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Posted: 2/2/2006 7:30:58 PM | I have watched this thread for a while and have only a couple of lines to add to it
http://www.pepintexas.org/
This isn't a scam, this is a movement and they have made awesome strides to bring some sanity to the family court system. Read everything on this link to educate yourself. Listen to PEP Talk Radio to grasp a clearer understanding of the real problem. Listen to some of the past notable guest. To fix this means fixing this for our children, and our children's children for generations to come. Join, support and advocate. Remember, these are our children, not the governments! And I will leave you with one other note.... I heard Frank William Abagnale the subject of the movie, "Catch Me If You Can" by Steven Spielberg at a conference in which he was the keynote speaker for. His speech started off with the fictional differences between the film and his real life. Some were accurate, and some was fiction. He, noted at the end when he was forced to choose between his mom and his dad, that it was the worst time of his life, and finished with a line that I will not ever forget..."All child need their mommy and daddy... all children need access to both their mom and their dad". | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 6:55:19 AM | | I am not familiar with the movement but I do believe in your last statement. Children need both parents and divorce is hard enough on them without us as adults acting as children. I don't understand mothers that won't allow the father visitation I have enocuraged my children to stay in touch with thier father and his family going out of my way to take them to family functions and in fact have remained friends with most of his family after all they were my family for fifteen years. I do know that relationship makes new beaus uncomfortable I have read the your divorced so act like it line but truly just because a person remains friends does not mean there is any love there. That thought honestly never crosses my mind. I remain close to his family for my children and because many are my friends not because I secretly want that life back. Sorry a little off subject there. | |
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Posted: 2/4/2006 8:18:29 PM | Well I here the same thing from many a men, the question is why does the man have to pay cs and the woman does not. Lets see with all of your crying when your wife divorced you did you say becuase of you and your cheating ways I do not want my son to live with you and I will keep him and you have visitation and the same system you put down will in your words screw her instead of you. And with all of your crying did you think about the child and how he or she is doing through all of this. And the system does not screw you you yourself stated that when you were together you did not live extravagently so the money you had left would be the same if you were with her she makes less then you and it seems that you may be living beyound your means if 20% of your income is 730.00 and all you have left is maybe 200-300 left you need to check your spending. The bottom line is that the child has to adjust he or she no longer has both parents in the home now would not be a good time to start taking his or her fincial security away as well. So befor you go started some unnessersary party just think you should have put your feeling aside and think about the child instead of what your wife did to you that is who you are mad at not the system who did nothing to you nor the child, whom you and your wife made and 20% is nothing for a child your child who you should want the best for now if you feel that your wife is neglecting your child than take her back to court to get custody if you dont think that and you just hate the fact that she gets your money tough she is taking care of your child. Again get over it.   | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/7/2006 7:48:31 AM | eaaaaaasy tonto, think you should check in your bag of facts before launching your boat ....cause i dont think that ship is gonna sail here on this thread. think we all know who we are mad at, some more than others,but we are correct in what we rant about..
btw,,nice pro,,i'm gonna go take a bath now
rant on fishies
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/13/2006 5:54:47 PM | | The money I got from my ex for support of his children didn't include, taking care of them when they were sick and losing work, being there every night for the homework battles, making sure they got to and from school safely, making sure they had someplace to go or someone to watch them until I could get home from work, having to take time off to go to the schools for conferences, etc., making sure they had proper clothing, food, school supplies. All he did was send a check and let them come visit the house when they wanted to, which didn't change any of his plans, they could just stay at the house themselves he didn't need to see them. I know some women take advantage of their ex's, but there's more involved in having custody of the kids than the dollar amount. Just my experience. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2006 8:28:25 PM | | I think people fail to realize that a child is a human being and not a piece of property. They aren't paychecks. Yet they do cost to support. They do need both parents in their lives as long as it's not endangering them in any form. I also feel that if the parents split, and one is doing better than the other and the child needs something, they should be more than willing to help. That's only my opinion. Before anyone jumps on this thread and claims I don't know what I'm talking about because I don't have any children of my own, I have been in long term relationships with single fathers. I have gone through bitter custody fights with them. Just don't feel your child's head with a bunch of garbage about the other parent. Let the child live as close to a "normal" life as you can possibly provide. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 10:51:26 AM | It is time parents demand to know where money is spent. Quite frankly, children can be expensive, but not the same expense every month.
