| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/4/2005 7:25:08 PM | | Bambi wow I must say you know men maybe you know to much one of the guys has been talking to much Guys do have a proublem with listening its hard for us somtimes it sounds destorted somtimes When there long conversations that is I like giving a woman flowers or other things for no reason I like being able to show her I love her and that she is important somtimes women take to many things to heart and yes I do feal like saying get over it lol you were right there to but guys think different we look at things we can fix and women try to drag things out if u know what I mean I think that its important that both women and men have there own time out with there girlfriends or guy friends and come on women come home drunk to and want a little so were kinda even there lol | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/8/2005 8:56:28 PM | All depends on the woman that you are with.
Not every woman is like that.....some of us know how to appreciate things from a man where as others expect it from a man that is the difference.
Hope this helps you a bit?? | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/8/2005 9:28:19 PM | Thermal:
I guess what I have to say is that you went to several profiles, copied those comments and then pasted them here, asking how you are supposed to know what women want. WHICH women are you referring to? The ones you quoted? Clearly they are are wishy washy, so why are you even stopping on those profiles? (The photos? What?)
I just did a quick search under women and here are some quotes (no real criteria selected):
1) I am tired of being alone but I am not looking to jump too far too fast. If I meet a guy that I get along with and it turns into something more serious, that is fine as long as we have friendship as a foundation.
Casual sex will not be found with me... so if that is what you are looking for... look elsewhere please
2) I look for a long term relationship that we can be together. I like someone who has a sense of humor, communication is important, respect in a woman, understanding, thoughtful, caring and loving person. Someone who is one man woman, someone who is faithful and honest in relationship.
3) I don't like men who play games or who just want to jump into bed. Don't get me wrong sex is great but how about getting to know someone a little first. I think honesty and kindness are most important. I love to love and to be loved in return.
These are sincere, very nice normal comments with no explanations necessary….So sometimes ‘when we’re bitter’, we see what we want maybe, and not what is really out there…and it took me all of about 90 seconds to find these profiles and I didn’t skip any...these were the first ones I looked at in random search…..how many did you have to skip to get the quotes that you listed?
And I’m not blasting you here but even your own profile contradicts itself: You want a lasting relationship but aren’t looking for someone who only wants “long term”….how much more confused would a woman need to be to understand that?
Mostly my point is that the women whose profiles you're stopping on, are the people you're attracted to, (?) and certainly weren't in the majority I looked in, so maybe you need to find out why that type of person attracts you in the first place.... | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 12:16:29 AM | | OMG I cant believe this your saying I went to profiles and cut and pasted things you are so far off >>>>This is what I cut and pasted other peoples comments and then just added my two cents within this thread not on peoples profiles and maybe if u took the time to read the thread you would of known that and Im not biter I went thru alot yes but I never became a biter person You didnt even take the time to read my profile maybe its because I dont spell great or punctuate proper lets face it some women not all look at the surface of someone instead of the person for who they are well at least I know you now thanks for the warning This was the part u never read >>>>> ( ..if your looking for nothing but long term then Im not your guy but if u want a friend first who knows love is built on true friendship then send me a message I dont want second best Im going after a friend lover and partner someone I can rap my arms around each day kiss and charish till the end of time) >>>>>To bad that some people only look at the surface of others cause if they took the time to know someone then they might find that there not that different !!! | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:03:52 AM |
It just lets us know that you do care and we are important.
And if I don't and you're not, it at least lets you ^think^ that.
Money doesn't mean Jack to most of us.
But to some, Jack means money. :) | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 4:59:21 PM | | ^^^ And if you don't and we aren't, you need to move yourself along to someone who gives a rats ass about you in return. We are not stupid. We know how guys like to *think* they are players. Playing is all good til you find someone much better at your own game! | |
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stpaul
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:08:50 PM | | Thermal, don't worry 'bro. After you've dated that special gal for a while, she'll try to change you into what "she" wants you to be, and then you'll know exactly what she wants..lol....jk...well..1/2 way kidding. | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 5:20:12 PM | Impossible to know....
Men have 2 "heads"....1 of which at least is always thinking, analyzing, wanting, desiring....
Hence the old saying: Two heads are better than one...
For this reason, men always ( well, most of the time), know what they want...
Since this is not possible for women, their only head is always multitasking....not enough time to process all the information at once...
And so, most of the time thay don't have a clue what they want....
How on earth are WE going to know.... | |
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stpaul
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Joined: 8/22/2005
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:19:06 PM | | You know what I think I think theres women out there that just like to mess guys up, turn them in to biter people tonight I feal bad and its not because of what any twisted bent panties in a ball woman said to me but because Im mad and mad at what >>>Im mad at myself for letting some stuffy office princess get the beter of me Ive been thru to much to allow some woman like her to put thoughts in my head that all women are the same | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 10:59:38 PM | .
