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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 3/7/2009 11:36:10 AM | "Bookmarking" Sometimes I am heading out the door to work or errand and I happened to run across someone; in the forums or otherwise. I want to re-read later so I mark for reading later. Sometimes it starts a conversation...sometimes not. I can remove them later...they can remove themselves...I can remove myself...on line etiquette...is there a book? | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 4/1/2009 11:22:36 AM | Yep, bookmarking is a good term for it. There's a great volume of possible matches on PoF, and as I page through my my mail or forum posts there's always the banner of profile thumbnails running across the top. I'm forever seeing one that will catch my eye, with a quick click I can see if she seems interesting, local, compatible interests, all that good stuff. But I don't like to do anything half-a$$ed, and that's especially true of introducing myself to someone who might turn out to be very important to me! So I'm not going to just fire off a "Hey, how are you?" yawner, and I'm also not going to try to juggle a meaningful conversation with more than one or two people at a time.
So the favorites list lets me easily go back and find the ladies who have caught my eye, see who is still active (not much point emailing them if they haven't been on for a year), and cast out the fishing line once again. I don't know if others have had the same experience, but to be honest the number of interesting PoF members in Kingston (pop. only ~150k) is a little bit overwhelming. That's a good thing, but it will take me a while to get to them all!
It's not like F@cebook friends lists, where I suppose strangers could cyberstalk someone by getting all the updates about their daily activities and communication on the site - It's just an easy way to find those profiles that I've noticed and chose to bookmark. (The only way, really.) | |
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| Why add ppl to favs and not msg them?
Posted: 4/3/2009 6:59:24 AM | I'll fave people I want to message but may be on a break at work or about to go out with my kids or something and want to spend some time thinking about what to write, because sending a message that says hey, like your smile and your profile usually gets read and deleted, because they figure it's unoriginal.
So, it doesn't help when I come back the next day and my faves are removed. There are so many people on this site it's sometimes hard to find them again when I'm ready to message them.
Then those I do manage to message the email sits unread for weeks at a time. | |
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