Certain things come up: sports, band, etc.. that require more than a normal month.
I think a running tab should be kept by the custodial parent to include a portion of mortgage or rent, utilities etc... reasonable amount or 1/2.
Any monies left over from the payee should go towards a college fund in an account accessable by the child upon age 18 for school purposes.
Mediation may be necessary.
I am working a similar system with my step daughters' mother and it is working. We agreed in the beginning on how much we think it takes to raise this child monthly, not counting the odd expenses. She takes the agreed amount in direct pay to utilities or gift cards:
$x. from the grocery store; $x. from clothing stores, etc... no cash.
The extra monies are in an account that can be tapped as needed.
Our situation is different than a divorce. No courts need be involved.
This child's father passed away and he was always adamant that she go to college. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2006 8:40:42 PM | I have to say being fairly new to Texas when I moved down here I researched the AGs office as to how well they did on enforcing the Child Support paymentsand they do not have a good record of collecting from deadbeats so I left my cases in Missouri. Since they already had all the leg work done and this way I didn't have to start all over again down here.
I regret that you men are not getting good representation here. I have noticed that the male attorneys here, that I have hired, are not very well versed in fighting. The ones I have dealt with seem to like to give in and let the women attorneys do whatever they want.
Good luck in getting your child support cases taken care of and getting what you want done with them. Too bad when the fathers who want to be a part of the childs life and aren't afraid to take care of the children are left on the short end of the stick. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 9:39:58 AM | mscrybaby
Thank you......finally someone (lady) of reason from OUTSIDE this God-forsaken state who knows what we're talking about. The reason the lawyer's for men give up is because it is futile for them to do so. In hindsight, I would have NEVER wasted the money on my attorney and would have fought it all on my own. I couldn't have done any worse but I wwould have been able to pocket all the money I've thrown away.
To the ladies who've basically said "tough", "too bad".....I ask that you put yourself in the mans shoes (or mine rather) and see how you would feel: She has the affair, she moves out, closes ALL our bank accounts, gets our son, buys a new vehicle and I'm left in a mess to pick up the pieces while the Judicial system (yes, I said Judicial system and not courts because the ENTIRE Judicial system in this state is entirely in the pockets of lawyers) turns the screws on my life while allowing her free reign. If it's a true Judicial system. where is my justice????? Why am I expected to take up the slack for the deadbeats??? I'm not all innocent because I have my share of faults BUT, why should she have her cake and eat it too???......and DON"T give me the BS!!! line about the "best interest of the child" crap either. If it was for the best interest of the child, this state would make it much more difficult for a divorce and take into account the FACTS of both parties instead of granting the mother immediately. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2006 11:55:59 AM | Ms Crybaby the male attorneys youve hired are not versed in fighting that they allow the women to get what they want??? That confuses me as you are a woman and if they got you what you wanted how would they be so bad and if they had such a case history why hire them?
pktchg - I only mentioned that woman don't normally get a raise. Thier expenses do go up and I know that I have missed work due to illness and such that has caused my income to go down.
The judicial system works both ways. I have a son whom I never married the father hes never paid child support he decided he wanted to then got angry took my child when I went to pick him up and give him the money he gave me back he proceeded to beat me saying it doesn't cost much to raise a child. Charges were pressed of course but have since found legally he has no rights to the child since we were never married but because I let him put his name on the birth certificate at age 3 he can pick him up from school anytime. In order for me to protect my son and myself I have to file against him with a down payment of $1400. to give him rights so that I can be granted custody of a child that I have been the sole supporter of since birth. The judicial system while not perfect is helping him in this instance and hurting my child and myself. The lawyers advice to me.......move | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/19/2006 10:30:28 AM | Taken from People for Equal Paernting's Website. If you live in Texas go to http://www.pepintexas.org/ and learn how you can help change the system.
