| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:06:31 PM | | I don't think we're really disagreeing on anyhting, just a slight misunderstanding. To put it simply, you're saying not everyone is attracted to the same types of people, and I agree 100%, I myself am very picky with who I'm attracted to. All I'm saying is that a first impression of someone being timid or outgoing isn't always accurate. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:13:55 PM | First impressions are almost never accurate.....
Sincerely
My first husband. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:18:48 PM | 
And I bet you thought you wouldn't get along with me at first either   | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:21:15 PM | Iwant2makeyou...ok
I like worldly men. Men who've done some things and had some experiences. I get off on men who can teach me things and I like men who aren't afraid to do anything with me that is good for us. I like men who are "in your face" style. I trust men like that. They are direct, honest, cut-to-the-chase, no bullshyt type of guys. I think that is hot and very appealing.
Here is what it says to me when I meet a man like that.
1) he's beyond caring what anyone else thinks of him anymore
2) his confidence in who he is and how he approaches life shows that he's done some work on himself
3) he is ambitious and not afraid to go after what he wants
4) he won't keep me guessing (if he wants to live that is--teehee)
5) he'll keep my life simple and our relationship way easier and more enjoyable because we won't have to waste so much time on bullshyt semantics and get to the fun part of our existence and to me that is what it is all about...having fun together in whatever form we choose compatibly
I don't have anything AGAINST shy people. Shyness is a trait that indicates a lack of confidence and a general reserved attitude. That's fine...I just don't like it. It holds me back. It impedes his ability to say, hey babe, I'm horny let's f*ck and I don't have to go through the stupid schoolboy shy-guy look and all the semantics that go along with it.
I'm beyond that stuff is all that I'm saying. And EVERYONE is entitled to their preferences in character, looks, disposition and temperament.
I like tigers! Because if he's going to ride this coaster, he'll have to be able to keep up with me!
Now please, let's not argue a moot point. You have your take on who you are and that is part of your self-discovery, wonderful...but I have earned where I am now and I want to be who I am...amibitious and brazenly bold. I like my men the same way...today. I'll just save the shy school girl act for when we are in the bedroom...wink wink. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:21:20 PM | I never said that Iwant..... not once.
And Blast said it much more eloquently than I did.
She has earned her right to her opinion at her age, as well as I have.....
OMG, I think I may regret saying that last sentence in the morning. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:25:08 PM | I know, I was just joking  | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/18/2005 8:26:14 PM | | Oh man that is just nasty behaviour. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 12:49:35 AM | Okay so let me get this straight
What you are saying is you want a guy who will disrespect you and call you a HO
Have no morals or intergirty
I can introduce you to my cousin VINNY who is over possesive violent as hell to the point of you look at a nother guy and he beast the shit out of you for that
Ya good idea of a partner
I see though the point of being too nice in some respect however maybe he is nice to you ONLY
Like myself I can be very nice to a person whom I respect and like on the other hand I can be a bit harsh and ruthless | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 1:02:02 AM | | I'd like to think not all women are like that. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2005 8:31:14 AM | | no never said that we want a guy who treats us bad , but a guy who is just soo nice all the time way over board is what I am talking about . Never disagrees with anything I say type of stuff , Not that we wat a bad boy but I would like a guy with his own opinions not just one who says what he thinks I want to hear ALL the time . | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 12:26:08 PM | | No one can agree with everything. There is always a breaking point if they are driving you crazy say something however try to use a little tact. To put it simple usually guys will act like that for a short time as long as they think it is neccassary to keep the girl if they believe you are not going anywhere they will loosen up. People do strange things, but when all is said and done. Every one deserves a chance to be happy. :P | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 12:46:00 PM |
Shyness is a trait that indicates a lack of confidence and a general reserved attitude. That's fine...I just don't like it. It holds me back. It impedes his ability to say, hey babe, I'm horny let's f*ck and I don't have to go through the stupid schoolboy shy-guy look and all the semantics that go along with it.
Hey blast, I'm horny and I wanna f*ck YOU! So if I get a plane ticket are you gonna let me ride that pony? :-) | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 2:40:40 PM | | Interesting blast, I suppose when a woman reaches her 40's, they don't have time to wait around for a guy to not be shy. That would be a reason for prefering the straight forward types who say 'hey babe, lets f*ck!" | |
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Posted: 11/19/2005 2:45:06 PM | | lol in there 40's I am 25 and I dont wanna wait around | |
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Posted: 11/19/2005 2:46:57 PM | hey UWantThis yes I do want that . woohoo very very nice
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 2:47:46 PM | | Yeah, you don't strike me as the type that would wait very long. But reading up i saw where the 40+s were trying to explain how you get older your tastes change, and thats what I was referring to. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/19/2005 2:52:24 PM | | ehh dont mind waiting but damn I dont want a guy who I can just totally walk all over and he says yeah hun thants fine whatever makes you happy . ugggg wanna pull my hair out . | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/20/2005 7:44:18 PM | I think this is the source of the "nice guys finish last" thing. For many, there's a big difference between treating a lady with respect and agreeing with everything she says. Confidence is sexy to many people (even if it scares them). Confident women tend to attract the most attention, but in return tend to want a confident guy. A "nice guy" (the kind of guy described above who just agrees with everything, won't make waves, and seems overly worried about what she thinks of him) will often see a man that boldly walks up and starts talking with a confident women, and maybe even shares a conflicting opinion with her, as not-a-nice-guy. How dare he just intrude on her like that? And it feels even worse when she returns his attention.
That bold guy is often nice himself; he just has confidence, in addition. Sure, there are loud-mouthed jerks, but the confident women tend to reject them along with the "too nice" guys.
Yes, I speak from "too-nice guy" experience. I was the guy who would never speak up out of fear masquerading as "respect". It's a big mental shift to make, but an important one. Being bold doesn't have to equal being a jerk. It's about being yourself, and sharing yourself truthfully with the other person; not presenting them with who you think they want to be. I can still get nervous around women I'm attracted to, but the more often I am bold (true to myself) the easier it gets. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2005 8:04:00 PM | | Vegandude, you are right in alot of ways. If a broad is totally bent on being stupid and playing games, you have to call her on it. If you sit there and just be like "ok", she is gonna know she is acting like an idiot and she is going to know that you are sitting there taking it like a damn fool. It's like this....there is the extreme as*hole, and there is the extreme nice guy. Women may not like either one of them, but at least they respect the extreme as*hole that doesn't give a damn. Just my 2 cents. | |
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Posted: 11/27/2005 5:32:18 PM | | That 'too nice' comment is the worst. Some people are hard up to embrace what their heart tells them and want what they see on MTV instead-- a bunch of deadbeats and cheaters. WHats a nice guy to do, but become cynical and jaded... | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 47 | |
| Too nice
Posted: 11/27/2005 6:41:56 PM | | of course nice is the kiss of death.. i found out the hard way.. you cannot be too nice.. | |
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Tinkle
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Joined: 11/2/2005
Msg: 48 | |
| Too nice
Posted: 11/27/2005 8:37:29 PM | | sounds like an ass kisser. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 11/27/2005 8:46:26 PM | You are not alone. I always want to "just be friends" with the guys who are toooo nice. I think these kind of guys just seem weak, needy, and boring. | |
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ATPase
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Joined: 3/31/2005
Msg: 50 | |
| Too nice
Posted: 11/28/2005 5:48:35 AM | Women find this behavior unacceptable in men. so, i changed my behavior. it was more than that really, but It's too long to explain and too complicated.
Now t hat I am more aggressive and****, I have met alot more women. | |
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