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| Getting Frustrated here!!
Posted: 11/20/2005 12:30:13 PM | | Oh yeah, get to know that horse before ride him too. Maybe you won't get thrown or you'll know ahead of time when to jump off. | |
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| Getting Frustrated here!!
Posted: 11/21/2005 2:39:08 PM | Others are mirrors of the things about us. If we can not stand/tolerate something in others, it it usually because we can not stand/tolerate/or have a problem with that same thing in our own life. I see the word "trust" used here when I think it is being confused with the word "expectation". We see many red flags in others but continue to "hope for the best" or " overlook their shortcomings", hoping they will do same with us. So when our expectations don't come true or we make a mistake in our own choices, it is easy to blame others and say they broke the "trust" between us. An example is JOY wants "no fatties" in her profile and yet seems to be a little chunky herself. When she finds a great looking guy with a big d*ck and he turns out to be a total jerk/loser, then she can pass the blame on to him for her choice by saying he broke the "trust", or translated, I was hoping for something better and didn't get it and I don't want to take ownership for the choice. Is is a matter of "trust" or one of unrealistic or misguided "expectations"? Inquiring minds want to know.
Fat, skinny, just right, - rich, poor, beggar, thief, - a**holes come in every size, shape, socio-economic background, color, and religion. Sometimes the best choices are the ones we don't consider because something that we have a problem with and our expectations don't allow us to explore beyond the parameters of a closed mind. Lose the restraints and expectations, gain a whole new world of possiblities... | |
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| Getting Frustrated here!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:35:47 PM | "Others are mirrors of the things about us. If we can not stand/tolerate something in others, it it usually because we can not stand/tolerate/or have a problem with that same thing in our own life. I see the word "trust" used....Sometimes the best choices are the ones we don't consider because something that we have a problem with and our expectations don't allow us to explore beyond the parameters of a closed mind. Lose the restraints and expectations, gain a whole new world of possiblities... ."
I agree with everything imhere4unow said, you sound very wise, but sometimes it is a hard thing to stomach, because the tendency is to want to blame outside circumstances, when its really smarter to look within, although it can be temporarily more difficult. Right now I'm in that "looking within" section of time in my life, I gotta say, sometimes I don't like it much, but ultimately, the only one to heal is oneself to create better circumstances outside oneself. | |
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| Getting Frustrated here!!
Posted: 6/9/2008 2:41:55 PM | Meeting the right person takes a long time. Be patient.
As for the players... I don't know what to tell you there. I've actually known pretty few of them, but then again... I don't like that sort of person, generally speaking, so I don't run into them often. | |
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