| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:30:15 AM | | I agree with swiftone, maybe as a much younger woman I may have had the time, energy, and the fearlessness of being in a LD relationship. Now I live in a rural area, and so the closest townS/citieS are within 75 miles and 3 states, I am not limiting myself at all. If someone from a 100 miles away wants to contact me, fine but, the travel thing now adays is almost like asking for someone to kick in more than their share. With fuel prices being high, and I am a working person, I only get off on certain days, which may or may not work with someone else's schedule. A long distant relationship is not going to be that easy. Not that easy is what I am or am looking for, but consideration for someone else's time, energy, money, and general wear and tear, is in my head. I wouldn't delete and E-mail from someone over 75 miles away. As a person who is over 40, Time is very important, so the farther away someone is, the more time is spent traveling, and it is a consideration. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:39:27 AM | For me dating someone, I would like her to be within half an hour of me, so we can meet for dinner at the spur of the moment or even lunch. And if we become exclusive we can stay overnight any night of the week at each other's places. I won't put a restriction on miles because I have made good friends as far away as California, I may never meet them but they are great for feedback, outside views, general support and vice-versa. I know some women, like my friend Betty, get over 100 emails within a week, so they may want to put in mile and other restrictions just to slow down the flow. I personally don't like the phone much and chatting online is okay but to only see a girl I am really interested in only on weekends or every other weekend, or less? No thanks.
On a side note, I notice that some of the rudest forum comments and slams are made by people who hide their profiles like PoF Klansmen, why would that be? | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:01:30 AM | I'll Jump as far as Necessary to find Happiness..!!!
The only Other option is 20,000 miles...!!!
Isn't that 3/4ths the way around the Planet...???
12,000 would be sufficient....in ANY direction...wouldn't it...??
It _Would_ be helpful to offer a few more options....say...100...250...500 miles..
...wouldn't it...??? | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:12:18 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
It _Would_ be helpful to offer a few more options....say...100...250...500 miles
'personly I wish there was a 15 mile option! | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/10/2008 9:28:52 AM | I see the long distance thing as a sort of a foreign exchange program, except we stay where we are. I've met many fabulous folks overseas, and it enriches your life. We'll probably never meet, but all things must pass eventually anyway. Nothing really lasts, so enjoy people while they're in your life. Just cuz you're not gonna be in heaven with me doesn't mean I can't enjoy your company while I'm here. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/10/2008 1:29:16 PM | | When i was actively looking, i had a specific distance on my profile. I wasnt (and still would chose not to) into long distance dating. Much rather 'date' someone on a more regular basis that you cant really do when the person lives too far. Granted, there may be some really great men who live outside my area, but thats the chance id be willing to take. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:25:32 AM | i agree with the poster that said there should be other mileage options, c'mon POF admin, give us a 100 mile option! or just let us type in however many.
75 miles from me just touches the outskirts of Tampa, it would be nice to include the whole Tampa metro area as well which I would be willing to do if the girl was really special. But further than that with $4 gas, hell no! | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/11/2008 1:31:16 PM | | That's not the block that bothers me. It's all the others ! | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/11/2008 5:02:58 PM |
Why limit yourself to your own city?
Why not? My last LTR lived roughly 500 FEET from me, and we had never met until we met online.
It's all personal preference. I'm not sure I could deal with living in a different city from someone. I wouldn't see them often enough. But who knows. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/11/2008 5:20:56 PM | I gave this a lot of thought a few months ago. The fact is that where I am in life is not where I plan to stay forever, whether we are talking location wise, intellectually, emotionally or what have you or I, in this case. There's just too many places that I haven't seen or done yet. I would not limit my love choices to just my town or limit anything to just one town. I was lucky enough to visit some places that I love and hate, but with each travel came a lesson: there is no happiness in standing still or in complacency. And for me, that's how I open my options in finding someone. If she happens to be down the street, then great! If she expects me to make a life here though, she'll be disappointed. If she was across the world, then I wouldn't dismiss the possibilities of wanting to meet with her. To see if we could have something more.
I guess that's what I don't want to do: limit my possibilities. Fvck reality. My reality is what I make it anyways. For if the potential of love is so powerful, then why would you place limits on it? For a job? No thanks. People are laid off all the time or have their pension thrown out by a judge. For family? I love mine dearly, but they have found love already. So eventually I must search for mine. For friends? I haven't talked to my best friend in years. But one phone call and it'd be like we never lost touch.
I also like talking to people from different cultures and countries, so my settings are practically maxed out.
