| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/27/2005 10:24:05 PM | P.S.
Oh yeah, another advantage to the favorites list is that if they are on a favorite list, you can see the date that they last signed in to POF. A few that I have there have not been to POF for nearly 2 years. That is a great indicator that if you try to contact them, you just might not get any response. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/28/2005 3:20:16 AM | Some people just like to follow what a person posts. I have some favorites that have great pics. They are too far away, but the pics keep me nice and warm. 
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 11/28/2005 4:18:33 AM | I've wondered the same thing. Apparently 108 people have me on their favorites list. Haven't talked to any more than 30 or so. Some are from as far away as Egypt. lol
At first I removed them,,,then once I had about 90 of them, thought it would be cool to see if I could bust 100,,,so I didn't remove them any more. Maybe these poor souls are masturbating and looking at our pics...who knows? Some girls have over 400 people that have put them on their favorites list. That's crazy. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 3:33:31 AM | This is a great topic. I wish there was a definitive answer, tho.
I'm always wondering why someone adds me when they don't write to me or participate in forums. I used to send a "Thanks for adding me..yadda yadda" as I figured that would open the door as to why they added me, but some never wrote back. I stopped sending a message when I realized they may be the dreaded"looking for intimate encounter" people.
Or they may be the ones who keep sending my posts to Admin to get me another vacation to banned camp. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 4:59:44 AM | Sometimes I add people to my Favorites in case I want to read their forum posts. Sometimes I'll come across an outstanding well-written profile that I might want to revisit. Then I'll find out it was ripped off from one of the 20 others just like it and delete it.
Sometimes I'll see that little "something" in a profile that I'm not quite sure of, yet can't quite let go of. Then later re-read it and decide I didn't see a reason to have them on my list after all - I'll delete it.
Sometimes I'll add someone that I might want to try contacting at some point in the future. Then I'll see that they don't even really live where their profile indicates - DELETE!
I used to message everyone that I added to my Favorites. Maybe 1 out of 5 reply.
Of the few who replied, they were nothing like their profile indicates. Aloof. Curt. Dismissive...Bah! Yep - DEEEE-LEEEETE!
I think I've got 6-7 people on my faves list at the moment. Purged a couple the other day. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 7:18:13 AM | I think they're saying they like your pro- but they don't think you would like theirs...J-Roc said it best chicken shit lol  | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 8:56:06 AM | | I agree with OP, i dont want to be on someones faves list if i dont know them. I think its so rude when someone just adds me without having messaged me or IM with me first. I just delete them straight away, messages i will reply to but those just adding me to faves can just Feck off, cant be bothered if there not going to make communication, whats the point? | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 9:04:14 AM | Just clear it once every other week. Watch it grow again. I think of a whole multitude of reason why someone adds a person to thier favorites. If they dont write or anything just clear them off.  | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 10:48:47 AM | i have had guys say they like to check back and read what i've written in the forums....(i don't know why cause i can be a bit of a smartie pants..some of them just like re-visiting the profile/pics...
sometimes i write some crazy things in my profile (i change it quite a bit)....i am not offended if people add me to their favorites...
what bothers me more is the guys who think that the number in a woman's favorites are men that she actually corresponds with and on the regular...not the case for me..
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 11:03:08 AM | | I've never paid attention, I don't really care unless they were to start stalking me, then I'd block them. But then I have no idea if anyone has me as a favorite or not. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 12:03:52 PM | | I've added two people to my favorite list. I haven't messaged them. One I intend on messaging today (added last night) and the second, well, I just really like looking at his picture. He's too far from me and not my type, but he is one of THE best looking men on this site.....lol | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 12:35:24 PM | | It can be a number of reasons..I personally don't have many people on my fav list and for some reason I'm on a couple of others and many do not make contact with me either but I can understand why they might do it....A good possibility is that they're trying to put you on "reserve" as possible dates in the future and waiting for you to make the first contact, so, why don't you make contact with them first and see where it goes instead of being upset that they didn't make contact with you? And/or maybe they just wanna get to know you first and be friends and are waiting for you to talk after they put you in their fav list...communication is two-sided ya know;) | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/19/2009 6:08:33 PM | | Everybody has their own reasons. There's no one set reason. I put people on my favorite list that I find interesting. Sometimes it's the right time to contact them, sometimes its not, but I like being able to find people I find interesting again and this is the easiest way. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:55:27 AM |
I think its a bit of a put off if someone is on loads of fave lists. Do you not think this is a little unfair?
