| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 1:51:49 PM | dnickied said:
I split with the X almost 10 years ago, but I gave him the bed for his new place, because I wanted no reminders of him in my new place. I slept on the couch for almost seven years afterwards. I went and bought a bed, but still hadn't become accustomed to having a bed all to myself. Guess what? I'm back sleeping on the loveseat again! I think the back of it gives the effect of someone cuddling me which helps me go to sleep.
I do the same thing sometimes when the bed seems too empty--play a DVD of a fireplace on the TV, put some warm blankets on the sofa, and go to sleep there. It's almost like you aren't going to bed alone, since you don't actually get into the bed. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 2:16:56 PM | | Yeah...I know what you're saying....some nights I'm like missing it and then other nights...no...I guess guys are the same way too.....that's why occasionally "spouses" wind up on the couch, lol. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 2:20:51 PM | I have been sleeping alone for since Sept. of 99'. Most nights it's great. I like having the whole bed to myself and no one waking me up by poking me in the back wanting something from me. On those nights when I can't sleep, I relax in a tub of water as hot as I can stand and read my book. Most of the time, I only get through a few pages before I'm dozing off and almost drop my book in the water. Pillows? I have 4 regular and one body pillow.
Do I ever get lonely for someone to cuddle up to? Yes, of course, most of us do. But the pros outweigh the cons.
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/29/2006 11:18:20 PM | | dear holy i fully understand what you mean my suggestion is get a new pet dog give them the effection you so need to release ive been were your at and still there time will replace that broken heart | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/30/2006 12:15:45 AM | Know what.... i do NOT know if i can say this for everybody, but i was just thinking, you NEVER really realize how LONG something is or it never really sink's in "wow thats a long time", until the night time's. Because during day time it's not as hard/bad because you'r use to the person being gone during day because of them working but it is hard, during the night time when they are laying next to you and yall are sleeping in eachother's arms.
In some way's i wish i could be  right now, but THAT will not help ease this pain, and it will NOT make thing's go away and it defently won't help this baby (unborn). | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/30/2006 6:17:30 AM | Broken soul....10 to 15 years? Sounds to me your boyfriend is locked up on some heavy charges. West Monroe is filled with undercover cops...just look for the blue triangle on the back window...lets you know. People there to are shady...not saying you are.....but the types ive seen when I was there.....um.....starting a fight club...ya thats it....are some scary people.
My advice...get a body pillow. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/30/2006 7:43:40 PM | HOLY...do I ever know how you feel, it's been almost a year and some nights really suck! For the first several months I just kept myself busy enough so when bedtime came I just hit the bed and was out for the count. There are still lousy nights but things do get better with time.
I,m here if ya want to talk some...I mean why not, since there is still not enough snow for sledding yet! | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/30/2006 7:57:00 PM | electric blanket for heat...long pillow to hug..an  doesnt always work though..i miss the spoonin with a guy..hehehe an the pillow talks. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/31/2006 1:05:58 AM | Thank-you everybody for all your wonderful advice and thoughts!
I'm much better now (time works wonders all in itself) but I hope others can benefit from
the sound, experienced advice you all have provided!
Hugs all around
Cheers.....HS | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/31/2006 1:15:25 AM | Holy Serendipity
It's nice to finnaly be able put a picture, with the name lol. I'm glad to hear that you'r doing, alot better hope everything work's out for you.
I've kept up with you'r fourm almost every night these days.
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/31/2006 2:14:19 AM | @Broken Soul
Thank you sweetie! 
I hope this thread has been helping you...even in a small way. Noone is ever alone in what they are going through....
 Hope it was a good one! | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 1/31/2006 2:19:32 AM | | Thank you as well and you'r welcome it help's alot, especialy just get stuff off your/anybody chest esp mine. It doesn't hurt at time's to be able to let it all go so you could, if possible feel a little bit more at ease. | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 4/23/2006 2:13:33 PM | | Flannel sheets, a hot drink and then hopefully sleeping through the night. I don't like to sleep alone, it was a hard adjustment for me as well. It sounds silly but my nieces and nephews gave me one of their Gund teddy bears to keep me company. Until someone takes the place of the bear, he stays, I guess :) | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 4/23/2006 2:43:09 PM | Serendipity,
Loved the movie!
Awww, so sorry to hear of your emptiness/lonliness at night...over time things will get better....remember take your time and don't jump into anything quickly either....:)
From pillows to teddy bears....and reading at night for company....it is very hard on a person that has slept with a mate for so long.
Personally, I have not had pleasure and comfort of having a mate love me that much to develop that reliance ... that would be a dream come true.... I am a furnace ....a giant teddy bear I have been told....lol...
So there you go..... if you do not have a giant teddy bear....lol..... the smaller one are great too.
Okay, my daughter has made sure that I have a teddy bear collection....she does not want me to be alone....cute eh? So, Teddy Bears Rule!
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 4/23/2006 3:01:19 PM | From a guys point of view,
It isn't any different for me. I was married for thirty years and sleeping alone, not having that special one to cuddle and hold at night is a major loss. I tried sleeping on the couch, not a very satisfactory solution. I tried the body pillow, still not a good solution. I think the only answer is to find someone to love. Any of you ladies out there,
if you have a good heart and head email me, I am sure we can solve this problem together 
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 4/23/2006 8:14:52 PM | | I was with my husband for over 11 years and have been split for close to 2 years now.....I still sleep with pillows all around me in bed....If a pillow falls off in the middle of the night I wake up and have to fix it.... It really sucks but with a full time job with extra hours because I get no support from the ex....I have no time to meet someone else...and the few I have met, run when they hear I have kids. Men can be so cruel...never giving any chances to women that deserve it. Don't throw away the pillows, at least they are always next to you and don't talk back!!! | |
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 4/23/2006 8:39:25 PM | One you"ve shared your bed will someone you've loved, the bed always seem empty cold or warm. I treat my bed like the couch when it comes to sleeping as I fall asleep on a different corner every night. Its up against two walls so I put the pillows up somewhere and sleep where sleep happens. Its funny how even though you don"t miss the person, you still end up missing the company.
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| Cold, lonely nights....and sleeping alone
Posted: 4/28/2006 8:41:55 PM | | I use the pillows too thats great! I mean I thoght I was the only person in the world who does that. But beleive me I know how you feel. | |
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