Thermal Ttrim . . . sounds like you didn’t get the memo. It came out sometime in beginning of the 1980s and has yet to be superceded. The gist of it is simple in its inane complexity:
Most women want you to be the type of man they want you to be when they want you to be it and sometimes at no other time. And, many women cannot tell you the type of man they want you to be at any given time because they do not really know themselves. Women just naturally know when you are NOT the type man they want you to be at that specific moment.
Got that? That’s the way it is, guy, so get used to it. Many women do not know exactly what they want in a man at any given moment, so it is your responsibility to figure it out and respond accordingly.
Simple, eh?
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:02:31 PM | | The other thing I would like to say is this if a woman steps on a guys fealings whatever and a guy turns around and does the same thing back to a woman then doesnt the cycle continue I mean isnt that what we all do to eachother why tho I know what it feals like to be hurt and Idd never do it to anyone or at least I try not to but I see some women who take pleasure in it that go out of there way to achieve it | |
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Posted: 12/9/2005 11:11:15 PM | | I do agree to a point bdndon but if I think like that then Ive given up I think there is some women who like you for who you are or at least I hope there is its kinda lookin bleak to me now | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/9/2005 11:14:52 PM | Dear Thermal:
OK, lets’ try this again…I WASN’T blasting you, but you ironically made my point. (You were hearing me say what you wanted and in an angry tone, when that isn’t where I was going at all)
I wasn’t accusing you of doing anything wrong by cutting and pasting: I did assume that you got the comments from somewhere, because you are on a dating site with profiles…I didn’t realize those were just quotes or perceptions, or things you’ve heard women say…(Nothing wrong with that either) but I don’t remember reading where you state where those sentences came from…..Your seems to be the first comment on this post unless there is a system glitch on my computer and I can't see the other comments.....
However, your post starts out asking how you are supposed to know what women want and then you have a list ….(of what I assumed were cut and pastes, but if there quotes, it’s still the same) Then I try to give you an honest opinion (from a woman, assuming that is the gender you would like to respond) and then your rip my head off, so yeah, I think you may be a little bitter from past experiences or frustration. And yes I did READ all of your profile and (unlike maybe some women) I knew exactly what you meant, (and saw nothing wrong with it) however it’s not what you said and it could sound contradictory. So it’s possible you have taken some of what those women have said out of context as well…….
So whether you cut and pasted from profiles or if your simply quoting what you have heard other women say they want, my point was, that in just doing a general search on this website, I see that most women aren’t confusing like the women you questioning and maybe your just talking to all the wrong women….I saw all kinds of women who were just straight out listing what they wanted and there seems to be no game playing or confusion…..
I’m sorry, I guess I really misunderstood what your question really is…..all women are not the same and not all play games and you don’t need a Ouija board to figure out what they want…. You asked a question and some of us are trying to help you answer it, but jeesh, several of you just have such a negative attitude toward all of us due to the ****es you've encountered, that you refuse to have an open mind….
And good god, what was all that crap about me not wanting to look beneath the surface because you don't puntuate well?.(Once again reading into what you want me to be saying instead of the words I actually wrote)..my God some of you guys have issues. I could care less how you punctuate, I always have to use spell checker and I never said a negative thing about you in that regard, not even close........
I'll be moving on to another forum at this point, sheesh, you guys don't have any real questions, you just prefer to bash women in general....good luck with that.... | |
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Posted: 12/10/2005 12:34:24 AM | | Ok the first part of my post was things I herd said before not even anything from here and if u read the other peoples coments you would of known I took there quates and put them in with my comments and as far as I know theres nothing wrong with that Ither The thing I think is happening here is somthing I herd from the peanut gallery and that some guys are taking what they say to women and cutting and pasting them to four or five other womens mail thingys or whatever so maybe this is what is happening to you well Im sory you got duped by some guy But I must say what a beutiful display Ive never seen so many words with so little meaning thanks for your kind words or should I say bable all I can hear is a buzzing sound I am glad I dont have to listen to that everyday it almost makes me GLAD im single | |
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stpaul
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/10/2005 11:43:07 AM | just ignore her 'bro...she messin' with you and probably doesn't even see it that way...lecturers are the worst.