Now is it possible to find someone and sustain a relationship over a great distance? I'm not sure about that. Some of the greatest love affairs happened over distance, but those were in different times. Me? I'll venture my @ss farther down than the front door. Besides, it's too fvckin' hot here anyways. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/11/2008 10:49:51 PM |
Let's see if a fine southern chap shall swipe me off my feet and straight to his county - LOL
Ahem. I've got a broom and a dustpan... Have you decided to move to Cincinnati yet?  | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/12/2008 5:32:54 AM | "Are you counting yourself as 'nice, decent, average'?"
No. I always HAVE been, am NOW , and always WILL BE a nice, decent, average guy!
"... just because you want to wear a dress and do my housework doesn't even make you anywhere near to average!"
There you go using that women's LIB E. S. P. again thinking you can see all , know all, think all......whoops, did I just say you think; sorry my mistake!
I wouldn't do your housework if you gave me a million dollar lottery ticket. Besides, I am not like you; you are searching for your free milliom dollar meal money ticket$$$ Good luck in finding the male that will give it to you!
"Now tell me what about MY attitude what is 'sucky' to that?"
Simple:.............EVERYTHING!!!
"I couldn't wait to block you."
Actions just like the "typical" female: SORT, UNREAD, DELETE, BLOCK!  | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/12/2008 6:06:34 AM | 75 Miles is a pretty good distance. I have tried that at times but, what use is it when women in the 25 & 50 mile don't even have the courtesy to answer a message sent to them, even if it's " no thanks ".
Char | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/12/2008 9:54:12 AM |
I see many profiles that have a distance limit in their settings. Anyone living outside that cannot even contact you to say hi. Why limit yourself to your own city? the planet is huge and has over 6 billion of us. If you have not found your mate in your 75 mile circle...why not expand?
Just my take. I am a one who is not afraid to travel to find that perfect match. What if that special person is coming to your city soon for a visit and may be up for relocating?
I couldnt agree more! If thats the case why are you here? Get ur lazy butt out of the chair and get out lol. What Im finding is they will settle for someone in the back yard because thats where thier perfect match is. or so they think, then complain as to why it didnt work out. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/12/2008 11:16:05 AM | id talk to anyone anywhere.... its nice to get to know others from different cultures & countries than my own... but then again i could talk the hind legs of a donkey 
talking to strangers is one of my biggest hobbies  | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/12/2008 11:23:14 AM | | I don't limit who can see me but I tend to look closer to home. Having to spend my free time just to get to meet someone isn't my idea of a good time. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/12/2008 2:26:12 PM |
'personly I wish there was a 15 mile option!
Hey there handsome I live just down the road from you - fancy a bit of older woman?
hehe | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/21/2008 3:23:38 AM | | There the once thats still single that have the 75 miles limit LOL | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/21/2008 6:36:07 AM | Most people dont want to move away from where they live for various reasons.
So why try to find someone 100+ miles away ?
With the price of petrol rocketing 75 miles soon will be a long way off ! | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 7/21/2008 2:46:12 PM | | The mileage issue has a strange twist in my area. There are a lot of people who live within a reasonable number of miles from me if I plan to swim across an international border. Otherwise I have to drive an hour north to Detroit and south (yep, south) into Canada. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 8/31/2008 7:21:35 PM | | Saty within 75 miles to see old pictures and wait for others else to become singles | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/1/2008 6:21:07 PM | | why can't POF's servers narrow it to finding someone within 75 feet of you? | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/1/2008 6:52:38 PM | | For me personally it is because I will not relocate at this point in my life. I want some one within my general area that would not have to leave their children, family, job, etc... to move to be with me since that would be the only option. I have two sons who I try to keep close enough to their father that the opportunity is there for him to be an active part of their life even ifhe never exercises that option. | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/1/2008 7:05:56 PM | Well, all things considered, gals get a MILLION emails a day,
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Now I'm mad!! Which one of you Ladies are stealing my mail!!! I have to go to work now but when I get back I better see the name of my mail thief!! | |
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| Live within 75 miles??
Posted: 9/1/2008 8:01:16 PM | | For some people its hard enough to get together when you live in the same city:what with kids, work(I have a weird schedule sometimes), why make it harder than it needs to be.Saying that, I don't have a distance set on mine, but it would not be feasable to really get to know someone who isnt close to where I live.Don't believe you can learn everything you need to know just from chatting/emails, real life encounters are better as that is when chemistry is apparent. | |
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