PEP's Rules of the Road to Liberty
or
The Seven Basic Habits of Highly Effective NCPs
“The liberty interest at issue in this case – the interest of parents in the care, custody, and control of their children – is perhaps the oldest of the fundamental liberty interests recognized by this Court.” Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 57, 65 (2000).
Perhaps no one but another NCP can fully understand the suffering of having your state’s government treat you as a second class parent. Perhaps no one but another NCP can fully understand what the system does so cavalierly to you: The embarrassment, the pain, the loneliness, loss of good jobs, loss of homes, loss of friends (who can’t understand why you’re no longer the person you once were), the loss of faith in your state and national governments, loss of faith in the courts … and most importantly the loss of irreplaceable time with your children.
PEP understands. We’re doing things about it that can benefit you now and in the long run. Join PEP. And make sure you visit PEP Mentoring and PEP Gift Exchange.
This page summarizes the things anyone can do no matter how badly the system has treated them. Practice The Rules of the Road to Liberty. You will gain something no one can take from you: The knowledge that there are things you do control. Here are the rules.
1. Know Your Legal Opponent.
Unfortunately, the law defines your former spouse as your legal opponent. You must accept that you can’t control your former spouse. Often you can hardly even influence him or her. He or she is going to do whatever they do … and in too many cases the last thing they’ll worry about is how that hurts you and the children.
This is useful knowledge. If you can get over the shock of seeing that a formerly loving relationship has become something else entirely, you can begin to predict how your former spouse will behave – and take reasonable precautions.
2. Know Your Real Enemy.
It’s not your former spouse.
We’ll say that again.
It’s NOT your former spouse.
He or she didn’t do it to you. He or she had no power to turn you from a full time parent into an every-other-weekend visitor to your own kids. The government did that under the authority of certain specific statutes in your state’s family code that attempt to justify treating you unequally.
Learn about those statutes. Study how they work. You’ll come to see how a legal system that’s supposed to protect all Americans … doesn’t. At least not equally. This is powerful knowledge … very threatening to the system that is your real enemy. Knowledge is power. Get educated. Your state government is selling a lot of snake oil about child custody. Don’t buy it.
3. Leave Your Former Spouse Alone.
When you understand #’s 1 and 2 above, you’ll realize there’s almost never a reason to argue with your former spouse. Your life will be a lot better without the conflict. And – who knows – your former spouse might be one of those whose conscience will eventually make him or her behave better.
Even if your former spouse is the opposite – one of those without much of a conscience – so what? You’re divorced. Don’t throw good time after bad. Get on with your life. Even if your former spouse breaks laws that protect your relationship with your children, it’s not your job to be the judge. Take legal action if you must, but never provoke it. It usually (but not always) takes two to tango. Drop out of the dance.
4. Never Talk Bad About Your Former Spouse to Your Children.
Never.
Never, never, never. Not ever.
“But he …”
Don’t do it.
“But she …”
Nuh-uh. If you really need to vent, talk to a friend or a mentor. But not your kids.
“But …”
No buts. Keep your mouth shut to your kids. Got it?
Don’t do it. Period. Any short-term pleasure you get from behaving like an adolescent will be outweighed by the damage done to your kids … and maybe to your image in their minds. Your kids ought to have the best possible chance to enjoy their relationship with both parents. This doesn’t mean don’t protect your children from overt acts of abuse or neglect. Of course you have to do that. But that’s a rare thing when it comes to two fit divorced parents. So respect your children. You wouldn’t want to be put in the middle between two good friends of yours. Neither do your children.
The best thing you can do about your children’s relationship with your former spouse is to enjoy your relationship with your children. Treat your children well. Being a child of divorce is tough. Do everything you can to not make it worse. Don’t make excuses for yourself. Be a grown up.
5. Find Positive Activities to Counter Loss.
Many NCPs discover or rediscover spiritual lives as they suffer unjustly. Although PEP is a secular organization, its leadership believes that spiritual practices are very desirable ways to respond to suffering.