You're right, you can get back at this office biotch, or just let it go so the cycle dies...besides, if you do it right, it will piss her off and you'll never have to say a word. | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/25/2005 9:51:50 AM | HOW ARE WOMEN TO KNOW WHAT MEN WANT. IT IS A 2 WAY STREET SWEETIE. WE ARE AS CONFUSED AS YOU ARE WHEN IT COMES TO THE OPPISITE SEX. A RELATIONSHIP IS ALL IN HOW YOU MAKE IT. IN THIS WORLD THERE ARE DIFFRENT VALUES AND BELEIFS. I AM NOT SURE WE WILL EVER UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER BUT THEN AGAIN I THINK THAT WHAT MAKES THE WORLD INTRESTING. I CAN NOT SPEAK FOR ALL THE WOMEN ON THIS SITE BUT A WOMAN WANTS A MAN NOT A BOY. SOMEONE WHO ISNT AFFRAID TO SHOW HOW THEY FEEL OR HOW FUNNY THEY LOOK IN FRONT OF THEIR BUDDIES BECAUSE THEY ARE FALLING IN LOVE. WE WANT A MAN WHO CAN LOVE US IN THE WAYS THAT WE DESERVE AND NEED TO BE LOVED. WE DONT WANT A MAN THAT FEELS THAT THEY HAVE TO PROVE THEMSELFS ALL THE TIME AND WE WANT SOMEONE WHO ISNT A FFRAID TO OPEN YOUR HEART COMPLETELY AND HONESTLY. WE BASICLY WANT WHAT GUYS WANT WITH WOMEN WE JUST ARE NOT AS AFFAID TO LET THE MEN KNOW HOW AND WHAT WE FEEL.    | |
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Posted: 12/26/2005 1:02:40 AM | ^^^OMG (Laughing hysterically) I went away for a couple of weeks and came back…sheesh, what are thermal and St Paul smoking?:
Good lord where did all the name calling, and confusing to say the least, hate banter come from?….. I haven’t ’been duped by guys cutting and pasting to me (I have no idea what any of that means) haven’t insulted anyone’s grammar or lack thereof, nor do I have any idea what the Hell an “Office ****?’ is…LOL
But for any guys reading this who actually want an answer, (and other women here say the same thing) as I said the last two times, many women don’t play the head games they’ve encountered, and they are just looking in the wrong places or talking to the wrong women….And they are letting the bitter women they’ve encountered, warp their sense of the good people who don’t do that…
However my point was that if you just do a general search under the profile settings, many of the profiles seemed to be straight forward, with no game playing, so I don’t know where they (thermal and St Paul) are looking. Apparently, they are just asking a general question and not looking at profiles (which was my confusion since this is a dating site with profiles, but I was wrong, and that is what caused the nuclear meltdown LOL)…..
There are women players like there are men players, but not all of us are like that… And just like the men, no two women want the same thing, but the honest women/men will not give conflicting answers to the question “What are you looking for in a man/woman?”….. | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/26/2005 9:04:33 AM | | what us women want?? oh isnt that the question that everyone wants to know. what about what men want?? men are just if not more clueless than women. "US" women want a man not a boy. we want a man who can love us completly or not at all. we want someone who can be honest and show how they feel and not run scared all the time. we want pleasure, love, compassion, romance, honesty, respect, and yeah good sex helps some of us to.. we dont nessesarly just want someone who can show us a good time we want a friend to.. that we can talk to about how bad our day has been or about stupid shit that excites us.. a woman loves to show emotion and love completlely but in life alot of men can not deal with how much a woman can love and they run scared and then they holler what is it that women want it is simple...... we want it all bust mostley we want a soul mate. | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/26/2005 9:04:45 AM | | what us women want?? oh isnt that the question that everyone wants to know. what about what men want?? men are just if not more clueless than women. "US" women want a man not a boy. we want a man who can love us completly or not at all. we want someone who can be honest and show how they feel and not run scared all the time. we want pleasure, love, compassion, romance, honesty, respect, and yeah good sex helps some of us to.. we dont nessesarly just want someone who can show us a good time we want a friend to.. that we can talk to about how bad our day has been or about stupid shit that excites us.. a woman loves to show emotion and love completlely but in life alot of men can not deal with how much a woman can love and they run scared and then they holler what is it that women want it is simple...... we want it all bust mostley we want a soul mate. | |
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| How are we as men to know what a women wants ?
Posted: 12/26/2005 9:25:46 AM | Honestly these days...I feel that meeting someone is all too business like....I hear so many girls mention in their profiles that you got to do something on the first date that they can remember and do something thats not been done before and all this crap...what ever happened to not caring what it is your doing and just getting to know the person??
I hear so many gals sayin that when guys send them emails for the first time after seeing their profile they don't even pay any attention to the messages that say: "Hi there, I like your profile...you seem like a nice lady....." What the heck am I supposed to say? I'm just trying to make small talk to break the ice.....
What do I have to be?? an award winning novelist to have a chance contacting a girl these days??...Yea I can do what the players do and play into their hand and tell them a big made up bunch of crap just to have a shot at jumping their bones...but thats not who I am..and if girls would take a chance to get to know me they will see that I'm different.
The dating scene is much like the job market these days you will only have a chance at the position if your creative enough to bluff your way into the position. What ever happened to the days when you were accepted because of your personality and ability as a person...now its all based upon how well you can sell yourself in an interview/date.
I gave up all togather trying to figure out what its all about and decided that my profile is posted on this site and if a lady wants to chat with me let her contact me...because I'm tired of playing the game and wondering if I'm expressing myself correctly enough to be worthy of a responce or even a date.... | |
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