too.
At least an ugly man can have someone if he has money or intelligence or a great personality.
And, the truth is, more women will look past physical appearance than most men will.
Ugly women, even if they have all those things are still just Ugly Women to men. Men being the visual creatures they are, those that look past a woman's appearance to who she really is are very few. To me, reading between the lines of the OP's post, suggests that an ugly man can't get a good-looking woman. So, once again, the double standard is what keeps men and women apart. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 3:21:26 PM | memphis.... you make a good point, no doubt. But I reckon I am referring to those ugly men (or, unattractive men) that cannot seem to get anything from good looking to average women. Now... it is true, there are some good women out there who may not be supermodels, but they are still attractive. But I see what you mean. Men need to stop being so shallow in that department as well.
I guess both sexes are picky in their own way. Like females are very picky as well.... but probably because they have ALOT of particular qualities that they want in a man and, quite simply, not all men are going to fit that perscription (I know, the proper word is description. hahahe!). So now, what is a man to do, that really has a hard time showing a woman how great he is because either his appearance or his... inability to break down the thick walls they put up in 5 minutes?  | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 4:24:19 PM |
To me, reading between the lines of the OP's post, suggests that an ugly man can't get a good-looking woman. So, once again, the double standard is what keeps men and women apart.
Well said as i agree..
But I reckon I am referring to those ugly men (or, unattractive men) that cannot seem to get anything from good looking to average women. Now...
lol.. simple go for an ugly women..
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 31 | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 4:37:15 PM | Well I'm one of those ugly guys, learn that at an early age.
So when I was like 16 years old my mom started a business, I worked for her p-t while I was in school, then at 18 she passed away and I took it over. Been sweating my butt off making money and not thinking twice about an actual g/f. Sure I have been in relationships and all, but when I am single and not "getting any " I stick my nose into my business and don't look back.
I tend to think that I would be happier single then playing the field in hopes of finding someone I could love. So until one catches my eye and heart, it's business all the way. Oh and my jaded nature. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 4:45:52 PM | | im nothing pretty...but i can draw pictures so if im still single when im 40 ill draw some of gorgeous celebrities and tape them to a mop and cook dinner for them in my bachelor pad. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 33 | |
| ugly men
Posted: 11/20/2005 4:52:23 PM | Ohh you want pressure -- hows this
I am the last male to carry on the family name, my aunt who is loaded asked me when I was gonna find a woman and have a kid, I told her to re-write her will and just leave me enough to die a single man lol
Hell I am 32, I don't see myself finding a woman who understands me or my business let alone have a kid.
The Family tree stops with me -- at least I will be remembered for something lol | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 5:01:02 PM |
One such friend of mine used a tactic that worked really well for him. He always approached the least attractive girls in clubs ... his idea was that they were less likely to reject him, and would definitely be nicer than the pretty girls.
Did it work? What was the goal? | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 7:40:33 PM | | No one ever has to be alone, there is someone for everyone. If you stop looking so hard that special person may find you. It seems when you are looking to hard that you have this aura about you that says I'm looking for a good time not a long time. Trying to meet women in a bar is your first no-no. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 8:17:21 PM | I seem to rate an average of 4.
So hey, where's the ugly club, and when do I get my memmbership card?
Maybie if I went to prison for a while and got ripped, with some pale blue tatoo's and took pictures that dont even show my face, i'd get a ten!
What's fun that can get you a criminal record? | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 12:03:11 AM | | lie , lie from the gate, lie about everything matters . why ? beacause women are the biggest liars by saying looks isnt #1 on their list . youll know when not to lie , cuz you wont need to - marry that one. | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 38 | |
| ugly men
Posted: 11/21/2005 1:21:29 AM | ""At least an ugly man can have someone if he has money or intelligence or a great personality.""
Yeh, I was going to point this out. I'm surprised a women did. Thanks. Also, fame:) | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 39 | |
| ugly men
Posted: 11/21/2005 1:24:12 AM | ""lol.. simple go for an ugly women""
I can't interest them either. I do want to point out that I sometimes see attractive women with ugly guys. Maybe I'm not a good judge of ugly guys, but they seem like they would be to me. Very hard to put a square peg in a round hole. | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| ugly men
Posted: 11/21/2005 1:28:12 AM | | Codemonkey, averaging 4 is good for a guy on this site, really. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 3:11:01 AM | | ugly man/woman? Who has the right to judge? Be your self, true to your standards and principles. I haven't ever meet someone I thought, wow they are just too ugly for me to know,Unless it was the personality that made them so repulsive, then I declined from knowing them any better! | |
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| Sparda's Little Self - Promotion..!! :)
Posted: 11/21/2005 3:18:57 AM | Sparda has been quite clever in getting lots of attention from the females here on POF; good marketing strategy! :)
"booo-hoooo, I'm sooo ugly, no woman wants me..! "
So the nurturing/caring instinct present in many women kicks in, and they rush in to reassure/console him..
