People please.....lets not complicate the issue,it is all about physical attraction if she is attracted to you then your personality is not an issue...

Wouldnt that be the thought process of someone only thinking short term. Without seeing the true qualities that will matter long term all you will get is the short term other than checkers then when your old and grey you will have no checker partner heh.

I definatly understand natural selection, dont get me wrong on this I know attraction matters but, ugly people are just as capable of being good at doing the wild thing look at Ron Jeremy lmao..

Nothing wrong with knowing what you're doing - but you still have to find someone who wants to join you (outside a porn set, that is).

For the 99th time, wanting attraction doesn't automatically mean that I don't want anything else. I just want attraction IN ADDITION to everything else. See?

Consider the possibility that each of us wants something specific to his or her own personal history. That it's the unconscious mind that generates the "Wow, who's that" reaction, not the conscious mind, and that it has little to do with feeling good in the short term.
It's a feature of how the human brain operates. Maybe it's there to keep us from getting bored by a long life span. The girl next door (years ago, before cell phones were common) came walking through the snow at 3am in stocking feet nursing a fat lip to use my phone to call the cops on her guy for hitting her when she got home after bartime on a work night, and was completely comfortable sitting alone with me in my place though she didn't know me, and shared she was so frustrated because she had sworn she wouldn't make the same mistake her mom did. The unconscious mind acts to create what the conscious mind seeks to avoid. If someone's imago match is a left handed alcoholic tradesman with red hair, the healthy dark haired businessman just doesn't feel right. Do a web search on "Imago theory" for more on this.

If your self confidence comes from whether or not women you don't know like you, then I guess yeah - you should quit dating.

Self confidence SHOULD come from making moves in life, setting out to do something and accomplishing what you can control. What comes of it isn't something you can control, so you can't gauge self worth by it. The success is in trying, and learning from the outcome. Therefore approaching the girl in itself is the success. What comes of it isn't personal at all.

I already quit random dating, although its hard to say if I was really ever involved in it. And I don't know if I am weird or what, or where my self-esteem should come from, but I know what directly affects it in a negative way. And I hardly know any real way to get it back without getting into a relationship.

And I am not the only one that I'm basing my observations of. All of my friend's when they fail to find a girlfriend for a while become pretty depressed about the issue. Some try to hide it but it is pretty obvious that it bothers them and that they start doubting themselves. I guess it must all be just a part of my imagination.

Oh, and I've had a great job, was successful at sports, had great friends, got my degree and know quite a few languages. And neither of those made me feel confident. Although I guess it did, but just by tiny bit, and I would rather keep that tiny bit of confidence that I managed to build up with myself, since it wasn't really an easy thing to achieve for me.

allwomencareaboutislooksallwomencareaboutislooksallwomencareaboutislooksallwomencareaboutislooksallwomencareaboutislooks.....................all women care about is looks, it does not matter about your other qualities.................good,bad,nice,***hole,jerk,neutral...none of it matters if they don't like your looks

Broken people don't behave in the right way toward others.