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Posted: 12/6/2005 12:39:52 PM | Yes, I have in the past....
Men who are " too nice " like, they say " yes dear " to everything. I sometimes had to invoke fights and arguments with them, so that I can get a little pizzazz...a little anger...a little passion out of them, but to no avail. I cannot stand men who are too nice.
I need a man who is just right in the middle:) | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 12/6/2005 12:43:56 PM | I'll say it again you have to be like Jackie Chan... Mr Nice Guy, until someone threatens Uncle.. That's when you pull out the chop socky and deal some street justice while quoting some bible scripture!
Werd. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:24:13 PM | I apparently was "too nice" once. Now, just because I'm brutally honest I have become the PoF a**hole. Neither one has generated many positive results. What gives? Life.  | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:28:32 PM | Yeah I get it...I think
Too nice = NOT GOOD
Just nice = NOT GOOD
Nice+bad= OK
Bad= NOT GOOD
hmmmm
Then again, I think I am in the nice+bad category so I dont have a problem  | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 12/6/2005 2:33:30 PM | Hey SXXXY, do you think I'm too nice?  | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 12/6/2005 3:39:58 PM | in my experience
most people that are "too nice" is usually meaning they are indecisive, unconfident and yield control.
Some people like that. I, however, can't stand it. I screw up WAAAAAYYY too much to be around someone who won't speak their mind. I try my best but sometimes i make mistakes and that will occasionally hurt someones feelings...now someone who is "too nice" will not tell me when i am doing something stupid and they will forgive me for it....but I never want to make someone i am with upset in the first place. If something annoys ya, tell me and i will stop it. (lets be honest we all have quirks that bug others)
Now, when i know someone is really "NICE" I spend all my time with them wondering if they are having fun or if they are there cause i am. This ruins my time, while if they are more open and say, this sucks i am jetting. I very possibly will go with them but the point is that I know they will say what they feel.
"I don't know, what do you wanna do?" is about the most unattractive thing a person can say....in my opinion | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 12/6/2005 3:51:43 PM | "Being bold doesn't have to equal being a jerk. It's about being yourself, and sharing yourself truthfully with the other person; not presenting them with who you think they want to be."
On the flipside, being nice or shy does not have to equal lack of confidence, weak or being spineless. I'm far from being shy, but I like to sit back and just watch people, and see what they do. You learn a lot more that way. Who to stay away from, what people to talk to. To find out who are the players...the jerks...ect.
I think that is all that Iwantomakeyouhappy was trying to say. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2005 8:14:11 PM | | Sorry SXXXYLICIOUS, if someone tries to get in an argument with me just to see how I will react, I call that headgames and thats not for me eather. | |
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| Too nice
Posted: 1/4/2006 1:29:45 AM | | NO BUT I WOULD RATHER DATE SOMEONE NICE AND THAT IS ROMANTIC AND RESPECTFUL TO ME ,THAN GO FOR THE BAD BOY TYPE.WOMEN SHOULD NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF MEN THAT ARE TO NICE OR EVEN MEN TAKE ADVANTAGE OF WOMEN THAT ARE NICE. | |
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Posted: 1/6/2006 12:50:21 PM | I am nice until its time not to be nice. Purely nice guys finish last. I let people know up front that I am a bit of a bad boy but can also be a perfect gentleman.
If a guy or girl is too nice there is no challenge and well just boring. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2006 3:41:38 PM | | Besides, some of these "too nice" people are pretty passive-aggressive at times, and that drives me bonkers. Say what you mean, mean what you say, keep your promises, and be respectful. What's so hard about that? ? ? ! ! ! | |
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Posted: 1/7/2006 3:55:28 PM | | Well i just went through everyone's posts here and it looks like a handfull of girls just seem to know what they want. They want a guy that is nice, but not to nice, wants them to agree with them, but disagree with them too.Dont get me wrong here I am one of these guys that everyone is claiming is too nice, and I do have an opinion of my own, no you are not always right, yes I am passive, but that is because I mearly choose to avoid confrontation.And I am not sure who mentioned it but they had a very good point, there will come a time in one of these ladies lives where they will meet a guy that will be arrogent,rude and well try to tell you what "your" opinion should be, and they say now that they wouldnt take that from any guy, but they will just be clouded over by his good looks,or muscles and well trying to make up some sort of good point about him say "well he opens the door for me" yeah well, if you want to take getting a door opened and well an arrogent guy telling you what he thinks no matter what and when the situation is? Well best of luck to you, just know that these so called "too nice of guys" are probobly gonna be the ones that will treat you like the queen that you deserved to be treated as, not just some girl that they picked up the other night. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2006 4:11:17 PM | Whoops, my point about passive-aggressive was not that a guy should never be passive. Some things just aren't worth a hassle, and I am fine with that. I'm not saying all "nice" guys are this way: But some of them will avoid confrontation forever, then stab you in the back when your guard is down. I'll take the arrogant bad boy over that sort of nice any day. Not because that's the kind of person that I want to build a relationship with-but because he is usually right upfront in-your-face trouble and it's easy to spot him and
Anyway, I am sorry if it sounded like I was trashing nice guys because that was not my intent. I just think that being nice includes having the integrity to be honest and be who you are, even if it means an occassional confrontation. If a man won't let me see who he is, how can we build a relationship?
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