More generally: Take action. Do something about your situation other than complain, deny, or cry. If you’re like 9 out of 10 Americans, there are things in your life you know you should be doing something about ... but are not. Well now's the time to get on with it. Go back to school. Take up a new hobby. Make sure to get plenty of exercise. Eat right. Be extremely careful about substance abuse, gambling, or seeking new relationships to substitute for the old one. As was said in the movie The Shawshank Redemption: “It’s time to get busy living, or get busy dying.”
Most importantly: Join PEP. Display our bumper stickers on your car. Work with us as a mentor or a fund-raiser or a legislative contact or as a plaintiff in a lawsuit. Contact PEP and tell us how you’d like to help. If you’re fairly new to being turned into an NCP, get a mentor. Help fix the problem.
Don’t just stand there, do something.
6. Practice Kindness.
Being forced by government to become a second class parent can make you bitter. Don't let it happen to you. Bitterness can turn a tragedy into a disaster.
For thousands of years the human race has been told how to respond psychologically to suffering. Choose to be kind. Be sensitive to the sufferings of others. Your suffering helps you understand a world that’s full of suffering.
This doesn’t mean you have to become a saint. None of us is Mother Theresa. But all of us can choose not to give one-finger salutes to people that cut us off in traffic. All of us can say "Thank You" to the person that bags our groceries. Look for opportunities to practice kindness. You’ll find plenty. Making it a habit will quickly prove one of the best things you’ll ever do … for yourself, your kids, and your society.
7. Appreciate Beauty.
All of us can go outside at sunrise or sunset and stop for a minute. No artist has ever painted anything as beautiful. And you’re still alive to appreciate them … if you only will. No matter how much has been taken from you, the beauties of nature can’t be taken from you. They’re given to everyone equally. You too.
These Rules of the Road to Liberty, or Seven Basic Habits of Highly Effective NCPs, if followed consistently, will do more to ease your sufferings than anything else you can do. It’s up to you. You can’t make everything better all at once. But you can make things a little better, a little at a time. Eventually it adds up. Start now.
 Stilladad | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/19/2006 10:30:58 AM | Taken from People for Equal Parenting's Website. If you live in Texas go to http://www.pepintexas.org/ and learn how you can help change the system.
PEP's Rules of the Road to Liberty
or
The Seven Basic Habits of Highly Effective NCPs
“The liberty interest at issue in this case – the interest of parents in the care, custody, and control of their children – is perhaps the oldest of the fundamental liberty interests recognized by this Court.” Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 57, 65 (2000).
Perhaps no one but another NCP can fully understand the suffering of having your state’s government treat you as a second class parent. Perhaps no one but another NCP can fully understand what the system does so cavalierly to you: The embarrassment, the pain, the loneliness, loss of good jobs, loss of homes, loss of friends (who can’t understand why you’re no longer the person you once were), the loss of faith in your state and national governments, loss of faith in the courts … and most importantly the loss of irreplaceable time with your children.
PEP understands. We’re doing things about it that can benefit you now and in the long run. Join PEP. And make sure you visit PEP Mentoring and PEP Gift Exchange.
This page summarizes the things anyone can do no matter how badly the system has treated them. Practice The Rules of the Road to Liberty. You will gain something no one can take from you: The knowledge that there are things you do control. Here are the rules.
1. Know Your Legal Opponent.
Unfortunately, the law defines your former spouse as your legal opponent. You must accept that you can’t control your former spouse. Often you can hardly even influence him or her. He or she is going to do whatever they do … and in too many cases the last thing they’ll worry about is how that hurts you and the children.
This is useful knowledge. If you can get over the shock of seeing that a formerly loving relationship has become something else entirely, you can begin to predict how your former spouse will behave – and take reasonable precautions.
2. Know Your Real Enemy.
It’s not your former spouse.
We’ll say that again.
It’s NOT your former spouse.
He or she didn’t do it to you. He or she had no power to turn you from a full time parent into an every-other-weekend visitor to your own kids. The government did that under the authority of certain specific statutes in your state’s family code that attempt to justify treating you unequally.