One of the most real gentlemen this site has as a member is on just shy of 200 fav's lists... mine included. He's too far away for me to consider him as a prospect, but I talk with him occassionally and often via mail... he's very much an approachable man.
The only ones that are limited by the number of fav's a person has are the ones that impose the limits on themselves... | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:06:28 AM |
I think its a bit of a put off if someone is on loads of fave lists.
Perhap you can explain why. In every thread about this, no one have make a logical reason for why a number on their profile say any thing about that person.
It usual say more about the person makeing this judgement | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/21/2009 1:03:23 AM |  LONG AGO, when POF was very young, it was cmon to place someone who you were intrested in on your Favs List,
as a sort of POF ( WINK ) if the person notices you and responds to you , then ALL IS GOOD... 
 However should they fail to notice you, or if they ignore you, then you simply delete them and find more... 
 Since most ladies totally ignore incoming mail, it is a total waste of time to write letters... 
 So I just (WINK) and move on...  | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/21/2009 8:36:22 AM | I was reading the profile of a man who had added me as a favorite and it said;
If I have listed you as a favorite but have not contacted you, please don't hesitate to contact me"
You didn't bother to contact me, but I shouldn't hesitate to contact you?
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/21/2009 8:51:53 AM |
I was reading the profile of a man who had added me as a favorite and it said;
If I have listed you as a favorite but have not contacted you, please don't hesitate to contact me"
You didn't bother to contact me, but I shouldn't hesitate to contact you?
I have run across that phenom once or twice myself. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/21/2009 8:55:59 AM | Another one that is funny to me is that I had this one really hot lady look at my page and like 3 days later I got a upset email stating that she added me as a favorite and had made it so I could see that she looked at me and that I should have emailed her because she made herself available . I guess I had my mind reading and subtle hints cap turned off. One of the wierder things that have happened. So returned her email and tried to smooth things over but she read/deleted me!
That d@mn favorites list and who has viewed you can cause all sorts of trouble. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 2/27/2009 8:23:49 AM | | well I have in the past used the favorites list as a kinda bookmark...like if i was doing something else like reading a thread ...and saw someone who I wanted to contact or discuss something with later I marked them as a favorite ...meaning to come back and contact them ...or read more about them ...IE read their profile ..or read more of their posts ...however when surfing the forums sometimes we get side tracked and dont come back and follow our intended path .....I have stopped doing this as it offends some people | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 3/7/2009 9:06:20 AM | I really don't understand all this Favourites talk on here. Whether it be on posts or in people's profiles.
Really who cares! It isn't like you have to carry them around with you all day long. Its just a list that is meaningless. Unless you check it or view your own profile you won't even know about it.
Maybe some people just want to show a little appreciation for something you have to offer in your profile or your interactions. How in the hell is that offensive to people.
If it bothers you, eliminate them immediately and keep it at zero otherwise just roll with it and don't try to solve the mysteries of the universe if you haven't a specialization in universal mysteries.
I couldn't care less about favourites. I have no one on my list and if someone wants to add me to theirs then they have that right. And since I don't have to pay anything for it I don't care. | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 3/7/2009 11:24:22 AM |
I think they do it as a way of saying they like your profile, but are too much of a "Chicken Shit" to come out and say it
Yip, I can relate to this.
Someone previously stated; "Putting someone on their "Favourite" list is like sending them a "Wink"
Just because I may see something appealing within someone's profile doesn't mean she will see mine the same way.
My whole life, I've watched guys who think they are "God's gift to Women" hit on women everywhere they went. I just think that most women must hate it.
I was a Long Haul trucker who observed many a driver hit on every waitress they encountered. I saw the frustration on these poor girls faces. Who the hell do I think I am to bring more grief into their already frustrating day. They are only trying to earn a living like everyone else. Now, with that said, I've also seen the women who thrive on all the attention they recieve. (You know the one's I mean)
I guess I feel this is a way for the "Female Phishies" to also check me out from the privacy of their own computer and if they like what they see, why can't they send me a "wink"?
I feel I've "Nibbled" on their "Bait ".
Everybody has their own reasons. There's no one set reason. I put people on my favorite list that I find interesting. Sometimes it's the right time to contact them, sometimes its not, but I like being able to find people I find interesting again and this is the easiest way. [quote/] Or, sometimes we see a few interesting profiles we are interested in at the same time, yet feel it is inappropiate to contact these women at the same time. Call me old fashioned, but isn't that kind of like cheating when you are seeking a "Long Term" relationship with only ONE partner? | |
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