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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/23/2006 5:45:44 PM | Holy crap!! I was married 14 years and now sleep alone and love it... He used to snore so bad and he kept me awake... Now that I am rid of him I sleep like a baby.. no more migranes..lost weight and generally in a good mood.. I guess I look on the bright side... | |
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QLily
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Joined: 1/23/2006
Msg: 55 | |
| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/23/2006 6:01:24 PM | Hope you are still not having that problem, but in case you are--you could 1. knock yourslef out with alcohol, or take a sleeping pill, or you could number 2. get naked and enjoy the loveliness of your own body--really explore it, touch it, taste it--you'll forget about needing a man for the moment.
just my opinion based on my own experience--works for me | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/23/2006 6:21:04 PM | Veteran of the sideways pillows for almost seven years.
Get used to it, or get ya a fella.
I went to Pic 'n Save and got me a body pillow shaped like a dolphin.
Turn to the left, I got pillow.
Turn to the right, I have this goofy Flipper staring me straight in the mug.
What the heck, you gotta put your arm around something!
I know, not lot's of help, but we're all rootin' for ya!! | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/23/2006 6:49:50 PM | I understand all too well about the lonely bed syndrome. My husband passed away last year April. and I thought with time I would get used to the empty bed, but now more than anything I am missing that person to snuggle up to, the comfort, the intimacy...I know that with more time it will get better, but I seem to fall asleep on the sofa most nights or I dont sleep at all...I dread walking to that room, knowing it is empty...I would give anthing to hear him snoring beside me again.... | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/23/2006 7:07:28 PM | | On a serious note, someone earlier mentioned redecorating the room, changing it all around so it looks totally different. Has anyone tried that? And if so did it work? Cause I get the pillow thing and will have to get one of my own cause I cant take my daughters dolphin or my sons Clifford lol. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 12:27:43 AM | What would yall or anyone do if they HAD to sleep alone for 15 to 20 year's when they are, just back in that habbit of sleeping next to the one they are married to or dateing?....
What would any of you do if you have to go the next 15 or 20 year's without being around the one you love, and are married to or engaged to. ?
leave me some feedback | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 12:55:17 AM | i was married for 11 years..and i when we divorced i got the king size waterbed..(oh he wanted it soo bad)..anyway, i couldnt even look at the bed for the first 6 months, let alone sleep in it..i slept w/my daughters, or on the couch..then i started to go in our bedroom and do lil things, that he didnt want done..i made it more my bedroom..lots of girly frilly things..i sprayed it with floral scents, put out sensous smelling candles, and made it a room that i want to go in..the first few nites were rough, i went to bed on the far side of the bed where i always slept, and as the time went by i just thought to myself, "this is rediculas" i walk around the bed to the other side of the room, just so i dont have to sleep on "his" side of the bed...his side of the bed was closer to the door, and it had the lamp on it..and it was closer to the bathroom..so now i sleep deadset in the middle of MY bed, with 12 yes 12 big pillows, a very pretty flowery comforter and last but definetly not least..my big 3 ft. teddy bear..i had specially made for me at the teddy bear factory..there r ways to deal with it and get over it..u just have to find what is right for u..good luck and dream the sweetest of dreams:)
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 8:09:03 AM |
i was married for 11 years..and i when we divorced i got the king size waterbed..(oh he wanted it soo bad)..anyway, i couldnt even look at the bed for the first 6 months, let alone sleep in it.
Nose, face, knife.
Seriously, it almost sounds like you kept it to spite him and then wouldn't use it anyway. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 8:32:16 AM | Well to be honest sleeping with my ex was like sleeping with a block of ICE. So when the time came to sleep alone, I was actually warmer, LOL.
It's been two years and I would prefer to sleep alone rather than compromise my self and values. I find many younger women out there to be very superficial. Whe it comes to older women (40-50plus) they seem put off by a man who has children. So, you see my dilemma.
It is a blessing because, it actually filters all the women who are "lightwieghts" and would not stick around when the "going gets tough" as it will for all of us, as we age.
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 9:03:43 AM | | I split with the X almost 10 years ago, but I gave him the bed for his new place, because I wanted no reminders of him in my new place. I slept on the couch for almost seven years afterwards. I went and bought a bed, but still hadn't become accustomed to having a bed all to myself. Guess what? I'm back sleeping on the loveseat again! I think the back of it gives the effect of someone cuddling me which helps me go to sleep. I like the idea of the electric blanket on those really cold winter nights, or a hot bath filled with lavender scented bubbles. The body pillows also help as well as my little dog, that has to curl up in front of me, and I pet her till I fall asleep. For the most part I can just drop off to sleep wherever and whomever I'm with, the latter is only if I trust them....lol | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 9:15:42 AM | Maybe it's from my Scot background but I like to sleep with my blow-up sheep , it gives me someone to talk to (she actually listens) and if I'm feelin a little frisky ...
heh heh
Just wish she could bring in poached eggs on toast for brekkie sometimes . | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 10:43:21 AM | I'm still not used to sleeping alone and I hate being cold when I sleep. My problem is now though, after being alone for so long, I have a hard time falling asleep when I am with someone. Catch 22, I miss having someone next to me and I can't sleep when I do.
*chalks up another sleepless night* | |
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winxs
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Joined: 1/15/2006
Msg: 69 | |
| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 10:52:40 AM | | I couldnt sleep alone either. I kinda weaned myself away from it. Spent a couple of weeks on the couch and would fall asleep watching Tv. Then its new sheets, and pillows. Make your bedroom your haven. Itll become a great place again | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 11:59:22 AM | | I would take a night SLEEPING next to big warm man anyday over sex. I guess what I am saying is you dont get over it you always long for it. | |
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cogirl
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Joined: 1/24/2006
Msg: 73 | |
| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:26:28 PM | I've heard beer & Ativan help....lol! Just kidding!
I know the feeling....it gets better as the days or should I say nights go by....some nights...I just leave the TV on (at least it "feels" like someone else is in the room, lol)....and I, too, am guilty of having tons of pillows on the bed (last count...I think 12...lol!!...again, just kidding....hummm...okay...may I'm in single digit pillow therapy (9), lol!). | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:33:00 PM | | Well I think it's kinda difficult to get used to sleeping alone at first. Then over time you adjust. Eventually when you do have some-one in that bed once in a while it's a nice treat. Serves to remind us just how difficult it is in the beginnning. Don't worry honey it does get better. I started out by making my bed and my room exactly the way I wanted it to be. So far it's working fine. Hang in there girl! | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:35:23 PM | Am I the only one that feels confused? Sometimes I want someone with me and other times,I dont care...what about us fickle ones, when it comes to sleeping in bed with someone?,, I need an answer either way.. and is the "cold' nights " because it is below zero out or is it because the partner next to you is 'cold"?  | |
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