Learn about those statutes. Study how they work. You’ll come to see how a legal system that’s supposed to protect all Americans … doesn’t. At least not equally. This is powerful knowledge … very threatening to the system that is your real enemy. Knowledge is power. Get educated. Your state government is selling a lot of snake oil about child custody. Don’t buy it.
3. Leave Your Former Spouse Alone.
When you understand #’s 1 and 2 above, you’ll realize there’s almost never a reason to argue with your former spouse. Your life will be a lot better without the conflict. And – who knows – your former spouse might be one of those whose conscience will eventually make him or her behave better.
Even if your former spouse is the opposite – one of those without much of a conscience – so what? You’re divorced. Don’t throw good time after bad. Get on with your life. Even if your former spouse breaks laws that protect your relationship with your children, it’s not your job to be the judge. Take legal action if you must, but never provoke it. It usually (but not always) takes two to tango. Drop out of the dance.
4. Never Talk Bad About Your Former Spouse to Your Children.
Never.
Never, never, never. Not ever.
“But he …”
Don’t do it.
“But she …”
Nuh-uh. If you really need to vent, talk to a friend or a mentor. But not your kids.
“But …”
No buts. Keep your mouth shut to your kids. Got it?
Don’t do it. Period. Any short-term pleasure you get from behaving like an adolescent will be outweighed by the damage done to your kids … and maybe to your image in their minds. Your kids ought to have the best possible chance to enjoy their relationship with both parents. This doesn’t mean don’t protect your children from overt acts of abuse or neglect. Of course you have to do that. But that’s a rare thing when it comes to two fit divorced parents. So respect your children. You wouldn’t want to be put in the middle between two good friends of yours. Neither do your children.
The best thing you can do about your children’s relationship with your former spouse is to enjoy your relationship with your children. Treat your children well. Being a child of divorce is tough. Do everything you can to not make it worse. Don’t make excuses for yourself. Be a grown up.
5. Find Positive Activities to Counter Loss.
Many NCPs discover or rediscover spiritual lives as they suffer unjustly. Although PEP is a secular organization, its leadership believes that spiritual practices are very desirable ways to respond to suffering.
More generally: Take action. Do something about your situation other than complain, deny, or cry. If you’re like 9 out of 10 Americans, there are things in your life you know you should be doing something about ... but are not. Well now's the time to get on with it. Go back to school. Take up a new hobby. Make sure to get plenty of exercise. Eat right. Be extremely careful about substance abuse, gambling, or seeking new relationships to substitute for the old one. As was said in the movie The Shawshank Redemption: “It’s time to get busy living, or get busy dying.”
Most importantly: Join PEP. Display our bumper stickers on your car. Work with us as a mentor or a fund-raiser or a legislative contact or as a plaintiff in a lawsuit. Contact PEP and tell us how you’d like to help. If you’re fairly new to being turned into an NCP, get a mentor. Help fix the problem.
Don’t just stand there, do something.
6. Practice Kindness.
Being forced by government to become a second class parent can make you bitter. Don't let it happen to you. Bitterness can turn a tragedy into a disaster.
For thousands of years the human race has been told how to respond psychologically to suffering. Choose to be kind. Be sensitive to the sufferings of others. Your suffering helps you understand a world that’s full of suffering.
This doesn’t mean you have to become a saint. None of us is Mother Theresa. But all of us can choose not to give one-finger salutes to people that cut us off in traffic. All of us can say "Thank You" to the person that bags our groceries. Look for opportunities to practice kindness. You’ll find plenty. Making it a habit will quickly prove one of the best things you’ll ever do … for yourself, your kids, and your society.
7. Appreciate Beauty.
All of us can go outside at sunrise or sunset and stop for a minute. No artist has ever painted anything as beautiful. And you’re still alive to appreciate them … if you only will. No matter how much has been taken from you, the beauties of nature can’t be taken from you. They’re given to everyone equally. You too.
These Rules of the Road to Liberty, or Seven Basic Habits of Highly Effective NCPs, if followed consistently, will do more to ease your sufferings than anything else you can do. It’s up to you. You can’t make everything better all at once. But you can make things a little better, a little at a time. Eventually it adds up. Start now.
