| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 6/26/2008 6:36:55 AM | Ive met loads of people from here haha
And yeah Ive been dissapointed on several occasions.
Mainly because they have lied or had old pictures.
I say meet up as soon as possible.
I dont bother with msn, straight from here, to the phone, to in the flesh.
You might like them on here.
You might like the way they chat on msn.
You might like their voice on the phone.
But then you meet them and there is no spark or chemistry.
..Waste of time.
Meet up as soon as possible (in my opinion) | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/1/2008 3:19:20 AM | Met up and been disappointed...a faliure????
Not in my book nor in many mother's lol! just "meeting up" would be a sucsess for me!
And of course there are coutless more on here with who getting a simple reply would be "a sucsess"... | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/1/2008 3:35:38 AM | I haven't been on here long enough to have met anybody offline yet. Nor have I really spoken to anybody where meeting them would seem appropriate.
If I did, I guess I'd rather go with Pidgeon's approach of just meeting them and getting it over with, without all this msn hoo-har.
Really difficult to judge somebody's personality without actually meeting them in person first. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/1/2008 3:56:41 AM | I've been on here almost three years now, and never met anyone (well, apart from last weekend's picnic in the park, but that doesn't really count in this context).
There have been a couple of times that I've arranged to meet someone from here, and then they've got cold feet at the last minute (damn the invention of the text message!). One of them was a lady with whom I'd been in contact on and off for 18months or so as friends, but neither of us had ever really discussed meeting up due to the distance involved (my past experience with the long distance thing is it's really hard work, and women can't (kids, etc) or won't (too lazy) make any of the effort involved.). It was she who finally suggested meeting - presumably so she could the cancel at the last minute to make herself feel important.
I've met a couple of people through other sites, and one was a really lovely lady but there wasn't quite a connection there (turns out she has/had a profile on here, but I'm too young to message her to say "hi"!); the other was my "The One" (sadly, it turned out she didn't feel the same about me - she traded me in for a younger model)
My preference would be to meet someone sooner rather than later, since it's far easier to tell if there's the proverbial "spark" when you meet in person than it is with email/msn/etc. If you meet and don't hit it off, there's always the potential to be friends (I actually met one of my best friends that way, but she's in a whole other continent).
I find that communicating purely via emailing etc becomes a bit strained after a while, since there's only so much you can learn about a person through it - and you have no shared experiences, which are part of what a relationship is about. One girl dragged that out for months, to the point that I realised it was going nowhere and just gave up. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/2/2008 6:27:25 AM |
I met a woman from here last week who said she was looking for a man who would repect her.Who said she liked walks along the beach and good conversation.
During a nice walk on the beach she decided to show me a tattoo which happened to be on the upper inside of her thigh which I thought a little forward.Later she pushed me against the sea wall and tried to molest me.Luckily one of my dogs put his nose up her skirt to sniff her bottom and the distraction enabled me to free myself.
Now she wants me to go round her house for a quiet evening and I'm wondering what a bottle of wine and a DVD which all women seem to put on their profiles really means.
Not really disappointed but perhaps a little confused regarding female intentions.
You don't like sex? You should've made that clear before meeting her. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/2/2008 6:29:44 AM | yes, twice, the **stards lol :)
men tend to lie about their height and age a lot on here, no idea why lol x honesty is the best policy i wish they'd use it more.... having said that i have also had some lovely dates with great chaps, but just no spark for me .. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/2/2008 7:32:16 AM | I met a guy on here, we did the msn thing then the phone thing and we seemed to get on like a house on fire.
We met up and again got on really well, so we went out again and again we got on really well, then we decided to have a weekend away camping, him in his tent, me in mine.
That weekend he lost his whole sense of humour, he said that he enjoyed camping with his kids and clearly had never been before as he had no idea how to even put up his tent and just expected me to run around after him
A couple of my mates (male and female) met up with us for the last night which i thought would help as he would have another fella to chat to but oh no he was just down right rude.
We had an msn conversation a couple of days later where he just had a pop at me about the time at which we ate, to which i told him he could just shove it and not to contact me again
When on earth did i become his slave??? | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/2/2008 10:18:01 AM | men tend to lie about their height and age a lot on here
So totally unlike women, since their lies are usually about "body type" and age. (I don't much care about either, why can't they just tell the truth...) | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/4/2008 12:54:52 AM | So totally unlike women, since their lies are usually about "body type" and age. (I don't much care about either, why can't they just tell the truth.
I agree, women are just as bad but speaking as one i was referring to my experince with men obviously :) and im incredibly honest in my profile to the point that women have messaged me asking if they can plagerise certain parts of it... apparently the bit about being fat is on about 30 profiles on here now lol ! oo im famous. :) | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/4/2008 1:03:25 AM | Oh i have lost count of the times i have met up with guys on here and other sites and been totally disapointed..
One time i was so disapointed i went to the loo and jumped out of the window in the Toilet LOL.. i just could not stand to be there with him any longer..
But i have also had some fantastic dates but they just havent been the right one for me YET!.. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/4/2008 1:20:53 AM | In 4 years here and other sites, I've met about 12 men....mostly lovely, one boring, one egotist thought he deserved a return on dinner (having insisted on paying despite me as usual intending to go halves), one obese 70yr old thought his riches would compensate for being 20 yrs older than he claimed. Only had a spark with one and had a relationship with him which ended due to circumstances.
But my lesson is to meet them early on, as it's the only way to know. The picture you build in your mind after email, msn, or even phone can be very different to reality..... | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/4/2008 2:47:05 AM | I was going to trawl through the pages and see if any of the ones who met me was on here and mentioned me!  but could not be bothered and not only that i know they would be lying!  
A x | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/4/2008 4:49:00 AM |
yeah...when she told me she was a classified schizo on the first date.
Just my luck.
You actually get 'certified' as schizophrenic, not classified, so she was probably lying anyway, best off without her. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/8/2008 3:30:59 PM | This is my second attempt on here. I messaged one person who I had chatted to before. SHE wanted to meet. Since then, everytime I message her, no answer (you know who you are!!). Another time, arranged a meet, messaged her to confirm time and place and......you guessed it, no reply.
It's not been bad all the time, though. Have met up with some people, but no spark, as they say. | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:52:34 PM | | er yeah, i have met twelve in total from here and been disappointed in all! thats why i'm still here!!! some mildly disappointing, as in no spark; others majorly disappointing, as in they couldn't seem to find my face to talk to and just wanted to talk to my pups. one was married, one grappled me after the first drink. a couple didn't shut up about their exes. total goons - but hey i live in hope x | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:59:20 PM |
I met someone (on a sister site to here) about 2 months ago.
I ended up leaving there after a horrible stalking incident with the woman.
Snap!
Multiple accounts, schizoid messages, texts/calls threatening self harm. None of this was on her profile either! | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/10/2008 2:02:16 PM | Thanks guys, this is pretty useful to hear. I am new to all of this and so will need to manage my expectations I guess. Having said that, it is not easy to get to know people down a wire!
I joined this site, messaged someone really nice and she got back stright away and the messages have left me feeling optimistic.
Is part of the problem that one may have unrealistic expectations from the start. If you met someone in a pub or club you might just start off being friendly and then things can sort of happen. Does having covered some ground before leave you at a risk of grasping for something to talk about? | |
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| Anyone ever met up from here and been dissapointed?
Posted: 7/10/2008 2:22:51 PM | Nope, is it something i should look forward to or prepare for, cus I'm constantly disappointed with most other aspects of life
P.S 'disappointed' is how its spelt, and thats ends English lesson for today children | |
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