And maybe, just maybe a few will find him actually "hot" ! :)
clever, clever Sparda!! :) | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 3:43:32 AM | ugly is a lot of different things to a lot of different people and usually the people who are hardest on us is ourselves
if these certain men find themselves being treated like crap - they need to find other places to hang out
HEre is an excercise - have you or this person/people ever EVER received a compliment? Can you remember them? Do you believe them and place value on them??? A lot of the time I see and hear peopel who disregard nice things about themselves. Why is it we tend to overlook the positive feedback and obsess on the negative [ not everyone I realise and Im exagerrating for effect] but we seem to put more emphasis on the negative than the positive we hear. All too often I hear someone go ""oh no Im not...dont be silly - you need glasses""....if someone says 'wow you're looking good today'. yes I understand modesty but sometimes I wonder if its real belief that someone isnt worthy of a compliment. Yet when someone says to someone you look ugly today...we suddenly believe that !!!
If you received 10 compliments but then one insult......ask yourself which one would you place more emphasis on? if the answer is the one negative...then maybe its a time to look inwards for some self esteem evaluation....any WHY its happening. Dont blame it on your [ or their] appearance
In a nutshell, ignore the people who treat you like crap or insult you. And surround yourself with some more gracious and considerate people could go a long way to reinforcing ones self image | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 4:19:04 PM | Great thoughts, Crystalise | |
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Posted: 11/21/2005 8:33:39 PM | Sparda, I highly recommend boxing. Many men who enter the sport have issues with sexual frustration and lack of intimacy, which I believe is a leading cause of male violence and agression. Many boxers are ugly, but it doesn't matter; you're success is determined entirely by how hard you work, not by what you look like. The thrill and adrenaline of fighting is highly addictive. Scheduling a sparring session at the end of the week will motivate you more than sex - every minute not spent training increases you're chance of getting knocked out. It will also work wonders for your confidence, and tap into a primal, dominant male energy and resolve that can be used in all facets of life.
As for accepting a lonely fate, I'm not going to give you canned, sappy encouragement (im sure you've heard it all), but you really do not need to give up. There is a wealth of practical information available, which often goes against social conditioning and what you've been told is supposed to work, although it clearly doesn't. The mating process is sadly much more predictable and formulaic then we like to admit. Your intellect alone will not attract women, as you've noticed, but it can be applied to figure out the intricacy of the game and understand what successful people are doing differently than you are.
I'll get back to you through a private message, tomorrow or Wednesday. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 46 | |
| ugly men
Posted: 11/21/2005 10:04:12 PM | thankfullsweetness
trust me i am not looking hard, and the only special people who find me are the ones I am trying to stay away from. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2005 5:08:19 AM | thank you momvon  | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 48 | |
| ugly men
Posted: 11/22/2005 5:17:56 AM | | I wouldnt know.. i can afford to be picky | |
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Posted: 11/22/2005 4:31:05 PM | | There's no reason a below average looking person need "settle for being alone." Take a look around. Less than beautiful people are in happy, loving relationships too. If a man isn't being "given the time of day" by women, then there's most likely a problem with his approach or the kinds of women he's trying to attract. At the risk of sounding superficial, I think it's common sense that a person ought to expect to date someone of a similar attractiveness level. Even if you are a super stud, most women won't "give you the time of day" unless you approach them in a sincere, respectful way. Show interest in her personality. Compliment her not on those things that she was born with, but on those attributes that she has developed. Remember that attractiveness is only party to do with the lines of your face or the shape of your body. Sex appeal is also about how you move, whether you smile, your approachability, and your general aura. My best advice would be to get to know yourself. Come to love yourself. Then you will be able to show women what it is that you have to offer as a loving partner. I believe that everyone can find love. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2005 6:53:05 PM | | invest in a real doll. i saw that on sex tv and they look so real. i check their site and now they can make the lips move and fingers. | |
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