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Posted: 11/22/2005 7:24:53 PM |
Sex appeal is also about how you move, whether you smile, your approachability, and your general aura.
I'm guessing this is where my particular problem may lie with women. I'm not sure what sort of miserable aura I give off but.... once people get past that, I'm oh so excellent! Hip hop hooray!  | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 7:18:02 AM | | i think that us not so good looking guys look at ourselves from the outside because women don't take time to get to know us...they see us and then decide that we are not goodlooking enuf for them...just an old mans thoughts... | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 7:56:55 AM | @ sparda7..
I think that either it is,you are only going for the really stunning looking women on here.As there are plenty of attractive/unattractive/average looking women also on this site..
Or maybe your looking for recruiters hence sympathy from reading your thread.  lol.. As you are not exactly ugly..
Or maybe not,it is probably a certain aura about you,that is putting these women off...
could be what you are saying in your initial messages..
Or what you are actually saying once contact is initiated..
If so why not try,and work a bit more on your inner self.. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 7:58:33 AM | | Sparda, it could be something as simple as just trying too hard. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 8:29:45 AM | thanks brownsugerbabes. you're right. I'm not horrendous. I would give myself, at the very least, a 7 . Eh, anyway, you are right. It could be a myriad of different reasons. Thanks also cflmike. Could be. The lady is right though. It can only help to work on my inner self and not be too concerned about this crap. Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger (or makes you fat) *snorts*  | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 8:50:22 AM | @sparda7..
I think so that it most definitely,has something to do with your inner self,as ugly you are not..
As you appear to have taken every bit of constructive criticism gracefully.So that to me is showing that your a nice guy inside..
So take head of all the advice & goodluck ok..
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Posted: 11/24/2005 8:52:58 AM | | ^^ I'll second that- It's also nice to see people offering construtive criticism rather than ripping on someone with a legitimate question! | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 2:44:24 PM | wildflower, I just wanted to say thank you for the inspiring message! It has enlightened me about how simple common attraction can be, and should be. I'm going to save your message in my file and look back on it as a reminder.
Again thank you for this! | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 5:00:02 PM | what would be the best thing for him to do to enjoy his life since he might have to settle for being alone?
He should become an Ernest Borgnine Impersonator. Jack Klugman? Telly Savalis? Peewee Herman (holding penis)? | |
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Lavie3
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Joined: 11/22/2005
Msg: 60 | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 8:07:34 PM | 1. Who told him he was ugly?
2. Attitude is everything......if he believes he's going to be alone forever.....he'll send that signal to everyone else....and maybe he will.
3. Beauty is only skin deep.....no one makes Calendars of older people to admire thier beauty....its a thing of youth....and that fades......whats inside stays.
So if thats where the beauty lies......then thats where it should stay!
4. Some people don't even see faces or figures....they just see souls....
And if thats one of his most beautiful parts.....then he should have nothing to worry about.
I wouldnt believe this myself...... but I've seen it myself.
Listen to the Bon Jovi song "Ugly"
In your eyes the sky's a different blue....that's all. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 8:14:40 PM | Damn~...
There is no such thing as an ugly guy. Only ugly attitudes and self-loathings that can lead others to believe same.
Do you know what can turn someone "ugly" into someone beautiful??
I will tell you.
A friendly smile; an open face (with a smile); a relaxed body and attitude.
A caring person and an interested person.
A loving person and a forgiving person.
Damn~...
You are not ugly.
Who taught you that?? (~cry~) | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 8:43:07 PM | | some people say , you should stay in your own class. thats is in looks, race and financial... i say ufffffffffffff that ... one. cause I am mixed , so my kind, limited selection, looks.. go for the gold...........u never know....im speaking of which , what each person considers gold in their eyes...........im not here to judge just to help.and money .... if my lady makes more than i do,, i'd volunteer to stay home and ride my ride.....but i'm old fashion so it wouldnt fly ,, men need to feel like their the provider.... just look at history , but im ranting to a different thread,,,,,,,,,,, dude.... rem if u dont try , u'll never know, and if u dont ask well then u never get to hear the ..........yes ............how u doin', thats my rant | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 9:08:10 PM | | I don't think there are any ugly men or women for that matter, and why should he settle? or accept being alone? No way..I believe there is someone for everyone..get out there and find them.. | |
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Posted: 11/24/2005 9:24:59 PM | ~cognito ergo sum~ you think and therefore you are.
If you do not accept yourself - how do you expect others to accept you.
Define ugly ? ...can you ?ok define hot ??? can't either can you.....
it is very subjective....and the cliche "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is used so very often..because it is true..........
There will always be someone who will or will not find you attractive...
and even if everyone taught you were ugly your momma always taught you were cute. | |
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hhgb1
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Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 65 | |
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Posted: 11/25/2005 8:33:54 PM | | How can you tell if you're unphotogenic or just plain dog-ugly? | |
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Posted: 11/25/2005 9:51:29 PM | I tend to agree with most of the people above.
Alot of it is attitude. I am far from anything special but have always done ok. Its just getting the confidence in yourself and the attitude to match it.
What can you do?
What are your strengths?
When you are talking with someone always keep in mind where you are strong. In the end, its about sales. You walk in and say ya....this thing sucks, has no good features pretty much bottom of the line...WHO WILL BUY IT?
From your posts you seem a little introspective; well, take a bit of time get to know who you are. Once you get to know that and you actually like yourself you will see the qualities you have and this is the angle you can "make your pitch" from. Go in, feeling good, feeling confident and know that they are just as lucky to meet you as your are to meet them!