Stilladad | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/19/2006 10:54:47 AM | I apologize ahead of time for sounding ignorant but what does NCP stand for? I have never considered myself a second class parent, and am not sure who falls into that category. I had never thought of my ex as an enemy and even now hope he gets help because feel that there is something else going on. I do believe that you can remain friends with your ex in the best interest of the children and just because I have always practiced this does not mean that I have not moved on. While I am upset about the legalities in my case I am more upset that it is our actions as adults that make it necessary. I will always protect my children,It goes without saying that I would never say anything bad about thier other parent. I will never believe that my ex is an enemy but should remain a partner in my childs rearing unless he/she has a detrimental effect on that child then I have to fall back on I have to protect them. In my case my child was present, which was horrible and because I did not expect the rapid change in personality was not able to protect him at that time. I have since enrolled him in counseling and while I am sure his father thinks that I am bad mouthing him, the only thing I have said at this point is that he is ill because I believe this to be the case. I didn't want to have to file charges but when I did I asked for probation with anger management classes and mandatory drug testing. This was done to help him through this point in his life because he will always be my childs father for good or for worse and it should be understandable why I can't trust him at this time. His actions though have altered my childs opinion of him. Found out through the teacher that he told his class everything that happened and then proceeded to tell them that his father was dead.
I have out of necessity learned alot about the law recently and am still unsure on how to proceed would like to be able to discuss it with his father but it is not safe to do so. So that is where my dilemma is. Not changing the system, trying to find out the best way to use it to protect my child, even if this means protecting or severing the father son relationship. I just am unsure on which of the options is best and regret that I have put myself and my child in this position. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 12:22:37 PM | texastori41, All of the answers you ask for are in the post, except for one NCP=non custodial parent. The system works fine for issues like yours, but is broken when it reduces one parent to a five day a week or less visitor to their own children. This is the fundamental issue that needs to be changed. Remember we all have our experiences, some good, some not so good. There will always be issues where (God forbid) that one parent or another may not be fit. Those cases are isolated and in the minority.
I am not an expert on law by any means and as a matter of course and to protect myself need to tell you that you should probably consult an attorney. The Texas Bar takes the UPL very seriously and I for one am not going to go to jail for giving advice.
One thought though....if we reduce the number of cases of divorce exponentially, then cases or issues like yours will get more attention because courts and the legal system will have more time and resource to devote to it... I have read the Texas Family Code....=(no life) a nearly two inch thick book)
and compared the USC statues (what our federal system requires of the states) BIG GAP and plainly the states don't want us to know what our rights are. That is why there is such a disparity and lack of information for NCP's. I know this won't help you with your dilema, but maybe other friends, associates, collegues of yours might be helped by this. I'll pray for your situation to get resolved | |
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Posted: 2/19/2006 4:40:36 PM | | I thank you still a dad for your prayers and answers. I looked at your profile and will keep your family in my prayers as well. I think I have decided to trust that part of the law which says if there is no parental support for a period of time all parental rights will be terminated. I know this may seem harsh to some but protects my son in the case of my death that I can make sure he goes to a good home where he will be loved and protected and not have to live in fear. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2006 3:06:01 PM | | Back in the late 70's (when the mom as the best parent myth held even more sway) my mom had an affair (or two) and decided she needed to go off and find herself. My dad let her go and divorced her, but told her she wasn't taking us. He stayed in the home and refused to allow her to take us with her, period. He adjusted his work schedule and hired help if he needed it as his parents were no help. So, I just have a hard time understanding how helpless you guys sound. My dad did it against the odds of a much more conservative day. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2006 10:59:44 PM | Pktchg... If you weren't so far away I would love to talk to you more. I can understand being screwed over by the unjustice system here and feel for anyone here that is getting it without any lube at all. It hurts worst of all when you know it is coming and you can not do anything at all to stop it.
Texastori...I hired the worst of the worst of attorneys in the Austin area and will never again hire another male attorney in this state. After being told that these guys were the very best in thier fields and that no one else could get me what I wanted done. Yeah right
Being part of a group might be a good idea but it isn't going to solve all the problems that you guys are having now.
