rbintx
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Joined: 7/24/2005
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 11/23/2005 11:12:36 PM | I've been single for 5 years now and there are times when I want someone beside me in bed but most of the time I'm glad there isn't.  There's always baggage from a relationship that you need to sort through. If you have to, keep hugging that pillow. Perhaps it's an attitude thing, I learned a long time ago that NO MAN is worth the heartache, but they sure can be fun to be with LOL. It's all just a matter of time, you will eventually get use to sleeping alone or you will jump into another relationship to ease the lonelyness, trust me, that is not a good plan. Give yourself time to heal from this relationship before starting another. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 11/23/2005 11:19:30 PM | I enjoy sleeping alone now (not that I wouldn't mind company one day)
I sleep with a body pillow and if I am chilled and need something warm I warm up some rice bags (magic bags) and put one by my feet the other at the small of my back then nighty night I go.
Pleasant dreams soon for you! Everything takes time.  | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 11/23/2005 11:36:59 PM | Wow that's a tough one. Sometimes it doesn't bother me and I quickly fall asleep. When I can't sleep I move to the couch. I find if it is silent I have trouble falling asleep so I'll put on a movie I've seen before many times, I don,t watch just listen and soon I will be sleeping. Reading for a few minutes helps too. The worst thin to do is to lay there and feel lonely. By this I mean if you worry that it's going to be that way forever. Or thinking about serious stuff.
Good luck in finding a way out of this problem, we're all different and there are many good suggestions presented in this forum. I've enjoyed the topic and will have to try a few myself. God bless you with a good nights sleep.
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 11/23/2005 11:38:42 PM | I kinda like sleeping alone...... electric blanket will help you
if your cold.
I just wish the dog would not have to want to stand gaurd over me.....
she has to be right near me at night and she jumps up and goes to investigate
every little noise she hears.... sometimes growls in the middle of the night.....
and jumps on the bed barking.....
and I have woke up with her staring at me.....
(guess she is ready for me to wake up and make her breakfast.... huh?.... )
so....
Maybe a pet will help you not feel so alone ?
I actually like sleeping alone... first time I can sleep naked and be able to
actually get some sleep
all the covers to myself..... 1000 thread count cotton sheets.....
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 11/23/2005 11:51:32 PM | I have learned flannel or jersy sheets and comfy blankets do the trick. First I jump in a tub filled with warm water and some nice smelling body wash. When I get out I smell nice and I am warm. Then I get into those covers and go quickly to sleep. Sure it is not the same as someone being there but it will do til later. | |
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woozoo
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Joined: 6/14/2005
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 11/24/2005 11:50:31 AM |
After sharing my bed with another for 12 years...how do I become comfortable sleeping alone?
Right now I place pillows down the length of the bed, but I want to stop having to rely on that to get to sleep. How do I wean myself off needing another body beside me? Anybody with ANY ideas, tricks, or comments would be greatly appreciated. Cheers...
Time.... With time you get used to it, you'll never like it, or be comfortable with it. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone,....... my answer with some advice its................
Posted: 11/24/2005 12:19:16 PM | | Something to think about, you have the entire bed to yourself so there is no one to nudge you if you take up too much of the bed, you don't have to worry about anyone taking all the covers, you don't have to listen to someone snoring on those nights when you can't sleep, you can get out of bed without concerning yourself about disturbing someone else's sleep and you can make your morning coffee on your terms because you want to not because you have to. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone,....... my answer with some advice its................
Posted: 11/24/2005 2:15:15 PM | I think everyone has some really good thoughts on this, unfortunately this is a harsh reality "sleeping alone" If it's any help to those of you with new break ups, it really does get easier. You get used to it after awhile. There are still sometimes I lay there and tell myself I wish I had someone next to me, then I fall asleep (smiling)..Just know one thing, be good to yourself, and someone is out there for every one, and he or she will definately come along, and most likely when your not even expecting it. Good luck
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/18/2006 12:30:21 AM | Yall are not alone i can not sleep during the night at all even if i'm tired or not tired i haven't slept good at night sense going on 4month's now, almost. It seem's i sleep better during the day light hour's or just when the sun has set and it's no longer dark outside i know it isn't because i am pregnant i was use to sleeping alone and haveing room to move but i got back in that habbit, of haveing somebody laying next to me everyday/everynight. And it's hard for me to sleep at night time's now because that person is not here for the moment and it's driving me insane and with us pregnant female's we need, all the rest we can get.  | |
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Rake
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Joined: 3/12/2005
Msg: 39 | |
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
Msg: 41 | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/18/2006 1:36:23 PM | | Have you tried Ambien or Valium???? LOL. Sounds awful, but some people have to take something to help them sleep until they cross the hurdle. I should say, actually, more than some or the pharmacuetical companies would not be advertising all the new sleep medications. If you do not want to go with the hard drugs, try benedryl or Tylenol PM. GOOD LUCK!!! I am so sorry you are having a hard time....I actually am glad to not be sleeping with my ex as he SNORES SO LOUD he shakes the entire house and kicks....it is a joy for me to sleep alone in that respect....but I do miss having someone to hold me or to roll over to for some fun. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/18/2006 7:21:31 PM | | I enjoy having the bed to myself, but there are those nights when I curl up with my other pillow. I do miss the cuddling. That is the biggest problem for me. I miss being able to roll over in the middle of the night and cuddle. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:08:05 PM | | Try sleeping in the middle of the bed. This way the bed feels like it's ALL YOURS rather than having YOUR SIDE. When you have the OTHER side, it reminds you of what's missing. Just a tip. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:28:38 PM | | When I split with my ex I couldn't sleep in the bed we had shared for over a year. I stayed up most nights and hardly caught any zzz's at all. I vowed to never feel that way again so any currents have to spend time on the couch once in a while to help me from gettting too comfortable like that again. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/18/2006 8:42:17 PM | | It's true that everything starts in the brain. Got lemons - make lemonade. What I'm saying is find the positive. You have the bed all to yourself to stretch and move into any position (and you can hug a pillow too!), nobody hogging the bedding, no jabs during your sleep Like anything else you've gotta find the positives not focus on the negatives. Think good thoughts and think ONLY "relax, sleep" - clear the brain, and if all else fails you WILL adapt in time. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/23/2006 2:43:43 AM | | Think good thoughts, drink two oz. pom blueberry juice and totally relax. you will sleep better than you have slept in a long time. Sure its not the same as someone there for you but it is something to think about. | |
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