People love to say looks don't matter and its the person inside bla bla bla. This is that which aids plant growth. The first 30 seconds when you meet someone sets the course for the entire time you know someone. Now my guess is that you are a decently smart guy, so build on that, have a sense of humour about things.
Think when you are entering a situation about the positives, hey worst case scenario you go down in flames, well laugh it off. My mentality is that hey, 9/10 times i may get shot down so when someone shoots me down i am a lil more likely to not be the next time. Especially, if you learn where you dropped the ball.
Perhaps ya just got shot down and you are feeling a lil down. Hey everyone does. Just take it in stride and move forward.
I figure stop worrying about it and have fun with everyone ya deal with. If you have trouble talking to people, push yourself to get out there and open more convos. whether its here, in a coffee shop, wherever. Just go in not trying to pick someone up but talk to them like they were real people too. Have fun with it, get comfortable. Once you are comfortable and positive things just kinda seem to flow together. One of my favourite quotes is:
"People may forget what you have said, they may forget what you have done, but they will never forget how you make them feel"
Your mood/attitude gets projected whenever you deal with someone and that is the feeling they get from ya.
dunno if it helps but something to think on. | |
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hhgb1
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Joined: 11/9/2005
Msg: 67 | |
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Posted: 11/25/2005 11:47:37 PM | | Hobbes26, my boy, that is one son of a **** of a long answer. | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 12:39:14 AM | | ya soz i tend to be a lil verbose at times | |
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Posted: 11/26/2005 2:26:54 AM |
Where money goes, women follow
I think you should refrain from making blanket statements which are false.
Not ALL women equate a relationship with $$ and neither do all men.
Re; the original post- what's ugly to one may not be to another | |
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Posted: 11/28/2005 9:09:17 AM | ok, I have always thought I pretty freakin hot...lol. But havent been on a date in over a year. While I have some pretty smoking hot girlfriends, they are just that girl-friends, whom always tell me I am good-looking and we got out and have a good time, but only see me as a friend and not THE boyfriend. The reasons are always different, ex: not looking to be serious, dont want to ruin the friendship, prefers taller, buffer, whiter, blacker, thugish, smarter, blah blah blah.
What I have experienced personally is that we as humans cant help liking what we like. As we grow older we become more particular and certian qualities we find more endearing to ourselves then others. Our own likes and dislikes build what we catagorize as attractive and unattractive! Physical looks only count in the sexual arena...our primal sides thats we have little control over, but we can always adjust them with age and maturity.
One of those things thats easy to get into is falling for things that are alot like yourself, but possibly come from a completely different culture, race or religion. While at times the relationship can work out...no matter what we grow up to become, the individual adult you are, you cant change where you came from and alot of the time thats what makes it difficult to have more then just friends status, and the more distinctive and hurtful burn, by assuming oh well I must be ugly then, because I dont just attract anyone of the opposite sex with how I look. Beacuase if you get along soooo great, and have such a good relationship...its gotta be how u look right?
Well if attraction was only about how we look, then humans wouldve died off years ago, cuz lets face it, there aint alot of superstars out there (being an geek I am specifically speaking in primal terms men who would want women with the best qualites for birthing and rasing children and women who would look for men who can provide and protect. Look at any animal in the wild...they base mates solely on survival of the species..where as humans are the only animal that consistantly kill themselves off and make very little effort to make continuing or evolving our own bloodlines) ...and even they have bad relationships. There are so many factors to attraction you could worry yourself to death with trying to meet them all. So why f*cking bother...just be the best you that you can be and let the chips fall where they lay.
We must understand that is very hard to do, but hell if it was easy...we still wouldnt be happy and would waste that love and squander it for we would have no appreciation for how hard it was to achive. True love is a goal, like any other, while you do have to work hard at it, dont beat yourself up for a so-called failure, for its not failure but a lesson life is trying to teach you. An until this lesson is learned, well class will be in session again and again.
Only thing I can suggest being a male who hasnt been getting much love lately, is it may be time to change your point of view if you are having alot of failures. Go to a new bar, or venue, take up a new hobby. Try networking with other people. When the well dries up, and they always do, you have to keep looking for more ways to satisfy that thirst. Or if your tired or frustrated with looking then take a break. Relax and enjoy yourself and the fruits of your own labor. The answer will come with time!
Thats what I keep telling myself anyway!  | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 71 | |
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Posted: 11/28/2005 10:32:45 AM | | Well, like it or not, we all have our own physical attraction test and if the prospective date person does not pass that, then it ends there. end of story. | |
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Shaps
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Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 72 | |
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Posted: 11/28/2005 10:52:36 AM | Attraction Test #1 and I failed
Walked by the bathroom downstairs and heard a crack -- seems I didn't need to be in the same room with it.
Started walking up the stairs to the top floor bathroom and didn't even hit landing and CRACK !!!
So not am I only ugly but now I have 14 years bad luck.
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Posted: 12/5/2005 9:49:49 PM | Concept of what is " ugly " and what is " beautiful " changes throughout time and society...but if we're going to be straightforward, ugly is very hard to love.
Let's just say that he is ugly, heterosexual, but has a lousy personality : That will definitely define his life as one of solitude. So what to do? What to do?
Change his attitude.
Change his looks.
Change his city.
Start over. | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 7:17:38 AM | ok some of you say there are no such things as ugly people...wrong...no matter what we think some of us know we are and we know that others think the same thing...thats why i think we would all be suprised if there were a site on here that we could go to with no pictures on it...bet we would really find out then what would really intrest us...lets get real hear...looks matter more than what we want to belive... | |
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Posted: 12/11/2005 7:30:16 AM | | Become a priest? | |
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