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/23/2006 1:41:38 PM | Back in the late 70's (when the mom as the best parent myth held even more sway) my mom had an affair (or two) and decided she needed to go off and find herself. My dad let her go and divorced her, but told her she wasn't taking us. He stayed in the home and refused to allow her to take us with her, period. He adjusted his work schedule and hired help if he needed it as his parents were no help. So, I just have a hard time understanding how helpless you guys sound. My dad did it against the odds of a much more conservative day.
A hell of a lot has changed in the Texas judicial system since the 70s. Back then your dad could likely get away with what he did. I'm glad he was able to. However, the way things have chanced in the system since then, if it were today, he'd probably be thrown in jail, charged with spousal abuse and/or molestation charges, subject to a restraining order, ordered by the court to take anger management & parenting classes, endure supervised visitation with his children (if any visitation at all), and be drug tested and psychologically analyzed by order of the court. Why you ask? Because all it would take is one unsubstantiated allegation to the court by the woman. Literally! Men have been demonized in society where this subject is concerned. I have been through the system and have literally been emotionally and financially raped by the State and it's all been initiated on the whim of a woman who is so spiteful (because I wouldn't take her back) that she just decided to lie, lie, lie, and lie some more to try and ruin my life when all I was trying to do was do what was best for my son. My story is not only living proof that our so-called "family court system" is heavily biased against males, but it is also proof that our system is a f*cking joke that is more concerned with revenue than what is best for a child's welfare. The notion of "what's in the best interest of the child" is a f*cking joke as far as this State is concerned. They want a pound of flesh and a pint of blood and they don't care how they get it or if they ruin your life in the process.
Yeah, it's a great system we have...  The unsubstantiated and unnecessary shit I was subjected to by the state, on behalf of my son's mother, would piss off anyone with the ability to reason, male and female. | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/24/2006 2:33:26 PM |
I have read the Texas Family Code....=(no life) a nearly two inch thick book)
and compared the USC statues (what our federal system requires of the states) BIG GAP and plainly the states don't want us to know what our rights are.
The state statutes and codes aren't any secret. The information is available, and although I haven't checked, my guess is the Texas statutes and codes are online. I just don't see that it's the state's responsibility to make sure all its citizens understand what their rights are.
It's one thing to read the code, but case law determines how the code is interpreted and applied. | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/24/2006 4:24:13 PM | Yep, it SUX, she got everything, i paid child support, every mo. for less than a year, and my three son's had, had enough of her, and i was living in a one bedroom apartment, and trying to pay off, all the creadit crads she ran up, she knowing she was going to get a divorce, she Maxed out all of them, and what did she buy? GOLD, in Texas, Gold, and Dimonds, are a gift iteams, and non-recoveable, which means, the cards were in my name, i had to pay them off, and i couldn't get any of the stuff back from her, or give her any part of the charges, someone had to tell her this, she isn't to this day, Smart enough to know that, and it was Ron, my (friend) who told her, and the guy to come to find out, was the reaon she divorced me for him, he came to later, and asked me to fight for her, so he would be stuck with her, oh, she is still a beautiful woman, not a (Lady by anymeans) a beautifull Cherokee woman, he got out of the Army, and moved back to Houston, Texas.
Now back to what i was saying,my son's moved in with me, they had, had enough of her, so i had to go out, and restore an old Ranch house, i had on a lease, for my calves, and goats, i worked them boy's A**off, and they had fun, and i'm divorced 18 yers. now, and of the boy's are grown, two married, and one say's he remembers how it was when i was married, and he'll never get married, i hate to hear that, he's 31 yrs. old, i'll just stay single i guess, i'v had a few long relationships, but never over 3 yrs. but i do love me some Texas Women... and Your Right Texas Law: dose SUX | |
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| Texas and the Judicial System.....SUX!!!!
Posted: 2/24/2006 7:17:24 PM | And I thought that Texas was a Mans state.
Sheeeesh - I guess that's why I'll never get married.
I like going to dontmarry.com and after reading the threads in that site it validates my decision that much more. | |
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